First impressions

So, does anyone have certain 'internal red flags' when they meet new people? Not romantic relationship wise, just people in general.

For example, if I meet someone and they only talk about themselves, that's a "yeah, we're not gonna get along" moment for me.

Yeah I know its judgmental, and "don't judge a book by its cover" etc, but hey, that's life, right?

So what are your deal-breakers? Poor hygiene? Racism? Bad fashion sense? Or are they more subtle?

Senna

Skinny jeans on a fella

wazky

Fresh blood on hands and around mouth area.

mikemac1

Not buying your round :mad:

Daveysil15

A smoker.

SamAK

Tracksuit bottoms tucked into socks.

Officially known (by me) as 'sh1t-stoppers'.

Sauve

Somebody who insists on speaking over me and cutting me off/interrupting me. Can't be dealing with that guff.

SCOOP 64

Neck Tattoo, don't mind on arms etc.. just Neck.

Daveysil15

SamAK wrote: »

Tracksuit bottoms tucked into socks.

Officially known (by me) as 'sh1t-stoppers'.

Handy if you're susceptible to sharts.

FunLover18

Wearing scarves or woolen hats indoors.

That current "trendy" haircut with really short back and sides and long and wavey on top.

Ten of Swords

Stops talking mid sentance to read, then reply to, a text

yeahimhere

Someone who tells me things that are waaay too personal to tell someone the first time you meet them. Tend to be nutters.

pragmatic1

Arrogance. Can't stand it and don't want to waste a second of my time on arrogant people.

Czarcasm

My one and only deal-breaker -

When I can sense someone is trying to be something they're not in order to try and impress or unsettle me.

Anything else I can deal with.

Muise...

People who describe themselves to you. Handy code though:

"I'm really happy-go-lucky" = difficult
"I've a quirky sense of humour" = unfunnily difficult
"I'm dynamic" = thunderingly difficult

amoXx

One-Uppers. Nothing worse then a person who can top anything anyone else shares.

anncoates

In real life, I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt for a few meetings unless they're exceptionally rude, snobbish or mean. Online I'd probably be a bit more prone to snap judgement.

Legs.Eleven

Who talk about themselves the minute someone introduces you to them but they don't talk to you, they talk AT you. I couldn't give a **** about you. I don't know you.

Arrogance and vanity as well.

I know this sounds terrible, but quiet people.

I'm naturally shy, and I'd love nothing more than to sit there and say nothing and expect everyone else to make the effort. But that's terrible form, so I throw myself out there in order to not be a dry shíte. If I'm putting myself out there and you're not willing to at least try to reciprocate, I could grow to like you but it's unlikely I'll ever have much respect for you.

Rasheed

amoXx wrote: »

One-Uppers. Nothing worse then a person who can top anything anyone else shares.

Massive deal breaker there. I cannot stand it.

That and argumentative people that try to goad every conversation into a confrontation.

Muise...

true-or-false wrote: »

I know this sounds terrible, but quiet people.

I'm naturally shy, and I'd love nothing more than to sit there and say nothing and expect everyone else to make the effort. But that's terrible form, so I throw myself out there in order to not be a dry shíte. If I'm putting myself out there and you're not willing to at least try to reciprocate, I could grow to like you but it's unlikely I'll ever have much respect for you.

There's quiet and quiet in it.

Twinkly-eyed quiet from a good listener, with the occasional remark thrown out as bait, is something I find really attractive.

dark crystal

Somebody who insisted I remove my shoes before entering their home. I just wouldn't feel comfortable in their home or their company after that.

SamAK

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

Who talk about themselves the minute someone introduces you to them but they don't talk to you, they talk AT you. I couldn't give a **** about you. I don't know you.

Arrogance and vanity as well.

Those that don't converse with you, but are simply waiting for their chance to speak....annoys me too.

Karl Stein

I'm pretty relaxed with new people unless they're Chinese.

Senna

Those earrings on fellas that pull the ear lobe and produce a wider and wider hole

People who tell you proudly how un-PC they are. Translation = I'm a bigot.

Smokers, soap dodgers, and people who don't even acknowledge people holding doors, waiters, or any kind of staff when they do something for them. I hate rude people.

Legs.Eleven

SamAK wrote: »

Those that don't converse with you, but are simply waiting for their chance to speak....annoys me too.

It's the worst trait anyone can possess. I actually pity them; no doubt everyone secretly can't stand their company.

Daveysil15

Candie wrote: »

People who tell you proudly how un-PC they are. Translation = I'm a bigot.

Smokers, soap dodgers, and people who don't even acknowledge people holding doors, waiters, or any kind of staff when they do something for them. I hate rude people.

What's your problem with soap dodgers? I'm a soap dodger. The last thing I want is to slip in the shower.

The Backwards Man

SamAK wrote: »

Those that don't converse with you, but are simply waiting for their chance to speak....annoys me too.

There's an oulfella round here who still goes ceiling round the houses. More conversation in a wet sock, he justs sits there with a doleful expression in his eyes. He's one of those people that can still look up into your eyes even when he's standing and your sitting.

Harmless enough critter though, I wouldn't think any less of somebody like that, it's just they way they are.

McChubbin

Smoking, neck tattoos, bad personal hygeine, arrogant and self-serving demeanor, talks about ex(es) too much and drinks too much.

Smithwicks Man

Hard to believe that smoking could be such a deal breaker for people considering how many people smoke.

Talib Fiasco

People who are no craic...no enthusiasm...make no effort to be appealing...have poor body langauge etc. Especially girls. They could look incredible and you're like 'jackpot' but after speaking to them they might as well be Linda Martin with the clap.

geckovision

Smithwicks Man wrote: »

Hard to believe that smoking could be such a deal breaker for people considering how many people smoke.

Yeah, it's not really a character trait. Says more about that person really and the kind I'd usually avoid - those with a superiority complex, who are self righteous..

Capt'n Midnight

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dark crystal

Smithwicks Man wrote: »

Hard to believe that smoking could be such a deal breaker for people considering how many people smoke.

Yeah, I wouldn't judge someone for smoking, either. Doesn't say anything about their personality at all. I know loads of really sound smokers!

GarIT

Fat people, blatant Idiots and smokers, people with stupid tattoos, people who talk ****e, moochers.

stefan idiot jones

Any hat on a man (bobble hat for cold weather accepted)

Jewellery on a man

Skinny jeans

Pointy shoes

Hipster haircut

Immaculately groomed beard (knacker style)

Tracksuits

Football shirts

Any crap that you've put in your hair

Hoodies

Shirts that are too tight

Big scarfs

Burberry

Smokers

Shufflers gait

Too pale (how much nutrition can you get out of a Spar?)

Shifty looking eyes

Autumn leaf coloured trousers




Basically, scum, students and hipsters. You stand out a mile. Just walk away son, walk away.

Femme_Fatale

Extremely judgemental, fussy twats. Like on this thread.

"Hoodies", "people with stupid tattoos". FFS. God it's arrogant. People who go on like that clearly think they're better than everyone else. And if they genuinely cut contact with people for all of these "flaws" (which I doubt) then they must have no friends.

Tend not to dislike people on first meeting though, even if they have habits that I hate, like constant interrupting/being super self absorbed. If that stuff keeps cropping up on meeting though, then I start to avoid.

woodoo

Shouty people.

anncoates

I don't like certain clothes as much as anybody and would joke about them and I personally hate tattoos but I'd hardly make a lasting judgement about somebody on the basis of either.

SamAK

stefan idiot jones wrote: »

Basically, scum, students and hipsters. You stand out a mile. Just walk away son, walk away.

Jesus christ...you just accounted for the vast majority of humanity there.

Joker.

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

Extremely judgemental, fussy twats. Like on this thread.

I stand by my 'people with tracksuits tucked into socks' comment. Unless they're on a bicycle.

Fox_In_Socks

Very loud and intense people.

I can't handle them at all, and shut down.

Joe prim

Senna wrote: »

Those earrings on fellas that pull the ear lobe and produce a wider and wider hole

Amazing, you can make your hole wider by pulling on your earlobe?Are they connected, like your heart and your big toe? Human anatomy, wow!

KyussBishop

People who don't just interrupt you, but regularly interrupt and finish your sentence for you (or reply to your unfinished sentence, making assumptions about what you were about to say) - replying at length - and then getting it wrong so that you have to explain "ah no, I actually meant...", at which point you finally finish your sentence after a really long and annoying diversion/waste of time.

FizzleSticks

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Says I To Bridey

People who can't take a joke and have to be the ones to get the last word in, even turning something lighthearted into something personal just so they can be on top or the 'winner'. Just ends up leaving things awkward and people annoyed and ruining a bit of harmless craic

Smithwicks Man

Smithwicks Man wrote: »

Hard to believe that smoking could be such a deal breaker for people considering how many people smoke.

It's not so much the act of smoking, rather the smell it leaves behind.

Can't help being put off by it, it is what it is. I actually know very few smokers, lots of ex-smokers though.

MJ23

amoXx wrote: »

One-Uppers. Nothing worse then a person who can top anything anyone else shares.

I fell and broke my wrist while on holiday in Spain. I couldnt drive for a month after I got home.
"I broke my two legs while walking to the North Pole, couldn't walk for a year after I got back"



Go away.

carlmango11

MJ23 wrote: »

I fell and broke my wrist while on holiday in Spain. I couldnt drive for a month after I got home.
"I broke my two legs while walking to the North Pole, couldn't walk for a year after I got back"



Go away.

I hear people on the Internet complain about "one-uppers" about 48 times more than I actually encounter them in real life.

And often I don't think they're one-upping, moreso relating to the story I've told with something similar. I've probably done it plenty of times unintentionally.

FunLover18

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

Extremely judgemental, fussy twats. Like on this thread.

"Hoodies", "people with stupid tattoos". FFS. God it's arrogant. People who go on like that clearly think they're better than everyone else. And if they genuinely cut contact with people for all of these "flaws" (which I doubt) then they must have no friends.

Tend not to dislike people on first meeting though, even if they have habits that I hate, like constant interrupting/being super self absorbed. If that stuff keeps cropping up on meeting though, then I start to avoid.

anncoates wrote: »

I don't like certain clothes as much as anybody and would joke about them and I personally hate tattoos but I'd hardly make a lasting judgement about somebody on the basis of either.

Sense of dress does usually say a lot about people though, it's a factor in how they wish to be perceived by others and how they perceive themselves. I've never cut someone off because of their dress sense and plenty of my friends have dress senses I wouldn't agree with.

However on meeting a new person it is one of the few things we have to go on. For instance my own example was people who wear wooly hats or scarves indoors. Hats and scarves are to keep you warm, is how I see it and the idea that someone would wear them as accessories is ridiculous to me. A red flag (term used in the OP) is a sign of warning, take care, which is how I view accessorised hats and scarves, it doesn't necessarily mean "run away, run away now".

czechlin

I tend to give people a few chances although in some cases the first impression is just too strong.

When I meet someone for the first time I really don't appreciate uncomfortable familiarity bordering with an extreme nosey-ness. I like my personal space.
Also rudeness, arrogance, patronising and bad hygiene might be a red flag.

It can depend on the circumstances. I think there were a few situations in which I didn't make the best impression either