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Housemate Etiquette

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  • #32
    pedanticpat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 189 ✭✭pedanticpat


    MadsL wrote: »
    They are hardly stopping you working. And it is Sunday. And a one-off. It's not your house. You share it.

    It's distracting. I'm surprised people don't consider this to be inconsiderate to do this without letting me know tbh.


  • #33
    Mongfinder General
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,992 ✭✭✭Mongfinder General


    You didn't do your homework on this person. You should have checked them out more. Howver, not everybody is a great judge of character/behaviour.

    Ask the tenant to leave. It's obvious that their expectations are not compatible with yours.


  • #34
    Santa Cruz
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,126 ✭✭✭Santa Cruz


    Let us know when there are any vacancies. I like the idea of these Sunday afternoon gatherings in the drawing room. Very Downton Abbey. Will the Lady Charlotte be dropping her knickers tonight m'Lord or will I send up young Jeffrey?


  • #35
    brembo26
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,338 ✭✭✭brembo26


    He hasn't done anything wrong sure?


  • #36
    MadsL
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,299 ✭✭✭✭MadsL


    pedanticpat wrote: »
    It's distracting.

    Ear plugs. Go for a walk to the pharmacist or shop and buy some.
    Get a nose clip while you are there to deal with the smell of those 'dirty' shoes.

    Get hard at work once the 'distractions' are dealt with and then you can live alone and not have to deal with people ever again.


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  • #37
    Cd_doe
    Closed Accounts Posts: 131 ✭✭Cd_doe


    Are you just trying to announce that u have an office


  • #38
    Santa Cruz
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,126 ✭✭✭Santa Cruz


    I hope our replies have been helpful to you in this unfortunate situation. It has been a rather trying afternoon.


  • #39
    Canis Lupus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,880 ✭✭✭Canis Lupus


    Getting naked on Chatroulette isn't really a job anyway OP... Take the day off.


  • #40
    fenris
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,075 ✭✭✭fenris


    The only room that is "yours" is your bedroom, just because you try to exercise squatters rights on the dining room table and call it your office doesn't make it so.

    Setup a small desk in your bedroom and work away there, headphones are good too. Maybe toddle along to a nearby hotel lobby or somewhere that you can sit with your laptop.

    You might want to have a think about the whole sharing thing especially if you start noticing other rude habits like not having all of the handles on the mugs pointing the same way or not arranging the jars in the press with the labels facing out and not even arranged by colour!


  • #41
    Davelarson
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 213 ✭✭Davelarson


    Your housemate did nothing wrong. You can't expect to occupy the dining room every Sunday. Get over yourself.


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  • #42
    PizzamanIRL
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,147 ✭✭✭PizzamanIRL


    Telling people on the internet should help.


  • #43
    princess-lala
    Closed Accounts Posts: 30,731 ✭✭✭✭princess-lala


    Cd_doe wrote: »
    Are you just trying to announce that u have an office

    A laptop on the dining room table isn't really an office :)


  • #44
    Zab
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,931 ✭✭✭Zab


    pedanticpat wrote: »
    Well, isn't that the point? If I'd known about it, I wouldn't mind, apparently it's been planned a week already. Also, lunch is misleading if they're only sitting to eat at 6. We went out at 12 and came back at four, thinking that should give them a bit of space.

    We?

    You say that if you'd known you wouldn't mind but most of your posts make out that you have an issue with it happening at all. You haven't actually said how many people were there, I'm guessing not very many.

    So really the communication is the only thing you can have issue with here. I also don't see why shoes in the office mean you can't go in there, but you could suggest somewhere else for the shoes if they bother you. Just point out to the flatmate that the reality of the situation is that it means you can't use any of the common rooms in the house for pretty much the entire day, so you'd like to be able to plan for that in the future.


  • #45
    Joe prim
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 919 ✭✭✭Joe prim


    Sorry to see you got so many "witty" and unsympathetic replies to your dilemma. I would suggest that, in the best interests of avoiding future conflict with your housemate, and establishing useful boundaries around your respective needs, you arrange to sit down with your housemate , in a calm, non-confrontational fashion. Explain to him that his behaviour is outside the delimitations of how you see a house-sharing arrangement optimalisation situation. Open up to him about your feelings, and how they have been hurt by his lack of consideration, and the deep disappointment you feel at what you see as a breach of trust. Finally, having got your message across to him in a calm manner, bate the livin' shi*e out o' the fuc*er, all the time screaming "Its my house, MY HOUSE!!!!!!"


    NB Advice dose not apply if housemate is bigger, harder or has a cousin a Garda.


  • #46
    MJ23
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,039 ✭✭✭MJ23


    Ah shur it's grand lad


  • #47
    Davelarson
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 213 ✭✭Davelarson


    Joe prim wrote: »
    Sorry to see you got so many "witty" and unsympathetic replies to your dilemma. I would suggest that, in the best interests of avoiding future conflict with your housemate, and establishing useful boundaries around your respective needs, you arrange to sit down with your housemate , in a calm, non-confrontational fashion. Explain to him that his behaviour is outside the delimitations of how you see a house-sharing arrangement optimalisation situation. Open up to him about your feelings, and how they have been hurt by his lack of consideration, and the deep disappointment you feel at what you see as a breach of trust. Finally, having got your message across to him in a calm manner, bate the livin' shi*e out o' the fuc*er, all the time screaming "Its my house, MY HOUSE!!!!!!"


    NB Advice dose not apply if housemate is bigger, harder or has a cousin a Garda.

    That will work even better if becomes so enraged he loses control of his bladder. The guards find him a tearful, urine stained mess.


  • #48
    Cd_doe
    Closed Accounts Posts: 131 ✭✭Cd_doe


    Joe prim wrote: »
    Sorry to see you got so many "witty" and unsympathetic replies to your dilemma. I would suggest that, in the best interests of avoiding future conflict with your housemate, and establishing useful boundaries around your respective needs, you arrange to sit down with your housemate , in a calm, non-confrontational fashion. Explain to him that his behaviour is outside the delimitations of how you see a house-sharing arrangement optimalisation situation. Open up to him about your feelings, and how they have been hurt by his lack of consideration, and the deep disappointment you feel at what you see as a breach of trust. Finally, having got your message across to him in a calm manner, bate the livin' shi*e out o' the fuc*er, all the time screaming "Its my house, MY HOUSE!!!!!!"


    NB Advice dose not apply if housemate is bigger, harder or has a cousin a Garda.

    OP, I'd be more inclined to say nothing this time. It dosnt happen every Sunday?

    Perhaps it's a once off and won't be like this in future.

    You may be jumping the gun by giving out to him now.

    My advice is forget about it unless it starts to turn into a habit. Then approach him...


  • #49
    MJ23
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,039 ✭✭✭MJ23


    Piss in his milk.


  • #50
    Krispie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 160 ✭✭Krispie


    People, everyone appears to have missed the actual point of this thread....

    There is a PARTY at Pats house at the moment and I'm sure he's just a bit too shy to ask us all around for the fun......

    Tells us Pat, where is the house and we will go round and sort it out??


  • #51
    MadsL
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,299 ✭✭✭✭MadsL


    Joe prim wrote: »
    NB Advice dose not apply if housemate is bigger, harder or has a cousin a Garda.


    Or in fact, as seems to be the case, it is not in fact HIS house.


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  • #52
    Davelarson
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 213 ✭✭Davelarson


    Krispie wrote: »
    People, everyone appears to have missed the actual point of this thread....

    There is a PARTY at Pats house at the moment and I'm sure he's just a bit too shy to ask us all around for the fun......

    Tells us Pat, where is the house and we will go round and sort it out??

    Be sure to take your shoes off to spare the carpet. You can throw them into the office out of the way.


  • #53
    Santa Cruz
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,126 ✭✭✭Santa Cruz


    Davelarson wrote: »
    Be sure to take your shoes off to spare the carpet. You can throw them into the office out of the way.

    Make sure you have some tissue paper ready to dry them out as you wouldn't know what deposits pedantic pat would have left in them


  • #54
    Artful_Badger
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,339 ✭✭✭Artful_Badger


    MadsL wrote: »
    Or in fact, as seems to be the case, it is not in fact HIS house.

    Sure its his house, he lives there doesnt he ? Its a house share with another guy. The issue is with all the people who dont live there making noise and taking up the whole place on invitation from one of the residents.

    The other guy is well within his rights to have people over but he has to be considerate too. Its not just his house to do whatever he wants either. Something you and others seem eager to hang the OP for while ignoring the fact he's done absolutely nothing to inconvenience the other guy whatsoever. He's just discussing it.

    The OP gave him his space when he said he was having friends over and as most inconsiderate twats usually do they use the place as a hangout oblivious to the fact someone else lives there too.


  • #55
    sunflower27
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,822 ✭✭✭sunflower27


    pedanticpat wrote: »
    It's distracting. I'm surprised people don't consider this to be inconsiderate to do this without letting me know tbh.


    I think it is inconsiderate. Lunch to me does not mean loud music and nor does it mean having people around all day.

    He should have said he was having a bit of a party as that is what this is.

    Don't be offended people on here are not agreeing with you. A lot just like to wind people up. If it happened to them, they'd not be impressed either.


  • #56
    Specialun
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,068 ✭✭✭Specialun


    What did they have for lunch ? What kinda music Re they playing..im trying to set the scene


  • #57
    maryk123
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 643 ✭✭✭maryk123


    Well to be honest I agree with op. He was asked about people coming for lunch which you presume was the kitchen and a couple of hours and he even went out for lunch to give them some space. I think they are taking the piss and I would let him know tomorrow so there isn't a repeat. He is a new housemate. I would nip this in the bud. Ifhe doesn't like it he can find somewhere else.


  • #58
    fenris
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,075 ✭✭✭fenris


    I reckon that the lunch mob were fed up of the dining room getting monopolised and decided to break the cycle


  • #59
    MJ23
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,039 ✭✭✭MJ23


    Have dump in his pillow case.


  • #60
    cali_eire
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 182 ✭✭cali_eire


    Cd_doe wrote: »
    OP, I'd be more inclined to say nothing this time. It dosnt happen every Sunday?

    Perhaps it's a once off and won't be like this in future.

    You may be jumping the gun by giving out to him now.

    My advice is forget about it unless it starts to turn into a habit. Then approach him...
    +1


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  • #61
    MadsL
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,299 ✭✭✭✭MadsL


    Artful_Badger wrote: »
    Sure its his house, he lives there doesnt he ? Its a house share with another guy. The issue is with all the people who dont live there making noise and taking up the whole place on invitation from one of the residents.

    The other guy is well within his rights to have people over but he has to be considerate too. Its not just his house to do whatever he wants either. Something you and others seem eager to hang the OP for while ignoring the fact he's done absolutely nothing to inconvenience the other guy whatsoever. He's just discussing it.

    The OP gave him his space when he said he was having friends over and as most inconsiderate twats usually do they use the place as a hangout oblivious to the fact someone else lives there too.

    Four hours over lunch with your friends is not inconsiderate.


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