"Would you strongly prefer to go out with someone of your own skin colour / racial ba

The Big Smoke · 26-10-2013 01:35PM

eisenberg1 wrote: »

Canadian = pale skin?

I've only met a few but they were all pale and from talking to them (forget were they where from) the majority from their area are pale.

Notorioux · 26-10-2013 01:36PM

I am more attracted to asian women as well... there's something about them gorgeous asians thats making me weak. :P

Dublinpato · 26-10-2013 01:39PM

skin color does not bother me one bit.

Pug160 · 26-10-2013 01:40PM

There is a big difference between going out casually and potential wife/husband material. Lots of people don't discriminate as much with the former but are more inclined to do so with the latter. My preference is white (European or otherwise) women only probably, when it comes to something potentially serious. That doesn't mean I can say for absolute certain that I won't fall in love with another type of woman but I am a firm believer in keeping some sort of heritage in my family tree. Some of you guys will butcher me for saying that but it's my choice and I'm entitled to it, just as you are entitled to yours.

hatrickpatrick · 26-10-2013 01:40PM

Not really, one of the girls I was in school with and had a gigantic crush on was Japanese, there's a black girl in my class in college who I'd go out with in a heartbeat, and besides, most Irish girls these days wear so much fake tan that there are pretty much none who actually have my own skin colour anyway

The only thing is, culturally, it'd probably be easier to go out with someone who grew up in your own country or has lived there for a long time, purely because you'd probably have more in common and more to talk about. On the other hand, I email my friend from Japan who I had a crush on in school all the time and because we're living in different countries we always have loads of stories to exchange, so maybe the different backgrounds thing wouldn't be a major stumbling block?

Anyone gone out with someone from a different culture long term, and how did it work out? Did you eventually run out of things to talk about or did the contrasting cultural background actually make conversations more interesting, even in the long run?

NoClues · 26-10-2013 01:42PM

I think it should be accepted that we can PREFER to date people of the same race as ourselves without being labelled a negro hating klansman

Chazz Michael Michaels · 26-10-2013 01:42PM

whirlpool wrote: »

No, I wouldn't strongly prefer to go out with someone of my own skin colour / racial ba.

I'd find it depressing if someone said yes to that. It'd make me see them as boring, dull, closed-minded. And although they probably don't mean to be, it'd make me think that deep down they're probably racist without really realising it or wanting to acknowledge it.

I'm not saying I'm right, but that's just how I'd feel about anyone who said yes to that question.

Each to their own................

So, you would make a massive judgement of a person for one piece of information, but each to their own?

What a contradictory post.

I prefer white girls with sallow skin, myself. Just my taste.

Heil Hitler! (ooooops)

BillyMitchel · 26-10-2013 01:47PM

hatrickpatrick wrote: »

Not really, one of the girls I was in school with and had a gigantic crush on was Japanese, there's a black girl in my class in college who I'd go out with in a heartbeat, and besides, most Irish girls these days wear so much fake tan that there are pretty much none who actually have my own skin colour anyway

The only thing is, culturally, it'd probably be easier to go out with someone who grew up in your own country or has lived there for a long time, purely because you'd probably have more in common and more to talk about. On the other hand, I email my friend from Japan who I had a crush on in school all the time and because we're living in different countries we always have loads of stories to exchange, so maybe the different backgrounds thing wouldn't be a major stumbling block?

Anyone gone out with someone from a different culture long term, and how did it work out? Did you eventually run out of things to talk about or did the contrasting cultural background actually make conversations more interesting, even in the long run?

Went out with a Korean for nearly 2 years. I lived there for a year and she came back with me. Never ran out of things to say or talk about. Was a gee hair away from getting married but due to unforeseen circumstances it wasn't to be. Still keep in touch and talk but yeah I remember it fondly. Had another Asian girlfriend before her too, few years younger so it was more a causal sex thing. Language was a big barrier here but we used it to our advantage and just had fun with it by trying to speak English/Korean.

I miss Korea

Frank Lee Midere · 26-10-2013 01:50PM

MagicMarker wrote: »

This is a question asked on a dating website I signed up to. And out of all the profiles I've viewed (a lot), 99% of the women say yes.

Tbh I find this very surprising. Is this just an Irish thing? I can't imagine such a high percentage of American women saying yes. Is this more cultural, rather than race?

I can't say how many men say yes, I don't look at those profiles.

Edit: Last word in title should be background.

Did you ask these people are just look at websites. From living in America I can tell you that American White women tend to ask for white, tall, and athletic.

KTRIC · 26-10-2013 01:54PM

My "type" so to speak could never be anything other than Caucasian. The things I find attractive just don't translate to other races.

losthorizon · 26-10-2013 01:54PM

rozeboosje wrote: »

Indeed - but those are features that people can, to some extend, choose to possess. I was born in The Netherlands to Dutch/Italian parents. I could have chosen to adopt a very stereotypically Dutch personality -

I dont see how you can choose to adopt your own personality!??

I dont think nations or people can be put into rigid boxes. Weve already seen the cops making a right **** up this week by thinking like that.

Frank Lee Midere · 26-10-2013 01:59PM

In any case pseudonymous posts on the Internet are meaningless. As is what people say. I've dated non-white twice, once very seriously but I don't care if other people don't. Some guys just like red heads. In fact you can't trust most people on this. A friend in the UK who is country posh is very PC. I remember having this very conversation with him and he tore strips off the non-PC answers. He then dumped his very white country posh girlfriend for another very white country posh girlfriend who he married.

I can't say he wouldn't ever have looked outside this narrow tribal and class range, but the fact is he didn't.

He protestsh too much methinks.

eisenberg1 · 26-10-2013 02:10PM

The Big Smoke wrote: »

I've only met a few but they were all pale and from talking to them (forget were they where from) the majority from their area are pale.

Northern Europe originally then.........:P

Grayson · 26-10-2013 02:12PM

If there were huge cultural differences I might be put off but to be honest I'd have to have a similar outlook on live to go out with someone. If they were that different the interest wouldn't be there.

For example I could imagine going out with an american, but not a bible bashing born again redneck who thinks Obama is kenyan.
Likewise I could easilly date an arab girl unless she felt that it was a sin for her not to wear a burka and for me not to have a 3ft beard.

Czarcasm · 26-10-2013 02:19PM

Frank Lee Midere wrote: »

In any case pseudonymous posts on the Internet are meaningless. As is what people say. I've dated non-white twice, once very seriously but I don't care if other people don't. Some guys just like red heads. In fact you can't trust most people on this. A friend in the UK who is country posh is very PC. I remember having this very conversation with him and he tore strips off the non-PC answers. He then dumped his very white country posh girlfriend for another very white country posh girlfriend who he married.

I can't say he wouldn't ever have looked outside this narrow tribal and class range, but the fact is he didn't.

He protestsh too much methinks.

I thought you were going to say "To make a point of how non-racist/bigoted etc he was, he went out with a fat black jewish transexual amputee in a wheelchair, etc" (think that covers all the bases?), because I've seen instances where people have gone out of their way to show how PC they are, as if it's more important to them to be seen to be PC, than it is for them to just enjoy the company of the person they're with.

TL;DR: They care more about their self-image of being seen as some all-encompassing, enlightened, liberal individual who's "better" or superior to everyone else, because they pretend to see no diversity in people, when in reality what they're doing is making it very obvious that they DO see a difference, and the more different the other person, the more self-superior they feel about themselves.

Dyr · 26-10-2013 02:21PM

"ill ride anything i can get! Deres yer answer!!"

beks101 · 26-10-2013 02:25PM

I honestly struggle to understand how a question like that on a dating site would work somewhere like a major northern American city, which is essentially a giant melting pot of different cultures, races and ethnicities.

I spent three years in Toronto where I dated maybe two caucasian men the entire time I was there - both Irish! The rest were typical Torontonians - Asian Canadian, Italian-Filipino-Canadian, part Jamaican-Chinese-English (see: RIDE)

Actually one of the first things that hit me when I got back was how "white" Ireland is and how comparatively, we are FAR from anything that could ever be described as a mixed race country - it's happening, but we're streets behind somewhere like Toronto, where you'll often be in the minority white population on a subway, in a mall etc.

So I guess in that context, a lot of people here will read "different skin colour/racial background" as "different / unusual / unfamiliar" altogether, as opposed to it just being a superficial appearance thing.

Pug160 · 26-10-2013 02:28PM

Frank Lee Midere wrote: »

In any case pseudonymous posts on the Internet are meaningless. As is what people say. I've dated non-white twice, once very seriously but I don't care if other people don't. Some guys just like red heads. In fact you can't trust most people on this. A friend in the UK who is country posh is very PC. I remember having this very conversation with him and he tore strips off the non-PC answers. He then dumped his very white country posh girlfriend for another very white country posh girlfriend who he married.

I can't say he wouldn't ever have looked outside this narrow tribal and class range, but the fact is he didn't.

He protestsh too much methinks.

I know a pretty decent way of telling who's genuine and who's putting on a facade by hiding behind false righteousness: if it's a man ask him if he'd have any problem with his daughter or future daughter going out with a black man. I will bet you my life savings that some of them will pause or stumble before they answer. Not all of course, but the fakes.

Santa Cruz · 26-10-2013 02:28PM

Stinicker wrote: »

I have a preference for Asian women, "once you go Asian you'll never go Caucasian"

If you try the black you'll never go back

Santa Cruz · 26-10-2013 02:28PM

eisenberg1 wrote: »

Canadian = pale skin?

Pale Skin has heap magic water.

Santa Cruz · 26-10-2013 02:30PM

Bambi wrote: »

"ill ride anything i can get! Deres yer answer!!"

To quote those great philopsophers Podge and Rodge

"Anything with a hole and a heartbeat"

Frank Lee Midere · 26-10-2013 02:36PM

beks101 wrote: »

I honestly struggle to understand how a question like that on a dating site would work somewhere like a major northern American city, which is essentially a giant melting pot of different cultures, races and ethnicities.

I spent three years in Toronto where I dated maybe two caucasian men the entire time I was there - both Irish! The rest were typical Torontonians - Asian Canadian, Italian-Filipino-Canadian, part Jamaican-Chinese-English (see: RIDE)

Actually one of the first things that hit me when I got back was how "white" Ireland is and how comparatively, we are FAR from anything that could ever be described as a mixed race country - it's happening, but we're streets behind somewhere like Toronto, where you'll often be in the minority white population on a subway, in a mall etc.

So I guess in that context, a lot of people here will read "different skin colour/racial background" as "different / unusual / unfamiliar" altogether, as opposed to it just being a superficial appearance thing.

We're not claiming to be a country of immigrants like most colonial countries and interior of Canada is very white.

You are also making the same mistake you accuse others of ,you say Ireland isn't multicultural because it's immigration is more recent but that makes it more multicultural not less. A Canadian City may have different ethnic groups but if they were there for generations they would be more Canadian than anything, closer to Canadian whites than recent polish immigrants are to the Irish.

My American gf was Chinese but totally American. I probably wouldn't have dated a Chinese girl off the boat. If I had met any.

Frank Lee Midere · 26-10-2013 02:38PM

But back to American dating sites - a cursory glance at the ones not behind firewalls will show plenty of racial discrimination.

Muise... · 26-10-2013 02:41PM

Bambi wrote: »

"ill ride anything i can get! Deres yer answer!!"

:eek:

hippos?

Frank Lee Midere · 26-10-2013 02:41PM

But back to American dating sites - a cursory glance at the ones not behind firewalls will show plenty of racial discrimination preference And generally athletic. And more often white.

Edit: I had a link but even if it wasn't fire walled I dont want to point to one person. Search craigslist personals and you will see plenty of racial preferences in American personals.

EDIT: in fact preferences for whites are probably not mentioned in Irish dating sites ( I haven't used one ) because it is assumed? In America it's more common.

And I say white advisedly. Lots of people in American personals have no preference but when a preference exists it's generally white regardless of the race of the poster.

Pug160 · 26-10-2013 02:45PM

beks101 wrote: »

I honestly struggle to understand how a question like that on a dating site would work somewhere like a major northern American city, which is essentially a giant melting pot of different cultures, races and ethnicities.

I spent three years in Toronto where I dated maybe two caucasian men the entire time I was there - both Irish! The rest were typical Torontonians - Asian Canadian, Italian-Filipino-Canadian, part Jamaican-Chinese-English (see: RIDE)

Actually one of the first things that hit me when I got back was how "white" Ireland is and how comparatively, we are FAR from anything that could ever be described as a mixed race country - it's happening, but we're streets behind somewhere like Toronto, where you'll often be in the minority white population on a subway, in a mall etc.

So I guess in that context, a lot of people here will read "different skin colour/racial background" as "different / unusual / unfamiliar" altogether, as opposed to it just being a superficial appearance thing.

It would work the same way it works everywhere else. Toronto is indeed a melting pot but there are obviously still Caucasian people there. Some men and women may just genuinely fancy fellow Caucasians more. It could possibly be a vanity thing sometimes. I've read that some people are just attracted to people who look similar. ''Superficial'' it may be, but not everyone has the same outlook.

Frank Lee Midere · 26-10-2013 02:52PM

Pug160 wrote: »

It would work the same way it works everywhere else. Toronto is a indeed a melting pot but there are obviously still Caucasian people there. Some men and women may just genuinely fancy fellow Caucasians more. It could possibly be a vanity thing sometimes. I've read that some people are just attracted to people who look similar. ''Superficial'' it may be, but not everyone has the same outlook.

Let's be Irish and say "white".

Czarcasm · 26-10-2013 02:54PM

Santa Cruz wrote: »

If you try the black you'll never go back

Well that's a load of shìte anyway. When you get down to that individual level, a person's skin color makes fcukall difference in the sack. Plenty of black people are shìte in the sack, the same as plenty of white people who like to get their freak on.

It's a stupid generalisation fuelled by a taboo is all, the "white chicks on black dicks" nonsense you'll find so prevalent in pornography, and pornography is no reflection of reality, well, not for those that know better at least.

Dyr · 26-10-2013 03:08PM

Muise... wrote: »

:eek:

hippos?

layve me alone willya!!

btard · 26-10-2013 03:24PM

Sir Gallagher wrote: »

I like my women like a like my coffee....sweet and weak.

I like my women like I like my coffee too. Hot and wet.

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