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Compulsive liar "friend"

  • 30-10-2013 12:29PM
    #1
    Colemania
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,126 ✭✭✭


    Hi all,

    So a friend of mine for the last 9 years or so is a major compulsive liar. Now i've been reading different threads and its amazing how much people know a compulsive liar but I think this case might be a tiny bit different, or maybe not.

    Now this guy is a fairly sound guy in person, not the most talkative but a nice guy. He wouldn't lie to you in person unless it was to back up a precious lie. That's where the difference ends...... But when he texts me he comes out with the biggest bull**** i've ever seen. This guy has been on the dole for the last 5 years or so and claims to have turned down loads of jobs because they weren't good enough. He now says he has a job where he's getting 500 a week for 2 or 3 days work and he'll be getting 1000 a day for Christmas eve and/or Christmas day if he works. Bare in mind his dad works for this company too, works night shifts and very long hours and comes out with a fairly average wage.....

    He's also one of those ones who will try better everything you say. Even the most STUPID things. Me: "Oh my girlfriend cooked me dinner tonight." Him: "Oh my new girlfriend bought me KFC and new clothes today. What a legend"

    Ha he tells me things that I couldn't give a flying **** about but the old me would argue back about his lies and there'd be all sorts of pointless drama but now when i sense a lie, i don't reply.

    So ya, the reasoning behind this is why do people do this? A few people i've told reckon he's very insecure so has to talk up everything but wouldn't you hate to be a girlfriend of his and from what he's saying expect her to be this supermodel, genrous, nice person. In reality you meet them and they're an absolute **** :P


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  • #2
    Red Crow
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,139 ✭✭✭Red Crow


    You two sound like a barrel of laughs.


  • #3
    wazky
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,516 ✭✭✭wazky


    If you know he is a compulsive liar, why get worked up about it?, let him spout his shit and take no notice.


  • #4
    Lollipops23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,420 ✭✭✭Lollipops23


    This drives me around the bend- I used to work with a guy who did this contantly and I never understood why people would never call him out on it when we all knew full well he was lying through his teeth.

    The times I did turn around and say "That's BS, no way that happened" he denied down to the ground. As you said, it's always over ridiculous stuff and it was never even just exaggeration, but outright fairytale stuff.

    Now I just think he a) had a very sad little life and b)had some mental issues.


  • #5
    Artful_Badger
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,339 ✭✭✭Artful_Badger


    You're just jealous of his new job, hot GF and KFC. Stop bitching about the guy behind his back and get back to eating whatever slop your pretend GF made for ya.


  • #6
    Colemania
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,126 ✭✭✭Colemania


    Red Crow wrote: »
    You two sound like a barrel of laughs.

    Never said we were but thanks..... :pac:
    wazky wrote: »
    If you know he is a compulsive liar, why get worked up about it?, let him spout his shit and take no notice.

    Ah it hasn't worked me up about it in a while but he just pi**ed me off over the weekend when he cancelled plans over another lie and I'm just sick of it happening.
    Lollipops23 wrote: »
    This drives me around the bend- I used to work with a guy who did this contantly and I never understood why people would never call him out on it when we all knew full well he was lying through his teeth.

    The times I did turn around and say "That's BS, no way that happened" he denied down to the ground. As you said, it's always over ridiculous stuff and it was never even just exaggeration, but outright fairytale stuff.

    Now I just think he a) had a very sad little life and b)had some mental issues.

    I seem to think that now too actually. Nothing better to do but make up something to make their life seem a bit more interesting.


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  • #7
    Colemania
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,126 ✭✭✭Colemania


    Artful_Badger wrote: »
    You're just jealous of his new job, hot GF and KFC. Stop bitching about the guy behind his back and get back to eating whatever slop your pretend GF made for ya.

    Haha nice one sound. I'm always jealous of KFC. Who wouldn't be!


  • #8
    ardle1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,521 ✭✭✭ardle1


    Well maybe(seeing as your suppose to be his friend) when you know he has nothing, stop winding him up!


  • #9
    .Henry Sellers.
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 567 ✭✭✭.Henry Sellers.


    I love people like that, you just have to laugh about what they say and don't take it seriously. I know a fella when on the subject of holidays pipes up and said he was in South Africa, when he was quizzed about whereabouts in South Africa he was he says "actually no I wasn't there".

    Another guy when I was doing my apprenticeship tells everybody how he doesn't eat pork, think its rotten, is sitting in the canteen a few days later with the biggest plate of sausages and rashers you've ever seen, it was nothing but a plate of pork. When someone pointed out what he said earlier he starts getting thick. Liars are great fun even more so when they're caught out.


  • #10
    Artful_Badger
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,339 ✭✭✭Artful_Badger


    Colemania wrote: »
    Haha nice one sound. I'm always jealous of KFC. Who wouldn't be!

    Not me, I never eat it. I could if I wanted though because I know the guy who owns it and he gave me like a lifetime all you can eat pass but I dont use it...


  • #11
    Colemania
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,126 ✭✭✭Colemania


    .Henry Sellers. wrote: »
    I love people like that, you just have to laugh about what they say and don't take it seriously. I know a fella when on the subject of holidays pipes up and said he was in South Africa, when he was quizzed about whereabouts in South Africa he was he says "actually no I wasn't there".

    Another guy when I was doing my apprenticeship tells everybody how he doesn't eat pork, think its rotten, is sitting in the canteen a few days later with the biggest plate of sausages and rashers you've ever seen, it was nothing but a plate of pork. When someone pointed out what he said earlier he starts getting thick. Liars are great fun even more so when they're caught out.

    Ha ya when he gets caught out he goes ape and denies it. He hacked my facebook account twice directly after an argument and it was blatantly obvious he did it an he denied it. Very childish stuff altogether but very annoying when it's done to you


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  • #12
    jimgoose
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,237 ✭✭✭✭jimgoose


    He's a head-case. Avoid him.


  • #13
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 26,219 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    The KFC as a means of making you (or ANYONE) jealous is the funniest thing I've read all week.

    There's just no way you can top a bucket of greasy chicken. :)


  • #14
    hardCopy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,969 ✭✭✭hardCopy


    I think everyone has a friend like that. That's why Jay's character in The InBetweeners works so well.


  • #15
    AnonoBoy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,559 ✭✭✭✭AnonoBoy


    Bet you don't even have a friend..... now who's the liar???


  • #16
    CarMe
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 677 ✭✭✭CarMe


    Ugh one of my really good friends has started this crap and it makes me so uncomfortable!
    I feel too bad to pull her up on it so I just go along with it like a big eejit, cringing from the depths of my soul!!
    I understand it's probably low self esteem but it's no excuse to waste a friends time talking utter sh!te, if it continues I'll have to distance myself from her which would be a real shame cos otherwise she's a great person but lying really is my all time hate!!


  • #17
    Czarcasm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,076 ✭✭✭✭Czarcasm


    OP your friend is a fantasist, common sense and logic mean nothing to them, best just let them wallow in their world of self-delusion and get on with your own life. The only reason they can make such boasts is because you listen to them - you stop listening, they find someone else, but at least they're not your problem any more.


  • #18
    SparkySpitfire
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,331 ✭✭✭SparkySpitfire


    Ah stop, I DESPISE these people. I went to school with one, here's just one of her fairytales...

    Mary: Yeah I was up in Enniskerry doing x and y this weekend, was fun. :)
    Jane: Oh yeah! I've been in Enniskerry before, my grandad's funeral was there
    Mary: Really?
    Jane: Yeah, I'll always remember it, the priest walked down the aisle and the entire ROOM filled with incense so we were all coughing, but then at the end, two "budgies from the bird sanctuary" nearby flew in and flapped around the altar. And I knew in my soul it was my granny and grandad together again. :')
    Me: Why would budgies be in a bird sanctuary?
    Mary: Which church was it?
    Jane: Oh you know the one up by the river?
    Mary: No, I live in Enniskerry, do you know the name?
    Jane: Oh St. John's or something, I have to go now :)
    Us: Okay, byeeee
    Mary: (to me) There is no St. John's in Enniskerry. And there's no bird sanctuary either.


  • #19
    hardCopy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,969 ✭✭✭hardCopy


    Czarcasm wrote: »
    OP your friend is a fantasist, common sense and logic mean nothing to them, best just let them wallow in their world of self-delusion and get on with your own life. The only reason they can make such boasts is because you listen to them - you stop listening, they find someone else, but at least they're not your problem any more.

    Just be prepared for the stories they will tell about you when they find a new group to put up with them.


  • #20
    Czarcasm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,076 ✭✭✭✭Czarcasm


    hardCopy wrote: »
    Just be prepared for the stories they will tell about you when they find a new group to put up with them.


    I prefer when people talk behind my back, means I don't have to listen to them :D


  • #21
    codie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 933 ✭✭✭codie


    Reminds me of my friend Jim in America.I stayed with him one time in Cali and I swear he is the worse ever.This guy was so bad they even made a film about him.They called it Liar Liar .I keep telling him he has to change his ways.He was over last year on hols and he is as bad as ever.Honestly he tells lies no-one would believe.


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  • #22
    thegreatgonzo
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    A girl I knew a while back started seeing this guy for a few months. He told her he was from Scotland. It turned out he was from Leitrim. She was really embarrassed but he did a good Scottish accent apparently.


  • #23
    Bandana boy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,375 ✭✭✭Bandana boy


    thegreatgonzo wrote: »
    A girl I knew a while back started seeing this guy for a few months. He told her he was from Scotland. It turned out he was from Leitrim. She was really embarrassed but he did a good Scottish accent apparently.

    That is awesome

    Back when i was a kid I had a mate who never stopped.

    I walked in on him telling the story of how he broke his arm. It involved three guys trying to rob his leather jacket on O'Connel bridge and how they broke his arm but he still managed to fight them off.
    Now the thing was several people were actually with him when he fell of the back of a sofa and broke the arm.
    When I pointed this out he tried to say that while he had broke his arm a week earlier falling of the sofa ,it had healed and then it got rebroken by the muggars.


  • #24
    anncoates
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,925 ✭✭✭✭anncoates


    This would be great as one of those photo-stories in the teenage girl magazines my sister used to read in the 80s.

    They were always called something like SHOULD I GO ALL THE WAY or THE COW KISSED MY BOYFRIEND


  • #25
    conor2469
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 565 ✭✭✭conor2469


    I used to work with a guy like this. It's hilarious watching them trip over the previous lies they had forgotten about and then argue themselves back into the corner. They will never admit to the lie. Ridiculous bare faced lies with big ****ing bells hanging off them.


  • #26
    spankysue
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 591 ✭✭✭spankysue


    I've known a couple of these people and I think they're hilarious and their lies are hilarious. You just can't take anything they say seriously.

    My OH and I knew a guy who claimed he was in an accident and broke his back but defied all the doctors when they said he'd never walk again by going on to become a Kung Fu champion in the Olympics.

    We were in his house one night and he opened a bottle of Sangria, then swore blind that it was African Sambuca, even though it said Sangria on the bottle, it was the colour of Sangria and just was Sangria.

    Another time, he told me he was going to Switzerland the next day and sure enough, the next day I was walking through our local shopping centre and met him, asked him what happened with Switzerland, to which he sheepishly replied that he missed his flight.


  • #27
    Muise...
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,512 ✭✭✭Muise...


    anncoates wrote: »
    This would be great as one of those photo-stories in the teenage girl magazines my sister used to read in the 80s.

    They were always called something like SHOULD I GO ALL THE WAY or THE COW KISSED MY BOYFRIEND

    http://www.viz.co.uk/photostories.html

    :pac:


  • #28
    anncoates
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,925 ✭✭✭✭anncoates


    Muise... wrote: »
    http://www.viz.co.uk/photostories.html

    :pac:

    TOO YOUNG TO LOVE

    :D


  • #29
    The Backwards Man
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,299 ✭✭✭✭The Backwards Man


    The worst I ever encountered was a fellow pilot on the space shuttle. Once when we were on an icebreaker in Churchill, Manitoba, researching possible emergency landing sites, he told me he had a pet giraffe called George. I knew he was lying from the way he ruffled his hair as he spoke.


  • #30
    [Deleted User]
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    I don't think I have any friends like that - or else they're just very good at it :P

    I've seen it on here though, people posting stories that don't add up, and they just trip themselves up when they tell their next story. It's kind of amusing when you see it happening, but meh - they're people off the internet - it's not like they're real anyway :D


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  • #31
    Captain Farrell
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 222 ✭✭Captain Farrell


    This http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=83081879#post83081879 is a good post I read on a similar issue
    I used to be one of said bullshítters, many moons ago.

    It all came down to low self-esteem, lack of approval and attention from an alcoholic parent, really wanting to just be something more than what i saw myself as at the time.

    I was from a single parent family, in the 70s when there weren't many around and used to say my father had been killed by being trampled on by an elephant while on safari in africa. It was easier than the truth at the time, and bizarrely more believable to some people than the actual truth.

    Years later I'd be telling my mates about the women I'd shagged over the weekend, always "picked her up at the taxi rank" or other shít, of course after my friends had gone home.

    And as for the lies I told women, I worked in the Secret Service,I was a successful entrepreneur, I wrote screenplays for major movies etc

    it was all a way of escaping from a life that i wasn't really happy in much of the time, partly due to depression but mainly due to my upbringing and a lack of worth it gave me. All i wanted was an escape, and those stories, along with gambling a lot, gave me that escape.



    And that sort of behaviour continued for about 30 years until I finally did something about it and sought help. Now, a few years later, my life is very different. I like who I am, i love my wife, my children, my home, my job.

    And I don't need to bullshít anymore.





    believe me, not every bullshítter is doing it to impress you, they are doing it to live the life they wish they had, sometimes at least.

    Of course though, some of them are just bullshítters.


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