"Would you strongly prefer to go out with someone of your own skin colour / racial ba

MagicMarker

This is a question asked on a dating website I signed up to. And out of all the profiles I've viewed (a lot), 99% of the women say yes.

Tbh I find this very surprising. Is this just an Irish thing? I can't imagine such a high percentage of American women saying yes. Is this more cultural, rather than race?

I can't say how many men say yes, I don't look at those profiles.

Edit: Last word in title should be background.

diomed

racial ba?

Is this about black sheep?

DesperateDan

Yeah that question sure does sound pretty racist alright

Legs.Eleven

I'd have a preference for dark men from the dark-haired Irish man look to black.

Muise...

It's not exactly racist, given that sexual selection is the one area in which we should be discriminating.

However, you'd be an eejit to cut off so many options before they can even be presented to you.

Stinicker

I have a preference for Asian women, "once you go Asian you'll never go Caucasian"

Birroc

Prefer, yes.

Rule out, no.

I imagine Denzel or Beyonce would force rethink.

Frosty McSnowballs

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

I'd have a preference for dark men from the dark-haired Irish man look to black.

Aw yeah, discriminate against the Albino community.....you make me sick!

Birroc

Prefer, yes.

Rule out, no.

I imagine Denzel or Beyonce would force rethink.

BNMC

Yes. I don't fancy black women, I don't know why though.

IamtheWalrus

MagicMarker wrote: »

This is a question asked on a dating website I signed up to. And out of all the profiles I've viewed (a lot), 99% of the women say yes.

Fail to pull last night? Yea, me too.

Hande hoche!

Yep personal preference. Dem sexy redheads.

As an Irish woman I am more inclined towards asian / oriental looking men. I'd say women are saying that through some fear of predators so yeah that's probs racist. But also anyone is entitled to have their own preference...

The question itself is quite racist. If anything I think it should ask what race do you find most attractive. I don't see anything wrong with that. It's personal preference. Like I find green eyes really endearing. You should be able to say well actually I want the big black dee and people shouldnt take offence from it (though that may be kinda offensive but not in a racist way).

At the end of the day these sites are trying to find you your best match so you have to have room to be as honest as possible. But hey I'm ranting and frustrated because my porridge blew up in the microwave...

Muise...

Renee Melodic Wildflower wrote: »

As an Irish woman I am more inclined towards asian / oriental looking men. I'd say women are saying that through some fear of predators so yeah that's probs racist. But also anyone is entitled to have their own preference...

The question itself is quite racist. If anything I think it should ask what race do you find most attractive. I don't see anything wrong with that. It's personal preference. Like I find green eyes really endearing. You should be able to say well actually I want the big black dee and people should take offence from it (though that may be kinda offensive but not in a racist way).

At the end of the day these sites are trying to find you your best match so you have to have room to be as honest as possible. But hey I'm ranting and frustrated because my porridge blew up in the microwave...

I completely disagree!

You should always cook porridge on the stove.

Muise...

Muise... wrote: »

I completely disagree!

You should always cook porridge on the stove.

No. I loathe washing up. Though now I have to clean out the microwave.

diomed

Renee Melodic Wildflower wrote: »

But hey I'm ranting and frustrated because my porridge blew up in the microwave...

Two and a half minutes in a Pyrex jug is the way to roll.

diomed

diomed wrote: »

Two and a half minutes in a Pyrex jug is the way to roll.

THATS REVOLUTIONARY

Sir Gallagher

I like my women like a like my coffee....sweet and weak.

timthumbni

MagicMarker wrote: »

This is a question asked on a dating website I signed up to. And out of all the profiles I've viewed (a lot), 99% of the women say yes.

Tbh I find this very surprising. Is this just an Irish thing? I can't imagine such a high percentage of American women saying yes. Is this more cultural, rather than race?

I can't say how many men say yes, I don't look at those profiles.

Edit: Last word in title should be background.

That's nothing. Up here in Northern Ireland the first question would be:-

Would you prefer to meet someone from the same religion and/or terrorist grouping to yourself?

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Yes, not attracted at all to other ethnicities

Links234

Sir Gallagher wrote: »

I like my women like a like my coffee....sweet and weak.

I like my women like I like my coffee. Covered in bees.

Ihatecuddles-old

Okcupid :P

In fairness that website asks some mad questions, 'have you ever sniffed someones underwear?'

My answer is no by the way, wouldnt bother me in the slightest.

Hownowcow

No it's not racist. It's just a way of shortening the odds on your matches. They also ask if you would go out with someone who is carrying a few extra pounds.

In the search options, you can put in your preferences for age range, hair colour, height, religion etc.

Everyone has their own personal physical preferences or type. I have my own very specific physical type. I have however found that this goes out the window when I meet someone who has certain non-physical traits.

shruikan2553

Stinicker wrote: »

I have a preference for Asian women, "once you go Asian you'll never go Caucasian"

I now have a new saying! Although I prefer Korean and Japanese women to Chinese but I wouldn't say know to all 3 at the same time.

Do they also ask what do you like in a woman? Supposedly they dont see "my d***" as an appropriate answer.

StinkyMunkey

My preference is milky white skin, I don't like sallow or dark skin colour. Asian woman can be quiet attractive. I'm quiet partial to Japanese women.

Daveysil15

It's difficult enough to find a suitable partner without dismissing other races.

Muise...

StinkyMunkey wrote: »

My preference is milky white skin, I don't like sallow or dark skin colour. Asian woman can be quiet attractive. I'm quiet partial to Japanese women.

ah, the strong silent type.

Teyla Emmagan

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Yes, not attracted at all to other ethnicities

Me neither, mostly. I don't know why, it's kinda weird. I have never got women going on about gorgeous Spanish fellas, or whatever. The Javier Bardems etc of this world do nothing for me. I fancy pasty lookin' guys, with light eyes.

Most of the OK Cupid questions are pretty reasonable though, and I think that one is too. It's an instant way of filtering out half the site's users that you are realistically probably not going to go for.

Cienciano

Nothing wrong with the question really. OK, probably could have been phrased better. Do you prefer blondes or brunettes? Tall or short? Black or white?
I'm not really attracted to black or asian women myself.

Teyla Emmagan

Sir Gallagher wrote: »

I like my women like a like my coffee....sweet and weak.

You've come to the wrong place.

Blisterman

Cienciano wrote: »

Nothing wrong with the question really. OK, probably could have been phrased better. Do you prefer blondes or brunettes? Tall or short? Black or white?
I'm not really attracted to black or asian women myself.

The reason they phrase the question that way is so they can match people who answered the same way.

Otherwise it would match a white man who says he prefers black girls with a white girl who likes black guys.

BillyMitchel

Stinicker wrote: »

I have a preference for Asian women, "once you go Asian you'll never go Caucasian"

Thanks for that! My last proper relationship was with an Asian womaand always knew there had to be a saying.

Thing is though with back living in Ireland and if I go out with just a one night stand in mind chance are she'll be white, simply because its numbers and slightly easier.

Zero interest in a relationship these days but another nice Korean or Japaneese woman could easily twist my arm!

Am I racist?!

Ihatecuddles-old

BillyMitchel wrote: »

Thanks for that! My last proper relationship was with an Asian womaand always knew there had to be a saying.

Thing is though with back living in Ireland and if I go out with just a one night stand in mind chance are she'll be white, simply because its numbers and slightly easier.

Zero interest in a relationship these days but another nice Korean or Japaneese woman could easily twist my arm!

Am I racist?!

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Czarcasm

MagicMarker wrote: »

This is a question asked on a dating website I signed up to. And out of all the profiles I've viewed (a lot), 99% of the women say yes.

Tbh I find this very surprising. Is this just an Irish thing? I can't imagine such a high percentage of American women saying yes. Is this more cultural, rather than race?

I can't say how many men say yes, I don't look at those profiles.

Edit: Last word in title should be background.

It's just a question to whittle down your particular tastes is all, the same way one of the very first questions on it is used to whittle down which age bracket you're interested in. Nobody would suggest you were ageist if you were a 25 year old not interested in meeting sexagenarians!

rozeboosje

They should just re-phrase that question:

"Are you a racist"? And if anybody answers "yes" to that, match them up with a troll. An actual troll. I mean a mountain-dwelling mouth-breathing mythical giant. That'll learn 'em.

hfallada

Most African Americans in America marry other African Americans. Is that racist? No it's just they probably share a similar culture, back ground and religion.

I found most Irish people seriously struggle to live with other Europeans never mind some of a direct race/culture.

rozeboosje

hfallada wrote: »

I found most Irish people seriously struggle to live with other Europeans never mind some of a direct race/culture.

Hm. Can't say I have had that problem myself. I moved to Ireland in 1995. In those 18 years I have experienced maybe ONE incident in which somebody referred to me being a foreigner, and that was in a fit of road rage, so I don't think that that would count as "racist" or "xenophobic". I find the Irish more open-minded toward foreigners than the supposedly "liberal" Dutch people in my own home country.

Donkey Oaty

rozeboosje wrote: »

They should just re-phrase that question:

"Are you a racist"? And if anybody answers "yes" to that, match them up with a troll.

"Poppy-wearing Roma, obsessed with the McCanns, seeks similar"

Czarcasm

rozeboosje wrote: »

They should just re-phrase that question:

"Are you a racist"? And if anybody answers "yes" to that, match them up with a troll. An actual troll. I mean a mountain-dwelling mouth-breathing mythical giant. That'll learn 'em.

This is just silly. It's not racist to ask is it important to a person that the site narrows down as much as possible their ideal target partner that they'd like to date. Some people will prefer to date people they have more in common with, some people will be open to chance, taking a risk, maybe they might meet someone they have nothing in common with but they're open to new experiences. Some people just don't have time for that and would rather narrow down their options to people they know they'll have more chance of being attracted to.

Me? A pulse and a pair of tits, we'll get along just fine


Is it sexist to say I'm not open to dating men? :pac:

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

rozeboosje wrote: »

They should just re-phrase that question:

"Are you a racist"? And if anybody answers "yes" to that, match them up with a troll. An actual troll. I mean a mountain-dwelling mouth-breathing mythical giant. That'll learn 'em.

Why would you be a racist because you're not attracted to certain people? I find some men of a certain skin colour pull the race card on a night out, I've had it happen twice. Something along the lines of, "can I have your number" "no, sorry", which would be met with a suggestion of me being racist. People can think what they like tbh but personally ill never be under accompliment to date anyone I'm not attracted to, just because its the PC thing to do.

nacho libre

I find some black women very attractive. Also some Indian women are stunning.
I'll date a person of any race, but i do have a preference for women with dark skin and yummy brown eyes- though many of these women would be classed as being from the same race, this is just my personal preference. I pity the person who might find a woman of a different race to be very attractive, but because of his/her views on race won't do anything about it.

rozeboosje

In that case wouldn't it suffice to ask whether you'd prefer it if people were physically similar to yourself? Why focus on "skin colour" which is such a minor physical attribute? And I'm not buying the concept of "race" at all. There is ONE race: the human race.

BillyMitchel

Who ever started this thread should sign up to that really big racist right wing scum site (forget the name) and ask the same question! Their responses to mixed race relationships is so bad it's funny.

Oranage2

They should be more discrete they should say - How do you like your coffee

A White
B big and black

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

rozeboosje wrote: »

In that case wouldn't it suffice to ask whether you'd prefer it if people were physically similar to yourself? Why focus on "skin colour" which is such a minor physical attribute? And I'm not buying the concept of "race" at all. There is ONE race: the human race.

It's not just skin colour. Different entinicities have different features, which to me would also be off putting. Also, I'd find someone that was hard to understand (broken English or a strong Irish accent I couldn't really understand clearly, it doesn't matter) absolutely head wrecking to listen to day in day out.

I do agree with an above poster that some Indian women are absolutely stunning, and if I were a man tbh I'd probably be more into them than an Irish girl, however I'm not a lesbian so it doesn't apply to me.

Cd_doe

rozeboosje wrote: »

They should just re-phrase that question:

"Are you a racist"? And if anybody answers "yes" to that, match them up with a troll. An actual troll. I mean a mountain-dwelling mouth-breathing mythical giant. That'll learn 'em.

It's nothing to do with being a racist...
It's asking what do you prefer...
That's a big difference to "do you hate any race"

For example you may like redheads. That doesn't mean you hate blondes

wp_rathead

Sir Gallagher wrote: »

I like my women like a like my coffee....sweet and weak.

I like my women like I like my milk....a mistake

rozeboosje

LexieOnRale wrote: »

It's not just skin colour. Different entinicities have different features, ....

Indeed - but those are features that people can, to some extend, choose to possess. I was born in The Netherlands to Dutch/Italian parents. I could have chosen to adopt a very stereotypically Dutch personality - whatever that is - or Italian, or "cosmopolitan", or whatever else. I can decide to rigorously conform to some religious or cultural makeup I decide is important to me, or to "do as the Romans do" and blend in seamlessly. And it's OK for people to like or dislike me based on the choices I make. No problem with that. But a person's skin colour? That's just idiotic.

rozeboosje

Cd_doe wrote: »

For example you may like redheads. That doesn't mean you hate blondes

Certainly. But you'd be quite the moron if you decided you wouldn't even consider dating a man or woman for no other reason than that their hair is yellow.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

rozeboosje wrote: »

But a person's skin colour? That's just idiotic.

No it isn't. People are into different things, and find different things attractive. I personally have yet to meet a black man I find attractive, for example. I certainly wouldn't want someone to date me when they didn't find me attractive, or because they felt compelled to date me just because I was different.

I'm pretty sure men would be the same, no?

What about Kanye West? He hates white women, does anyone give a crap? Maybe Taylor swift, but I doubt anyone else does.

rozeboosje

LexieOnRale wrote: »

I personally have yet to meet a black man I find attractive, for example.

[... backs away slowly.]

[shudders]