Under 27s getting married - do you take them seriously?

whirlpool

I find it hard to take it seriously when people who are aged under 27 years old get married. Am I alone in this?

Similarly, people who get engaged who haven't even been together for 2 years yet. Cringe! Well done, you lasted 2 years! That's definitely an indication that you'll last the next 60!

*sarcasm detector explodes*

I'm fairly certain that most of them are simply doing it for the attention, whether they, their friends or their families can bring themselves to admit it out loud or not.

Temaz

What an odd number you decided on! Not much of a difference between 27 and let's say 28.

hedgehog2

whirlpool wrote: »

I find it hard to take it seriously when people who are aged under 27 years old get married. Am I alone in this?

Similarly, people who get engaged who haven't even been together for 2 years yet. Cringe! Well done, you lasted 2 years! That's definitely an indication that you'll last the next 60!

*sarcasm detector explodes*

I'm fairly certain that most of them are simply doing it for the attention, whether they, their friends or their families would like to admit it or not.

Who dumped ya op,time will heal you.

thecatspjs

whirlpool wrote: »

Similarly, people who get engaged who haven't even been together for 2 years yet. Cringe! Well done, you lasted 2 years! That's definitely an indication that you'll last the next 60!

*sarcasm detector explodes*

So is anything over 2 years OK? I'm actually curious as to how long two people should be together before they feel that they could be together for 60 years?

The Backwards Man

I saw someone about 40ish getting on a bus this morning. I thought haha you wanker, you have no car.*

*I didn't really because I don't judge people like that

For Forks Sake

whirlpool wrote: »

I find it hard to take it seriously when people who are aged under 27 years old get married. Am I alone in this?

What an arbitrary number. What did 26 and 28 do to p1ss you off?

whirlpool wrote: »

Similarly, people who get engaged who haven't even been together for 2 years yet. Cringe! Well done, you lasted 2 years! That's definitely an indication that you'll last the next 60!

Meh, life expectancy is 78 for men, 80 for women, they probably won't need to see out the full 60 year stretch.

dodderangler

What age did your parents marry op?
Years ago 20-24 was the normal age to be married.
Now days seems around 30 ish mark to be married.

Ihatecuddles

I'm getting married in May, we've been together less than a year.

I'm 22, he's 31. Ill keep you updated OP

Oh and we don't even live together yet!

Spunge

Are you 27 ?

SharpshooterTom

I would assume also that marriage as an institution is dying out anyway. Less and less people are getting married these days, maybe not in Ireland because religion is still quite strong, but in the UK definitely.

bockeys jollocks

mauzo! wrote: »

I'm getting married in May, we've been together less than a year.

I'm 22, he's 31. Ill keep you updated OP

Jayzus!!

P. Breathnach

whirlpool wrote: »

... That's definitely an indication that you'll last the next 60! ...

If both parties are over 27, the probability that they will both survive a further 60 years is pretty small.

A couple marrying in their early twenties have a better chance of celebrating their diamond jubilee.

spurious

My parents didn't live together first, married in their early 20s and were together happily for almost 50 years until my Dad died.
I would worry a bit about someone getting married at 18 or so, but who am I to say it won't last?

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

OP, I don't know what planet you are on but 27 is not young to marry. I was 26 and my wife 25 back in 1974 when we married. We were considered anything but too young at that time. I think perhaps you need to grow up somewhat as your attitude to this seems extremely immature. Marry in your mid twenties and you enjoy your kids when they are young, still have much in common with them as adults and are young enough to be active in the lives of your grandchildren. Try it, it is marvelous!

dee_mc

I'd imagine it depends entirely on the couple. What's right for you (or right in your opinion) isn't necessarily right for another person/couple. You seem to have a few issues about marriage - I don't know anyone, of any age, who has opted for marriage 'for attention' tbh

hedgehog2

I just had a mental image of the op as some bitter lad holed up in a darkroom on his laptop eating cheesos and sipping cans of coke while stalking his 27yr old friends on facebook with an envious look at happy couples.

Preston Repulsive Stipend

Preston Repulsive Stipend wrote: »

Marry in your mid twenties and you enjoy your kids when they are young,

Assuming you want kids, want them straight away, or don't have them already, yeah

Tangatagamadda Chaddabinga Bonga Bungo

People have children before the age of 27 so why not get married, just make sure you get a prenup if you're...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jx2raP3P3FQ

whirlpool

Temaz wrote: »

What an odd number you decided on! Not much of a difference between 27 and let's say 28.

If I had said 28 your comment would have been the following:

Temaz wrote: »

What an odd number you decided on! Not much of a difference between 28 and let's say 29.

If I had said 26 your comment would have been the following:

Temaz wrote: »

What an odd number you decided on! Not much of a difference between 26 and let's say 27.

And so on and so forth.

So... yeah.

Sponge25

Me and my gf might be getting married soon. I'm 26 and she's 28.

The reason is so we can live together in Ireland, she's from Pennsylvania. We always knew we were going to get married though.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

bluewolf wrote: »

Assuming you want kids, want them straight away, or don't have them already, yeah

Well, Dooh! Yes!!!! Rocket scientist are you?

Aestivalis

I'd say most of your parents got married before 27 and a lot of them are still together.

caustic 1

Met at 18, engaged at 21, married at 24, 3 children and 22 years later we are doing good.

Your point is?

Most of my friends got married under 27. They're all still together, mostly happy, with growing families.

adamski8

whirlpool wrote: »

If I had said 28 your comment would have been the following:



If I had said 26 your comment would have been the following:



And so on and so forth.

So... yeah.

And so the OP destroys their own argument

PizzamanIRL

27? Why 27?

dundalkfc10

My Uncle got married at 20, after being together 18 months, Still together 30 years later

My best mates mam and dad, were together since they were 15 got married when they were 34, Divorced before they were 40!!

BrokenArrows

It honestly depends on the people.
You can go out with someone for 2 years and just be going through the motions or you can be fully committed and really know that person

Peter Tork

Maybe they're all just so happy to be still alive, what with the '27 Club' and all.

My mam was 16 when she got married, an Irish immigrant working in the UK at 15, and it wasn't considered unusual at all, for the time at least.

BrokenArrows

Peter Tork wrote: »

Maybe they're all just so happy to be still alive, what with the '27 Club' and all.

My mam was 16 when she got married, an Irish immigrant working in the UK at 15, and it wasn't considered unusual at all, for the time at least.

16 Jesus Christ.

Czarcasm

whirlpool wrote: »

I find it hard to take it seriously when people who are aged under 27 years old get married. Am I alone in this?

You're not alone in this view OP, there are plenty of people who think other people should care for their opinions.

Similarly, people who get engaged who haven't even been together for 2 years yet. Cringe! [/b]Well done, you lasted 2 years! That's definitely an indication that you'll last the next 60!

*sarcasm detector explodes*

Well it's a good indicator to them, the only two people whose opinion matters on the issue.

I'm fairly certain that most of them are simply doing it for the attention, whether they, their friends or their families can bring themselves to admit it out loud or not.

I'm fairly sure the couple involved don't particularly care what YOU think they're getting married for. I finally convinced my wife up the aisle after seven years when I was 27 and she was 28, and providing I don't do anything monumentally stupid, we should be alright for another sixty years or so, sickness and in health and all that craic.

Tbh OP age doesn't so much come into it as opposed to where a couple are in their life stages and they share the same outlook on life and would like to share the rest of their lives with each other, and enhance each others' lives.

Once they're old enough and bold enough to assume responsibility for themselves, I would support them in their decision providing I couldn't see any reason as to why they shouldn't be married, the usual things like bigamy, etc, that'd be a bit of a show stopper

Toto Wolfcastle

I was 26. My husband was 44 though so I suppose taking the average age the OP might agree with our marriage.

nlgbbbblth

whirlpool wrote: »

I find it hard to take it seriously when people who are aged under 27 years old get married. Am I alone in this?

Similarly, people who get engaged who haven't even been together for 2 years yet. Cringe! Well done, you lasted 2 years! That's definitely an indication that you'll last the next 60!

*sarcasm detector explodes*

I'm fairly certain that most of them are simply doing it for the attention, whether they, their friends or their families can bring themselves to admit it out loud or not.

Do you wear a cock ring?

dundalkfc10

Bobblehead Panda wrote: »

I was 26. My husband was 44 though so I suppose taking the average age the OP might agree with our marriage.

He must be loaded

moc moc a moc

caustic 1 wrote: »

Met at 18, engaged at 21, married at 24, 3 children and 22 years later we are doing good.

Your point is?

His/her point (and I think you know) is a young marriage working out long-term is extremely unusual. You are one of the lucky few, not the norm.

(Also, Superman does good. You're doing well.)

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

moc moc a moc wrote: »

His/her point (and I think you know) is a young marriage working out long-term is extremely unusual. You are one of the lucky few, not the norm.

(Also, Superman does good. You're doing well.)

Absolute nonsense. Where did you get that from? Most marriages pre celtic tiger involved people in their mid twenties or earlier. These marriages have survived much better than those since the trend for later marriage. There's are generations of happy long marriages in this country that involved brides and grooms in their twenties. Extremely unlikely my eye!:mad:

caustic 1

moc moc a moc wrote: »

His/her point (and I think you know) is a young marriage working out long-term is extremely unusual. You are one of the lucky few, not the norm.

(Also, Superman does good. You're doing well.)

I did know that thank you, I disagree it is extremely unusual and very much the norm, was your end quote for me because perhaps I am totally dumb I have no idea what it's about.

Peter Tork

BrokenArrows wrote: »

16 Jesus Christ.

Was very common.

Loretta Lynn and Marilyn Monroe were both married at 15.

Even as close to the 80s it was quite common. Demi Moore was married at 16 for example.

SEPT 23 1989

I became a father at 21 so to get married at 27 would be a walk in the park

dyeti

My friend is 23 and she married my other friend, who is 21. Needless to say they're stuck in a horrible abusive relationship that's going nowhere! They are both idiots and I hope they can see what fools they've made of themselves.

I don't think I ever want to get married. I'm all up for a lifelong partner, but I don't see the need to institutionalize my love for someone.

Liger vs Tigon

dyeti wrote: »

My friend is 23 and she married my other friend, who is 21. Needless to say they're stuck in a horrible abusive relationship that's going nowhere! They are both idiots and I hope they can see what fools they've made of themselves.

I don't think I ever want to get married. I'm all up for a lifelong partner, but I don't see the need to institutionalize my love for someone.

There are legal benefits, especially if you are a Father.

P. Breathnach

You want young? My great-grandmother's sister married on her 13th birthday, had 11 children, and the marriage lasted about 50 years until the death of her husband.

[It was a long time ago; the marriage took place in 1856.]

Legs.Eleven

moc moc a moc wrote: »

His/her point (and I think you know) is a young marriage working out long-term is extremely unusual. You are one of the lucky few, not the norm.

(Also, Superman does good. You're doing well.)

Yeah? Have you got stats on that please? My parents, my aunties and uncles and all the parents of my friends got married young and are still together. Anecdotal evidence but I'd like to know from where you reached the conclusion above.

Czarcasm

dyeti wrote: »

My friend is 23 and she married my other friend, who is 21. Needless to say they're stuck in a horrible abusive relationship that's going nowhere! They are both idiots and I hope they can see what fools they've made of themselves.

I don't think I ever want to get married. I'm all up for a lifelong partner, but I don't see the need to institutionalize my love for someone.

This being AH and the Internet and all, I don't expect you to take this question seriously, it's more a curiosity, but, why the hell would you revel in other human beings misery?

And these people are your friends?

Why wouldn't you offer them support instead of pointing fingers and making little of them? It just comes off as incredibly smug for no good reason.

caustic 1

dyeti wrote: »

My friend is 23 and she married my other friend, who is 21. Needless to say they're stuck in a horrible abusive relationship that's going nowhere! They are both idiots and I hope they can see what fools they've made of themselves.

I don't think I ever want to get married. I'm all up for a lifelong partner, but I don't see the need to institutionalize my love for someone.

If it is so bad why are they together? Also maybe just me but if any of my friends were abusive to anyone else I think I would be pointing out their behaviour and if it continued they wouldn't be my friend.

Muise...

Preston Repulsive Stipend wrote: »

Absolute nonsense. Where did you get that from? Most marriages pre celtic tiger involved people in their mid twenties or earlier. These marriages have survived much better than those since the trend for later marriage. There's are generations of happy long marriages in this country that involved brides and grooms in their twenties. Extremely unlikely my eye!:mad:

I don't really have an opinion, not being the marrying kind, but it doesn't follow from your experience that people in their early/mid-twenties getting married now will have the same success rate. Not when the success can only be measured when someone dies.

Mammanabammana

dyeti wrote: »

My friend is 23 and she married my other friend, who is 21. Needless to say they're stuck in a horrible abusive relationship that's going nowhere!

'Needless to say'? Why is it needless to say? Because basically every single 23 and 21 year old who get married are on an unavoidable course for a 'horrible abusive relationship'?

Vito Corleone

27 club.

Gongoozler

mauzo! wrote: »

I'm getting married in May, we've been together less than a year.

I'm 22, he's 31. Ill keep you updated OP

Oh and we don't even live together yet!

He got you pregnant right? :pac:

Ihatecuddles

Gongoozler wrote: »

He got you pregnant right? :pac:

Bang bang! Shotgun wedding...

willmunny1990

I just dont see the point in marriage at all anymore.

At one point you had to be married if you wanted to be with someone, have a child. Also there was pressure due to religion, family and society as a whole.

But that day is long gone, I just can't understand the point of it anymore, is it suppose to mean something or symbolize something? Marriage is a Pointless waste of money that just complicates things if things go wrong in the relationship IMO.