How many friends do you have?

whirlpool · 01-11-2013 06:10AM #1

How many people (non-family) would you call if you got a new job and wanted to pass on the good news?

How many people (non-family) would you contact if a family member died and you wanted them to come to the funeral?

How many people would you want to attend your 30th birthday celebration?

How many people would you feel comfortable pouring your heart out to if you were going through a tough time in your life?

How many people do you feel you can be 110% yourself around, the bad and the good sides of you?

How many people do you feel will never judge you or speak badly of you no matter what?

How many people would you feel a big depressing gap in your life if they were no longer there?

To summarise, how many friends do you have? Truly?

As I get older, I'm finding that for me this number is decreasing rapidly.

Basically, the older I get, the more "friends" turn into c**ts.

Ihatecuddles · 01-11-2013 06:15AM

Id say a comfortable 3, I have other friends but I wouldnt be as close to them. 3 is more than enough I think!

Lenin Skynard · 01-11-2013 06:22AM

None. Self employed thirty-something here. (Non-family) are busy with their own families so families are great for the odd meal and a pint.

dobman88 · 01-11-2013 06:32AM

5 loyal, trusted friends and 4 of them live 1000's of miles away!

Have mates and drinking buddies but with some of them if they told me it was dark outside, i would check. Jaysus, you just made me realise how much I miss the lads.

carefulnow100 · 01-11-2013 06:40AM

Not as many as I feel I should! Since leaving college its been tougher to stay in touch. And even old friends from school have had to move away.

I never realised how hard it is to make new friends outside of work school or college!

stefan idiot jones · 01-11-2013 07:42AM

None.

I've lived away from my home town since '98 and lived in three different countries.

In my forties with a family and no need or desire for friends. We're going to my Daughter's friends parents Halloween party on Saturday so that's the thing that middle aged fuddy duddies get up to.

A friend in need.............is a pain in the arse.

mfceiling · 01-11-2013 07:52AM

Too many how manys...

Festy · 01-11-2013 07:54AM

709

danniemcq · 01-11-2013 08:43AM

over 9000

Ted_YNWA · 01-11-2013 08:48AM

About three fi.. , nah too easy.

Around 10 I would call if in a crisis

Hownowcow · 01-11-2013 08:59AM

I have a couple of handfuls of people in my life that are friends, real friends. Sometimes I don't see them for extended periods of time but when we meet up it's as if we'd never been apart. I rarely ask anything of them, or they of me, but just to know that they are there is wonderful. When you think about it having a friend is amazing, out of all of the people in the world someone chose you to be in their life and to care about.

Hersheys · 01-11-2013 09:05AM

8.

That may seem like a lot of people knowing your **** but just because you can tell them doesn't mean you do.

They range from childhood, play school, college... But I'm having a party in a few weeks and 7 of them will be there. The other one lives abroad.

They drop everything for me. I drop everything for them.

And oddly, none of them really know each other!

Sunnyisland · 01-11-2013 09:08AM

I got friends in low places,
Where the Whiskey drowns,
And the Beer chases my blues away,
And I'll be okay,
Ahhhh, I'm not big on the social graces,
Think I'll slip on down to the oasis,
Oh I got friends,
In low places.

Seachmall · 01-11-2013 09:29AM

There's 4 or 5 I'd consider very good friends, I could bump that up to 6 or 7. Then there are 3 or 4 others I'd consider close friends but not as close.

Those are the 10 or so friends I have. Everybody else is an acquaintance really, people I might booze with but wouldn't be pushed about hearing about their lives.

AnonoBoy · 01-11-2013 09:34AM

I had a friend once but he asked too many 'how many' questions so I cut him loose.

Birneybau · 01-11-2013 09:35AM

104

looking_around · 01-11-2013 09:47AM

whirlpool wrote: »

How many people (non-family) would you call if you got a new job and wanted to pass on the good news?

I'd write it on facebook, :pac: (I have 26 people on my facebook, only 4 are people I don't really speak to)

How many people (non-family) would you contact if a family member died and you wanted them to come to the funeral?

None, I don't do funerals. I would get comfort from my parter. And I would contact 2 friends, that live abroad, sadly.

How many people would you want to attend your 30th birthday celebration?

nobody :P Who needs b-day parties?

How many people would you feel comfortable pouring your heart out to if you were going through a tough time in your life?

Quite a few actually, I've learned that the best way to get help is to tell as many as you can. More people who know, mean higher chances of someone being there for you. Not everyone I'd consider a close friend, like we're there for eachother, but don't really care to hang out with eachother.

How many people do you feel you can be 110% yourself around, the bad and the good sides of you?

I'm only ME around people, I stopped acting a long time ago. I don't care to be around people that need me to be someone else. Of course I do still act for work.

How many people do you feel will never judge you or speak badly of you no matter what?

Oh god, anything can happen to change a friend or friends perception of you. Meaning no one is immune to backstabbing. I would trust my partner about 5 or 6 others though.

How many people would you feel a big depressing gap in your life if they were no longer there?

Depends, if they died, I'd always miss them, if they moved on, then whatever, I'd move on to. Friends do come and go, and if they're not worth time to still be around, why would they be worth your thoughts or misery?

To summarise, how many friends do you have? Truly?

3 or 4. And that's more than enough.

gobnaitolunacy · 01-11-2013 10:05AM

whirlpool wrote: »

As I get older, I'm finding that for me this number is decreasing rapidly.

Basically, the older I get, the more "friends" turn into c**ts.

Had one good friend who disappeared up his own hole. Living 'out foreign', too cool for school for the last few years now. A few good friends, about half doz will still make time for you for a pint instead of being under the shadow of the rolling pin with the wags and/or playing happy families.

01-11-2013 10:37AM

I guess I've about 6 close friends who I speak to very regularly all that. And about 5 more who wouldn't be as close but are still friends..

And then a good few "acquaintances"..

MomijiHime · 01-11-2013 10:43AM

Maybe 1-3 if you're not including family.

01-11-2013 10:52AM

Quite a lot, actually. Around 20 believe it or not.

The ones who have been around since I was a kid I don't see all of them all of the time, but I've been through a whole hell of a lot in my life, and they've been there when I've needed them to be. They remember dates important to me and don't let them pass by. When I was in a major car crash, they were all in the hospital by my side to help me through everything, they took time off work, they came and made tea and sandwiches, just all of the little things that make a friend a friend. They were just there and I know that if I needed them here right now, they would drop what they were doing just to be there for me again and vice versa.

The newer friends, that I've made as an adult through work, and through boards, are there for me now - whenever I need them to be, and without question. I am in touch with them on a very regular basis - some daily - and my life would simply not be as good without them in it.

*cries*

travis1976 · 01-11-2013 10:59AM

Quite sad actually, but none. After looking at the questions and considering the answers, None. I've moved away from where I was brought up, got married (mistake), had kids (light of my life) and left all my friends behind. My wives friends are all I see, and they're not much good. The once I confided in one of them, she told my wife.
Thinking about it now, my phone never rings unless it's bad news. Damn, I wish I hadn't read the post now...:(

01-11-2013 11:00AM

travis1976 wrote: »

Quite sad actually, but none. After looking at the questions and considering the answers, None. I've moved away from where I was brought up, got married (mistake), had kids (light of my life) and left all my friends behind. My wives friends are all I see, and they're not much good. The once I confided in one of them, she told my wife.
Thinking about it now, my phone never rings unless it's bad news. Damn, I wish I hadn't read the post now...:(

Don't be sad

Make new friends. Come to boards beers - any and all of them! Boards people are awesome.

Fukuyama · 01-11-2013 11:02AM

Two. The rest are just acquaintances or people I'm forced to interact with.

0ph0rce0 · 01-11-2013 11:04AM

None,

Always spent most of my time with girlfriends, Which never works out :rolleyes: so never had my own.

Never go out, Never Anyone To Do Anything With.

It's Shít, but after so many years you get used to it.

Although it does get to me when you see people out and about having a great time.

:(:(:(:(:(:(

01-11-2013 11:04AM

Deleted User wrote: »

They remember dates important to me and don't let them pass by.

And right on schedule - my phone is buzzing away here with messages from my friends, because today is one of those dates.

0ph0rce0 · 01-11-2013 11:06AM

Deleted User wrote: »

And right on schedule - my phone is buzzing away here with messages from my friends, because today is one of those dates.

Damn Your Lucky, My Own Family Don't Even Remember My Birthday, Nevermind Other People

carraig2 · 01-11-2013 11:09AM

According to my Boards profile I have none.:(

Mint Aero · 01-11-2013 11:14AM

0.

Duggy747 · 01-11-2013 11:18AM

I only have friends when they need something fixed, beyond that I don't see anybody for months on end.

Muise... · 01-11-2013 11:19AM

I find it kind of sad that in the OP friendship is all about what others will do for you and your needs, not how much you like someone and what you would do for them.

There are people who will always be friends of mine, even if I don't see them for ages - they might pop into my head while I'm walking down the street and I'll smile all day long at how lovely they are. I think a good friend is one you can meet after a long absence and it's as if they just came back to the bar from the jacks.

How many friends do you have?

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