Is being late for dinner rude?

Witchie · 31-12-2013 07:17PM #1

If it is my friends are very rude. I have organised a lovely dinner for 2 of my friends before we go out to the pub tonight and told them I need them here at 6. No later.

It is now 6.15 and no sign of them. One text about 10 mins ago to say she will be here in 20.

They are always late. One of them has an excuse as she is a carer for her mum but the other is just so frustrating.

Now the chicken is nearly ready while the starter hasnt been eaten yet.

It drives me mad....Is it too much to ask for people to be on time?

Aidric · 31-12-2013 07:18PM

Punctuality doesn't suit the Irish.

Frosty McSnowballs · 31-12-2013 07:19PM

I hate late people!

Fanny Brioscaí · 31-12-2013 07:19PM

I've yet to met a girl who is on time let alone two girls.

Real Life · 31-12-2013 07:20PM

being late for dinner is better than being late for your period

Muise... · 31-12-2013 07:20PM

Witchie wrote: »

If it is my friends are very rude. I have organised a lovely dinner for 2 of my friends before we go out to the pub tonight and told them I need them here at 6. No later.

It is now 6.15 and no sign of them. One text about 10 mins ago to say she will be here in 20.

They are always late. One of them has an excuse as she is a carer for her mum but the other is just so frustrating.

Now the chicken is nearly ready while the starter hasnt been eaten yet.

It drives me mad....Is it too much to ask for people to be on time?

Yes, it's rude. Even worse if they bring chips. Only cook nice stuff for friends who will appreciate it Witchie - I learned that the hard way, weeping silently into the washing-up as they all fecked off to the pub, having eaten their own chips and left most of my food untouched.

Penny Tration · 31-12-2013 07:21PM

If they're always late, you should have told them to be there at five. One of my friends is a minimum of two hours late to everything so i arrange to meet him two hours before I actually plan to leave my house.

Donkey Oaty · 31-12-2013 07:21PM

Witchie wrote: »

They are always late.....Is it too much to ask for people to be on time?

Maybe factor this in next time? Some people think it's rude to arrive on the dot.

Bon appetite!

Karl Stein · 31-12-2013 07:21PM

It's very rude if someone has taken the time to cook a meal. Also, answering calls or texts at the dinner table - that should be a paddlin' offence.

dmc17 · 31-12-2013 07:22PM

Witchie wrote: »

If it is my friends are very rude. I have organised a lovely dinner for 2 of my friends before we go out to the pub tonight and told them I need them here at 6. No later.

It is now 6.15 and no sign of them. One text about 10 mins ago to say she will be here in 20.

They are always late. One of them has an excuse as she is a carer for her mum but the other is just so frustrating.

Now the chicken is nearly ready while the starter hasnt been eaten yet.

It drives me mad....Is it too much to ask for people to be on time?

Where are you. I'll eat it. That'll teach them to be late!!

dmc17 · 31-12-2013 07:23PM

green_screen wrote: »

If they're always late, you should have told them to be there at five. One of my friends is a minimum of two hours late to everything so i arrange to meet him two hours before I actually plan to leave my house.

Murphy's law states that they'd arrive just before five in this scenario and there would be no food ready

Professey Chin · 31-12-2013 07:24PM

Being late in general without a decent reason is sh!t.
Punctuality isnt that hard a thing to master

ahnowbrowncow · 31-12-2013 07:24PM

Donkey Oaty wrote: »

Maybe factor this in next time? Some people think it's rude to arrive on the dot.

Bon appetite!

Who thinks this???

Idiots, that's who.

Daqster · 31-12-2013 07:24PM

It is if you're a chef.

RayCon · 31-12-2013 07:24PM

Witchie wrote: »

Now the chicken is nearly ready while the starter hasnt been eaten yet.

You posting from the kitchen ?

clairefontaine · 31-12-2013 07:25PM

I was told in Ireland it's rude to be on time. I showed up on time and host was still in a dressing gown.

I dunno... for me if you mean 7, say 7, not six and then be shocked when they show up at 6.

31-12-2013 07:26PM

I hate people being late
If they knew you were cooking that's very rude

anncoates · 31-12-2013 07:26PM

Everyone can be unavoidably late on occasion, but I know people that waffle on about their serial lack of punctuality like it's indicative of a daring riposte to conventionality but let's be honest, it just means they're being ignorant cunts

cletus van damme · 31-12-2013 07:26PM

it's really rude.
late people annoy me - i also hate it when thyn think ringing you while you are waiting on them excuses or mitigates their lateness.
It doesn't.

Mint Aero · 31-12-2013 07:28PM

I can come around

I'd be only delighted to eat your grub and I'll even say thanks after

Witchie · 31-12-2013 07:28PM

I did consider telling them earlier but thought that just this once, since I was making such an effort for them, that they might arrive on time.

Menu is:

Starter:
Roasted Mediterranean Vegetables and Feta tartlets on a bed of salad

Main:
Vegetable and Cheese Pasta Bake
Chicken fillets stuffed with Pesto, Mozzerella & herbs (bread crumbed coating)
Herby Home Fries

Dessert:

Cinnamon Roll Bread Pudding with Tia Maria Custard
& A Cheese board.

Made everything from scratch bar the cinnamon rolls.

31-12-2013 07:28PM

It used to annoy the hell out of me back in uni when you'd arrange to meet people in a pub at a certain time and they'd arrive at least an hour later leaving you there on your own like an eejit, why say you will meet at a time when you have no intention of doing so??

anncoates · 31-12-2013 07:29PM

green_screen wrote: »

If they're always late, you should have told them to be there at five. One of my friends is a minimum of two hours late to everything so i arrange to meet him two hours before I actually plan to leave my house.

Had a similar friend and I just stood him up a few times until he got the message.

31-12-2013 07:32PM

Witchie wrote: »

I did consider telling them earlier but thought that just this once, since I was making such an effort for them, that they might arrive on time.

Menu is:

Starter:
Roasted Mediterranean Vegetables and Feta tartlets on a bed of salad

Main:
Vegetable and Cheese Pasta Bake
Chicken fillets stuffed with Pesto, Mozzerella & herbs (bread crumbed coating)
Herby Home Fries

Dessert:

Cinnamon Roll Bread Pudding with Tia Maria Custard
& A Cheese board.

Made everything from scratch bar the cinnamon rolls.

Take it down to the homeless shelter OP and leave a note on the door telling your friends to bugger off, that'll learn 'em

Donkey Oaty · 31-12-2013 07:33PM

ahnowbrowncow wrote: »

Who thinks this???

Idiots, that's who.

Maybe they are.

Here's a quote from expert Peggy Post (no, me neither), on the Opera Winfrey website:

A dinner party
Regional customs vary, from being on time to arriving 15, or even 30, minutes late. (And it's rude to arrive early; you might surprise the host and find him in his bathrobe vacuuming.)

France's "The Local" news in English has this advice:

Arrive 15 minutes late – While in many countries this may be considered rude, in France this is a golden rule. “It’s an unspoken agreement between the host and the guest because the host might be a little late preparing everything and the guest won’t want to embarrass the host by arriving early,” says Lepère. (seems to be a rent-a-quote blogger)

Not saying it's right - but these people exist, and you did ask!

CarrickMcJoe · 31-12-2013 07:33PM

Witchie wrote: »

I did consider telling them earlier but thought that just this once, since I was making such an effort for them, that they might arrive on time.

Menu is:

Starter:
Roasted Mediterranean Vegetables and Feta tartlets on a bed of salad

Main:
Vegetable and Cheese Pasta Bake
Chicken fillets stuffed with Pesto, Mozzerella & herbs (bread crumbed coating)
Herby Home Fries

Dessert:

Cinnamon Roll Bread Pudding with Tia Maria Custard
& A Cheese board.

Made everything from scratch bar the cinnamon rolls.

Hmmmmm Fooooood

Frosty McSnowballs · 31-12-2013 07:33PM

Cinnamon rolls!!!

I'd be late too!

Reekwind · 31-12-2013 07:34PM

riffmongous wrote: »

It used to annoy the hell out of me back in uni when you'd arrange to meet people in a pub at a certain time and they'd arrive at least an hour later leaving you there on your own like an eejit, why say you will meet at a time when you have no intention of doing so??

Which is exactly why no one arrives exactly on time. Factor it into your own calculations

dmc17 · 31-12-2013 07:35PM

Senor Fancy Pants wrote: »

Cinnamon rolls!!!

I'd be late too!

Then you'd be just on time for the cinnamon rolls and miss the first 2 courses :pac:

Witchie · 31-12-2013 07:35PM

Should I say anything to them? Dont want to ruin the night but am really pissed off. 35 minutes late now.

Starter is getting cold.

Chicken is done.

padd b1975 · 31-12-2013 07:35PM

Witchie wrote: »

I did consider telling them earlier but thought that just this once, since I was making such an effort for them, that they might arrive on time.

Menu is:

Starter:
Roasted Mediterranean Vegetables and Feta tartlets on a bed of salad

Main:
Vegetable and Cheese Pasta Bake
Chicken fillets stuffed with Pesto, Mozzerella & herbs (bread crumbed coating)
Herby Home Fries

Dessert:

Cinnamon Roll Bread Pudding with Tia Maria Custard
& A Cheese board.

Made everything from scratch bar the cinnamon rolls.

Nothing there that will spoil if left a little late to serve.

Chill the fcuk out :cool:

Is being late for dinner rude?

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