How do you get on with your parents

Legs.Eleven · 16-10-2013 10:57PM

Mam dead but get on well with my dad but am only home a few times a year, so don't see him much/enough. We didn't get along great in my teens and early 20s but do now that we've both copped on a bit and realised we're both only human. Love hanging out with him now - he's a very funny man and we have a laugh together. He misses me a lot and always tells me he wish I'd come home, which is a bit of a killer. Kind of feel like I should be there now as he gets older but I don't really have that choice, unfortunately.

-I also get on very well with my stepmam and always did; she's one of my best mates, which is nice.

Vote 4 Pedro · 16-10-2013 10:59PM

My parents split up when i was 3, i was brought up in care homes and with foster parents, no loss really as i can't remember them much,
but i do get along very well with my wife's parents, there sound enough.

16-10-2013 11:02PM

They're good people, but I wont be sad to see them go.

wandatowell · 16-10-2013 11:04PM

I always got on fantastically well with my folks. Up until say 12 months ago I never gave my relationship with them a second thought.

When I did eventually take a few minutes and thought about them I realized that they were the greatest gift I have ever received. There just isn't two more loving, kind, caring and thoughtful people in the world.

Everything they have ever done was for me and my 2 sisters, every bit of advice was on the button.

Tbh I am very very proud of them.

MurdyWurdy · 16-10-2013 11:05PM

They are awesome, they do so much for me and my brother and I genuinely enjoy spending time with them. I ring them for a chat almost every day. I'm also off on holidays with them next week (plus my husband and baby) - I can't wait!

I hope I have a similar relationship with my children when I'm older. Obviously they do drive me mad sometimes too, of course.

Zen65 · 16-10-2013 11:05PM

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

I used to be his little girl, now every time he looks at me I can genuinely see hate in his eyes.

Y'know, if he was the kind of man who posted here, he'd probably tell you that the look in his eyes is not hate, it's grieving for the loss of his little girl. I know I feel that way about my own daughter - we get on very well, but she has grown up into a fairly independent teen and I do miss the little girl that used to live here.

As for my own parents, they're both very much dead. My father died when I was a child so I have no 'adult' memories of him. We got on alright though. My mother was more difficult, and was socially awkward from when she became a widow. If anything, their early passing has taught me the importance of maintaining good relations with friends and family.

Love2love · 16-10-2013 11:06PM

true-or-false wrote: »

They're good people, but I wont be sad to see them go.

:eek:

Mr. CooL ICE · 16-10-2013 11:07PM

Jaysus. It isn't until reading threads like this that I realise how lucky I am.

They're both decent, hard working people on the verge of enjoying their retirements together. I don't really have much in common with my dad, but still get on anyway. I got my twisted sense of humour from my mother which is why every offensive joke I hear is immediately forwarded to her.

wolfpawnat · 16-10-2013 11:07PM

true-or-false wrote: »

They're good people, but I wont be sad to see them go.

It will affect me in no way for mine to go. I don't wish them harm, but I genuinely won't care.

whirlpool · 16-10-2013 11:08PM

I have a pretty great relationship with my parents.

It makes me sad when I think of children (young or grown) who haven't had loving parents. It's pretty sad.

Zen65 · 16-10-2013 11:08PM

true-or-false wrote: »

They're good people, but I wont be sad to see them go.

Yes, you will. Despite everything, the realisation that you are now on your own, without a parent, is something that brings a very different focus to your life. Neither my wife nor I have any living parents, and when that day arrives it stirs up emotions you never knew you had.

Be at peace.

Z

Sunnyisland · 16-10-2013 11:10PM

BoardsMember wrote: »

Yeah I am pretty much the same with mine, though my mum did say it a lot to me too....often after downing a bottle of whisky or two, but they say the truth comes out with drink.....dont they...???:eek::eek:

Bit of topic
Alcohol isn't a truth serum, But some people do reveal some of their inner feelings, and some just talk drunk garbage that they neither actually feel and may not actually remember when they sober up.
Don't know wether that helps or not:o

MurdyWurdy · 16-10-2013 11:11PM

God, I really feel incredibly lucky after reading the other spots. Sorry to hear some of you had/are having a ****ty time of it.

Family is a wonderful blessing, if you get a good one. I know from friends what a curse it can be if you don't.

whirlpool · 16-10-2013 11:11PM

true-or-false wrote: »

They're good people, but I wont be sad to see them go.

Zen65 wrote: »

Yes, you will. Despite everything, the realisation that you are now on your own, without a parent, is something that brings a very different focus to your life. Neither my wife nor I have any living parents, and when that day arrives it stirs up emotions you never knew you had.

Be at peace.

Z

If he says he won't be, then take him at his word. I'm fairly sure he knows his own mind.

Raminahobbin · 16-10-2013 11:20PM

My mam is my best friend, she's fantastic. Our relationship has gotten stronger in the last 2 years especially.

My dad...is a different story. :mad:

Crooked Jack · 16-10-2013 11:24PM

It was tense there for a loch of years with my da when i was younger, but he's mellowed with age and i've copped on a bit.
theyre great people but ill be glad to get to canada and get away from them for a while. Livin at home at 27 is not ideal

JenEffy · 16-10-2013 11:25PM

My parents are nice people, and I do get on with them most of the time, but we never discuss anything real and that has damaged me quite a bit. They're very sheltered people as well, e.g. when I was younger I asked my mam if they lived together before they got married and she was shocked at the idea. One time we were watching Friends and she tried to convince me that people don't have multiple partners in real life, like they do on the show. Both of them can be pretty judgmental. My dad met a semi-famous tattoo artist and was shocked that the guy didn't drink or smoke - he expected him to be a drug addict. My sisters have turned out to be very naive and sheltered people like my parents, which will be a problem for them I suppose. I can't judge my parents too much, though, because I wouldn't have a clue how to raise kids without messing them up.

WoollyRedHat · 16-10-2013 11:29PM

My father was a relentlessly self-improving boulangerie owner from Belgium with low grade narcolepsy and a penchant for buggery. My mother was a fifteen year old French prostitute named Chloe with webbed feet.

My father would womanize, he would drink, he would make outrageous claims like he invented the question mark.

Some times he would accuse chestnuts of being lazy, the sort of general malaise that only the genius possess and the insane lament.
My childhood was typical, summers in Rangoon, luge lessons. In the spring we'd make meat helmets. When I was insolent I was placed in a burlap bag and beaten with reeds, pretty standard really.

Gee_G · 16-10-2013 11:30PM

Both my parents are two of the best, honest, reliable, caring people. I speak to them/ see them every day. Not only have they raised myself and my siblings and given us the best life we could have asked for (we were by no means well off but never wanted for anything)but they have also now started fostering. They are amazing!! Rather then kicking back enjoying retirement, they are now helping other children in need of a good home.

MJ23 · 16-10-2013 11:32PM

"When you have your mother, treasure her with care, for you'll never know her value til you see her empty chair"

wolfpawnat · 16-10-2013 11:33PM

Okay, getting seriously depressed at the two rejects I got caught with. But then again it is nice to know some people have nice parents

fedor.2. · 16-10-2013 11:34PM

lufties wrote: »

sorry for your loss, and that this thread title brought it up, wasn't intended that way.

Ah you're grand, they had it coming.

16-10-2013 11:39PM

Zen65 wrote: »

Yes, you will. Despite everything, the realisation that you are now on your own, without a parent, is something that brings a very different focus to your life. Neither my wife nor I have any living parents, and when that day arrives it stirs up emotions you never knew you had.

Maybe you're not self-aware enough to know how you feel, but I am.

Many people say stuff like that to me when parents come up in conversation, mistaking my indifference for anger or misplaced teen-angst that's followed me into adulthood. It's not. I've spoken to my mother about it actually and she said she felt the same about her mother (who is dead now, and no, it didn't suddenly change her feelings). There's no animosity in my family, but there's also no connection or sentiment.

And when my parents do die, no, I will NOT be alone.

Muise... · 16-10-2013 11:40PM

wolfpawnat wrote: »

Okay, getting seriously depressed at the two rejects I got caught with. But then again it is nice to know some people have nice parents

you turned out nice despite that, fair play to you.

forgotten password · 16-10-2013 11:41PM

i named my daughter after my mother:D

if by immacualte conception i have another child, i'll name it after papa:D (michael/michaela)

wolfpawnat · 16-10-2013 11:41PM

Muise... wrote: »

you turned out nice despite that, fair play to you.

In many ways, their lack of parenting taught me what not to do! Though some days I see them in me, so I do what I can to change it. I would just like to have a mum and dad, not a mother and father, you know?

delw · 16-10-2013 11:43PM

Father died 16 years ago,still miss him alot,we got on great,see my mother every day.
Once they are gone that's it so IMO if you have a good relationship with them make the most of it

dark crystal · 16-10-2013 11:45PM

Mysteriouschic wrote: »

Well me and my mum are the complete opposite so we constantly argue. My mum is one of those people who is always right and gets annoyed over the littlest of things. We have completely different opinions on everything so it's frustrating having conversations and you can never try and explain your view well enough as it's never right. I generally don't talk to my mum that much anymore just the basic how are you etc.
I get on okay with my dad as he's easygoing so it's good.

This is pretty much the same as me.

My mother is the classic passive aggressive, always a criticism wrapped up as an opinion. I only talk to her if it's really necessary as we just don't see eye to eye and I always feel a little worse about myself after seeing her.

I also resent the fact she's quite selfish and has very little interest in her grandchildren - she always forgets their birthdays and then will call a week or so later and scold me saying, "Why didn't you remind me?" Like I should have to!

My father is laid back enough, but we were never really close.

kitty3kids · 16-10-2013 11:48PM

Raminahobbin wrote: »

My mam is my best friend, she's fantastic. Our relationship has gotten stronger in the last 2 years especially.

My dad...is a different story. :mad:

Same here mam is brilliant always there for me and my sisters no matter what.

As for my dad he's an alcoholic drug addicted selfish man! I haven't seen or spoken to him in nearly 3 years and I have no desire to in the future either!

Howard Juneau · 16-10-2013 11:48PM

I had a fcked up childhood. Didn't see my mother from the age of 4 until the day she was buried 36 years later.
My father saved me, literally.

How do you get on with your parents

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