So i told a person i work that they smell & there not too happy about it

Soft Falling Rain · 15-01-2014 02:45PM

Its All Wright wrote: »

e been working along side this person for several weeks now, from the first day on the job ive noticed a horrible smell. At first i wasnt too bothered by it but aIvs time went on it became more & more irratating. Its a weird smell, its nothing to do with personal hygiene. To describe it i would say its a mix of cigarettes, fart & horrible fragrance. Ive been very tolerate up until now but recently ive been getting fart headaches, the non scientific description for a fart headache is when a person farts & it lingers so long that it gives you a migraine. That was the last straw for me, im busy & the last thing i need is to be suffering for a fart headache.

One day after lunch it got so bad that i resorted to immature measures, i had to by my jumper over my nose, a grow man sitting in an office with a jumper over his nose. I taught to myself right thats it something needs to be said here. Im not sitting here anymore with this going on. I tend to speak without consulting with my brain first, so I turned to the person & said "i cant take this anymore, you smell like a piece of sh*t crawled out your arse & its having a smoke before heading out on a Saturday night, its disgusting & you need to sort it out". On reflection, i should have went to HR, but even at that how do you explain to a HR rep that someone smells like sh*t. They werent happy with my outburst & i was told in no incertain terms to f*ck off, they proceeded to abuse me & i was called & accused of some awful things.

Anyway im amazed it hasnt been reported to HR, 2 or 3 people witnessed it too so i was expecting something,i returned to Ireland for Christmas & heard nothing more about, i was expecting a call to say dont come back. Im now due back in New York & im dreading facing this person and also if they havent sorted the smell out, what do i do? I cant tolerate another dose of fart headaches & i dont think its even a recognised medical condition, its not like you can go into your local drug store & ask the chemist for fart headache medication

What you do ?

Sure you did.

Moomat · 15-01-2014 02:45PM

Get a bullet proof vest... This sounds like the build up to one of them workplace massacres they have in America.

major bill · 15-01-2014 02:47PM

OP

Thats a bit of a dickish thing to do. There are PC ways how to deal with things like that in an office and your outburst makes you out to be a ****.

Archeron · 15-01-2014 02:48PM

Princess Consuela Bananahammock wrote: »

Fart aspirin?

Ibuprofart are stronger

Vito Corleone · 15-01-2014 02:56PM

Alun wrote: »

Grow up a bit? "Fart headaches" ?????

It's caused by lack of oxygen to the brain as you breathe less when surrounded by a fart.

wandatowell · 15-01-2014 02:58PM

Am I the only one who has Googled "fart headaches"?

jester77 · 15-01-2014 03:01PM

Get your ears pierced, if not pierced already, and hang some Little Tree air fresheners from them. Just remember not to rip off the packaging right away.

Phill Ewinn · 15-01-2014 03:02PM

Archeron wrote: »

Ibuprofart are stronger

Fartsodol FTW

dave1982 · 15-01-2014 03:05PM

You'll probably be shot in a shooting rampage with it being America

RikkFlair · 15-01-2014 03:06PM

I actually have a headache, I'm on a mission to find out who's been farting in my vicinity.

Its All Wright · 15-01-2014 03:07PM

Vito Corleone wrote: »

It's caused by lack of oxygen to the brain as you breathe less when surrounded by a fart.

This is my understanding of a fart headache

Im at fault here, i could have called the person aside & mentioned it in private, but i have a history of being rash & immature in my thinking. I tend to speak to people like there my best mate ive known years when ive only known them a wet day. I need to change, ive put myself in an awful position & im anxious about returning to work with this person, have to face the music with this.

Stheno · 15-01-2014 03:09PM

Its All Wright wrote: »

This is my understanding of a fart headache

Im at fault here, i could have called the person aside & mentioned it in private, but i have a history of being rash & immature in my thinking. I tend to speak to people like there my best mate ive known years when ive only known them a wet day. I need to change, ive put myself in an awful position & im anxious about returning to work with this person, have to face the music with this.

All you can do tbh is go in and see what happens.

If indeed your oP is true

Muise... · 15-01-2014 03:11PM

If you'd any flatusense you'd just open the window.

razorblunt · 15-01-2014 03:29PM

Should have gone to Macy's while you were there and got as many sample bottles of aftershave and then set your alarm for every 5 minutes, turn and spray him with your Davidoff Champion wee bottle.

Daqster · 15-01-2014 03:45PM

So, New Yorkers watch the Inbetweeners and shout 'Aldi Wanker!' at people too.

That's mad, Ted.

ringadingding · 15-01-2014 03:46PM

When you say New York, I presume you mean Athlone

Ray Palmer · 15-01-2014 05:44PM

If you worked for me you would have a written warning and have to apologise. No excuse of "that is the way I am" would be accepted.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 15-01-2014 08:36PM

Its All Wright wrote: »

This is my understanding of a fart headache

Im at fault here, i could have called the person aside & mentioned it in private, but i have a history of being rash & immature in my thinking. I tend to speak to people like there my best mate ive known years when ive only known them a wet day. I need to change, ive put myself in an awful position & im anxious about returning to work with this person, have to face the music with this.

As long as you didn't actually use the phrase "fart headache" in a spoken conversation, all is forgiven.

Cee-Jay-Cee · 15-01-2014 08:50PM

I had a similar problem with a lad in worked with about 20 years ago, he was manky rotten, his breath, clothes and everything to do with him smelled of **** and feet. I worked in a fairly small office space and it used to make me nauscious. I put up with it for about 4 weeks and then kept complaining about the smell, I blamed the drains and blocked pipes for it knowing fine well it was him. I then started buying air freshener and completely dousing the place with it to the point you'd have to go outside to breathe. He never said anything but he knew it was himself too. After about a week or two of me constantly complaining and going through a tin of air freshener every day or two he finally started to get the message and started wearing clean clothes and obviously showering more regularly. He'd let it lapse every so often and so I kept the air freshener in my desk drawer and doused the place if I got a whiff of his reek.

woodoo · 15-01-2014 08:54PM

Frank Black wrote: »

You need to fight fire with fire.
Have a spicy indian for dinner in the evening washed down by a few pints of guniness, go to the gym before work but don't shower or use deodorant afterwards, then have a big cigar.

Good point. But i'd go for a full weekend on the Guinness with no food and he will destroy the mans olfactory system on Monday morning.

Femme_Fatale · 15-01-2014 11:15PM

Could be his feet. I worked with a guy who smelt like he was continuously, without interruption, emitting horrific farts.
It was foot smell though.

It's an awful difficult one. Horrendous having to work close to someone who stinks, and it's a valid concern for employers as it affects morale and productivity. It is something to advise a manager of, in confidence, for escalation to HR. It's difficult though, as it's humiliating for the person, and you're going behind their back by telling a manager; it's not a co-worker's job to say it to them though, and that could be reported as bullying.

Needs to be done with utmost sensitivity; extremely poor personal hygiene is associated with depression.

MonsterCookie · 15-01-2014 11:52PM

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

Could be his feet. I worked with a guy who smelt like he was continuously, without interruption, emitting horrific farts.
It was foot smell though.

It's an awful difficult one. Horrendous having to work close to someone who stinks, and it's a valid concern for employers as it affects morale and productivity. It is something to advise a manager of, in confidence, for escalation to HR. It's difficult though, as it's humiliating for the person, and you're going behind their back by telling a manager; it's not a co-worker's job to say it to them though, and that could be reported as bullying.

Needs to be done with utmost sensitivity; extremely poor personal hygiene is associated with depression.

Spot on FF. It's a management problem to solve. I had a similar experience a few years ago...the boss took the perp aside and put it to him. Although the guy denied it was him, and was quite offended, it did lead to an improvement.

Queen Elizabeth I's quote, 'I have a bath once a month whether I need it or not' springs to mind!

Personally, I feel very sorry for anyone who has allowed themselves to get into this state for the want of a good wash every day or two!

Son Of A Vidic · 15-01-2014 11:55PM

Its All Wright wrote: »

..ive been getting fart headaches, the non scientific description for a fart headache is when a person farts & it lingers so long that it gives you a migraine..

I'm dying to know what the scientific description of a 'fart headache' is.

Its All Wright wrote: »

.."i cant take this anymore, you smell like a piece of sh*t crawled out your arse & its having a smoke before heading out on a Saturday night, its disgusting & you need to sort it out". On reflection, i should have went to HR..

No, on reflection you should have had a double dose of cop on for breakfast. Then considering the sensitive subject matter at hand, you should have spoke to your work colleague in a civil and respectful manner.

Ihatecuddles · 16-01-2014 12:07AM

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

Could be his feet. I worked with a guy who smelt like he was continuously, without interruption, emitting horrific farts.
It was foot smell though.

It's an awful difficult one. Horrendous having to work close to someone who stinks, and it's a valid concern for employers as it affects morale and productivity. It is something to advise a manager of, in confidence, for escalation to HR. It's difficult though, as it's humiliating for the person, and you're going behind their back by telling a manager; it's not a co-worker's job to say it to them though, and that could be reported as bullying.

Needs to be done with utmost sensitivity; extremely poor personal hygiene is associated with depression.

How did you find out it was his feet? That makes me feel ill, I hate stinky feet!!

So i told a person i work that they smell & there not too happy about it

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