How do you get on with your parents

lufties

I find as I get older I get frustrated at how they sometimes seem oblivious to the modern world, and hold narrow old school views on things, but of course love and respect them also and we get on. Though I find I have to hold my tongue a fair bit though when expressing my opinion as it may not be conservative enough.

Anyone else have a similar view/feeling?

Ace Attorney

nah i get on well with my auld man hes my my best friend, the auld queen tho, she is a bit of a pain in the hole

Ihatecuddles-old

My parents don't understand my depression. It angers and frustrates them, they think its some sort of made up illness. That hurts, other than that I get on well with my mam, my dad just thinks Im crazy and treats me like a piece of crap, cant remember the last time he said something to me that wasnt horrible and nasty.

Ah well.

fedor.2.

Their both dead, thanks for bringing it up.

pharmaton

well enough especially the dead one

lufties

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

My parents don't understand my depression. It angers and frustrates them, they think its some sort of made up illness. That hurts, other than that I get on well with my mam, my dad just thinks Im crazy and treats me like a piece of crap, cant remember the last time he said something to me that wasnt horrible and nasty.

Ah well.

jesus sorry to hear that, Did you try talk to him?

fedor.2.

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

My parents don't understand my depression. It angers and frustrates them, they think its some sort of made up illness. That hurts, other than that I get on well with my mam, my dad just thinks Im crazy and treats me like a piece of crap, cant remember the last time he said something to me that wasnt horrible and nasty.

Ah well.

Sorry to hear that

lufties

fedor.2. wrote: »

Their both dead, thanks for bringing it up.

sorry for your loss, and that this thread title brought it up, wasn't intended that way.

Extremely well I'd be on the phone to one of them most days, stay at home regularly and would intend on living beside or at least near home in the future.

SV

great with my mother, my father thinks he's my hero(he self appointed himself that) I haven't spoke to him in years. Cannot stand the man and I'm ashamed to call him my father.

TheCoolWay

They refuse to get broadband its 'its a money racket' yet want a tablet for christmas. That sums up my relationship with them.. you're always wrong

martyoo

My parents don't understand my depression. It angers and frustrates them, they think its some sort of made up illness. That hurts, other than that I get on well with my mam, my dad just thinks Im crazy and treats me like a piece of crap, cant remember the last time he said something to me that wasnt horrible and nasty.

Ah well.

Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately it's a familiar story.

I know you hate cuddles.... but

Seachmall

Get on better with my father than anyone else, love my mother as long as we avoid engaging in any conversation that's longer than 5 minutes.

SomethingElse

For a moment I thought the thread title read
How do you get it on with your parents?

Such an anti-climax when I had a closer look.

wolfpawnat

I have a raving alcoholic for a father who walked out on me when I was four and only wants a relationship with me now I am above the age he has to pay maintenance for and because I have kids, so he thinks he can swan in now to be part of their lives without bothering to be part of mine.

My mother is a paranoid sociopath incapable of loving anything but herself and made me rear myself and my sister. She made up lies about me to my friends and tried to get a GP to refer me for psych treatment because I said I was leaving home to study nursing.

So here I am, no family and rearing two kids without any support from the,. But tbh, as lonely as it gets, I prefer it this way considering what my alternatives are.

I would love nothing more than good parents, but not everyone gets them. What can you do?

Sunnyisland

Get on great with my mother and also when he was alive my father,good people both of them.

Vinz Mesrine

They're both around but I don't really talk to them. I don't share an interest in anything with either of them, that's not to say we ignore each other, we all just get on better with other people.

tim3000

Haven't spoke a civil word to my mother in 2 years. Hate her (as does the rest of the family) Get on great with my dad (as does the rest of the family:pac:)

mewe

Get on great with my folks. Can chat to them about anythin. Sound ould heads in fairness the pair of them.

ruaille buaille

Never really got along with my parents when I was younger but thought at the time I was just a moody teenager and was taking things out on them. (probably cause thats what they told me I was doing). Now that Im an adult I realize that they were wrong and were never really there for me when I needed them.
I have a very distant relationship with them now. Just call to them every now and then and for events etc. I feel sad about not having a close relationship with my parents, Im jealous of those families who share everything and get along like friends. Unfortunately because of the way they talk down to me and critisize things I do, I cant have a proper relationship with them.

Love2love

I love my parents, see them almost everyday and if not, I'm talking to them on the phone. Most of my brothers would be the same. We'd socialise together too. Reading some of the replies makes me sad but happy that I'm so lucky to have the ones I do

Mysteriouschic

Well me and my mum are the complete opposite so we constantly argue. My mum is one of those people who is always right and gets annoyed over the littlest of things. We have completely different opinions on everything so it's frustrating having conversations and you can never try and explain your view well enough as it's never right. I generally don't talk to my mum that much anymore just the basic how are you etc.
I get on okay with my dad as he's easygoing so it's good.

Also my mum is also those ones who plays victim all the time I just tend to ignore and give the silent treatment now suprised I've lasted as long as I have living with her. We do get on slightly better when we're not living together.

Leogirl

Get on great with both. Always adored my dad & he's been a rock for us all. He's one of the soundest men I know.

Wasn't always great with my mother- alcohol & other addictions always came first & I almost hated her for years but she's sober about 5 years now & couldn't ask for a better mum or a closer friend. Dead proud of her.

I know how lucky I am :-).

BoardsMember

Get on well with my mum, she's good fun and we "get" each other.

My Dad is a different kettle of fish altogether. I don't know if I have some deep down need for a relationship with him, I am good to him, I think he thinks the world of me, but I really dont much care about him or click with him. He'd be very upset if he knew so I keep up appearances. He is quite self centred, left when I was young, but I think it is his personality that defines my feelings towards him. I'm sure I could spend a load on analysis, but I feel it may just come down to me not particularly liking him.

Ihatecuddles-old

lufties wrote: »

jesus sorry to hear that, Did you try talk to him?

There really is just no talking to him. He's just so old and stubborn. He's always right, Im always wrong, he'll never understand and we'll probably never be civil to each other again. I used to be his little girl, now every time he looks at me I can genuinely see hate in his eyes.

martyoo wrote: »

Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately it's a familiar story.

I know you hate cuddles.... but

Thanks, I know loads of people in the same boat!

BoardsMember

Love2love wrote: »

I love my parents, see them almost everyday and if not, I'm talking to them on the phone. Most of my brothers would be the same. We'd socialise together too. Reading some of the replies makes me sad but happy that I'm so lucky to have the ones I do

Good for you, that's brilliant. Very jealous but nice to read such good stuff.

BoardsMember

An interesting spin off thread might be something along the lines of looking into how your relationship with your parents and your siblings, or the dynamics of your family, have affected your value system for your own kids & family. Personally, nothing gives me greater pelasure than to see my kids get along and look out for each other

anncoates

My father's OK except when he's going crazy and saying I'm living in a trance.

I told the fucker I missed the last bus home and stayed at a friends.

wolfpawnat

BoardsMember wrote: »

An interesting spin off thread might be something along the lines of looking into how your relationship with your parents and your siblings, or the dynamics of your family, have affected your value system for your own kids & family. Personally, nothing gives me greater pelasure than to see my kids get along and look out for each other

My parents never showed affection to me, so everyday I tell my kids I love them and hug and kiss them, even if one of them is an infant!

BoardsMember

wolfpawnat wrote: »

My parents never showed affection to me, so everyday I tell my kids I love them and hug and kiss them, even if one of them is an infant!

Yeah I am pretty much the same with mine, though my mum did say it a lot to me too....often after downing a bottle of whisky or two, but they say the truth comes out with drink.....dont they...???:eek::eek:

wolfpawnat

BoardsMember wrote: »

Yeah I am pretty much the same with mine, though my mum did say it a lot to me too....often after downing a bottle of whisky or two, but they say the truth comes out with drink.....dont they...???:eek::eek:

Jesus in your case I hope so, in mine I hope not. The auld man is fond of a few and the shíte he spews pending the day, thank God I don't give a crap!

Legs.Eleven

Mam dead but get on well with my dad but am only home a few times a year, so don't see him much/enough. We didn't get along great in my teens and early 20s but do now that we've both copped on a bit and realised we're both only human. Love hanging out with him now - he's a very funny man and we have a laugh together. He misses me a lot and always tells me he wish I'd come home, which is a bit of a killer. Kind of feel like I should be there now as he gets older but I don't really have that choice, unfortunately.

-I also get on very well with my stepmam and always did; she's one of my best mates, which is nice.

Vote 4 Pedro

My parents split up when i was 3, i was brought up in care homes and with foster parents, no loss really as i can't remember them much,
but i do get along very well with my wife's parents, there sound enough.

They're good people, but I wont be sad to see them go.

wandatowell

I always got on fantastically well with my folks. Up until say 12 months ago I never gave my relationship with them a second thought.

When I did eventually take a few minutes and thought about them I realized that they were the greatest gift I have ever received. There just isn't two more loving, kind, caring and thoughtful people in the world.

Everything they have ever done was for me and my 2 sisters, every bit of advice was on the button.

Tbh I am very very proud of them.

MurdyWurdy

They are awesome, they do so much for me and my brother and I genuinely enjoy spending time with them. I ring them for a chat almost every day. I'm also off on holidays with them next week (plus my husband and baby) - I can't wait!

I hope I have a similar relationship with my children when I'm older. Obviously they do drive me mad sometimes too, of course.

Zen65

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

I used to be his little girl, now every time he looks at me I can genuinely see hate in his eyes.

Y'know, if he was the kind of man who posted here, he'd probably tell you that the look in his eyes is not hate, it's grieving for the loss of his little girl. I know I feel that way about my own daughter - we get on very well, but she has grown up into a fairly independent teen and I do miss the little girl that used to live here.

As for my own parents, they're both very much dead. My father died when I was a child so I have no 'adult' memories of him. We got on alright though. My mother was more difficult, and was socially awkward from when she became a widow. If anything, their early passing has taught me the importance of maintaining good relations with friends and family.

Love2love

true-or-false wrote: »

They're good people, but I wont be sad to see them go.

:eek:

Mr. CooL ICE

Jaysus. It isn't until reading threads like this that I realise how lucky I am.

They're both decent, hard working people on the verge of enjoying their retirements together. I don't really have much in common with my dad, but still get on anyway. I got my twisted sense of humour from my mother which is why every offensive joke I hear is immediately forwarded to her.

wolfpawnat

true-or-false wrote: »

They're good people, but I wont be sad to see them go.

It will affect me in no way for mine to go. I don't wish them harm, but I genuinely won't care.

whirlpool

I have a pretty great relationship with my parents.

It makes me sad when I think of children (young or grown) who haven't had loving parents. It's pretty sad.

Zen65

true-or-false wrote: »

They're good people, but I wont be sad to see them go.

Yes, you will. Despite everything, the realisation that you are now on your own, without a parent, is something that brings a very different focus to your life. Neither my wife nor I have any living parents, and when that day arrives it stirs up emotions you never knew you had.

Be at peace.

Z

Sunnyisland

BoardsMember wrote: »

Yeah I am pretty much the same with mine, though my mum did say it a lot to me too....often after downing a bottle of whisky or two, but they say the truth comes out with drink.....dont they...???:eek::eek:

Bit of topic
Alcohol isn't a truth serum, But some people do reveal some of their inner feelings, and some just talk drunk garbage that they neither actually feel and may not actually remember when they sober up.
Don't know wether that helps or not:o

MurdyWurdy

God, I really feel incredibly lucky after reading the other spots. Sorry to hear some of you had/are having a ****ty time of it.

Family is a wonderful blessing, if you get a good one. I know from friends what a curse it can be if you don't.

whirlpool

true-or-false wrote: »

They're good people, but I wont be sad to see them go.

Zen65 wrote: »

Yes, you will. Despite everything, the realisation that you are now on your own, without a parent, is something that brings a very different focus to your life. Neither my wife nor I have any living parents, and when that day arrives it stirs up emotions you never knew you had.

Be at peace.

Z

If he says he won't be, then take him at his word. I'm fairly sure he knows his own mind.

Raminahobbin

My mam is my best friend, she's fantastic. Our relationship has gotten stronger in the last 2 years especially.

My dad...is a different story. :mad:

Crooked Jack

It was tense there for a loch of years with my da when i was younger, but he's mellowed with age and i've copped on a bit.
theyre great people but ill be glad to get to canada and get away from them for a while. Livin at home at 27 is not ideal

JenEffy

My parents are nice people, and I do get on with them most of the time, but we never discuss anything real and that has damaged me quite a bit. They're very sheltered people as well, e.g. when I was younger I asked my mam if they lived together before they got married and she was shocked at the idea. One time we were watching Friends and she tried to convince me that people don't have multiple partners in real life, like they do on the show. Both of them can be pretty judgmental. My dad met a semi-famous tattoo artist and was shocked that the guy didn't drink or smoke - he expected him to be a drug addict. My sisters have turned out to be very naive and sheltered people like my parents, which will be a problem for them I suppose. I can't judge my parents too much, though, because I wouldn't have a clue how to raise kids without messing them up.

WoollyRedHat

My father was a relentlessly self-improving boulangerie owner from Belgium with low grade narcolepsy and a penchant for buggery. My mother was a fifteen year old French prostitute named Chloe with webbed feet.

My father would womanize, he would drink, he would make outrageous claims like he invented the question mark.

Some times he would accuse chestnuts of being lazy, the sort of general malaise that only the genius possess and the insane lament.
My childhood was typical, summers in Rangoon, luge lessons. In the spring we'd make meat helmets. When I was insolent I was placed in a burlap bag and beaten with reeds, pretty standard really.

Gee_G

Both my parents are two of the best, honest, reliable, caring people. I speak to them/ see them every day. Not only have they raised myself and my siblings and given us the best life we could have asked for (we were by no means well off but never wanted for anything)but they have also now started fostering. They are amazing!! Rather then kicking back enjoying retirement, they are now helping other children in need of a good home.

MJ23

"When you have your mother, treasure her with care, for you'll never know her value til you see her empty chair"