Dating Question

Daveysil15 · 28-09-2013 11:46AM

Sh1tbag OToole wrote: »

Its the man that does all the work.

(its bad form to ask a girl to go on top the first time, chivalry isn't dead yet)

Especially if she is a lot heavier than you. :P

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

Or to tie a knot in the condom after!

I usually get her to wrap it up in a baby wipe and throw it in the bin. I actually never thought of tying a knot in it. That'll save a fortune on wipes.

Czarcasm · 28-09-2013 12:07PM

StrugglingSoul wrote: »

So you're having an affair?????????????????

Ahh jesus SS, you completely missed the point because all you're thinking about is the end goal!

Not once in my post did I mention sex, which would be one of the understood characteristics of an affair. Do you consider sex to be an understood characteristic of a date?

Perhaps that's where you're going wrong - instead of just enjoying another person's company, are you thinking how much it's costing you for sex?

Femme_Fatale · 28-09-2013 12:12PM

StrugglingSoul wrote: »

Can someone tell me why that on a date, a man is the one who's expected to pay, drive, etc?

Is he? First I've heard of it being the case in 2013. Put away those 1950s American diner movies.

markomuscle wrote: »

because women are as tight as a bodybuilders t-shirt, especially irish women

Aw... the mask slips. Few days ago you were looking for advice on how to meet a woman and you think women are great yadda yadda.

Daveysil15 · 28-09-2013 12:48PM

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

I'd say Irish women are less traditional about this than most nationalities around the world in my experience.

I agree. I have dated a few Eastern European women and I nearly always ended up paying for meals, drinks etc. They tend to be more old fashioned. I find Irish women are more likely to pay their own way.

Feisar · 28-09-2013 01:01PM

If I ask someone out on a date or whatever I expect to pay. As I've asked them out.

bnt · 28-09-2013 01:01PM

You think you have it bad here? Try being a young man in China. Without a lot of money, it's bachelorhood for you.

The country's inexorable economic rise has put marriage out of reach for many men.

These days grooms are expected to provide a car, a good salary and real estate.

One young engineer I met in a Beijing park, Zhang Junfrei, told me that he would have to save up for 200 years to afford a one-bedroom apartment - and that is without eating or drinking.

StrugglingSoul · 28-09-2013 01:17PM

srm23 wrote: »

OP the idea is that you pay for the dinner, drinks etc and then they "owe" you something at the end of night

The first one to say it for what it is. But now my question for you is... aren't they getting something out of that two???

Czarcasm · 28-09-2013 01:25PM

StrugglingSoul wrote: »

The first one to say it for what it is. But now my question for you is... aren't they getting something out of that two???

srm23 isn't the first one to "say it for what it is" SS, gobshìtes have been espousing that particular point of view for centuries as an excuse for their lack of social skills!

Daveysil15 · 28-09-2013 01:26PM

StrugglingSoul wrote: »

The first one to say it for what it is. But now my question for you is... aren't they getting something out of that two???

Yep, its win win. So what?

28-09-2013 01:35PM

markomuscle wrote: »

because women are as tight as a bodybuilders t-shirt, especially irish women

Wacker The Attacker wrote: »

Women are only equal when it suits them.

Mod

Keep your sexist bull out of After Hours. It's not welcome here.

OP, I haven't decided if you're a troll or not but you're on thin ice here with these sh*tty "I can't get laid so women are crap" threads, any more crap and you'll be looking for advice somewhere else for a while.

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StrugglingSoul · 28-09-2013 02:17PM

Daveysil15 wrote: »

Yep, its win win. So what?

But is it?????????????????

StrugglingSoul · 28-09-2013 02:18PM

Deleted User wrote: »

OP, I haven't decided if you're a troll or not

Make up your bloody mind

Czarcasm · 28-09-2013 02:25PM

StrugglingSoul wrote: »

Make up your bloody mind

Charming.

(There's a certain irony in you SS in particular asking someone else to make up their mind)

Defiler Of The Coffin · 28-09-2013 02:30PM

I get the feeling OP that if you got a date you'd have no problem digging deep!

Caonima · 28-09-2013 02:39PM

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

Aw... the mask slips. Few days ago you were looking for advice on how to meet a woman and you think women are great yadda yadda.

Now now, nobody likes a person who prowls old posts :pac:

Personally, I've never dated an Irish girl who was mean. If I got dinner, they'd get drinks; if it was drinks only, they'd do rounds, too; if it was a gig/concert date, I'd get tickets, they'd get beers and/or taxis. Always worked out grand.

Regarding what another poster said about anal... hmmmm.... not sure if that could be considered 'paying their way'...

No Pants · 28-09-2013 02:48PM

racso1975 wrote: »

Of all the ****ty things i have won it has never been bread!!!! My life sucks

I won a bag of meat once.

Femme_Fatale · 28-09-2013 02:55PM

Caonima wrote: »

Now now, nobody likes a person who prowls old posts :pac:

Personally, I've never dated an Irish girl who was mean. If I got dinner, they'd get drinks; if it was drinks only, they'd do rounds, too; if it was a gig/concert date, I'd get tickets, they'd get beers and/or taxis. Always worked out grand.

Regarding what another poster said about anal... hmmmm.... not sure if that could be considered 'paying their way'...

No prowling by me - he was posting over and over about wanting to meet women on that recent thread about meeting people through Boards

mattjack · 28-09-2013 03:03PM

Deleted User wrote: »

Mod

Keep your sexist bull out of After Hours. It's not welcome here.

OP, I haven't decided if you're a troll or not but you're on thin ice here with these sh*tty "I can't get laid so women are crap" threads, any more crap and you'll be looking for advice somewhere else for a while.

.

Would you like like some vodka and a slice of lemon with that ice ?... oh wait now , who's paying for this ?

The Big Smoke · 28-09-2013 03:22PM

I ask women out to dinner, pretend I'm going to the toilet and leave without paying.

Women love a bastard.

Daveysil15 · 28-09-2013 03:26PM

The Big Smoke wrote: »

I ask women out to dinner, pretend I'm going to the toilet and leave without paying.

Women love a bastard.

Ahh the auld dine and dash. It's even better when the woman goes along with it though, unless you don't like her and just want to make a quick getaway.

28-09-2013 03:26PM

StrugglingSoul wrote: »

Make up your bloody mind

Thanks for making it up for me. Have that time off we talked about.

OP banned

Overature · 28-09-2013 03:29PM

If you are the guy and ask the girl out for the date, then I thinks its only fair that you pay because you asked her to go out. The lady could pay for the next meal if she wants to keep it fair

Daveysil15 · 28-09-2013 03:36PM

Overature wrote: »

If you are the guy and ask the girl out for the date, then I thinks its only fair that you pay because you asked her to go out. The lady could pay for the next meal if she wants to keep it fair

Meh not really. Some women wouldn't be comfortable with you paying as they might think you're expecting something in return.

markomuscle · 28-09-2013 04:45PM

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

I'd say Irish women are less traditional about this than most nationalities around the world in my experience.

I've dated a few Spanish guys before meeting the one I'm with and they've insisted on paying for dinner...until I insisted even more that I wanted to go halves. I've always gone halves (or a "I get this one, you get the next one" setup) and I think it's only fair. Perhaps it was reasonable when men were the bread winners but now there's no excuse when both genders are working.

and so they should given the part they played in the Irish defeat in the battle of kinsale in 1602:pac:

TheKingslayer · 28-09-2013 04:46PM

wazky wrote: »

What happens if two lesbians go on a date?, nobody pays?

they don't usually go to restaurants to eat out, they just take turns at home squashing each other's fanny.

Esoteric_ · 28-09-2013 04:47PM

TheKingslayer wrote: »

they don't usually go to restaurants to eat out, they just take turns at home squashing each other's fanny.

Well, that's classy.

therealme · 28-09-2013 08:09PM

I expect the guy to pay on the first date (if it goes well!!) - says a lot about him. Am happy to pay my way after that!

pharmaton · 28-09-2013 08:34PM

TheKingslayer wrote: »

they don't usually go to restaurants to eat out, they just take turns at home squashing each other's fanny.

you jelly bro?

RDM_83 again · 28-09-2013 09:04PM

Czarcasm wrote: »

For example, I went on a dinner date with a mate the other night, she picked me up at my place and drove us to a nice restaurant for dinner, she paid for the dinner. Then we drove back into town and she parked her car at my place, we went to the club, I paid the admission for both of us and we went rounds on the drinks. After the club we went back to my place, had coffee and a chat and crashed out in the bed. She had work in the morning so she stayed over and then went from my place to work and collected her car that evening.

Would you honestly call that a date though, I don't think I've ever heard anybody describe meeting a platonic friend as a date

By that logic I have been dating my brother :eek: and my OH is dating all her female friends!

starlit · 28-09-2013 09:07PM

Should not be expected. If it first date or you asked all depends. Should it matter. Offer maybe but think bill or driving or meet up or date be split in terms of costs. If you pay then he or she pay next time take in turns if things go well. Paying or not Shouldnt change impression or be expecting something after as you dont know how a date go or end. Could take few dates to find out.

Iv had dates but mostly platonic only a few little more.

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