First impressions

02-03-2014 02:57PM #1

So, does anyone have certain 'internal red flags' when they meet new people? Not romantic relationship wise, just people in general.

For example, if I meet someone and they only talk about themselves, that's a "yeah, we're not gonna get along" moment for me.

Yeah I know its judgmental, and "don't judge a book by its cover" etc, but hey, that's life, right?

So what are your deal-breakers? Poor hygiene? Racism? Bad fashion sense? Or are they more subtle?

Senna · 02-03-2014 02:59PM

Skinny jeans on a fella

wazky · 02-03-2014 03:06PM

Fresh blood on hands and around mouth area.

mikemac1 · 02-03-2014 03:08PM

Not buying your round :mad:

Daveysil15 · 02-03-2014 03:11PM

A smoker.

SamAK · 02-03-2014 03:11PM

Tracksuit bottoms tucked into socks.

Officially known (by me) as 'sh1t-stoppers'.

Sauve · 02-03-2014 03:12PM

Somebody who insists on speaking over me and cutting me off/interrupting me. Can't be dealing with that guff.

SCOOP 64 · 02-03-2014 03:14PM

Neck Tattoo, don't mind on arms etc.. just Neck.

Daveysil15 · 02-03-2014 03:15PM

SamAK wrote: »

Tracksuit bottoms tucked into socks.

Officially known (by me) as 'sh1t-stoppers'.

Handy if you're susceptible to sharts.

FunLover18 · 02-03-2014 03:40PM

Wearing scarves or woolen hats indoors.

That current "trendy" haircut with really short back and sides and long and wavey on top.

Ten of Swords · 02-03-2014 03:47PM

Stops talking mid sentance to read, then reply to, a text

yeahimhere · 02-03-2014 03:50PM

Someone who tells me things that are waaay too personal to tell someone the first time you meet them. Tend to be nutters.

pragmatic1 · 02-03-2014 03:53PM

Arrogance. Can't stand it and don't want to waste a second of my time on arrogant people.

Czarcasm · 02-03-2014 04:01PM

My one and only deal-breaker -

When I can sense someone is trying to be something they're not in order to try and impress or unsettle me.

Anything else I can deal with.

Muise... · 02-03-2014 04:02PM

People who describe themselves to you. Handy code though:

"I'm really happy-go-lucky" = difficult
"I've a quirky sense of humour" = unfunnily difficult
"I'm dynamic" = thunderingly difficult

amoXx · 02-03-2014 04:04PM

One-Uppers. Nothing worse then a person who can top anything anyone else shares.

anncoates · 02-03-2014 04:05PM

In real life, I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt for a few meetings unless they're exceptionally rude, snobbish or mean. Online I'd probably be a bit more prone to snap judgement.

Legs.Eleven · 02-03-2014 04:09PM

Who talk about themselves the minute someone introduces you to them but they don't talk to you, they talk AT you. I couldn't give a **** about you. I don't know you.

Arrogance and vanity as well.

02-03-2014 04:12PM

I know this sounds terrible, but quiet people.

I'm naturally shy, and I'd love nothing more than to sit there and say nothing and expect everyone else to make the effort. But that's terrible form, so I throw myself out there in order to not be a dry shíte. If I'm putting myself out there and you're not willing to at least try to reciprocate, I could grow to like you but it's unlikely I'll ever have much respect for you.

Rasheed · 02-03-2014 04:17PM

amoXx wrote: »

One-Uppers. Nothing worse then a person who can top anything anyone else shares.

Massive deal breaker there. I cannot stand it.

That and argumentative people that try to goad every conversation into a confrontation.

Muise... · 02-03-2014 04:20PM

true-or-false wrote: »

I know this sounds terrible, but quiet people.

I'm naturally shy, and I'd love nothing more than to sit there and say nothing and expect everyone else to make the effort. But that's terrible form, so I throw myself out there in order to not be a dry shíte. If I'm putting myself out there and you're not willing to at least try to reciprocate, I could grow to like you but it's unlikely I'll ever have much respect for you.

There's quiet and quiet in it.

Twinkly-eyed quiet from a good listener, with the occasional remark thrown out as bait, is something I find really attractive.

dark crystal · 02-03-2014 04:20PM

Somebody who insisted I remove my shoes before entering their home. I just wouldn't feel comfortable in their home or their company after that.

SamAK · 02-03-2014 04:20PM

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

Who talk about themselves the minute someone introduces you to them but they don't talk to you, they talk AT you. I couldn't give a **** about you. I don't know you.

Arrogance and vanity as well.

Those that don't converse with you, but are simply waiting for their chance to speak....annoys me too.

Karl Stein · 02-03-2014 04:22PM

I'm pretty relaxed with new people unless they're Chinese.

Senna · 02-03-2014 04:26PM

Those earrings on fellas that pull the ear lobe and produce a wider and wider hole

02-03-2014 04:35PM

People who tell you proudly how un-PC they are. Translation = I'm a bigot.

Smokers, soap dodgers, and people who don't even acknowledge people holding doors, waiters, or any kind of staff when they do something for them. I hate rude people.

Legs.Eleven · 02-03-2014 04:38PM

SamAK wrote: »

Those that don't converse with you, but are simply waiting for their chance to speak....annoys me too.

It's the worst trait anyone can possess. I actually pity them; no doubt everyone secretly can't stand their company.

Daveysil15 · 02-03-2014 04:45PM

Candie wrote: »

People who tell you proudly how un-PC they are. Translation = I'm a bigot.

Smokers, soap dodgers, and people who don't even acknowledge people holding doors, waiters, or any kind of staff when they do something for them. I hate rude people.

What's your problem with soap dodgers? I'm a soap dodger. The last thing I want is to slip in the shower.

The Backwards Man · 02-03-2014 04:47PM

SamAK wrote: »

Those that don't converse with you, but are simply waiting for their chance to speak....annoys me too.

There's an oulfella round here who still goes ceiling round the houses. More conversation in a wet sock, he justs sits there with a doleful expression in his eyes. He's one of those people that can still look up into your eyes even when he's standing and your sitting.

Harmless enough critter though, I wouldn't think any less of somebody like that, it's just they way they are.

McChubbin · 02-03-2014 05:10PM

Smoking, neck tattoos, bad personal hygeine, arrogant and self-serving demeanor, talks about ex(es) too much and drinks too much.

Smithwicks Man · 02-03-2014 07:39PM

Hard to believe that smoking could be such a deal breaker for people considering how many people smoke.

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