Going rate for wedding present these days?

Rockfish

Usually €100 if going on ones own or €150 if a couple seems to be the standards these days but what about a close family member? ie brother

Sir Arthur Daley

€500 say if from a couple.

ckeego

WikiHow wrote: »

€500 say if from a couple.

You are for real, right?

Hello_MrFox

A Netflix subscription should be enough.

Donkey Oaty

Rockfish wrote: »

Usually €100 if going on ones own or €150 if a couple seems to be the standards these days but what about a close family member? ie brother

Three fiddy/Simpsons/Bankers/Brits/Roma/Enda/Brits again/you are racist/personal issues forum ----that way/etc

But don't worry about it.

Buy them something nice or interesting. They love you anyway.

Sir Arthur Daley

ckeego wrote: »

You are for real, right?

That is only 250 each, its a family member.

onedmc

ckeego wrote: »

You are for real, right?

500 That's about right for close family member, it depends on what age you are and where you are in your career but could be more.

But I figure it should be about what you spend on a week long summer holiday, if you Can't afford to go on holidays then less. If you can't afford a holiday and a present then forego your next years summer holiday or take 1 week not 2.

Don't be mingy

stunmer

€500 me hoop!

I already have 7 weddings to go to next year. I can't afford €3,500 on weddings. That's without including travel, accommodation, stag /hen.

Mint Aero

A toaster

PhlegmyMoses

If somebody, even my parents, gave me €500 towards my wedding I'd tell them to take it back. Madness.

Sir Arthur Daley

I would give €150-€200 for a present if it were a non family member, this would be from both gf and I.

Feisar

A very close friend got married during the summer, I was in the bridal party. He put me up for three nights in hotel/house, wedding didn't cost me a penny. House that was rented for the weekend was stocked with food etc. His Dad brought us all out for a meal and drinks.
I gave him €300 and that was me going to the wedding on my own.

Gave the sis €500 for hers. But that's because I happen to be in a place where I can afford that. With family it's what you can afford. Not what's socially acceptable in my book.

Mate above never ever seen me stuck when we were in college scraping by. Sorta feel I should have given more considering all that was laid on for me at the wedding etc but sure I'll get him again, bite to eat, few pints etc, be grand.

wazky

A kettle, but cut the plug off and remove the fuse.

Then for each of the newlyweds next birthdays they get a plug and the fuse.

tomboylady

€500 to a sibling for their wedding??!


I love being an only child.

The Backwards Man

€150 for a single, €200 for a couple is the going rate around my area.

Top tip for saving money in a rural area; fall out with all your neighbours.

Cee-Jay-Cee

stunmer wrote: »

€500 me hoop!

I already have 7 weddings to go to next year. I can't afford €3,500 on weddings. That's without including travel, accommodation, stag /hen.

You have 7 brothers/sisters getting married next year???

wazky

CJC999 wrote: »

You have 7 brothers/sisters getting married next year???

How are two brothers going to marry the same sister?

SV

Fûck that wedding present shîte, ya get invited to something and it's meant to be a privilege. These days you get invited to something and you're screwed because of how much you spend on the presents. 500? Gway.

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

I get tanked up on whiskey and cocaine and act like such a nuisance that nobody even remembers that I didn't leave a present.

And the happy coincidence is that I get invited to fcuk all weddings.

Sir Arthur Daley

What is the average cost per head for a hosting a wedding?

SV

WikiHow wrote: »

What is the average cost per head for a hosting a wedding?

About 50.

Sir Arthur Daley

SV wrote: »

About 50.

OK so for a couple going to a wedding giving 150 euro is really only giving 50 euro present.

PhlegmyMoses

WikiHow wrote: »

OK so for a couple going to a wedding giving 150 euro is really only giving 50 euro present.

Trollololololol

awec

WikiHow wrote: »

€500 say if from a couple.

500 quid on a wedding present?

Some people are mugs.

awec

WikiHow wrote: »

OK so for a couple going to a wedding giving 150 euro is really only giving 50 euro present.

So what if it is? It's a gift, if the bride and groom have some sort of minimum requirement they expect of their guests then they should probably just stick a ticket price onto the invitation - would be much more effective.

"Come to our wedding, only 100 euro each. Or why not take up our family deal, 2 adults and 2 children for only 250 euro! Drinks not included, gift still required."

looking_around

Wow @ 500.

No one forces the bridal couple to pay x per head. Its a choice they make, if they're expecting to get the wedding paid for through 'gifts' from people they invite, for shame. They should invite because they want you there, not for you to pay your 'ticket' to their wedding.

Now, its family, how about getting them something they need /like? Relative to what you can afford. If you can save a small bit til the wedding, do..but if you can't fcuk it and get them they're favourite drink, vouchers to a restaurant etc.

Sir Arthur Daley

awec wrote: »

So what if it is? It's a gift, if the bride and groom have some sort of minimum requirement they expect of their guests then they should probably just stick a ticket price onto the invitation - would be much more effective.

"Come to our wedding, only 100 euro each. Or why not take up our family deal, 2 adults and 2 children for only 250 euro! Drinks not included, gift still required."

Im only saying it is nice to cover the cost of being fed and watered for the day out and give some extra as a present then, dont be getting yer primarks in such a twist, if people are so mean they should not go to weddings.

SV

WikiHow wrote: »

OK so for a couple going to a wedding giving 150 euro is really only giving 50 euro present.

So what you're saying is when guests are invited to something like a wedding, really what they're asking is 'come to this formal event and bring a present for us. Thanks'
Wedding presents are such awful bullshîte and the fact people put a minimum price on them is even worse.

awec

WikiHow wrote: »

Im only saying it is nice to cover the cost of being fed and watered for the day out and give some extra as a present then, dont be getting yer primarks in such a twist, if people are so mean they should not go to weddings.

There's nothing mean about it.

If couples need money from their guests to cover the cost of their wedding then they are both stupid and ignorant.

The politics around weddings here drives me crazy. I can't be fcuked with it at all. To me you invite people you want to spend your day with, not people you think will bring some cash with them. If every guest turns up with nothing then so be it.

dark crystal

WikiHow wrote: »

Im only saying it is nice to cover the cost of being fed and watered for the day out and give some extra as a present then, dont be getting yer primarks in such a twist, if people are so mean they should not go to weddings.

Back in the real world, not everyone can afford to spend €500 on a wedding present. It's not about meanness, it's about means.

Thankfully, my family members wouldn't judge me for not giving them two weeks wages as a present, nor would they expect it.

Sir Arthur Daley

I don't think the main objective of having a wedding is to make money, people like to give money instead of toasters and George foreman's as they can purchase what they need for their new home and maybe pay back the costs of the wedding but what is wrong with that.

ComputerKing

200-250 for an acquaintance, not close friend relative etc. and atleast 500+ for a close friend and relative.

awec

ComputerKing wrote: »

200-250 for an acquaintance, not close friend relative etc. and atleast 500+ for a close friend and relative.

Want to come to my wedding?

Inspector Coptoor

dark crystal wrote: »

Back in the real world, not everyone can afford to spend €500 on a wedding present. It's not about meanness, it's about means.

Thankfully, my family members wouldn't judge me for not giving them two weeks wages as a present, nor would they expect it.

I can't get over how frequently people use that "real world" phrase.
It's such an overused barrel of sh1te of a phrase.

If my brother was getting married I'd give him €400-€500.

Any other wedding I go to is €200 between my fiancée and I.

That's my level of affordability.

Inspector Coptoor

WikiHow wrote: »

I don't think the main objective of having a wedding is to make money, people like to give money instead of toasters and George foreman's as they can purchase what they need for their new home and maybe pay back the costs of the wedding but what is wrong with that.

Exactly, things have changed a lot.
10-15 years ago people weren't cohabitating before getting married.
My fiancée and I are together 10 years, have furniture and appliances.

Cash is king,

I'd prefer to get €20 as a present than to get an ironing board.

Daqster

The Backwards Man wrote: »

€150 for a single

Jaysus they must be gorgeous chips.

SV

Inspector Coptoor wrote: »

I can't get over how frequently people use that "real world" phrase.
It's such an overused barrel of sh1te of a phrase.

If my brother was getting married I'd give him €400-€500.

Any other wedding I go to is €200 between my fiancée and I.

That's my level of affordability.

It isn't everyone's and that is the 'real world'. Hate the phrase all you want.

awec

Inspector Coptoor wrote: »

Exactly, things have changed a lot.
10-15 years ago people weren't cohabitating before getting married.
My fiancée and I are together 10 years, have furniture and appliances.

Cash is king,

I'd prefer to get €20 as a present than to get an ironing board.

Sure, no-one is arguing that.

What people are arguing about is the expectation. If you invite your aunt and uncle to your wedding, do you expect them to bring a large amount? If they brought 20 quid between them, you would be happy enough?

Inspector Coptoor

awec wrote: »

Sure, no-one is arguing that.

What people are arguing about is the expectation. If you invite your aunt and uncle to your wedding, do you expect them to bring a large amount? If they brought 20 quid between them, you would be happy enough?

Id raise an eyebrow bit ultimately I'm inviting them cause I want them there .

Mince Pie

€500 as a gift!!! Jesus H Christ! Glad me sister isn't getting married any time soon. But she would never expect me to give that anyway.
How the fook can people afford to give that kind of money as well as the other expense related to attending a wedding?
I personally thought it was supposed to be a celebration and to be spent and shared with people you love and not what you can get from pressies. Maybe I'm naive though.

blondie29

Give whatever you can afford at the time.

I have three siblings who all got married over last few years, gave them 500each.

We live in the west & tend to give 200e normally but if very close friend 250e.

I got married this year, average present was 200e. We were blown away by people's generosity. We were just delighted people shared our special day no matter what they brought.

Femme_Fatale

WikiHow wrote: »

I don't think the main objective of having a wedding is to make money, people like to give money instead of toasters and George foreman's as they can purchase what they need for their new home and maybe pay back the costs of the wedding but what is wrong with that.

Of course there isn't - who said there was? But there is something wrong with the couple expecting a specific high amount even from people who can't afford it.

Inspector Coptoor wrote: »

I can't get over how frequently people use that "real world" phrase.
It's such an overused barrel of sh1te of a phrase.

If my brother was getting married I'd give him €400-€500.

Any other wedding I go to is €200 between my fiancée and I.

That's my level of affordability.

Yeh and what was meant by "real world" is that that is too much for some people to afford.

Frank Black

Mince Pie wrote: »

How the fook can people afford to give that kind of money as well as the other expense related to attending a wedding?
.

Probably because we don't live in a communist state and some people have more disposable income than you.

Warper

2000000

Inspector Coptoor

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

Yeh and what was meant by "real world" is that that is too much for some people to afford.

I get that.
I really do.

Just like others can afford way more than I can and I get that too.

It's just the way it is.

Life isn't fair and we aren't in a communist state

Femme_Fatale

Inspector Coptoor wrote: »

I get that.
I really do.

Just like others can afford way more than I can and I get that too.

It's just the way it is.

Life isn't fair and we aren't in a communist state

Nobody said anything to the contrary.

The point is, people who are getting married shouldn't expect a specific amount from everyone, nor should people who are broke be fretting about "the going rate".

Just give what you can afford, whether that be a lot or a little.

Sam Kade

WikiHow wrote: »

What is the average cost per head for a hosting a wedding?

SV wrote: »

About 50.

WikiHow wrote: »

OK so for a couple going to a wedding giving 150 euro is really only giving 50 euro present.

You forgot to add the cost of a slice of wedding cake each and tea and sandwiches :rolleyes:

Sir Arthur Daley

Sam Kade wrote: »

You forgot to add the cost of a slice of wedding cake each and tea and sandwiches :rolleyes:

Add another 50 so, 200 is my new wedding present for my next wedding.

Gumbo

I gave my little brother €500 2 years ago for his wedding present too, that was my level of affordability at the time.

My second youngest brother is getting married in 2015, i'll give him the same all going well.

Friends are lower.

mfceiling

Think a lot of you are getting hung up on the €500.

That's the amount some posters would give a sibling. To be fair, so would I....i'd save for it, hand it over and tell him to píss it against the wall, have a dirty weekend with it or stick it on a horse - i couldn't care less....just a gesture from me to him as a brother and a mate.

A "normal" amount would be €100 from me and herself but if you couldn't afford that i wouldn't reckon the bride and groom would care.

I got some serious lumps of cash on my wedding day but if you asked me now, who gave what, i'd have no idea.

I never asked for cash or had a wedding list - i just wanted people to come and enjoy the day - bit of food,bit of drink, bit of a laugh and plenty of dancing!!

An uncle actually rang me a week before asking me what i wanted.....told him to go into lidl that week and get me something random - he laughed and reckoned i was ok for a welder!!

Mate in work went to a wedding afters of a friend of his with a good few other lads....the feckers all got together and bought the happy couple a white toaster from argos..........each.....ended up with 16 indentical toasters!!

awec

You can never have enough toasters to be fair. What if you want to toast 32 bits of bread at one time?