Going rate for wedding present these days?

ComputerKing · 16-12-2013 08:44PM

200-250 for an acquaintance, not close friend relative etc. and atleast 500+ for a close friend and relative.

awec · 16-12-2013 08:47PM

ComputerKing wrote: »

200-250 for an acquaintance, not close friend relative etc. and atleast 500+ for a close friend and relative.

Want to come to my wedding?

Inspector Coptoor · 16-12-2013 08:51PM

dark crystal wrote: »

Back in the real world, not everyone can afford to spend €500 on a wedding present. It's not about meanness, it's about means.

Thankfully, my family members wouldn't judge me for not giving them two weeks wages as a present, nor would they expect it.

I can't get over how frequently people use that "real world" phrase.
It's such an overused barrel of sh1te of a phrase.

If my brother was getting married I'd give him €400-€500.

Any other wedding I go to is €200 between my fiancée and I.

That's my level of affordability.

Inspector Coptoor · 16-12-2013 08:54PM

WikiHow wrote: »

I don't think the main objective of having a wedding is to make money, people like to give money instead of toasters and George foreman's as they can purchase what they need for their new home and maybe pay back the costs of the wedding but what is wrong with that.

Exactly, things have changed a lot.
10-15 years ago people weren't cohabitating before getting married.
My fiancée and I are together 10 years, have furniture and appliances.

Cash is king,

I'd prefer to get €20 as a present than to get an ironing board.

Daqster · 16-12-2013 08:54PM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

€150 for a single

Jaysus they must be gorgeous chips.

SV · 16-12-2013 08:54PM

Inspector Coptoor wrote: »

I can't get over how frequently people use that "real world" phrase.
It's such an overused barrel of sh1te of a phrase.

If my brother was getting married I'd give him €400-€500.

Any other wedding I go to is €200 between my fiancée and I.

That's my level of affordability.

It isn't everyone's and that is the 'real world'. Hate the phrase all you want.

awec · 16-12-2013 08:57PM

Inspector Coptoor wrote: »

Exactly, things have changed a lot.
10-15 years ago people weren't cohabitating before getting married.
My fiancée and I are together 10 years, have furniture and appliances.

Cash is king,

I'd prefer to get €20 as a present than to get an ironing board.

Sure, no-one is arguing that.

What people are arguing about is the expectation. If you invite your aunt and uncle to your wedding, do you expect them to bring a large amount? If they brought 20 quid between them, you would be happy enough?

Inspector Coptoor · 16-12-2013 08:59PM

awec wrote: »

Sure, no-one is arguing that.

What people are arguing about is the expectation. If you invite your aunt and uncle to your wedding, do you expect them to bring a large amount? If they brought 20 quid between them, you would be happy enough?

Id raise an eyebrow bit ultimately I'm inviting them cause I want them there .

Mince Pie · 16-12-2013 09:02PM

€500 as a gift!!! Jesus H Christ! Glad me sister isn't getting married any time soon. But she would never expect me to give that anyway.
How the fook can people afford to give that kind of money as well as the other expense related to attending a wedding?
I personally thought it was supposed to be a celebration and to be spent and shared with people you love and not what you can get from pressies. Maybe I'm naive though.

blondie29 · 16-12-2013 09:03PM

Give whatever you can afford at the time.

I have three siblings who all got married over last few years, gave them 500each.

We live in the west & tend to give 200e normally but if very close friend 250e.

I got married this year, average present was 200e. We were blown away by people's generosity. We were just delighted people shared our special day no matter what they brought.

Femme_Fatale · 16-12-2013 09:07PM

WikiHow wrote: »

I don't think the main objective of having a wedding is to make money, people like to give money instead of toasters and George foreman's as they can purchase what they need for their new home and maybe pay back the costs of the wedding but what is wrong with that.

Of course there isn't - who said there was? But there is something wrong with the couple expecting a specific high amount even from people who can't afford it.

Inspector Coptoor wrote: »

I can't get over how frequently people use that "real world" phrase.
It's such an overused barrel of sh1te of a phrase.

If my brother was getting married I'd give him €400-€500.

Any other wedding I go to is €200 between my fiancée and I.

That's my level of affordability.

Yeh and what was meant by "real world" is that that is too much for some people to afford.

Frank Black · 16-12-2013 09:07PM

Mince Pie wrote: »

How the fook can people afford to give that kind of money as well as the other expense related to attending a wedding?
.

Probably because we don't live in a communist state and some people have more disposable income than you.

Warper · 16-12-2013 09:10PM

2000000

Inspector Coptoor · 16-12-2013 09:15PM

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

Yeh and what was meant by "real world" is that that is too much for some people to afford.

I get that.
I really do.

Just like others can afford way more than I can and I get that too.

It's just the way it is.

Life isn't fair and we aren't in a communist state

Femme_Fatale · 16-12-2013 09:21PM

Inspector Coptoor wrote: »

I get that.
I really do.

Just like others can afford way more than I can and I get that too.

It's just the way it is.

Life isn't fair and we aren't in a communist state

Nobody said anything to the contrary.

The point is, people who are getting married shouldn't expect a specific amount from everyone, nor should people who are broke be fretting about "the going rate".

Just give what you can afford, whether that be a lot or a little.

Sam Kade · 16-12-2013 09:22PM

WikiHow wrote: »

What is the average cost per head for a hosting a wedding?

SV wrote: »

About 50.

WikiHow wrote: »

OK so for a couple going to a wedding giving 150 euro is really only giving 50 euro present.

You forgot to add the cost of a slice of wedding cake each and tea and sandwiches :rolleyes:

Sir Arthur Daley · 16-12-2013 09:25PM

Sam Kade wrote: »

You forgot to add the cost of a slice of wedding cake each and tea and sandwiches :rolleyes:

Add another 50 so, 200 is my new wedding present for my next wedding.

Gumbo · 16-12-2013 09:29PM

I gave my little brother €500 2 years ago for his wedding present too, that was my level of affordability at the time.

My second youngest brother is getting married in 2015, i'll give him the same all going well.

Friends are lower.

mfceiling · 16-12-2013 09:32PM

Think a lot of you are getting hung up on the €500.

That's the amount some posters would give a sibling. To be fair, so would I....i'd save for it, hand it over and tell him to píss it against the wall, have a dirty weekend with it or stick it on a horse - i couldn't care less....just a gesture from me to him as a brother and a mate.

A "normal" amount would be €100 from me and herself but if you couldn't afford that i wouldn't reckon the bride and groom would care.

I got some serious lumps of cash on my wedding day but if you asked me now, who gave what, i'd have no idea.

I never asked for cash or had a wedding list - i just wanted people to come and enjoy the day - bit of food,bit of drink, bit of a laugh and plenty of dancing!!

An uncle actually rang me a week before asking me what i wanted.....told him to go into lidl that week and get me something random - he laughed and reckoned i was ok for a welder!!

Mate in work went to a wedding afters of a friend of his with a good few other lads....the feckers all got together and bought the happy couple a white toaster from argos..........each.....ended up with 16 indentical toasters!!

awec · 16-12-2013 09:34PM

You can never have enough toasters to be fair. What if you want to toast 32 bits of bread at one time?

Gumbo · 16-12-2013 09:44PM

awec wrote: »

You can never have enough toasters to be fair. What if you want to toast 32 bits of bread at one time?

toasters are no good without those little sandwich toastie bags

dark crystal · 16-12-2013 09:50PM

Inspector Coptoor wrote: »

I can't get over how frequently people use that "real world" phrase.
It's such an overused barrel of sh1te of a phrase.

If my brother was getting married I'd give him €400-€500.

Any other wedding I go to is €200 between my fiancée and I.

That's my level of affordability.

Good for you.

By real world, I'm talking about living in a country going through one of the worst recessions in living memory, high unemployment etc. partially because too many people lost the run of themselves and lived beyond their means for too long.

This recession has affected a great many people, yet the fact that it's expected of wedding guests to give half a grand as a wedding gift, leads me to believe the celtic tiger mindset is still lingering like a bad smell.

Femme_Fatale · 16-12-2013 09:54PM

mfceiling wrote: »

Think a lot of you are getting hung up on the €500.

That's the amount some posters would give a sibling.

Because some people were implying that's the "going rate", the amount one "should" give even thought they know full well it's a lot of money which many people cannot afford, even if many can. It's just being disingenuous. I could afford it I'd say, but that's because I don't have children to provide for.

wnolan1992 · 16-12-2013 09:56PM

€500 for a sibling?

Anyone want to buy a kidney? Need to fund the brother's wedding next year.

Xidu · 16-12-2013 10:06PM

We got nothing from our 2 siblings for our wedding. The 3rd one gave us a photo frame and we were delighted as he was the only one being nice to us. Most of our friends gave 100 each and we thought they are very generous.

Sir Arthur Daley · 16-12-2013 10:09PM

wnolan1992 wrote: »

€500 for a sibling?

Anyone want to buy a kidney? Need to fund the brother's wedding next year.

What is your blood type?

ckeego · 17-12-2013 11:07PM

dark crystal wrote: »

Good for you.

By real world, I'm talking about living in a country going through one of the worst recessions in living memory, high unemployment etc. partially because too many people lost the run of themselves and lived beyond their means for too long.

This recession has affected a great many people, yet the fact that it's expected of wedding guests to give half a grand as a wedding gift, leads me to believe the celtic tiger mindset is still lingering like a bad smell.

A definite contender for post of the year-well said-the words hammer nail and head come to mind..

At last, a moment of sense and clarity.

.jacksparrow. · 17-12-2013 11:09PM

mfceiling wrote: »

Think a lot of you are getting hung up on the €500.

That's the amount some posters would give a sibling. To be fair, so would I....i'd save for it, hand it over and tell him to píss it against the wall, have a dirty weekend with it or stick it on a horse - i couldn't care less....just a gesture from me to him as a brother and a mate.

A "normal" amount would be €100 from me and herself but if you couldn't afford that i wouldn't reckon the bride and groom would care.

I got some serious lumps of cash on my wedding day but if you asked me now, who gave what, i'd have no idea.

I never asked for cash or had a wedding list - i just wanted people to come and enjoy the day - bit of food,bit of drink, bit of a laugh and plenty of dancing!!

An uncle actually rang me a week before asking me what i wanted.....told him to go into lidl that week and get me something random - he laughed and reckoned i was ok for a welder!!

Mate in work went to a wedding afters of a friend of his with a good few other lads....the feckers all got together and bought the happy couple a white toaster from argos..........each.....ended up with 16 indentical toasters!!

Hasn't this story been told on boards loads of times?

Beginning to think its an urban myth.

Littlelulu13 · 18-12-2013 09:17AM

.jacksparrow. wrote: »

Hasn't this story been told on boards loads of times?

Beginning to think its an urban myth.

The toaster one? Perhaps each member of the toaster brigade told the story!

Carpet diem · 18-12-2013 09:24AM

150 for the two of us.

If you want to have a mad expensive wedding go for it - not on my account.

If was sibling - I give the same and help them out on the day and lead up to it.

Going rate for wedding present these days?

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