How many friends do you have?

Birneybau · 01-11-2013 05:22PM

beakerjoe wrote: »

But how many cows have you got?

Oh, I don't know, 100?

beakerjoe · 01-11-2013 05:24PM

Birneybau wrote: »

Oh, I don't know, 100?

Well smelt!

old hippy · 01-11-2013 05:27PM

Sometimes I feel I have loads, othertimes I feel as if I have very few. Depends on how navel gazing I am on any given day

Cantona's Collars · 01-11-2013 06:01PM

My wider circle of friends is about 35,close knit circle is about 8.Nights out can be great craic when everyone gets together.

Feel a bit sorry for those posters who seem to be too busy for friends & rely on a few family members & count them as their friend.Have a neighbour like that & his life seems very lonely & boring indeed with zero social life.He even admitted that his phone was used once last month & that was to ring his wife.

Galwayguy35 · 01-11-2013 06:25PM

No friends, just people I know.

I like my own company so it doesn't bother me.

Daveysil15 · 01-11-2013 06:27PM

Zero. I just have acquaintances.

HemlockOption · 01-11-2013 06:28PM

zerks wrote: »

My wider circle of friends is about 35,close knit circle is about 8.Nights out can be great craic when everyone gets together.

Feel a bit sorry for those posters who seem to be too busy for friends & rely on a few family members & count them as their friend.Have a neighbour like that & his life seems very lonely & boring indeed with zero social life.He even admitted that his phone was used once last month & that was to ring his wife.

Why feel sorry for them when clearly it's voluntary? Surely it means they're less needy and more self-reliant, independent ....?

Daveysil15 · 01-11-2013 06:31PM

zerks wrote: »

My wider circle of friends is about 35,close knit circle is about 8.Nights out can be great craic when everyone gets together.

Feel a bit sorry for those posters who seem to be too busy for friends & rely on a few family members & count them as their friend.Have a neighbour like that & his life seems very lonely & boring indeed with zero social life.He even admitted that his phone was used once last month & that was to ring his wife.

At least he has that much. It would be different if were single and living alone.

Dr. Kenneth Noisewater · 01-11-2013 06:33PM

I've seen a couple of responses in the vain of "Nah, I've got a family now, I don't need friends".

I f**king hate that attitude, and I'm seeing it more and more now as a lot of lads and girls I know are settling down and having children. Fine, you're obviously not going to spend as much time with your mates once you have family commitments. Obviously, some people love it - but the whole idea of just turning your back on the world and completely immersing yourself in family matters seems really sad to me. I think it is very important to maintain the friendships you have built up (the close ones anyway) to a certain degree, your real friends are the ones who were there long before you met your signifigant other, and theyre the ones who'll still be there if he/she leaves.

Anyway, my number of close friends is 3.

WilyCoyote · 01-11-2013 06:39PM

Two very good friends whom I trust implicitly.

Cantona's Collars · 01-11-2013 06:43PM

HemlockOption wrote: »

Why feel sorry for them when clearly it's voluntary? Surely it means they're less needy and more self-reliant, independent ....?

I just see it as being a bit lonely,not being able to pick up the phone & call someone just to shoot the breeze or organise a few pints etc.
These days we see more & more people who live in a bubble,don't know their neighbours and spend their days going from work to home and nothing else day in-day out.They avoid contact with anyone else.It can soon turn into a very lonely existence.Facebook seems to fill a hole in people's lives but these aren't real friends.

Maybe I'm just more sociable than the majority here but I prefer it that way.It was a bit sad when the neighbour I mentioned called to 3 houses last night with his kid trick or treating as "he didn't know anybody else".That's a strange attitude to have to actively avoid having contact with anybody bar a couple of people even if it's just to say "trick or treat".Perhaps he thinks everyone else living around him are strange as we all have friends dropping by all the time.

c_man · 01-11-2013 06:47PM

I've got a few friends, some guys and a number of buddies.

Cantona's Collars · 01-11-2013 06:52PM

Daveysil15 wrote: »

At least he has that much. It would be different if were single and living alone.

All of us that know him suspect he got her on eBay.It's the only plausible explanation.

caustic 1 · 01-11-2013 07:31PM

1.

lukesmom · 01-11-2013 07:33PM

3

LoonyLovegood · 01-11-2013 07:35PM

Six. There's six people that I know that if I had a crisis, I could ring and they'd move heaven and earth to help me, and I'd do the same to them. Horrible part is that two of them live in the US.

creep · 01-11-2013 07:40PM

Around 35 close friends from my locality, school, college who I am in regular contact with and can txt any of them to meet up. Around 10 of them live a good bit away from me though.

Then around 20 others in the village who are about three or four years olders who I can go down to the local and have a chat with and sometimes end up in town with them but wouldn't txt them to meet up or anything.

Then we have all the lads in the pub who are 30, 40, 50 etc who I am also friendly with and have the craic with but again wouldn't text them or anything.

People in big cities don't know how good it is to live in smaller towns, villages. Everyone knows one another. Tis great. Everyone is friendly and knows each other. I don't know how people live in places like Dublin city and cork city. Well I currently living in Dublin and look forward to getting home away from it on the weekends.

I hope to get work work in a small town or village because after one month everyone knows you and can walk into a pub and everyone will say hello.

LionelNashe · 01-11-2013 07:46PM

2 or 3 at a stretch. It's a real eye opener to see so many people giving similar answers. Where are these Boards beers tonight?

cuana · 01-11-2013 07:54PM

3 is my number I'm lucky to have good circle/network but three that I would consider my closest! they have seen me at my worst & best and still love me... faults & all

Wacker The Attacker · 01-11-2013 08:25PM

People annoy me greatly. Therefore they can all f**k off

moxin · 01-11-2013 09:21PM

How many real friends you have is just the path in life that occurred to you, voluntary or involuntary. Some people don't have friends now from school or the area they grew up in(emigration a factor), after that you either have college, sport or work to find friends.

It does get alot harder as you get older to make friends as most people are settled down with "family matters" and then you have to find people with common interests as you! Those who still have school or college friends right into their 30's should not look down on those who are alone, put yourself in someone's elses shoes trying to find a friend in their 30's/40's!!

Oh, i think I have 3 maybe 4 close friends in answer to the question but not "frequent" friends if that makes sense

LordSutch · 01-11-2013 09:24PM

3.2

cuana · 01-11-2013 09:27PM

Wacker The Attacker wrote: »

People annoy me greatly. Therefore they can all f**k off

you sound miserable I would be inclined to think your friendless for that reason!

boobar · 01-11-2013 09:29PM

7

Medusa22 · 01-11-2013 09:33PM

I have friends, and two of them come to me when they are having problems etc. I probably have maybe 5 friends or so, but I just like to meet up with them for superficial outings, like to the cinema or to a restaurant or they can can come over for a cup of tea and a chat.

However, I don't really tell them about my problems or what is going on in my life, I tend to keep things to myself or I tell my partner, my sister or my mum.

I don't let people get close to me because I don't like to talk about what is going on in my life and to be honest I just don't have time for other people's problems and I'd rather just have a casual friendship with people.

I had close friends when I was a teenager but throughout my life I've had difficulty maintaining friendships and usually I tend to have friends for 3 years and then I join a new course or change jobs or move and then I make new friends and I'm not good at keeping in touch.

Karl Stein · 01-11-2013 09:45PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zB2gPZRsz0Q

Itwasntme. · 01-11-2013 10:08PM

Like another poster, I've lived a very transient life so far and I don't really have roots but along the way, I've met some amazing and wonderful people. People for whom I would do anything and who I hope feel the same way about me. My friendships are the most important relationships in my life - more valuable even than lovers and romantic love.

Nora, Fatmah, David, Rahma, Yasmin, Jason, Jason, Skerrett, Grainne, Jeanne, Ben, Shema, Kamikazi, Rosette, Olivia and Minega. 16. These are the people I consider my closest friends. People I would help bury a body. I have loads of acquaintances but as I get older, I find I can't be bothered with them. I haven't added my dad to this list but he is my very best friend above all the rest.

Anyway, I am glad this thread came along. It reminded me of the friends I have neglected recently. I should call/skype/email and find out how they are doing. I am incredibly lucky

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marshbaboon · 01-11-2013 10:24PM

If I ever get married there'll be less than a dozen invites from my side. All of them family.

Luckily I'll probably never have to deal with it due to the distinct possibility of dying alone in a pool of my own tears/semen before I'm 30.

forgotten password · 01-11-2013 10:26PM

whirlpool wrote: »

How many people (non-family) would you call if you got a new job and wanted to pass on the good news?

How many people (non-family) would you contact if a family member died and you wanted them to come to the funeral?

How many people would you want to attend your 30th birthday celebration?

How many people would you feel comfortable pouring your heart out to if you were going through a tough time in your life?

How many people do you feel you can be 110% yourself around, the bad and the good sides of you?

How many people do you feel will never judge you or speak badly of you no matter what?

How many people would you feel a big depressing gap in your life if they were no longer there?

To summarise, how many friends do you have? Truly?

As I get older, I'm finding that for me this number is decreasing rapidly.

Basically, the older I get, the more "friends" turn into c**ts.

are you with the fbi

Femme_Fatale · 01-11-2013 10:27PM

marshbaboon wrote: »

If I ever get married there'll be less than a dozen invites from my side. All of them family.

Luckily I'll probably never have to deal with it due to the distinct possibility of dying alone in a pool of my own tears/semen before I'm 30.

Thought you were about 50.

How many friends do you have?

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