What's great about being single?

gcgirl · 29-09-2013 03:29PM

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

No regular sex kinda cancells out all the positive aspects of single life IMO.

There is such things as no strings sex ;-)
A single person can have as much sex as a couole can

Sgt. Al Powell · 29-09-2013 03:31PM

GorillaRising wrote: »

What's the harm in having a moment with your other half the cinema? To you it's merely whispering, to them it might be an in joke only they will understand, a moment shared between lovers, kindred spirits, whatever. Perhaps one they'll remember.

They should get a fucking DVD.

lahalane · 29-09-2013 03:35PM

GorillaRising wrote: »

I'm in a relationship and I've lots of freedom. It's important to have a life outside of a relationship.

You're kidding yourself or have settled for someone in the past who isn't a good fit.

Sorry, I'll rephrase so you can better understand what I meant. 100% freedom.

gifted · 29-09-2013 03:36PM

turning up the volume when watching porn...makes it so different

RiverOfLove · 29-09-2013 03:36PM

I know some couples who are wonderful together and others who are awful. Relationships can bring a lot of stresses and strains and other bull****.

I often read the relationship issues forum here on boards and it can be scary. Some people are just fcuking down right rotten in their treatment of others and of those they claim to love.

I had my share of troubles with dickheads. One of the hardest experiences I had were with someone who was nice to me in the beginning but ended up flakey and confusing and contridicting themselves in their words and actions. That really fcuked with my head.

For me the best thing about being single is a mind not bound to darkness due to fcukery.

mfceiling · 29-09-2013 03:37PM

Sgt. Al Powell wrote: »

This is a fallacy.

I feel sorry for people that have always been in relationships and feel they need to experience everything with another, just to enjoy themselves. I know people that have jumped from one relationship to another from a young age and never experienced life on their own and to me that is sad. How can you truly know yourself or what you really feel about a myriad of things, if they have always been filtered through another.

You can always spot couples like this, they need to rabbit away to each other non-stop. Whispering at every given opportunity, be it in theaters, cinemas, dinner parties etc. They just can't enjoy the moment for themselves, it has to be shared at regular intervals or they are lost. To me, that is not genuine experience of life at all, it's a diluted one.

Yeah but that whispering need not always be romantic....

*leans over to wife in cinema - "get your hand out of my f*cking popcorn"*

GorillaRising · 29-09-2013 03:37PM

lahalane wrote: »

Sorry, I'll rephrase so you can better understand what I meant. 100% freedom.

I gaurantee you'd give up some of it for the right person..not that there's any need mind you.

Bullchomper · 29-09-2013 03:38PM

Doing whatever the hell you like, whenever the hell you like, with whoever the hell you like. Bliss.

Ace Attorney · 29-09-2013 03:39PM

strolling around in the nip, anytime ya want.

Howard Juneau · 29-09-2013 03:40PM

Thatdoesnt looksafe tome AHHHHHHH wrote: »

strolling around in the nip, anytime ya want.

I can do that anyway.....gets me our of doing the cooking too!

smokedeels · 29-09-2013 03:41PM

Thatdoesnt looksafe tome AHHHHHHH wrote: »

strolling around in the nip, anytime ya want.

It’s a strange relationship if your significant other is complaining about you being naked.

“get your boll0cks out of my face”

lahalane · 29-09-2013 03:41PM

GorillaRising wrote: »

I gaurantee you'd give up some of it for the right person..not that there's any need mind you.

Someday, just not right now. Can't you just let me enjoy my current single bliss? :P

GorillaRising · 29-09-2013 03:43PM

lahalane wrote: »

Someday, just not right now. Can't you just let me enjoy my current single bliss? :P

Sorry! Have at it!

Ace Attorney · 29-09-2013 03:44PM

smokedeels wrote: »

It’s a strange relationship if your significant other is complaining about you being naked.

“get your boll0cks out of my face”

not really appropriate when she has friends over :P

Call Me Jimmy · 29-09-2013 03:46PM

Great post Doozer. The optimal for humans in my opinion is to go through the cycle of having something, not having it; having it, not having. Ye just normalise to everything else.

Unless you are especially present and humble all the time, in which you can enjoy having for as long as you want because you don't treat each day with someone as another day with them but a new day with fresh eyes; without stale opinions and judgements!

Arawn · 29-09-2013 03:48PM

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

Not everyone's into casual sex though, and casual sex is nothing like sex with someone you're in love with.

But yeh, there are definitely positives to being single, however I wouldn't want to be single forever either.

yeah it's more fun,regular, filthy and you can indulge your basest desires without worrying how the other person will view you for the rest of however long.

markomuscle · 29-09-2013 03:50PM

dundalkfc10 wrote: »

not that hard to find regular sex

I have more Sex than some of my mates (some married, some long term relationships) and im single

to be fair all it takes is a quick ATM transaction to have regular sex

GorillaRising · 29-09-2013 03:52PM

Arawn wrote: »

yeah it's more fun,regular, filthy and you can indulge your basest desires without worrying how the other person will view you for the rest of however long.

Why is it always one or the other? You can have that with a person you're in a relationship with...

Il Trap · 29-09-2013 04:26PM

I'm not too long single now after six years in a relationship that began when I started college. Never known anything else. I'm going travelling solo next year and really looking forward to it.

A load of my mates are now moving in with OHs (a stage that me and my previous GF never got to)and TBH much of what I see from these particular situations I don't like. Mates constantly checking their phones in case they miss texts from their girlfriend, rarely available to socialise without the OH, needing to make plans weeks in advance, lying to save face about not being available to do something when in reality their OH has had/will potentially have a strop or whatever. Not all couples are like this, of course; my mates in particular just seem to be prone to ball-and-chain-itis at this stage of their lives.

Femme_Fatale · 29-09-2013 06:38PM

Arawn wrote: »

yeah it's more fun,regular, filthy

It depends very much on the individual. There does seem to be a view that everyone's sexual preferences are the same.
Sex for lots of people is only great when there's more than just a physical connection between them and the other person, and casual sex can be pretty dull. I know casual sex can be good too, but what you've listed above does not always apply, and can totally apply to relationship sex.
Surely relationship sex (apart from relationships where there isn't much going on in that department) is more regular than casual sex too.
I have never ever experienced a casual encounter that was better than relationship sex.

and you can indulge your basest desires without worrying how the other person will view you for the rest of however long.

Seeing as they've consented to same, they wouldn't be in much of a position to judge.

nacho libre · 29-09-2013 07:03PM

DoozerT6 wrote: »

If you're between relationships - fine, enjoy the freedom!! When you're permanently single, that sort of freedom becomes its own prison. Doing everything/going everywhere by yourself loses its shine after 40 years

This is the point i'm trying to convey. As humans, in the end, we need other people to feel fulfilled.

Arawn · 29-09-2013 07:05PM

nacho libre wrote: »

This is the point i'm trying to convey. As humans, in the end, we need other people to feel fulfilled.

no, we don't

vitani · 29-09-2013 07:19PM

Not having to keep my legs shaved all the time :pac:

DoozerT6 · 29-09-2013 07:23PM

Arawn wrote: »

no, we don't

Some do and some don't. Some people are perfectly happy tootling along by themselves and don't feel the need for romantic relationships, but others would like to have someone else there to share things and experiences with. Having had a solitary life up until now, I would really like to experience what it's like to have to share my life, and compromise, and...just HAVE a loving partner there.

29-09-2013 07:25PM

markomuscle wrote: »

to be fair all it takes is a quick ATM transaction to have regular sex

I knew you sounded familiar, I'm sure I've read the same sentiment before.

What's great about being single is finding everything exactly where, and in the same condition, you left it. And hogging the entire duvet, and never being woken by snoring, or asked why you were 20 minutes late home, or why your laptop or phone is password protected. That last one is a precursor to singledom.

Galwayguy35 · 29-09-2013 07:29PM

dundalkfc10 wrote: »

not that hard to find regular sex

I have more Sex than some of my mates (some married, some long term relationships) and im single

No its not, back in my 20s I had the occasional one nighter but tbh it wasn't really my scene.

Femme_Fatale · 29-09-2013 07:53PM

Not everyone is into ****ing a different person or people every week. The odd one-night stand is grand, but I personally couldn't do the former. So regular sex isn't always possible for single people.

FloatingVoter · 29-09-2013 07:57PM

Howard Juneau wrote: »

I can do that anyway.....gets me our of doing the cooking too!

That's what I thought....then she sent me to the chipper. They weren't as understanding. Deep fat friers hurt wobbly bits.

nacho libre · 29-09-2013 09:18PM

Arawn wrote: »

no, we don't

I have to disagree.
I find it very hard to believe that anyone who is a sexual being could be truly content to go through all their life, without the emotional and sexual fulfillment borne of a loving relationship.

jazz101 · 29-09-2013 09:45PM

Sometimes my tears of loneliness give my cheeks a mild moisturised freshness in the morning.

What's great about being single?

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