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Contribution for birthday party - OK or not?

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  • #32
    deco nate
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,340 ✭✭✭deco nate


    Just as well she hired actors,
    Cos no one else is gonna turn up for this ****e!


  • #33
    Martha Shy Table
    Posts: 6,645 ✭✭✭ Martha Shy Table


    ballsymchugh wrote: »
    i think Martha Shy Table lives in london!

    Yep, I do.
    Butterface wrote: »
    Is it a murder mystery meal or something? I'd probably go if I was good friends with the person, but otherwise I'd be inclined to skip it if I was broke.

    What is with all these self-indulgent "big" birthday parties? One of my friends is already starting to arrange his 30th bash down the country at the beginning of the summer.. I don't even know what my plans are for next week, never mind 4 months from now!

    It is a murder mystery meal. Is it normal to ask for a contribution to those?


  • #34
    retro:electro
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,039 ✭✭✭✭retro:electro


    Go, get drunk, make a holy show of yourself and start effing them out of it.

    I am of course joking.


  • #35
    Martha Shy Table
    Posts: 6,645 ✭✭✭ Martha Shy Table


    Oh BTW, there's like 5 other people CCed in on the e-mail. So if they can't make it either, looks like it'll be a quiet night :/


  • #36
    deco nate
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,340 ✭✭✭deco nate


    Martha Shy Table wrote: »
    Oh BTW, there's like 5 other people CCed in on the e-mail. So if they can't make it either, looks like it'll be a quiet night :/
    Sure the actors can "act" as their friends :)


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  • #37
    shopaholic01
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,916 ✭✭✭shopaholic01


    Martha Shy Table wrote: »
    It is a murder mystery meal. Is it normal to ask for a contribution to those?
    Imagine paying in and having the pleasure of playing the victim. :pac:


  • #38
    wil
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,188 ✭✭✭wil


    Martha Shy Table wrote: »
    Oh BTW, there's like 5 other people CCed in on the e-mail. So if they can't make it either, looks like it'll be a quiet night :/
    Big party????
    Starting to sound a bit sad, that's why he's asking you to pay.


  • #39
    Fr_Dougal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,167 ✭✭✭Fr_Dougal


    Martha Shy Table wrote: »
    Oh BTW, there's like 5 other people CCed in on the e-mail. So if they can't make it either, looks like it'll be a quiet night :/

    Get £25, buy yourselves a nice bottle of wine, stay at home and get pissed. £150 is a big chunk of change to spend on a night, especially when you're tight on funds.


  • #40
    Martha Shy Table
    Posts: 6,645 ✭✭✭ Martha Shy Table


    wil wrote: »
    Big party????
    Starting to sound a bit sad, that's why he's asking you to pay.

    It's a surprise party for the birthday boy.


  • #41
    AK333
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,162 ✭✭✭AK333


    Didn't give you much notice if its next weekend and you haven't seen them in 9 months?

    Nah, if they emailed you the invite, email them back that you have other plans but hope they have a good night (that way they might invite you to something decent at some stage)


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  • #42
    Karl Stein
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,687 ✭✭✭Karl Stein


    Dear Friend,

    lol, no thanks.

    Regards.

    Your former friend.


  • #43
    juniord
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 240 ✭✭juniord


    tell them you will be there ,afterwards if they ring asking why you didnt turn up tell them you were acting the eejit when you said you would be there


  • #44
    Muise...
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,512 ✭✭✭Muise...


    Fr_Dougal wrote: »
    Get £25, buy yourselves a nice bottle of wine, stay at home and get pissed. £150 is a big chunk of change to spend on a night, especially when you're tight on funds.

    And watch an Agatha Christie film/box set. All the elegant drawing room murdering with better actors and none of the presumption.


  • #45
    crockholm
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,448 ✭✭✭crockholm


    Stavros Murphy wrote: »
    "Themed party". Themed?? What's the theme? Gobshytes and Gowls? Who has a themed birthday party, with actors? Sounds massively gack. If you go OP, you're supporting gowlishness. It's your duty to decline.


    I'm reading this post in a knocknaheeny accent :pac::pac::pac:


  • #46
    ElleEm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,981 ✭✭✭ElleEm


    Martha Shy Table wrote: »
    It's a surprise party for the birthday boy.

    "Surprise! I hired your birthday guests!"!


  • #47
    biko
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 81,060 ✭✭✭✭biko


    I don't know. Where you going to get him a pressie for 25 or a couple of scratch cards?


  • #48
    Mint Aero
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,570 ✭✭✭Mint Aero


    Hello I'm a fully growned up man and I just love meee birthday partaaahs whoop. All me guyos with me, and pressies woop.

    Does he sound like that OP?


  • #49
    padd b1975
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,910 ✭✭✭✭padd b1975


    Charles Rocher wrote: »
    Dear Friend,

    lol, no thanks.

    Regards.

    Your former friend.

    P.S. Actors??? Grow the **** up ya muppet!!


  • #50
    Stavros Murphy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,435 ✭✭✭Stavros Murphy


    crockholm wrote: »
    I'm reading this post in a knocknaheeny accent :pac::pac::pac:

    I was typing it in a "Limrack city boy" voice. In fairness, who has a themed birthday party ffs? The "theme" at one of ours is usually "Drinking a lot and trying to avoid a massive row with the out-laws". That and masses of slagging.


  • #51
    Muise...
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,512 ✭✭✭Muise...


    padd b1975 wrote: »
    P.S. Actors??? Grow the **** up ya muppet!!

    'lol' is so much more polite.


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  • #52
    Martha Shy Table
    Posts: 6,645 ✭✭✭ Martha Shy Table


    AK333 wrote: »
    Didn't give you much notice if its next weekend and you haven't seen them in 9 months?

    Nah, if they emailed you the invite, email them back that you have other plans but hope they have a good night (that way they might invite you to something decent at some stage)

    In fairness, she did say they would be sending invites out so I knew I was invited and that there may be a contribution required.

    The more I think about this, the more irritated I feel. He's one of those people who hardly ever replies to your texts or emails because he's so 'busy', as if the rest of us have shag all to do all day. He hasn't made any effort at all with us over the last 9 months...now they do have a 2-year-old but I have plenty of other friends with kids and they don't totally ignore me!


  • #53
    jobeenfitz
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,486 ✭✭✭jobeenfitz


    If you don't want to go, don't. If you care about whether or not they will like you after refusing then make up an excuse. Or Tell them you can't afford it.


  • #54
    Femme_Fatale
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,628 ✭✭✭Femme_Fatale


    crockholm wrote: »
    I'm reading this post in a knocknaheeny accent :pac::pac::pac:
    Yeh, Roy Keane on Gift Grub quality to it. :D


  • #55
    ballsymchugh
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,943 ✭✭✭ballsymchugh


    Martha Shy Table wrote: »
    In fairness, she did say they would be sending invites out so I knew I was invited and that there may be a contribution required.

    The more I think about this, the more irritated I feel. He's one of those people who hardly ever replies to your texts or emails because he's so 'busy', as if the rest of us have shag all to do all day. He hasn't made any effort at all with us over the last 9 months...now they do have a 2-year-old but I have plenty of other friends with kids and they don't totally ignore me!

    say you're going to the london forum night out!


  • #56
    Martha Shy Table
    Posts: 6,645 ✭✭✭ Martha Shy Table


    ballsymchugh wrote: »
    say you're going to the london forum night out!

    LOL

    "Soz, can't make it, gonna meet some random strangers from the internet...have a gud 1 babes" :D


  • #57
    wil
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,188 ✭✭✭wil


    ok, so the real problem is the (stingey) wife.
    Surprise (not)

    You're paying for her wonderful:rolleyes: surprise.


  • #58
    AK333
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,162 ✭✭✭AK333


    Martha Shy Table wrote: »
    LOL

    "Soz, can't make it, gonna meet some random strangers from the internet...have a gud 1 babes" :D

    Perfect response, no seriously, perfect - right type of cheeky chappy response.

    Just hope they aren't on Boards.ie thinking of a suitable retort:)


  • #59
    Martha Shy Table
    Posts: 6,645 ✭✭✭ Martha Shy Table


    wil wrote: »
    ok, so the real problem is the (stingey) wife.
    Surprise (not)

    You're paying for her wonderful:rolleyes: surprise.

    It is stingy, isn't it? I couldn't imagine throwing a big party for my OH and asking the guests to pay for it. If I couldn't cover it myself, I wouldn't do it.


  • #60
    Fox_In_Socks
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,615 ✭✭✭Fox_In_Socks


    Martha Shy Table wrote: »

    The more I think about this, the more irritated I feel. He's one of those people who hardly ever replies to your texts or emails because he's so 'busy', as if the rest of us have shag all to do all day. He hasn't made any effort at all with us over the last 9 months...now they do have a 2-year-old but I have plenty of other friends with kids and they don't totally ignore me!

    Then text back two days after his birthday saying:

    "Sure, I'd love to come! How much money again do you want me to pay?":pac:


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  • #61
    AdMMM
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,472 ✭✭✭AdMMM


    They shouldn't be throwing a party that they can't afford to throw!


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