Dating in Real Life Vs Movies

Wanna Come Down · 09-03-2014 02:56AM #1

How much different is the way people ask each other out(or the way people have their first kiss) in movies compared to real life? I was thinking about this recently and I asked myself, 'maybe it's not that it's different in movies, but different in Ireland?'

I can honestly say as a girl that I've never had a guy who's had the courage to make open advances towards me without the presence of alcohol. I mean yes, they're still all over you like a rash, but they don't try to kiss unless they 'out'! Is it the case that in real life, it's something that just happens, but in movies they have to make it happens.

I find that in real life, people normally don't dare do anything that's not expected of them! Is it even appropriate to ask someone out in this country prior to shift!

Sir Arthur Daley · 09-03-2014 03:01AM

Wanna Come Down wrote: »

Is it even appropriate to ask someone out in this country prior to shift!

I drive an automatic so i cant answer.

BillyMitchel · 09-03-2014 03:06AM

Only new on the dating scene?

Plenty of men don't drink or live in pubs and have no problem asking anyone out.

Wanna Come Down · 09-03-2014 03:13AM

WikiHow wrote: »

I drive an automatic so i cant answer.

It's amazing the amount of people who are desperately trying to be funny.... on boards

Sir Arthur Daley · 09-03-2014 03:16AM

Wanna Come Down wrote: »

It's amazing the amount of people who are desperately trying to be funny.... on boards

Its very sad for sure, be alot funny on timber. :rolleyes:

jamesbere · 09-03-2014 03:16AM

I dont drink anymore, so do you want to go on a date.

Wanna Come Down · 09-03-2014 03:18AM

WikiHow wrote: »

Its very sad for sure, be alot funny on timber. :rolleyes:

"a lot"

BillyMitchel · 09-03-2014 03:20AM

Wanna Come Down wrote: »

"a lot"

Wanna come down off that high horse there? It's probably why no one sober asks you out.

Sir Arthur Daley · 09-03-2014 03:20AM

Wanna Come Down wrote: »

"a lot"

lol

humbert · 09-03-2014 03:39AM

BillyMitchel wrote: »

Wanna come down off that high horse there? It's probably why no one sober asks you out.

Pointing out that alot isn't a word is, for you, being on a high horse? You poor bastard.

mikom · 09-03-2014 03:42AM

Wanna Come Down wrote: »

I can honestly say as a girl that I've never had a guy who's had the courage to make open advances towards me without the presence of alcohol.

Yesss, courage..........

BillyMitchel · 09-03-2014 03:43AM

humbert wrote: »

Pointing out that alot isn't a word is, for you, being on a high horse? You poor bastard.

Pointing it out is actually against the charter and her other comment about people trying to be funny. Wants serious answers take it to PI.

worded · 09-03-2014 03:43AM

sugarman wrote: »

Its just Ireland.

When I spent a summer in the us a few years back, I'd girls regularly just com over and start a chat at bus stops, train station.. While in the supermarket etc.. And from there id be asked if I fancied a coffee or lunch etc.. Sometime.

I thought it was strange at first, but the more iv traveled since the more common I see it is.

Thinly veiled - I'm good looking

humbert · 09-03-2014 03:56AM

mikom wrote: »

Men don't approach you because you are unattractive. You see, this must be the case because this is Ireland where we have consigned alcohol dependency to the pages of history and where socialising between men and women is seldom done in the vicinity of that poisonous elixir. Furthermore you can certainly count on an objective viewpoint from those of us males online at 2am on Saturday.

Yess, After Hours.

MS.ing · 09-03-2014 04:09AM

if you need drink to approach or ask anyone out chances are you have **** all confidence

The Backwards Man · 09-03-2014 04:38AM

Wanna Come Down wrote: »

It's amazing the amount of people who are desperately trying to be funny.... on boards

You ain't seen nothing yet!

shopaholic01 · 09-03-2014 04:41AM

MS.ing wrote: »

if you need drink to approach or ask anyone out chances are you have **** all confidence

Or require beer goggles.

the_syco · 09-03-2014 04:42AM

MS.ing wrote: »

if you need drink to approach or ask anyone out chances are you have **** all confidence

Some are thought by their peers that if they fancy someone, they're to get drunk, and ask her on the dancefloor.

'Cept you're kinda f**ked now that most places don't do a slow-set anymore...

confuseddotcom · 09-03-2014 04:50AM

Slow sh1te.

/thread

dobsdave · 09-03-2014 05:01AM

MS.ing wrote: »

if you need drink to approach or ask anyone out chances are you have **** all confidence

yes correct, and?

Daveysil15 · 09-03-2014 09:51AM

Wanna Come Down wrote: »

I can honestly say as a girl that I've never had a guy who's had the courage to make open advances towards me without the presence of alcohol.

Hi do you fancy a shif... ohh wait, I'm still drunk.

No I reckon its an Irish thing alright. When I lived in Canada I was amazed at how open people were when it came to been approached and asked out. I've only ever been on one proper date in Ireland and that was when a Polish girl in work asked me out. I don't know if Ireland will ever really get into the whole dating scene the way they do in America for example. The drink is ingrained in our culture and most social activities revolve around it.

Voglio · 09-03-2014 09:54AM

Daveysil15 wrote: »

Hi do you fancy a shif... ohh wait, I'm still drunk.

No I reckon its an Irish thing alright. When I lived in Canada I was amazed at how open people were when it came to been approached and asked out. I've only ever been on one proper date in Ireland and that was when a Polish girl in work asked me out. I don't know if Ireland will ever really get into the whole dating scene the way they do in America for example. The drink is ingrained in our culture and most social activities revolve around it.

Irish people don't ask out people sober because they lack the confidence to do so. When you are confident you do what you want to do and don't just follow the crowd.

Daveysil15 · 09-03-2014 10:04AM

Voglio wrote: »

Irish people don't ask out people sober because they lack the confidence to do so. When you are confident you do what you want to do and don't just follow the crowd.

Obviously confidence is a factor, but I think a lot of people in this country would be hesitant to approach someone outside of the pub scene and ask them out for fear of looking like a creep/weirdo; although I suppose it depends on how you go about it. It's generally not the done thing here. I know things have changed a bit with online dating and all, but even then, the dates usually take place in the pub, at least from what I've seen and heard anyway.

Penny Tration · 09-03-2014 10:11AM

I've been asked on 'dates' by sober people plenty of times. Drunk people try to get me to go home with them, not ask me out. :pac:

I've kind of had the 'movie' date thing though. Guy I knew through work asked me to be his gf before even kissing me, showed up at my bus stop the next day (I was going to work), walked straight over to me, wrapped his arms around me and kissed me. :pac:

Way more fun than the drunk, getting the shift act, but I suppose more rare, too.

Voglio · 09-03-2014 10:20AM

Daveysil15 wrote: »

Obviously confidence is a factor, but I think a lot of people in this country would be hesitant to approach someone outside of the pub scene and ask them out for fear of looking like a creep/weirdo; although I suppose it depends on how you go about it. It's generally not the done thing here. I know things have changed a bit with online dating and all, but even then, the dates usually take place in the pub, at least from what I've seen and heard anyway.

Yes but when you are confident you don't care what other people think, you don't care if someone might think you are a creep or a weirdo. That's their problem.

Czarcasm · 09-03-2014 10:26AM

Voglio wrote: »

Yes but when you are confident you don't care what other people think, you don't care if someone might think you are a creep or a weirdo. That's their problem.

Fantastic! I'm off to peer in my neighbours window, if she thinks I'm a creep or a weirdo, that's her problem!

Do you even think about what you're saying before you say it, or do you just say it because you think it makes you seem cool?

Voglio · 09-03-2014 10:34AM

Czarcasm wrote: »

Fantastic! I'm off to peer in my neighbours window, if she thinks I'm a creep or a weirdo, that's her problem!

Do you even think about what you're saying before you say it, or do you just say it because you think it makes you seem cool?

That's clearly a violation of someone else's personal boundaries. That's just a childish comment to make unless of course you have a secret desire to peer into the windows of neighbouring houses. Most people don't.

When you are confident you can approach the opposite sex and not care that someone might think you are creepy or weird. I've broken this down Barney style for you but no doubt you'll reply with another irrelevant comment.

keeponhurling · 09-03-2014 10:39AM

Maybe it's a confidence thing to an extent, but in Ireland the rejections are also typically more brutal than other countries.

Also we do have more of a pub culture, and people spend more time around environments where there is alcohol.

Czarcasm · 09-03-2014 10:45AM

Voglio wrote: »

That's clearly a violation of someone else's personal boundaries. That's just a childish comment to make unless of course you have a secret desire to peer into the windows of neighbouring houses. Most people don't.

It's grand sure, I have my own personal moral code of conduct! I don't care about other people? That's cool with you right?

When you are confident you can approach the opposite sex and not care that someone might think you are creepy or weird. I've broken this down Barney style for you but no doubt you'll reply with another irrelevant comment.

So you can violate other people's personal boundaries as long as you believe you have a right to do so? How is that any different from me standing outside on the public footpath peering in your windows? I'm not breaking any laws!

Voglio · 09-03-2014 10:48AM

Czarcasm wrote: »

It's grand sure, I have my own personal moral code of conduct! I don't care about other people? That's cool with you right?

So you can violate other people's personal boundaries as long as you believe you have a right to do so? How is that any different from me standing outside on the public footpath peering in your windows? I'm not breaking any laws!

Go troll somewhere else.

Daveysil15 · 09-03-2014 10:48AM

Czarcasm wrote: »

So you can violate other people's personal boundaries as long as you believe you have a right to do so? How is that any different from me standing outside on the public footpath peering in your windows? I'm not breaking any laws!

Are you using binoculars? How long before she pulls the curtains?

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