Is being late for dinner rude?

Witchie

If it is my friends are very rude. I have organised a lovely dinner for 2 of my friends before we go out to the pub tonight and told them I need them here at 6. No later.

It is now 6.15 and no sign of them. One text about 10 mins ago to say she will be here in 20.

They are always late. One of them has an excuse as she is a carer for her mum but the other is just so frustrating.

Now the chicken is nearly ready while the starter hasnt been eaten yet.

It drives me mad....Is it too much to ask for people to be on time?

Aidric

Punctuality doesn't suit the Irish.

Frosty McSnowballs

I hate late people!

Fanny Brioscaí

I've yet to met a girl who is on time let alone two girls.

Real Life

being late for dinner is better than being late for your period

Muise...

Witchie wrote: »

If it is my friends are very rude. I have organised a lovely dinner for 2 of my friends before we go out to the pub tonight and told them I need them here at 6. No later.

It is now 6.15 and no sign of them. One text about 10 mins ago to say she will be here in 20.

They are always late. One of them has an excuse as she is a carer for her mum but the other is just so frustrating.

Now the chicken is nearly ready while the starter hasnt been eaten yet.

It drives me mad....Is it too much to ask for people to be on time?

Yes, it's rude. Even worse if they bring chips. Only cook nice stuff for friends who will appreciate it Witchie - I learned that the hard way, weeping silently into the washing-up as they all fecked off to the pub, having eaten their own chips and left most of my food untouched.

Penny Tration

If they're always late, you should have told them to be there at five. One of my friends is a minimum of two hours late to everything so i arrange to meet him two hours before I actually plan to leave my house.

Donkey Oaty

Witchie wrote: »

They are always late.....Is it too much to ask for people to be on time?

Maybe factor this in next time? Some people think it's rude to arrive on the dot.

Bon appetite!

Karl Stein

It's very rude if someone has taken the time to cook a meal. Also, answering calls or texts at the dinner table - that should be a paddlin' offence.

dmc17

Witchie wrote: »

If it is my friends are very rude. I have organised a lovely dinner for 2 of my friends before we go out to the pub tonight and told them I need them here at 6. No later.

It is now 6.15 and no sign of them. One text about 10 mins ago to say she will be here in 20.

They are always late. One of them has an excuse as she is a carer for her mum but the other is just so frustrating.

Now the chicken is nearly ready while the starter hasnt been eaten yet.

It drives me mad....Is it too much to ask for people to be on time?

Where are you. I'll eat it. That'll teach them to be late!!

dmc17

green_screen wrote: »

If they're always late, you should have told them to be there at five. One of my friends is a minimum of two hours late to everything so i arrange to meet him two hours before I actually plan to leave my house.

Murphy's law states that they'd arrive just before five in this scenario and there would be no food ready

Professey Chin

Being late in general without a decent reason is sh!t.
Punctuality isnt that hard a thing to master

ahnowbrowncow

Donkey Oaty wrote: »

Maybe factor this in next time? Some people think it's rude to arrive on the dot.

Bon appetite!

Who thinks this???

Idiots, that's who.

Daqster

It is if you're a chef.

RayCon

Witchie wrote: »

Now the chicken is nearly ready while the starter hasnt been eaten yet.

You posting from the kitchen ?

clairefontaine

I was told in Ireland it's rude to be on time. I showed up on time and host was still in a dressing gown.

I dunno... for me if you mean 7, say 7, not six and then be shocked when they show up at 6.

I hate people being late
If they knew you were cooking that's very rude

anncoates

Everyone can be unavoidably late on occasion, but I know people that waffle on about their serial lack of punctuality like it's indicative of a daring riposte to conventionality but let's be honest, it just means they're being ignorant cunts

cletus van damme

it's really rude.
late people annoy me - i also hate it when thyn think ringing you while you are waiting on them excuses or mitigates their lateness.
It doesn't.

Mint Aero

I can come around I'd be only delighted to eat your grub and I'll even say thanks after

Witchie

I did consider telling them earlier but thought that just this once, since I was making such an effort for them, that they might arrive on time.

Menu is:

Starter:
Roasted Mediterranean Vegetables and Feta tartlets on a bed of salad

Main:
Vegetable and Cheese Pasta Bake
Chicken fillets stuffed with Pesto, Mozzerella & herbs (bread crumbed coating)
Herby Home Fries

Dessert:

Cinnamon Roll Bread Pudding with Tia Maria Custard
& A Cheese board.


Made everything from scratch bar the cinnamon rolls.

riffmongous

It used to annoy the hell out of me back in uni when you'd arrange to meet people in a pub at a certain time and they'd arrive at least an hour later leaving you there on your own like an eejit, why say you will meet at a time when you have no intention of doing so??

anncoates

green_screen wrote: »

If they're always late, you should have told them to be there at five. One of my friends is a minimum of two hours late to everything so i arrange to meet him two hours before I actually plan to leave my house.

Had a similar friend and I just stood him up a few times until he got the message.

riffmongous

Witchie wrote: »

I did consider telling them earlier but thought that just this once, since I was making such an effort for them, that they might arrive on time.

Menu is:

Starter:
Roasted Mediterranean Vegetables and Feta tartlets on a bed of salad

Main:
Vegetable and Cheese Pasta Bake
Chicken fillets stuffed with Pesto, Mozzerella & herbs (bread crumbed coating)
Herby Home Fries

Dessert:

Cinnamon Roll Bread Pudding with Tia Maria Custard
& A Cheese board.


Made everything from scratch bar the cinnamon rolls.

Take it down to the homeless shelter OP and leave a note on the door telling your friends to bugger off, that'll learn 'em

Donkey Oaty

ahnowbrowncow wrote: »

Who thinks this???

Idiots, that's who.

Maybe they are.

Here's a quote from expert Peggy Post (no, me neither), on the Opera Winfrey website:

A dinner party
Regional customs vary, from being on time to arriving 15, or even 30, minutes late. (And it's rude to arrive early; you might surprise the host and find him in his bathrobe vacuuming.)

France's "The Local" news in English has this advice:

Arrive 15 minutes late – While in many countries this may be considered rude, in France this is a golden rule. “It’s an unspoken agreement between the host and the guest because the host might be a little late preparing everything and the guest won’t want to embarrass the host by arriving early,” says Lepère. (seems to be a rent-a-quote blogger)

Not saying it's right - but these people exist, and you did ask!

CarrickMcJoe

Witchie wrote: »

I did consider telling them earlier but thought that just this once, since I was making such an effort for them, that they might arrive on time.

Menu is:

Starter:
Roasted Mediterranean Vegetables and Feta tartlets on a bed of salad

Main:
Vegetable and Cheese Pasta Bake
Chicken fillets stuffed with Pesto, Mozzerella & herbs (bread crumbed coating)
Herby Home Fries



Dessert:

Cinnamon Roll Bread Pudding with Tia Maria Custard
& A Cheese board.


Made everything from scratch bar the cinnamon rolls.

Hmmmmm Fooooood

Frosty McSnowballs

Cinnamon rolls!!!

I'd be late too!

Reekwind

riffmongous wrote: »

It used to annoy the hell out of me back in uni when you'd arrange to meet people in a pub at a certain time and they'd arrive at least an hour later leaving you there on your own like an eejit, why say you will meet at a time when you have no intention of doing so??

Which is exactly why no one arrives exactly on time. Factor it into your own calculations

dmc17

Senor Fancy Pants wrote: »

Cinnamon rolls!!!

I'd be late too!

Then you'd be just on time for the cinnamon rolls and miss the first 2 courses :pac:

Witchie

Should I say anything to them? Dont want to ruin the night but am really pissed off. 35 minutes late now.

Starter is getting cold.

Chicken is done.

padd b1975

Witchie wrote: »

I did consider telling them earlier but thought that just this once, since I was making such an effort for them, that they might arrive on time.

Menu is:

Starter:
Roasted Mediterranean Vegetables and Feta tartlets on a bed of salad

Main:
Vegetable and Cheese Pasta Bake
Chicken fillets stuffed with Pesto, Mozzerella & herbs (bread crumbed coating)
Herby Home Fries

Dessert:

Cinnamon Roll Bread Pudding with Tia Maria Custard
& A Cheese board.


Made everything from scratch bar the cinnamon rolls.

Nothing there that will spoil if left a little late to serve.


Chill the fcuk out :cool:

Frosty McSnowballs

dmc17 wrote: »

Then you'd be just on time for the cinnamon rolls and miss the first 2 courses :pac:

Damn it!

Frosty McSnowballs

Witchie wrote: »

Should I say anything to them? Dont want to ruin the night but am really pissed off. 35 minutes late now.

Starter is getting cold.

Chicken is done.

Have you considered killing them all?

Witchie

Witchie wrote: »

Should I say anything to them? Dont want to ruin the night but am really pissed off. 35 minutes late now.

Starter is getting cold.

Chicken is done.

Eat your own starter put the others in the fridge and tell them to f off if they come looking for food when they arrive

MilanPan!c

Senor Fancy Pants wrote: »

Have you considered killing them all?

If you killed every late Irish person the island would be pretty empty...

dmc17

Witchie wrote: »

Should I say anything to them? Dont want to ruin the night but am really pissed off. 35 minutes late now.

Starter is getting cold.

Chicken is done.

Just say "might be a little cold................ IT'S READY SINCE 6!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

Aidric

anncoates wrote: »

I know people that waffle on about their serial lack of punctuality like it's indicative of a daring riposte to conventionality but let's be honest, it just means they're being ignorant cunts

This. It's an attitudinal thing, as if showing up late is the accepted norm in Ireland. When did this begin to be acceptable?

cletus van damme

bluewolf wrote: »

Eat your own starter put the others in the fridge and tell them to f off if they come looking for food when they arrive

yeah, might as well get stuck in yourself and if it's really nice eat theirs too.

clairefontaine

Witchie wrote: »

I did consider telling them earlier but thought that just this once, since I was making such an effort for them, that they might arrive on time.

Menu is:

Starter:
Roasted Mediterranean Vegetables and Feta tartlets on a bed of salad

Main:
Vegetable and Cheese Pasta Bake
Chicken fillets stuffed with Pesto, Mozzerella & herbs (bread crumbed coating)
Herby Home Fries

Dessert:

Cinnamon Roll Bread Pudding with Tia Maria Custard
& A Cheese board.


Made everything from scratch bar the cinnamon rolls.

That menu looks terrific. Jesus Christ what assholes. I can see the effort you made.

Donkey Oaty

Witchie wrote: »

Should I say anything to them? Dont want to ruin the night but am really pissed off.

1) Big glass of wine to welcome friends

2) Enjoy meal

3) Enjoy pub

4) Report back.

CarrickMcJoe

Got a brother who is always late. Family christening he arrived as the cermony was finishing, family photo arrived 35 mins late, photographer had to send the next group away to suit him. Other members of the clan had young kids that were getting restless.
Rude is not the word, more like Ignorant.

Did they arrive yet?

Frosty McSnowballs

MilanPan!c wrote: »

If you killed every late Irish person the island would be pretty empty...

Not true, plenty of fordiners around!

Plenty of people I know are punctual.

Aidric

Hang on, what are herby home fries?

dmc17

You could also just eat your own dinner now and when they arrive just give them drinks and they'll be upside down after a few drinks without any soakage. If they mention dinner tell them you had dinner at 6 and it was delightful.

clairefontaine

anncoates wrote: »

Had a similar friend and I just stood him up a few times until he got the message.

I give them a 15 minutes grace period and then I consider the agreement null and void, auto cancelled.

Mobile phones has made the compulsively late even worse.

THey look at you in shock ..."Didn't you get my text?"

Eh no I didn't... It must have flown up your ass.

riffmongous

Reekwind wrote: »

Which is exactly why no one arrives exactly on time. Factor it into your own calculations

Not true, some people do arrive on time. I'm not calculating a list of time constants for everyone else who is too disorganized or disingenuous to meet me at the agreed time.

With regards to parties (with no food), if the host tells me it will start at 8 I tell him I will be there at 9 to account for it and then show up at 9, not tell him 8 and show up at 9.

poundapunnet

ahnowbrowncow wrote: »

Who thinks this???

Idiots, that's who.

I think an awful lot of Irish people do. If I'm having people over I'd tend to go with "Sure any time from 6 on", if I'm cooking for people I'd factor in time for people to arrive, get landed, have a drink before dinner is on the table and I usually wouldn't show up at someone's house less than ten minutes after the agreed time. I know it doesn't make an awful lot of sense but in my experience my entire social circle is all operating on the same assumption.

That said, some people just take the absolute piss with it, and if someone very clearly said please be here at this time, I mean really this time and not roughly this time, I'd be sure to be punctual.

Skid X

After going to that much trouble to cook them a lovely meal, you have every right to be pissed off with them.

You deserve to have better friends.

Shenshen

I have a few friends who would always show up late when invited round for dinner.

After the second time serving them over-done food, I've decided that nothing goes into the oven until they actually show up, they will then just have to wait so much longer for their food.

The funny thing is, two of those friends invited us round for dinner not too long ago, and got really upset when some other friends showed up late, as the risotto had gone really gloopy by then. I was chuckling and telling them this was why I only started actually cooking things once they were at my door. They had the good grace to be embarrassed and promised improvement. Let's wait and see

muletide

Aidric wrote: »

Punctuality doesn't suit the Irish.

Bullsh1t

Punctuality doesn't suit lazy, self absorbed people of any nationality

padd b1975

Aidric wrote: »

Hang on, what are herby home fries?

Chips with that yellow all purpose seasoning sprinkled on top.