My wife is dying

op, sorry to hear of your wife`s illness, I lost my wife 10 years ago to cancer....all i can say is spend as much time now as you can with your wife....you will never regret it.

May I suggest while you can't sleep to start planning - bucket list style. Plan how you will spend your day tomorrow, the next day, and the following weeks in order to get the maximum enjoyment out of life. Whether it's something as small as watching a movie together with her favourite food, or something as big as the logistics of getting back to Ireland.

Things are much easier if they are mapped out in smaller tasks on paper. One day at a time.

Sympathies to you mate,but talk to someone ASAP this thread is fine at the minute but you'll need more than this to help you get through what is going to be the hardest situation imaginable .

Be well my friend i'll spare a thought and a prayer for you .

I'm very sorry for your wife's diagnosis. I hope you get a different outcome but you're facing dealing with a death. I was in a similar space with a parent recently, this is what we did.

1- Dad made a Will while he was still able to do so.
2- we kept all relatives in the loop - they are horrible phone calls to make I know, but they needed to know and my telling them wasn't going to stop Dad dying. Have you told your kids yet?
3- I became really rawly honest with my friends about the situation. If I needed to cry I did, if I needed a laugh I did - sometimes at the same time
4- of course seek the full medical treatment available
5- we discussed organ donation
6- we tried to delegate jobs - eg one stay with Mam, one bring her shopping, one do a visit to hospital
7-we discussed funeral plans
8-we didn't hide from the fact that he was going to die, it's horrible but it was the only way I found I could cope. Personally I could not spend energy on hoping for a last minute cure bit the nature of his terminal illness was different to the one you're facing.
9- you've got a long road ahead so I personally wouldn't want to spend all my time at the hospital. Your wife needs rest too and sleeping in hospital chairs is not conducive to maintaining your mental and physical strength. Hospitals are loud and noisy - honestly take your rest at home as much as you can.
10-try to always have healthy food, fruit, crudités, bottles of water with you. Bring flasks of tea/coffee. See if the hospital has a weekly rate for parking so you don't need change each time.

Take strength and comfort anywhere you can.

Sorry if my post seems cold, these are just some practical tips I could think of.

I have no idea how you must be feeling. I am just sending hugs.