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Blue Crystal · 30-11-2013 08:31PM #1

Not the institution of marriage obviously, but the cosmo/kiss/insert teen girl magazine here idea that you should have a dream marriage and drop a load of money you dont have on a frivolous day you don't need feeding a crowd of twats you barely like and inviting 3,000 people?

Frosty McSnowballs · 30-11-2013 08:32PM

Yeah I'm with you OP, and fcuk christenings too! Stupid babies

Insect Overlord · 30-11-2013 08:33PM

Blue Crystal wrote: »

but the cosmo/kiss/insert teen girl magazine here idea

You should probably stop reading those magazines...

Santa Cruz · 30-11-2013 08:34PM

Senor Jingle Balls wrote: »

Yeah I'm with you OP, and fcuk christenings too! Stupid babies

and don't get me started on funerals. People that die are so inconsiderate

Blue Crystal · 30-11-2013 08:34PM

Insect Overlord wrote: »

You should probably stop reading those magazines...

wank fodder son

looking_around · 30-11-2013 08:40PM

it's their choice....no?

If I ever do get married, the only people invited will be the "witnesses". so .. 4 people in total .. and a meal out.
No frivolous expenses :P

But like I said it's a choice, if people want to invite hundreds of people and show off, then it's their choice.
I don't see the point of it myself.

Not even sure I'd even bother with the rings >.>

FreshKnickers · 30-11-2013 08:41PM

All weddings suck.

Except mine.

No exceptions.

OneArt · 30-11-2013 08:43PM

looking_around wrote: »

it's their choice....no?

If I ever do get married, the only people invited will be the "witnesses". so .. 4 people in total .. and a meal out.
No frivolous expenses :P

But like I said it's a choice, if people want to invite hundreds of people and show off, then it's their choice.
I don't see the point of it myself.

Not even sure I'd even bother with the rings >.>

A meal after? Are you made of money or something? We'll be getting the bus to the registry office and bringing homemade ham sandwiches. Maybe by a bottle of Fanta as a treat instead of bringing water from home.

goz83 · 30-11-2013 08:44PM

Depends really. If you can keep it to around 5k (possible with a crowd of around 80) and don't spend money on really stupid things, or really expensive hotels and a really expensive dress, then it's alright. Thankfully, my wife disliked the idea of spending stupid amounts of money on our wedding. It cost under 10k (I think) in 2006. We used a local hotel that was great and convenient for most people. Had around 80 people and sent money on what we wanted, rather than what everyone else might have thought was "necessary". The whole thing was planned and paid for in less than 5 months. Had a great day!

Sister in law is just recently engaged. I would hate to see that wedding bill. The hotel they have chosen is out of the way for most people and costs €200 per night to stay (without brekky).

It's communions that annoy me....oh...and christenings!!! Sometimes silly money is spent around these occasions.

Sam Kade · 30-11-2013 08:45PM

Pure money racket with a keeping up with the Jones aspect :mad:
The cost of funerals, undertakers just assume everybody is swimming in money :rolleyes:

MadsL · 30-11-2013 08:46PM

I'm delighted that friends of ours are getting married in the Caribbean and want us to be there for their big day. We totally planned for that expense.

looking_around · 30-11-2013 08:46PM

OneArt wrote: »

A meal after? Are you made of money or something? We'll be getting the bus to the registry office and bringing homemade ham sandwiches. Maybe by a bottle of Fanta as a treat instead of bringing water from home.

Well surely it's something worth saving a lil for :pac:

Santa Cruz · 30-11-2013 08:47PM

OneArt wrote: »

A meal after? Are you made of money or something? We'll be getting the bus to the registry office and bringing homemade ham sandwiches. Maybe by a bottle of Fanta as a treat instead of bringing water from home.

If you pick a day early in the week Fusco's do a 2 for I fish and chip supper.

chicken foot · 30-11-2013 08:51PM

No - Just because its not to your taste doesnt mean it isnt good. Our wedding was class....spent a load of money, invited a lot of people (190) and wouldnt change a thing. It was the best day of my life without a doubt, ive had two children and whilst their births were amazing, I didnt feel half as glamorous that day and thankfully, i didnt have 190 people watch me do it either

Muise... · 30-11-2013 09:02PM

My family, my friends and I, we're not the marrying kind. So I've only been asked to two weddings and they were the best of unglamorous eejit-dancing fun.

Mint Aero · 30-11-2013 09:08PM

Yep

Vincent Vega · 30-11-2013 09:25PM

I can't say I've ever been overly enthusiastic about events that you're almost obligated to attend simply because you're related to someone and then be expected to contribute to a collective feeling of joy or sorrow, regardless of how you are actually feeling.

Funerals, christenings, weddings. All the same. Built up symbolic events that usually contain a room full of mixed feelings. I prefer to mourn and celebrate in my own way.

As opposed to parties or gigs and the like, where there are no set rules on how one must be supposed to feel or act, and attendance is more optional ie: you won't be thought of any less by not attending.

That's just me though, I guess some people enjoy them

wazky · 30-11-2013 09:26PM

Are weddings a load of balls?

Only the gay ones.

Femme_Fatale · 30-11-2013 09:40PM

I love weddings. Getting together with friends, some of whom you might not see often; having a nice meal, big session, getting dressed up, meeting new people for friendship and/or sex - not sure what there is to dislike about such a day. Even going as a +1 I've always had a great day.

Of course there are all those dumb behaviours associated with weddings - some of it from the bride and groom (bride mostly, lets face it) and some of it from the guests. But I've never encountered that personally.

NuckingFacker · 30-11-2013 09:44PM

My daughter announced a few years back that she was getting married on a beach in Exotic-Land, an 8 hour flight away and with hotels that charge for a night what others charge for a week. I told her to enjoy and take loads of pictures so i could see how it went. If she wants to go full-retard on her wedding day, bang ahead, count me out.

Mine was a tiny do with a 3 day honeymoon as work was flat out and we were broke and needed to make hay when the sun shone.. Pri-feckin-orities. Things were huffy for a while, but people got over it. Far from beaches in Exotic-land she was raised - The Celtic Tiger caused a massive rise in "'cos I'm worth it itus". My own old folks had a registry office and a meal and back to work the next day with a visit to the relatives about a month later for a few days. I'm not a fan of fru-fru weddings.

Banjo String · 30-11-2013 09:44PM

MadsL wrote: »

I'm delighted that friends of ours are getting married in the Caribbean and want us to be there for their big day. We totally planned for that expense.

I hear you.

Sorrento in Italy for a week last year, the bride and groom decided to head off for a week to "save money on the wedding".

Oh, save you money

Cos I know we had to fork out on flights, hotel for a week, €6 pints, fcuking spending money for the week, and still give them a fcuking wedding present.

Good wedding though. Even if it did cost about 3k between us.

mfceiling · 30-11-2013 09:48PM

Getting a wedding invite is like getting a summons.

FizzleSticks · 30-11-2013 09:50PM

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jimmytwotimes 2013 · 30-11-2013 09:51PM

Yes

Princess day for the ladies I think

shruikan2553 · 30-11-2013 09:58PM

Weddings arent too bad. I just wish people would do something that isnt mass in church-hotel for meal-speeches-band-DJ.

I could go to 5 wedding and not remember which was was which.

lillycool · 30-11-2013 09:58PM

I'm with you OP, never been married but if/when I do I will not be going for all that rubbish - absolutely no way.
Never wanted it when I was younger and being older now, if it ever happens it would be a small occasion.
A quiet day in lovely private surroundings with great music and only close family and a couple of close friends would suit me fine.

Aineoil · 30-11-2013 09:59PM

Blue Crystal wrote: »

Not the institution of marriage obviously, but the cosmo/kiss/insert teen girl magazine here idea that you should have a dream marriage and drop a load of money you dont have on a frivolous day you don't need feeding a crowd of twats you barely like and inviting 3,000 people?

I feel the same way as you. I include christenings too.:D

I got married in 1989. I didn't want to invite the usuals - the ones that thought a china tea set was the best present to give. I had 79 people at my wedding. My parents have never forgiven me for such a small wedding.

My sister's wedding was a great "success" because she had every relative I never knew existed attend and everyone from work too.

Mind you she got great presents.

FreshKnickers · 30-11-2013 10:05PM

Seriously though, very often with Irish weddings it seems to boil down to the B&G paying a ****ton of money for a simple (so that it will cater to a wider variety of people) menu with a choice of one of two meals and guests paying another load of money to get dolled up, travel, maybe an overnight stay and give the couple a bit of money in a card. Who benefits from all this money? The hotel that holds the reception.

When meself and herself decided we wanted to become Mr. Meself and Mrs. Herself we couldn't afford to spend loads of money throwing a party that people would have to spend loads of money to attend. Luckily Mrs. Knickers didn't care about having a fairy princess day with our nearest and dearest faux-fawning over us.

Gee_G · 30-11-2013 10:20PM

Blue Crystal wrote: »

Not the institution of marriage obviously, but the cosmo/kiss/insert teen girl magazine here idea that you should have a dream marriage and drop a load of money you dont have on a frivolous day you don't need feeding a crowd of twats you barely like and inviting 3,000 people?

That's the problem ya see.... spending money ya don't have! If ya can't afford to do it, don't!

Spring Onion · 30-11-2013 10:20PM

Most weddings are very boring, time consuming and expensive. I doubt many couples really enjoy the 24 hours of their wedding day. I hate getting wedding invites.

Spring Onion · 30-11-2013 10:23PM

shruikan2553 wrote: »

I could go to 5 wedding and not remember which was was which.

That's it exactly - you rarely remember or distinguish most weddings unless they were truly unique. Small family weddings (<40 people) can be much more memorable.

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