Under 27s getting married - do you take them seriously?

Toto Wolfcastle · 01-02-2014 03:51PM

I was 26. My husband was 44 though so I suppose taking the average age the OP might agree with our marriage.

nlgbbbblth · 01-02-2014 03:54PM

whirlpool wrote: »

I find it hard to take it seriously when people who are aged under 27 years old get married. Am I alone in this?

Similarly, people who get engaged who haven't even been together for 2 years yet. Cringe! Well done, you lasted 2 years! That's definitely an indication that you'll last the next 60!

*sarcasm detector explodes*

I'm fairly certain that most of them are simply doing it for the attention, whether they, their friends or their families can bring themselves to admit it out loud or not.

Do you wear a cock ring?

dundalkfc10 · 01-02-2014 03:59PM

Bobblehead Panda wrote: »

I was 26. My husband was 44 though so I suppose taking the average age the OP might agree with our marriage.

He must be loaded

moc moc a moc · 01-02-2014 04:00PM

caustic 1 wrote: »

Met at 18, engaged at 21, married at 24, 3 children and 22 years later we are doing good.

Your point is?

His/her point (and I think you know) is a young marriage working out long-term is extremely unusual. You are one of the lucky few, not the norm.

(Also, Superman does good. You're doing well.)

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 01-02-2014 04:06PM

moc moc a moc wrote: »

His/her point (and I think you know) is a young marriage working out long-term is extremely unusual. You are one of the lucky few, not the norm.

(Also, Superman does good. You're doing well.)

Absolute nonsense. Where did you get that from? Most marriages pre celtic tiger involved people in their mid twenties or earlier. These marriages have survived much better than those since the trend for later marriage. There's are generations of happy long marriages in this country that involved brides and grooms in their twenties. Extremely unlikely my eye!:mad:

caustic 1 · 01-02-2014 04:09PM

moc moc a moc wrote: »

His/her point (and I think you know) is a young marriage working out long-term is extremely unusual. You are one of the lucky few, not the norm.

(Also, Superman does good. You're doing well.)

I did know that thank you, I disagree it is extremely unusual and very much the norm, was your end quote for me because perhaps I am totally dumb I have no idea what it's about.

Peter Tork · 01-02-2014 04:10PM

BrokenArrows wrote: »

16 Jesus Christ.

Was very common.

Loretta Lynn and Marilyn Monroe were both married at 15.

Even as close to the 80s it was quite common. Demi Moore was married at 16 for example.

SEPT 23 1989 · 01-02-2014 04:15PM

I became a father at 21 so to get married at 27 would be a walk in the park

dyeti · 01-02-2014 04:26PM

My friend is 23 and she married my other friend, who is 21. Needless to say they're stuck in a horrible abusive relationship that's going nowhere!

They are both idiots and I hope they can see what fools they've made of themselves.

I don't think I ever want to get married. I'm all up for a lifelong partner, but I don't see the need to institutionalize my love for someone.

Liger vs Tigon · 01-02-2014 04:29PM

dyeti wrote: »

My friend is 23 and she married my other friend, who is 21. Needless to say they're stuck in a horrible abusive relationship that's going nowhere! They are both idiots and I hope they can see what fools they've made of themselves.

I don't think I ever want to get married. I'm all up for a lifelong partner, but I don't see the need to institutionalize my love for someone.

There are legal benefits, especially if you are a Father.

P. Breathnach · 01-02-2014 04:31PM

You want young? My great-grandmother's sister married on her 13th birthday, had 11 children, and the marriage lasted about 50 years until the death of her husband.

[It was a long time ago; the marriage took place in 1856.]

Legs.Eleven · 01-02-2014 04:32PM

moc moc a moc wrote: »

His/her point (and I think you know) is a young marriage working out long-term is extremely unusual. You are one of the lucky few, not the norm.

(Also, Superman does good. You're doing well.)

Yeah? Have you got stats on that please? My parents, my aunties and uncles and all the parents of my friends got married young and are still together. Anecdotal evidence but I'd like to know from where you reached the conclusion above.

Czarcasm · 01-02-2014 04:37PM

dyeti wrote: »

My friend is 23 and she married my other friend, who is 21. Needless to say they're stuck in a horrible abusive relationship that's going nowhere! They are both idiots and I hope they can see what fools they've made of themselves.

I don't think I ever want to get married. I'm all up for a lifelong partner, but I don't see the need to institutionalize my love for someone.

This being AH and the Internet and all, I don't expect you to take this question seriously, it's more a curiosity, but, why the hell would you revel in other human beings misery?

And these people are your friends?

Why wouldn't you offer them support instead of pointing fingers and making little of them? It just comes off as incredibly smug for no good reason.

caustic 1 · 01-02-2014 04:38PM

dyeti wrote: »

My friend is 23 and she married my other friend, who is 21. Needless to say they're stuck in a horrible abusive relationship that's going nowhere! They are both idiots and I hope they can see what fools they've made of themselves.

I don't think I ever want to get married. I'm all up for a lifelong partner, but I don't see the need to institutionalize my love for someone.

If it is so bad why are they together? Also maybe just me but if any of my friends were abusive to anyone else I think I would be pointing out their behaviour and if it continued they wouldn't be my friend.

Muise... · 01-02-2014 04:42PM

Preston Repulsive Stipend wrote: »

Absolute nonsense. Where did you get that from? Most marriages pre celtic tiger involved people in their mid twenties or earlier. These marriages have survived much better than those since the trend for later marriage. There's are generations of happy long marriages in this country that involved brides and grooms in their twenties. Extremely unlikely my eye!:mad:

I don't really have an opinion, not being the marrying kind, but it doesn't follow from your experience that people in their early/mid-twenties getting married now will have the same success rate. Not when the success can only be measured when someone dies.

Mammanabammana · 01-02-2014 04:57PM

dyeti wrote: »

My friend is 23 and she married my other friend, who is 21. Needless to say they're stuck in a horrible abusive relationship that's going nowhere!

'Needless to say'? Why is it needless to say? Because basically every single 23 and 21 year old who get married are on an unavoidable course for a 'horrible abusive relationship'?

Vito Corleone · 01-02-2014 05:06PM

27 club.

Gongoozler · 01-02-2014 05:06PM

mauzo! wrote: »

I'm getting married in May, we've been together less than a year.

I'm 22, he's 31. Ill keep you updated OP

Oh and we don't even live together yet!

He got you pregnant right? :pac:

Ihatecuddles · 01-02-2014 05:12PM

Gongoozler wrote: »

He got you pregnant right? :pac:

Bang bang! Shotgun wedding...

willmunny1990 · 01-02-2014 05:14PM

I just dont see the point in marriage at all anymore.

At one point you had to be married if you wanted to be with someone, have a child. Also there was pressure due to religion, family and society as a whole.

But that day is long gone, I just can't understand the point of it anymore, is it suppose to mean something or symbolize something? Marriage is a Pointless waste of money that just complicates things if things go wrong in the relationship IMO.

Wicklowrider · 01-02-2014 05:31PM

whirlpool wrote: »

I find it hard to take it seriously when people who are aged under 27 years old get married. Am I alone in this?

Similarly, people who get engaged who haven't even been together for 2 years yet. Cringe! Well done, you lasted 2 years! That's definitely an indication that you'll last the next 60!

*sarcasm detector explodes*

I'm fairly certain that most of them are simply doing it for the attention, whether they, their friends or their families can bring themselves to admit it out loud or not.

Some people are equipped to make quick decisions.

I was 24 when I married my then 21 year old wife. The first night I met her I knew and told people I'd marry her. I do not recall ever being so certain about anything. 30 odd years later and I can't imagine being with anyone else.

Attention? Ask yourself why you chose to word your post in the manner you did and then decide who craves attention.

rainbow kirby · 01-02-2014 05:33PM

29 (as is my OH) and got engaged after just under 2 years together. Didn't feel too early at all, felt very natural.

P. Breathnach · 01-02-2014 05:37PM

willmunny1990 wrote: »

I just dont see the point in marriage at all anymore....

Practical:
- To secure inheritance rights (and CAT exemptions);
- To secure a father's rights, especially where the mother of a child dies;
- To have next-of-kin status which might be needed in medical emergencies.

Emotional:
- To tell one another (and the rest of the world) that they are committing for the rest of their lives.

Alun · 01-02-2014 05:40PM

I met my wife when I was 26 and she was 21, we got engaged after 3 months and married almost 12 months to the day after we first met. That will be 30 years ago this year.

Friend Computer · 01-02-2014 05:47PM

Preston Repulsive Stipend wrote: »

Absolute nonsense. Where did you get that from? Most marriages pre celtic tiger involved people in their mid twenties or earlier. These marriages have survived much better than those since the trend for later marriage. There's are generations of happy long marriages in this country that involved brides and grooms in their twenties. Extremely unlikely my eye!:mad:

Considering that divorce was only legalised within the last twenty years I'd be somewhat sceptical of that. How many of those are together because there was just no alternative and they learned to 'make do'? Even setting that aside there was much more social pressure to get married and stay together in days gone by.

What you see is not always the reality. Not that I'm saying they're all unhappy but I think it's equally naive to say they are.

Holsten · 01-02-2014 05:52PM

No I wouldn't take them seriously at all.

Blows my mind why anyone would ever get married these days.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 01-02-2014 05:56PM

Friend Computer wrote: »

Considering that divorce was only legalised within the last twenty years I'd be somewhat sceptical of that. How many of those are together because there was just no alternative and they learned to 'make do'? Even setting that aside there was much more social pressure to get married and stay together in days gone by.

What you see is not always the reality. Not that I'm saying they're all unhappy but I think it's equally naive to say they are.

This old bull argument that becuse there was no divorce people were forced to stay together? Of course there were unhappy marriages but there were many many long and happy ones. My reply was in response to a post intimating that all young marriages fail. I'm long enough on this earth to know all marriages cannot succeed but that's not what the thread is about.
Plus, as a 70 year old, I can assure you I have seen more sides of the human story than you have and I am far from naïve. I am not stupid. I know people have hidden and always will hide failing relationships by I'm also honest enough to not jump on the old negativity bandwagon and make generalisations that all early marriages fail.
Be as skeptical as you like but I have seen the happy and long marriages of a couple of generations of family, colleagues and friends, most who married early or mid twenties. Of course some were unhappy or failed but very very few.

bardcom · 01-02-2014 05:59PM

whirlpool wrote: »

I find it hard to take it seriously when people who are aged under 27 years old get married. Am I alone in this?

It's really got nothing to do with physical age. I've known people in their 40s getting married that were still not mature enough for that level of commitment. Conversely, I've know 23 y/os that were plenty ready.

When you're older you'll realize why the question is more a reflection on your own outlook and situation.

caustic 1 · 01-02-2014 06:20PM

Sometimes I think that the longer you leave it to commit to a relationship the harder it can be, when living alone you get into a rut and have your own way of doing and dealing with things making it difficult to adjust when someone comes along to share your life, it may seem disruptive to someone alone for longer.

corkgsxr · 01-02-2014 06:22PM

I do cos I married at 26 but I was going out for 9 years first. Any issues with that

Under 27s getting married - do you take them seriously?

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