How do you get on with your parents

lufties · 16-10-2013 10:15PM #1

I find as I get older I get frustrated at how they sometimes seem oblivious to the modern world, and hold narrow old school views on things, but of course love and respect them also and we get on. Though I find I have to hold my tongue a fair bit though when expressing my opinion as it may not be conservative enough.

Anyone else have a similar view/feeling?

Ace Attorney · 16-10-2013 10:16PM

nah i get on well with my auld man hes my my best friend, the auld queen tho, she is a bit of a pain in the hole

Ihatecuddles-old · 16-10-2013 10:17PM

My parents don't understand my depression. It angers and frustrates them, they think its some sort of made up illness. That hurts, other than that I get on well with my mam, my dad just thinks Im crazy and treats me like a piece of crap, cant remember the last time he said something to me that wasnt horrible and nasty.

Ah well.

fedor.2. · 16-10-2013 10:18PM

Their both dead, thanks for bringing it up.

pharmaton · 16-10-2013 10:18PM

well enough especially the dead one

lufties · 16-10-2013 10:19PM

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

My parents don't understand my depression. It angers and frustrates them, they think its some sort of made up illness. That hurts, other than that I get on well with my mam, my dad just thinks Im crazy and treats me like a piece of crap, cant remember the last time he said something to me that wasnt horrible and nasty.

Ah well.

jesus sorry to hear that, Did you try talk to him?

fedor.2. · 16-10-2013 10:19PM

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

My parents don't understand my depression. It angers and frustrates them, they think its some sort of made up illness. That hurts, other than that I get on well with my mam, my dad just thinks Im crazy and treats me like a piece of crap, cant remember the last time he said something to me that wasnt horrible and nasty.

Ah well.

Sorry to hear that

lufties · 16-10-2013 10:22PM

fedor.2. wrote: »

Their both dead, thanks for bringing it up.

sorry for your loss, and that this thread title brought it up, wasn't intended that way.

16-10-2013 10:24PM

Extremely well I'd be on the phone to one of them most days, stay at home regularly and would intend on living beside or at least near home in the future.

SV · 16-10-2013 10:25PM

great with my mother, my father thinks he's my hero(he self appointed himself that) I haven't spoke to him in years. Cannot stand the man and I'm ashamed to call him my father.

TheCoolWay · 16-10-2013 10:26PM

They refuse to get broadband its 'its a money racket' yet want a tablet for christmas. That sums up my relationship with them.. you're always wrong

martyoo · 16-10-2013 10:27PM

My parents don't understand my depression. It angers and frustrates them, they think its some sort of made up illness. That hurts, other than that I get on well with my mam, my dad just thinks Im crazy and treats me like a piece of crap, cant remember the last time he said something to me that wasnt horrible and nasty.

Ah well.

Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately it's a familiar story.

I know you hate cuddles.... but

Seachmall · 16-10-2013 10:27PM

Get on better with my father than anyone else, love my mother as long as we avoid engaging in any conversation that's longer than 5 minutes.

SomethingElse · 16-10-2013 10:30PM

For a moment I thought the thread title read
How do you get it on with your parents?

Such an anti-climax when I had a closer look.

wolfpawnat · 16-10-2013 10:30PM

I have a raving alcoholic for a father who walked out on me when I was four and only wants a relationship with me now I am above the age he has to pay maintenance for and because I have kids, so he thinks he can swan in now to be part of their lives without bothering to be part of mine.

My mother is a paranoid sociopath incapable of loving anything but herself and made me rear myself and my sister. She made up lies about me to my friends and tried to get a GP to refer me for psych treatment because I said I was leaving home to study nursing.

So here I am, no family and rearing two kids without any support from the,. But tbh, as lonely as it gets, I prefer it this way considering what my alternatives are.

I would love nothing more than good parents, but not everyone gets them. What can you do?

Sunnyisland · 16-10-2013 10:31PM

Get on great with my mother and also when he was alive my father,good people both of them.

Vinz Mesrine · 16-10-2013 10:32PM

They're both around but I don't really talk to them. I don't share an interest in anything with either of them, that's not to say we ignore each other, we all just get on better with other people.

tim3000 · 16-10-2013 10:34PM

Haven't spoke a civil word to my mother in 2 years. Hate her (as does the rest of the family) Get on great with my dad (as does the rest of the family:pac:)

mewe · 16-10-2013 10:34PM

Get on great with my folks. Can chat to them about anythin. Sound ould heads in fairness the pair of them.

ruaille buaille · 16-10-2013 10:38PM

Never really got along with my parents when I was younger but thought at the time I was just a moody teenager and was taking things out on them. (probably cause thats what they told me I was doing). Now that Im an adult I realize that they were wrong and were never really there for me when I needed them.
I have a very distant relationship with them now. Just call to them every now and then and for events etc. I feel sad about not having a close relationship with my parents, Im jealous of those families who share everything and get along like friends. Unfortunately because of the way they talk down to me and critisize things I do, I cant have a proper relationship with them.

Love2love · 16-10-2013 10:40PM

I love my parents, see them almost everyday and if not, I'm talking to them on the phone. Most of my brothers would be the same. We'd socialise together too. Reading some of the replies makes me sad but happy that I'm so lucky to have the ones I do

Mysteriouschic · 16-10-2013 10:40PM

Well me and my mum are the complete opposite so we constantly argue. My mum is one of those people who is always right and gets annoyed over the littlest of things. We have completely different opinions on everything so it's frustrating having conversations and you can never try and explain your view well enough as it's never right. I generally don't talk to my mum that much anymore just the basic how are you etc.
I get on okay with my dad as he's easygoing so it's good.

Also my mum is also those ones who plays victim all the time I just tend to ignore and give the silent treatment now suprised I've lasted as long as I have living with her. We do get on slightly better when we're not living together.

Leogirl · 16-10-2013 10:41PM

Get on great with both. Always adored my dad & he's been a rock for us all. He's one of the soundest men I know.

Wasn't always great with my mother- alcohol & other addictions always came first & I almost hated her for years but she's sober about 5 years now & couldn't ask for a better mum or a closer friend. Dead proud of her.

I know how lucky I am :-).

BoardsMember · 16-10-2013 10:43PM

Get on well with my mum, she's good fun and we "get" each other.

My Dad is a different kettle of fish altogether. I don't know if I have some deep down need for a relationship with him, I am good to him, I think he thinks the world of me, but I really dont much care about him or click with him. He'd be very upset if he knew so I keep up appearances. He is quite self centred, left when I was young, but I think it is his personality that defines my feelings towards him. I'm sure I could spend a load on analysis, but I feel it may just come down to me not particularly liking him.

Ihatecuddles-old · 16-10-2013 10:43PM

lufties wrote: »

jesus sorry to hear that, Did you try talk to him?

There really is just no talking to him. He's just so old and stubborn. He's always right, Im always wrong, he'll never understand and we'll probably never be civil to each other again. I used to be his little girl, now every time he looks at me I can genuinely see hate in his eyes.

martyoo wrote: »

Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately it's a familiar story.

I know you hate cuddles.... but

Thanks, I know loads of people in the same boat!

BoardsMember · 16-10-2013 10:44PM

Love2love wrote: »

I love my parents, see them almost everyday and if not, I'm talking to them on the phone. Most of my brothers would be the same. We'd socialise together too. Reading some of the replies makes me sad but happy that I'm so lucky to have the ones I do

Good for you, that's brilliant. Very jealous but nice to read such good stuff.

BoardsMember · 16-10-2013 10:46PM

An interesting spin off thread might be something along the lines of looking into how your relationship with your parents and your siblings, or the dynamics of your family, have affected your value system for your own kids & family. Personally, nothing gives me greater pelasure than to see my kids get along and look out for each other

anncoates · 16-10-2013 10:47PM

My father's OK except when he's going crazy and saying I'm living in a trance.

I told the fucker I missed the last bus home and stayed at a friends.

wolfpawnat · 16-10-2013 10:48PM

BoardsMember wrote: »

An interesting spin off thread might be something along the lines of looking into how your relationship with your parents and your siblings, or the dynamics of your family, have affected your value system for your own kids & family. Personally, nothing gives me greater pelasure than to see my kids get along and look out for each other

My parents never showed affection to me, so everyday I tell my kids I love them and hug and kiss them, even if one of them is an infant!

BoardsMember · 16-10-2013 10:51PM

wolfpawnat wrote: »

My parents never showed affection to me, so everyday I tell my kids I love them and hug and kiss them, even if one of them is an infant!

Yeah I am pretty much the same with mine, though my mum did say it a lot to me too....often after downing a bottle of whisky or two, but they say the truth comes out with drink.....dont they...???:eek::eek:

wolfpawnat · 16-10-2013 10:53PM

BoardsMember wrote: »

Yeah I am pretty much the same with mine, though my mum did say it a lot to me too....often after downing a bottle of whisky or two, but they say the truth comes out with drink.....dont they...???:eek::eek:

Jesus in your case I hope so, in mine I hope not. The auld man is fond of a few and the shíte he spews pending the day, thank God I don't give a crap!

How do you get on with your parents

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