Are you consciously aware of your surroundings?

conorhal · 24-10-2013 11:38AM

Deleted User wrote: »

Oh god, I didn't meant to bring out the rant in folk :pac:

I recently said "you're welcome" to a woman who I had gotten completely out of the way for while another lady held the door for her to push her buggy through. If there are three people walking together and taking up the width of the path, I have started to just stop to allow them go around me, rather than stepping off the kerb or pushing my way through. It's funny how sometimes they'll not even have noticed you at all but manage to avoid knocking you over!

I don't know if I only notice it because I'm extra aware, and if I'm extra aware because I see that it's frustrating when you're not. But I don't know whether these people are rude or not.

It should be in no way illegal to drop the middle one with a crotch kick as you shove their mate nearest the curb into oncomming trafic and then walk over the prone body of middle git, leaving both of them as a harsh life lesson in manners for their remaining numpty friend.
People like that infuriate me.

Mince Pie · 24-10-2013 11:39AM

Butterface wrote: »

People who exit buildings and then just stand on the other side of the door blocking it.. argh! It seems that some people just do not take in their surroundings at all.

Or stopping at the bottom of an escalator! Why do people do that?? :mad:

Fox_In_Socks · 24-10-2013 11:40AM

Czarcasm wrote: »

One of the things people used wonder about was how could I see where I was going when I'd my head stuck in the phone, and to "trick" me they used think it was heeeelarious altogether to suddenly stand directly in my path as I'd be walking, thinking I'd bump into them. They couldn't figure how I was able to walk around them with my head still buried in the phone.

Who were these people that were trying to figure this out? If it was strangers, then no, I don't think they cared that much about some guy on a phone.:pac:

Czarcasm · 24-10-2013 11:41AM

Deleted User wrote: »

If there are three people walking together and taking up the width of the path, I have started to just stop to allow them go around me, rather than stepping off the kerb or pushing my way through. It's funny how sometimes they'll not even have noticed you at all but manage to avoid knocking you over!

This happens an awful lot when I'm collecting my son from school - people just barge out the gate when you're trying to make your way in, I just stand to one side and let them out. You'd nearly swear the school had gotten a bomb threat the way some parents will squeeze and crowd their children through a gate that's only two foot wide just to get out, no sense of order!

There's a couple of schools and a college up around the area and one time when I was walking up to the school, there was a bunch of about twenty girls in front of me, so I was just casually walking along behind them, when next thing I got a weird feeling and looked behind me and there was another twenty girls behind me, both groups beginning to bunch so I had to cross the road to make some space for myself.

I was rightly freaked out

Khannie · 24-10-2013 11:42AM

Deleted User wrote: »

I notice some people don't say thank you or even attempt to take the door from you when they're walking through it.

I like to play a game I call "catch the door - will it be your hand or your face?" with these people.

24-10-2013 11:43AM

:pac:

I can feel the bloody boiling

Don't get me wrong, I know you never know what kind of a day someone is having, or what news they've just had etc and so there will be times in all our lives that we are "in another world" but even then, I don't think I would forget to say thank you to someone.

Also - the fact that I notice the ones are "rude" must mean there are fewer of them than the nice people so we're not lost just yet!

Czarcasm · 24-10-2013 11:44AM

Fox_In_Socks wrote: »

Who were these people that were trying to figure this out? If it was strangers, then no, I don't think they cared that much about some guy on a phone.:pac:

No they were people I used work with before, their thinking was that I couldn't be looking where I was going when I was on the phone with my head down. My eyesight isn't great anyway but I can still see where I'm going!

Birroc · 24-10-2013 11:44AM

Knex. wrote: »

I should have known that

Knew it seemed familiar, yet somehow thought he made it up.

Giving people far too much credit :pac:

Don't call me "people" or I will stab you with a Bic biro.

Yamanoto · 24-10-2013 11:50AM

I was queueing to exit customs in the baggage claim area of JFK last week & the chap in fronts wheelie case toppled backwards & hit the floor. I grabbed the handle and lifted it back to him. The asshat took it & simply turned back around without a word.

He received the standard 'you're welcome' from me.

Some folks are just odd I guess.

danniemcq · 24-10-2013 11:52AM

awww i thought you meant Sherlock style.

I think i'm the same though. And I also think most people are rude in those situations you described. There are the exceptions but they are easy to spot they look dozey instead of trying to look dozey.

I also think playing games has affected me in a good way. I notice little things that others miss i feel thanks to FPS games, feel more aware of my surroundings and have better reactions. Also don't jump as nearly as much to loud unexpected noises because it happens so much i nearly expect them now.

My love of stratagy games however often sees me considering the big picture a lot more when i hear of events. the whole cause and effect thing i guess. I can understand for example the greater good in essence and sacrifice, lose a battle win a war etc.

But then again most people could see it that way or maybe not maybe its nothing to do with video games and its all just me and an odd way of thinking.

Merkin · 24-10-2013 11:52AM

Me and Mr. Merkin are acutely aware of our surroundings and other people. Opening doors for people, not causing an obstruction on the sidewalk, being aware of the need for personal space.....all very basic things I would have thought. We've just come to the conclusion that most other people are a. pig sh1t ignorant and b. so very far up their own arses to not even be conscious of other people and their surroundings.

I've been reading this thread nodding my head at other people's annoyance too. I just don't get how people can be so doggedly unaware and ignorant. Grrrrrr! :mad:

Badly Drunk Boy · 24-10-2013 12:15PM

I reckon I'm fairly consciously aware of my surroundings. I'd normally be good at weaving in and out, moving quickly through a busy street, even though I'm a fairly sturdy 6'5". I hate when people meander, especially in supermarkets, and those who have their trolleys on one side of the aisle, and while holding on to it, browse on the other side of the aisle.

On the other side of it, I've often scared people who aren't very aware of their surroundings. In spite of my size, I am light of foot and have often made people jump by just appearing behind them or even in front of them. The fact that I always wear black adds to the effect.

24-10-2013 12:17PM

If I am at a bar, and there is a person who has been there longer, I would always tell the barman to serve them first. Inevitably you will be served straight away after because the barman remembers that you were not being a dick - so both of you get served in a reasonable amount of time whereas if you didn't do that, the other person might still be there 10 minutes later if the place is busy enough. Perhaps that just makes me stupid for not only looking out for number 1!

Edit: I should clarify, I meant this more as a "I notice if there is someone before me at the bar and act accordingly, rather than "OMFG I'm deadly at being nice to everyone".

Maximus Alexander · 24-10-2013 12:21PM

Deleted User wrote: »

I'm very aware of them.

Yep, you could have been describing me in that post. I'm exactly the same as you, very good peripheral awareness.

It always baffles me when I see people stumbling around looking like they're in another world, walking at 1mph down busy streets and not in a straight line whilst seemingly sober. Not knowing where a queue begins or ends. Not holding doors for people who are right behind them, and so on.

I always assume they must have an awful lot on their mind.

Czarcasm · 24-10-2013 12:24PM

Badly Drunk Boy wrote: »

On the other side of it, I've often scared people who aren't very aware of their surroundings. In spite of my size, I am light of foot and have often made people jump by just appearing behind them or even in front of them. The fact that I always wear black adds to the effect.

I accidentally gave a chap a static shock when he went to do that to me one time. He was intending to give me a start, when suddenly I heard him turn the air blue behind me, wasn't my fault

24-10-2013 12:28PM

danniemcq wrote: »

I also think playing games has affected me in a good way..

Yeah, nailed that basketball/gorilla video!
:cool:

I think I usually am aware. Especially when trying to navigate a path through crowds of people when walking. Or if someone is nearby when I want to take out my phone. Sometimes I'm off in la la land though. Or insanely tired which makes me clumsy which probably seems like I'm being dopey, but no, just clumsy.

OldNotWIse · 24-10-2013 12:29PM

No, world of my own. Friends constantly ringing me saying, "eh wtf? I was calling you and waving at you the other day and you didn't see me?"

AnonoBoy · 24-10-2013 12:32PM

Senor Fancy Pants wrote: »

Although, I did walk into a pole while pissed once and a tramp laughed at me.

But you noticed the tramp and that's the main thing.

malkmoose · 24-10-2013 12:34PM

Deleted User wrote: »

If I am at a bar, and there is a person who has been there longer, I would always tell the barman to serve them first. Inevitably you will be served straight away after because the barman remembers that you were not being a dick - so both of you get served in a reasonable amount of time whereas if you didn't do that, the other person might still be there 10 minutes later if the place is busy enough. Perhaps that just makes me stupid for not only looking out for number 1!

I have a slight variation on this queue etiquette.

I went to a burrito place with my friend for lunch about an hour ago, there was a group of 3 ahead of us and a group of 2 behind us. Its a casual enough place where people get both take out and sit down with the burrito.

Two tables left in the restaurant, one of the guys behind us cops on to this and goes to sit at the last available table. What is the social etiquette here? I confronted him and he had some weak excuse, eventually he apologised and shared the table with us. Is the table fair game or was he being a dick?

FloatingVoter · 24-10-2013 12:38PM

Dipsticks glued to their earphones while texting and blocking the pavement at the same time. Makes me glad Dublin has so many violent muggers to help them out with their day.

krudler · 24-10-2013 12:40PM

Deleted User wrote: »

If I am at a bar, and there is a person who has been there longer, I would always tell the barman to serve them first. Inevitably you will be served straight away after because the barman remembers that you were not being a dick - so both of you get served in a reasonable amount of time whereas if you didn't do that, the other person might still be there 10 minutes later if the place is busy enough. Perhaps that just makes me stupid for not only looking out for number 1!

Edit: I should clarify, I meant this more as a "I notice if there is someone before me at the bar and act accordingly, rather than "OMFG I'm deadly at being nice to everyone".

Same, bugs the crap out of me when people just shove their way to the bar and get served straight away, one of the places we go has a great barman who constantly checks who's in front of him and serves them in order not the first person who is in his line of sight like so many other barstaff.

24-10-2013 12:40PM

malkmoose wrote: »

I have a slight variation on this queue etiquette.

I went to a burrito place with my friend for lunch about an hour ago, there was a group of 3 ahead of us and a group of 2 behind us. Its a casual enough place where people get both take out and sit down with the burrito.

Two tables left in the restaurant, one of the guys behind us cops on to this and goes to sit at the last available table. What is the social etiquette here? I confronted him and he had some weak excuse, eventually he apologised and shared the table with us. Is the table fair game or was he being a dick?

Important question:

Was it bujoom?

Maximus Alexander · 24-10-2013 12:41PM

Deleted User wrote: »

If I am at a bar, and there is a person who has been there longer, I would always tell the barman to serve them first. Inevitably you will be served straight away after because the barman remembers that you were not being a dick - so both of you get served in a reasonable amount of time whereas if you didn't do that, the other person might still be there 10 minutes later if the place is busy enough. Perhaps that just makes me stupid for not only looking out for number 1!

Edit: I should clarify, I meant this more as a "I notice if there is someone before me at the bar and act accordingly, rather than "OMFG I'm deadly at being nice to everyone".

I do this too! And you're dead right, you're guaranteed to get served next and sometimes the bar man will serve you quickly for the whole night afterwards if they remember. It's nice to be nice.

malkmoose · 24-10-2013 12:46PM

Deleted User wrote: »

Important question:

Was it bujoom?

No, a smaller version of bujoom but same style called Cholo (in helsinki).

2 counter tops and 5 tables.

danniemcq · 24-10-2013 12:51PM

Deleted User wrote: »

If I am at a bar, and there is a person who has been there longer, I would always tell the barman to serve them first. Inevitably you will be served straight away after because the barman remembers that you were not being a dick - so both of you get served in a reasonable amount of time whereas if you didn't do that, the other person might still be there 10 minutes later if the place is busy enough. Perhaps that just makes me stupid for not only looking out for number 1!

Edit: I should clarify, I meant this more as a "I notice if there is someone before me at the bar and act accordingly, rather than "OMFG I'm deadly at being nice to everyone".

Thank you for this, its one thing that gets on my nerves when i'm at the bar for ages and ignored. I always make a point of pointing out if someone was there before me.

But sure you being so hot anyway it can't take you long to get served by the male bar staff anyway?

bluewolf wrote: »

Yeah, nailed that basketball/gorilla video!
:cool:

I think I usually am aware. Especially when trying to navigate a path through crowds of people when walking. Or if someone is nearby when I want to take out my phone. Sometimes I'm off in la la land though. Or insanely tired which makes me clumsy which probably seems like I'm being dopey, but no, just clumsy.

had love that gorilla video, location and navigation is also something i constantly notice. I always find my way i might have to make a tiny detour or retrace my steps but not often and even when i do its not by much.

malkmoose wrote: »

I have a slight variation on this queue etiquette.

I went to a burrito place with my friend for lunch about an hour ago, there was a group of 3 ahead of us and a group of 2 behind us. Its a casual enough place where people get both take out and sit down with the burrito.

Two tables left in the restaurant, one of the guys behind us cops on to this and goes to sit at the last available table. What is the social etiquette here? I confronted him and he had some weak excuse, eventually he apologised and shared the table with us. Is the table fair game or was he being a dick?

This is a tough one, if there is a large group of people then i usually don't mind someone grabbing a seat (mind you usually i'm on my own. The thing is takeaways or food places especially later on in the evening/night are a clusterf*ck and all bets are off.

If i'm sitting on my own and see some group looking around I offer the rest of the table to them. Way to often have I seen a single person sitting at a table and a group are left standing

24-10-2013 12:51PM

Maximus Alexander wrote: »

It's nice to be nice.

Bette than that., it's easy to be nice!

malkmoose wrote: »

No, a smaller version of bujoom but same style called Cholo (in helsinki).

2 counter tops and 5 tables.

Ok we were going to fall out if it was bujoom because of jealousy, but now you've thrown Helsinki into the mix I don't think we can be friends any more

wolfmoon87 · 24-10-2013 12:56PM

malkmoose wrote: »

I have a slight variation on this queue etiquette.

I went to a burrito place with my friend for lunch about an hour ago, there was a group of 3 ahead of us and a group of 2 behind us. Its a casual enough place where people get both take out and sit down with the burrito.

Two tables left in the restaurant, one of the guys behind us cops on to this and goes to sit at the last available table. What is the social etiquette here? I confronted him and he had some weak excuse, eventually he apologised and shared the table with us. Is the table fair game or was he being a dick?

Deleted User wrote: »

Important question:

Was it bujoom?

I was in Boojum last night when part of a group who were in the queue went over and nabbed an empty table for their group.
One of the servers went over and told them they couldn't do that.

danniemcq · 24-10-2013 12:57PM

heh looking through the thread again the next beers are going to be the friendliest ever.

No you were here first I insist you get served before me,

no no no you first look my mate just got us a table so you get a drink so you get a table before it fills up

ok but i'll hold the door for you, no i'll hold the door for you

simonsays1 · 24-10-2013 01:04PM

DeVore wrote: »

If I hold the door open for someone (and I do it for both genders) ... and they dont so much as acknowledge me, I shout "Hey don't mention it" at them to get their attention and then "oh yeah... thats right, you didnt" when they turn around.
It drives me loopy when people are just rude like that and I hate to say it but my empirical experience is that its usually middle aged women who just breeze through like they are entitled to it (sorry!).

Hey I do the same except I say 'you're very welcome!' in a happy tone. This gives the people who genuinely forgot to say it, a chance to
and for the rude bastards, the happy tone just pisses them off. Ha

90% people are v thankful must be said

Geomy · 24-10-2013 01:12PM

Similar happens in the line up in the surf scene, guy's dropping into waves all the time.
Never letting anyone else get a chance, lately I started to sit closer or sit maybe 10 yards in front and just take it anyway, being on a bodyboard it makes it easier to bail out on time. ..

Are you consciously aware of your surroundings?

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