What's great about being single?

cantdecide

Ripped off from another forum but hell, let's do AH style...

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

Right arms twice as big as the left.

cantdecide

Coming and going as I please! Sunday is my day o' motorbiking...

stateofflux

after hours seems like a worthwhile past time...

cantdecide

Johnny Electricity wrote: »

Right arms twice as big as the left.

That's discriminatory against southpaws

newbee22

Not having to think about somebody else when making plans!

Howard Juneau

Not having to apologize when you shít the bed after a particularly heavy Arthur's Day

Richard Hillman

I can drink from roughly 3pm until the end of Match of the day on a Saturday and I can watch 12 hours of sport on a Sunday.

wazky

Not having to wipe your browsing history.

Burky126

Having a personality.

suicide_circus

wazky wrote: »

Not having to wipe your browsing history.

Not having to wipe your hole.

OneArt

I have sex with my friend Jane without my boyfriend getting all huffy about it. Drama queen.

jellyboy

Farting in bed...

















And enjoying the rating of said gas....

cantdecide

So every single male can't stop thinking about their asses?

I think I have some news for you, single lads...

Duggy747

Not having to apologise for things you didn't do.

seenitall

The feeling of unfettered possibilities, of course! Who knows what's behind the next corner? You're free to experience it, whatever (or whoever) it is.

cantdecide wrote: »

Sunday is my day o' motorbiking...

Great thread, cd. Enjoy your, er, ride.

lahalane

Freedom

nacho libre

I can't see anything great about it. I'm reminded of the phrase from the film into the wild, happiness is only real when shared.
i understand other think differently, but i suspect they mean as a temporary situation. i mean can anyone who is single for a long time, really think it's all that great- maybe if you're asexual, but if you have desires, i don't think it's possible.

lahalane

nacho libre wrote: »

I can't see anything great about it. I'm reminded of the phrase from the film into the wild, happiness is only real when shared.
i understand other think differently, but i suspect they mean as a temporary situation. i mean can anyone who is single for a long time, really think it's all that great- maybe if you're asexual, but if you have desires, i don't think it's possible.

I've been single a long time and shared happiness with my friends and family. Some day I will want to settle down but I'm not ready to do that yet so I'm happy to remain single and do my own thing. I have desires, of course, but there's always one night stands and the occasional friend with benefit scenario. You've hit the nail on the head when you say it's for a temporary situation though. Obviously I wouldn't like to be still single when I'm 40.

Galwayguy35

No regular sex kinda cancells out all the positive aspects of single life IMO.

canadianwoman

I can sleep in the middle of my really big bed and the remote for the tv is all mine!!

...........and I don't have to make sandwiches for anyone except me.

cloud493

I only have to pay for my meals when I'm out.
Don't have to share my smokes
Don't have anyone nagging me to stop smoking
I can be an anti social prick all I like

Renegade Mechanic

canadianwoman wrote: »

I can sleep in the middle of my really big bed and the remote for the tv is all mine!!

...........and I don't have to make sandwiches for anyone except me.

Urge to make obligatory sexist comment.... immense....


Also, the total freedom from b*tching and general arguing is nice but I think Ill jump back in soon:D

Mr. teddywinkles

What great bout being single n no kids. TIME TO URSELF!!!!!!!! :-D

Sgt. Al Powell

nacho libre wrote: »

happiness is only real when shared

This is a fallacy.

I feel sorry for people that have always been in relationships and feel they need to experience everything with another, just to enjoy themselves. I know people that have jumped from one relationship to another from a young age and never experienced life on their own and to me that is sad. How can you truly know yourself or what you really feel about a myriad of things, if they have always been filtered through another.

You can always spot couples like this, they need to rabbit away to each other non-stop. Whispering at every given opportunity, be it in theaters, cinemas, dinner parties etc. They just can't enjoy the moment for themselves, it has to be shared at regular intervals or they are lost. To me, that is not genuine experience of life at all, it's a diluted one.

dundalkfc10

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

No regular sex kinda cancells out all the positive aspects of single life IMO.

not that hard to find regular sex

I have more Sex than some of my mates (some married, some long term relationships) and im single

canadianwoman

Renegade Mechanic wrote: »

total freedom from b*tching and general arguing is nice

I hear you on that score.

Femme_Fatale

dundalkfc10 wrote: »

not that hard to find regular sex

I have more Sex than some of my mates (some married, some long term relationships) and im single

Not everyone's into casual sex though, and casual sex is nothing like sex with someone you're in love with.

But yeh, there are definitely positives to being single, however I wouldn't want to be single forever either.

Systemic Risk

Sgt. Al Powell wrote: »

This is a fallacy.

I feel sorry for people that have always been in relationships and feel they need to experience everything with another, just to enjoy themselves. I know people that have jumped from one relationship to another from a young age and never experienced life on their own and to me that is sad. How can you truly know yourself or what you really feel about a myriad of things, if they have always been filtered through another.

You can always spot couples like this, they need to rabbit away to each other non-stop. Whispering at every given opportunity, be it in theaters, cinemas, dinner parties etc. They just can't enjoy the moment for themselves, it has to be shared at regular intervals or they are lost. To me, that is not genuine experience of life at all, it's a diluted one.

I agree about people who are always going straight from relationship to relationship. I have a friend like this and is never secure or happy on his own. He actually hates spending time on his own. After his last brief interlude between girlfriends we tried to convince him to spend some time single but it fell on deaf ears.

im not single but i was for the majority of my twenties and love having alone time. I think you have to be happy by yourself before you can be happy with someone.

DoozerT6

I think you can only really appreciate being single when you've HAD relationships. Those of us who are not fortunate enough to have ever had someone to call a partner might look at it differently. Sure, we might have the tv remote to ourselves, and the bed, and never have to compromise about holidays or weekend plans or nights out...EVER. Not once. So there's no novelty there. Personally I'd love to have a big disagreement with the 'other half' about where to spend Christmas this year. At least it's REAL. At least it's something that grown-ups do. Not almost-40 year olds like me who have never brought someone home to meet the parents (because there's never been anyone to bring home), or even cooked someone dinner (romantic or otherwise!) .

If you're between relationships - fine, enjoy the freedom!! When you're permanently single, that sort of freedom becomes its own prison. Doing everything/going everywhere by yourself loses its shine after 40 years

GorillaRising

lahalane wrote: »

Freedom

I'm in a relationship and I've lots of freedom. It's important to have a life outside of a relationship.

You're kidding yourself or have settled for someone in the past who isn't a good fit.

cloud493 wrote: »

I only have to pay for my meals when I'm out.
Don't have to share my smokes
Don't have anyone nagging me to stop smoking
I can be an anti social prick all I like

Relationship > smoking.

Mr. teddywinkles wrote: »

What great bout being single n no kids. TIME TO URSELF!!!!!!!! :-D

Lots of time to myself. Granted, some don't get it, but again, it's about finding the right person. Not all relationships = no time to yourself.

Sgt. Al Powell wrote: »

This is a fallacy.

I feel sorry for people that have always been in relationships and feel they need to experience everything with another, just to enjoy themselves. I know people that have jumped from one relationship to another from a young age and never experienced life on their own and to me that is sad. How can you truly know yourself or what you really feel about a myriad of things, if they have always been filtered through another.

You can always spot couples like this, they need to rabbit away to each other non-stop. Whispering at every given opportunity, be it in theaters, cinemas, dinner parties etc. They just can't enjoy the moment for themselves, it has to be shared at regular intervals or they are lost. To me, that is not genuine experience of life at all, it's a diluted one.

You're assuming because one is in a relationship they've been relationship hopping since they were teenagers.

As I've expressed, it's important to have a life outside of a relationship.

What's the harm in having a moment with your other half the cinema? To you it's merely whispering, to them it might be an in joke only they will understand, a moment shared between lovers, kindred spirits, whatever. Perhaps one they'll remember.

On the surface it's nothing, but those small moments mean a lot to a lot of people. You can't have that on your own.

Again, you're making assumptions they can't enjoy something without sharing it. The reason they're together is because they want to be. They've experienced things on their own and enjoy being together more. I see nothing wrong with that.

What I do see is a tad bit of bitterness from some single people over a certain age.

Having said that. I think being single for an extended period is something everyone should do/be. Learn about yourself, experience things, before just getting into a relationship and feeling tied down. Again, if it's the right person, they might want freedom too and that also can be enjoyed together.

gcgirl

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

No regular sex kinda cancells out all the positive aspects of single life IMO.

There is such things as no strings sex ;-)
A single person can have as much sex as a couole can

Sgt. Al Powell

GorillaRising wrote: »

What's the harm in having a moment with your other half the cinema? To you it's merely whispering, to them it might be an in joke only they will understand, a moment shared between lovers, kindred spirits, whatever. Perhaps one they'll remember.

They should get a fucking DVD.

lahalane

GorillaRising wrote: »

I'm in a relationship and I've lots of freedom. It's important to have a life outside of a relationship.

You're kidding yourself or have settled for someone in the past who isn't a good fit.

Sorry, I'll rephrase so you can better understand what I meant. 100% freedom.

gifted

turning up the volume when watching porn...makes it so different

RiverOfLove

I know some couples who are wonderful together and others who are awful. Relationships can bring a lot of stresses and strains and other bull****.

I often read the relationship issues forum here on boards and it can be scary. Some people are just fcuking down right rotten in their treatment of others and of those they claim to love.

I had my share of troubles with dickheads. One of the hardest experiences I had were with someone who was nice to me in the beginning but ended up flakey and confusing and contridicting themselves in their words and actions. That really fcuked with my head.

For me the best thing about being single is a mind not bound to darkness due to fcukery.

mfceiling

Sgt. Al Powell wrote: »

This is a fallacy.

I feel sorry for people that have always been in relationships and feel they need to experience everything with another, just to enjoy themselves. I know people that have jumped from one relationship to another from a young age and never experienced life on their own and to me that is sad. How can you truly know yourself or what you really feel about a myriad of things, if they have always been filtered through another.

You can always spot couples like this, they need to rabbit away to each other non-stop. Whispering at every given opportunity, be it in theaters, cinemas, dinner parties etc. They just can't enjoy the moment for themselves, it has to be shared at regular intervals or they are lost. To me, that is not genuine experience of life at all, it's a diluted one.

Yeah but that whispering need not always be romantic....

*leans over to wife in cinema - "get your hand out of my f*cking popcorn"*

GorillaRising

lahalane wrote: »

Sorry, I'll rephrase so you can better understand what I meant. 100% freedom.

I gaurantee you'd give up some of it for the right person..not that there's any need mind you.

Bullchomper

Doing whatever the hell you like, whenever the hell you like, with whoever the hell you like. Bliss.

Ace Attorney

strolling around in the nip, anytime ya want.

Howard Juneau

Thatdoesnt looksafe tome AHHHHHHH wrote: »

strolling around in the nip, anytime ya want.

I can do that anyway.....gets me our of doing the cooking too!

smokedeels

Thatdoesnt looksafe tome AHHHHHHH wrote: »

strolling around in the nip, anytime ya want.

It’s a strange relationship if your significant other is complaining about you being naked.

“get your boll0cks out of my face”

lahalane

GorillaRising wrote: »

I gaurantee you'd give up some of it for the right person..not that there's any need mind you.

Someday, just not right now. Can't you just let me enjoy my current single bliss? :P

GorillaRising

lahalane wrote: »

Someday, just not right now. Can't you just let me enjoy my current single bliss? :P

Sorry! Have at it!

Ace Attorney

smokedeels wrote: »

It’s a strange relationship if your significant other is complaining about you being naked.

“get your boll0cks out of my face”

not really appropriate when she has friends over :P

Call Me Jimmy

Great post Doozer. The optimal for humans in my opinion is to go through the cycle of having something, not having it; having it, not having. Ye just normalise to everything else.

Unless you are especially present and humble all the time, in which you can enjoy having for as long as you want because you don't treat each day with someone as another day with them but a new day with fresh eyes; without stale opinions and judgements!

Arawn

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

Not everyone's into casual sex though, and casual sex is nothing like sex with someone you're in love with.

But yeh, there are definitely positives to being single, however I wouldn't want to be single forever either.

yeah it's more fun,regular, filthy and you can indulge your basest desires without worrying how the other person will view you for the rest of however long.

markomuscle

dundalkfc10 wrote: »

not that hard to find regular sex

I have more Sex than some of my mates (some married, some long term relationships) and im single

to be fair all it takes is a quick ATM transaction to have regular sex

GorillaRising

Arawn wrote: »

yeah it's more fun,regular, filthy and you can indulge your basest desires without worrying how the other person will view you for the rest of however long.

Why is it always one or the other? You can have that with a person you're in a relationship with...

Il Trap

I'm not too long single now after six years in a relationship that began when I started college. Never known anything else. I'm going travelling solo next year and really looking forward to it.

A load of my mates are now moving in with OHs (a stage that me and my previous GF never got to)and TBH much of what I see from these particular situations I don't like. Mates constantly checking their phones in case they miss texts from their girlfriend, rarely available to socialise without the OH, needing to make plans weeks in advance, lying to save face about not being available to do something when in reality their OH has had/will potentially have a strop or whatever. Not all couples are like this, of course; my mates in particular just seem to be prone to ball-and-chain-itis at this stage of their lives.

Femme_Fatale

Arawn wrote: »

yeah it's more fun,regular, filthy

It depends very much on the individual. There does seem to be a view that everyone's sexual preferences are the same.
Sex for lots of people is only great when there's more than just a physical connection between them and the other person, and casual sex can be pretty dull. I know casual sex can be good too, but what you've listed above does not always apply, and can totally apply to relationship sex.
Surely relationship sex (apart from relationships where there isn't much going on in that department) is more regular than casual sex too.
I have never ever experienced a casual encounter that was better than relationship sex.

and you can indulge your basest desires without worrying how the other person will view you for the rest of however long.

Seeing as they've consented to same, they wouldn't be in much of a position to judge.