Housemate Etiquette

pedanticpat · 17-11-2013 07:11PM #1

New housemate has invited several people over for 'lunch' today. Mentioned it to me in passing this morning, I said fine. Turns out that it's not lunch, but a whole afternoon of loud music, and taking over half the house, including the kitchen, dining room and living room. Their dirty shoes are in the office, which means I'm not going in there. Is this bad form? Surely 'lunch' is four hours ago, and I shouldn't expect my house to be taken over for this long? For what it's worth, I usually spend Sunday afternoon working in either the dining room or the office, the housemate knows this, and it's not possible at the minute with the noise (music and shouting)

Fr_Dougal · 17-11-2013 07:14PM

So you take up the office/dining room every Sunday and now have a problem with a one-off from your housemate? Either suck it up or get a place all to yourself.

Zab · 17-11-2013 07:15PM

Should have mentioned it earlier, particularly if they knew earlier, but otherwise nothing wrong with it at all.

dmc17 · 17-11-2013 07:15PM

You're being pedantic, Pat

aujopimur · 17-11-2013 07:16PM

You're just pissed off because you were'nt invited.

pedanticpat · 17-11-2013 07:18PM

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

So you take up the office/dining room every Sunday and now have a problem with a one-off from your housemate? Either suck it up or get a place all to yourself.

Nope, I use one of them to do some work. They're not exclusively mine by any stretch.

pedanticpat · 17-11-2013 07:18PM

aujopimur wrote: »

You're just pissed off because you were'nt invited.

Nope, I don't particularly like this person.

Rekop dog · 17-11-2013 07:19PM

Perfectly fine from your housemate especially on a Sunday afternoon and nice of him/her to clear it with you first.

MadsL · 17-11-2013 07:19PM

pedanticpat wrote: »

I shouldn't expect my house

Found the problem...

MJ23 · 17-11-2013 07:20PM

Have a ****

Canis Lupus · 17-11-2013 07:20PM

Start fapping on the couch. He won't invite people over again or at least, they won't come over....

On the other hand you're being sensitive, it's his house as well as yours. If this was 4am on a school night or he was doing this all the time then my opinion might be different.

pedanticpat · 17-11-2013 07:20PM

Zab wrote: »

Should have mentioned it earlier, particularly if they knew earlier, but otherwise nothing wrong with it at all.

Well, isn't that the point? If I'd known about it, I wouldn't mind, apparently it's been planned a week already. Also, lunch is misleading if they're only sitting to eat at 6. We went out at 12 and came back at four, thinking that should give them a bit of space.

WellThen? · 17-11-2013 07:21PM

It is a bit annoying but you have the option to have people over also I'd say. Tell them maybe to keep it down. But technically, this is the compromise with a house share.

The Dom · 17-11-2013 07:21PM

Walk around the house naked.

pedanticpat · 17-11-2013 07:21PM

Rekop dog wrote: »

Perfectly fine from your housemate especially on a Sunday afternoon and nice of him/her to clear it with you first.

Lunch isn't 6pm.

hsianloon · 17-11-2013 07:21PM

Chill.... You didn't ask further as well.

Plus if you're taking the room every weekend... he needs a turn too.

Ask next time. Poor communications

Santa Cruz · 17-11-2013 07:22PM

You probably told him to make himself at home when you took him in as a tenant

Santa Cruz · 17-11-2013 07:23PM

MJ23 wrote: »

Have a ****

Ya. into their dirty shoes in the "office"

BNMC · 17-11-2013 07:24PM

Only one solution here, burn the house down.

pedanticpat · 17-11-2013 07:25PM

hsianloon wrote: »

Chill.... You didn't ask further as well.

Plus if you're taking the room every weekend... he needs a turn too.

Ask next time. Poor communications

It's not one room, it's four. The kitchen, the office, the dining room and the living room. Unfortunately it's winter, so the conservatory is pretty much out too. I'm confined to my room.

Santa Cruz · 17-11-2013 07:26PM

pedanticpat wrote: »

It's not one room, it's four. The kitchen, the office, the dining room and the living room. Unfortunately it's winter, so the conservatory is pretty much out too. I'm confined to my room.

Isn't there anyone using the drawing room dawling?

pedanticpat · 17-11-2013 07:27PM

Santa Cruz wrote: »

Isn't there anyone using the drawing room dawling?

I don't have a drawing room.

dmc17 · 17-11-2013 07:27PM

pedanticpat wrote: »

I don't have a drawing room.

You should get one. You'd be safe in there

Santa Cruz · 17-11-2013 07:31PM

pedanticpat wrote: »

I don't have a drawing room.

Why not convert the "office" so

Rekop dog · 17-11-2013 07:31PM

OP basically wants his tenants rent without them ever even attempting to have any semblance of a life in his house. Live by yourself or get ****ing real.

Artful_Badger · 17-11-2013 07:34PM

OP, tell them to piss off out of the office and pop in some headphones so you cant hear them in the next room.

If its a new housemate you need to set out your stall at the first sign of a conflict which this seems to be. Nothing worse than an asshole who thinks a shared house is a hangout for all his mates.

Santa Cruz · 17-11-2013 07:35PM

Rekop dog wrote: »

OP basically wants his tenants rent without them ever even attempting to have any semblance of a life in his house. Live by yourself or get ****ing real.

I can imagine the big grumpy head on him as he can't get access to the office. Maybe he should ring Joe tomorrow

pedanticpat · 17-11-2013 07:36PM

Rekop dog wrote: »

OP basically wants his tenants rent without them ever even attempting to have any semblance of a life in his house. Live by yourself or get ****ing real.

Ah feck off now, I'd never take over a shared house like this. It's inconsiderate.

MadsL · 17-11-2013 07:36PM

pedanticpat wrote: »

I'm confined to my room.

No, are you not.

Go for a walk/pub and stop whining perhaps?

pedanticpat · 17-11-2013 07:39PM

MadsL wrote: »

No, are you not.

Go for a walk/pub and stop whining perhaps?

I went out for lunch to allow the housemate the run of the house during the time they said they were having guests.

I have work to do, so the pub is out of the question.

MadsL · 17-11-2013 07:40PM

pedanticpat wrote: »

I went out for lunch to allow the housemate the run of the house during the time they said they were having guests.

I have work to do, so the pub is out of the question.

They are hardly stopping you working. And it is Sunday. And a one-off. It's not your house. You share it.

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