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Dating Question

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  • #32
    Ihatecuddles-old
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,785 ✭✭✭Ihatecuddles-old


    Stheno wrote: »
    Same here, one pays for dinner, another for smokes type of thing, it's a joke at this stage, but started out as a habit. "Do you need anything in the shop?"

    I have to laugh at him sometimes, Id ask does he want anything in the shop and he'd say his wallet is at home, and Im just looking at him like :confused:

    As if he wouldnt get them for me!


  • #33
    markomuscle
    Closed Accounts Posts: 560 ✭✭✭markomuscle


    LETHAL LADY wrote: »
    That could be misconstrued as a compliment, muscle man.

    you'll have to explain that one? I had to google what 'misconstrued' meant by the way :rolleyes:


  • #34
    Scortho
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,871 ✭✭✭Scortho


    If the woman offers to pay on the first date, you know she's a keeper!


  • #35
    LETHAL LADY
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,145 ✭✭✭LETHAL LADY


    markomuscle wrote: »
    you'll have to explain that one? I had to google what 'misconstrued' meant by the way :rolleyes:

    I felt uneasy with the general sense of the whole thing.:rolleyes:


  • #36
    Stheno
    Moderators, Business & Finance Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 51,685 Mod ✭✭✭✭Stheno


    Ihatecuddles wrote: »
    I have to laugh at him sometimes, Id ask does he want anything in the shop and he'd say his wallet is at home, and Im just looking at him like :confused:

    As if he wouldnt get them for me!

    Ah now I've had him "forget" a few times, but it always balances out in fairness :)

    I like it as a way to socialise, means you are never going somewhere you can't afford.
    Scortho wrote: »
    If the woman offers to pay on the first date, you know she's a keeper!

    Not only did I do that*, for our fifth anniversary, he is getting a new watch, and having his car valeted inside and out, and getting a handsfree system :D

    *I have a small appetite and on that date ate little, so he poo pooed me paying, the dual system came in shortly after :D


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  • #37
    Scortho
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,871 ✭✭✭Scortho


    Stheno wrote: »


    Not only did I do that, for our fifth anniversary, he is getting a new watch, and having his car valeted inside and out, and getting a handsfree system :D


    I feckin know! :mad:

    Question is, what's stheno getting? Knee job!:pac:


  • #38
    IvaBigWun
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,368 ✭✭✭IvaBigWun


    Hmmm general rule is dates should be split 50:50. But if you ask a girl out for dinner then she might expect you to pay, even if previous dates were 50:50


  • #39
    Mysteriouschic
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,391 ✭✭✭Mysteriouschic


    The man usually wants to pay. Everytime I've offered to give money towards it the man still wants to pay. I actually wouldn't mind paying for myself just the man always insists on paying.


  • #40
    wonderfulname
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,943 ✭✭✭wonderfulname


    StrugglingSoul wrote: »
    Can someone tell me why that on a date, a man is the one who's expected to pay, drive, etc?? I'm not saying we all don't already know. But I would just like it be bluntly put out in the open for what it is for once. It would be interesting to see if people have the same.. or different reasons for it.

    Last week were you not claiming to solely approach women in nightclubs, in a manner I'd like to imagine similar to Neil from The Inbetweeners, and have never found any success?

    How can you suddenly know all about dating?

    I call shenanigans.


  • #41
    Stheno
    Moderators, Business & Finance Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 51,685 Mod ✭✭✭✭Stheno


    Scortho wrote: »
    I feckin know! :mad:

    Question is, what's stheno getting? Knee job!:pac:

    A gift of my choosing :p

    I'm evil to buy for so I either send him a list that he picks from or pointedly say I'd like something but am too scabby to pay for it :D

    It works, apart from the time I wanted a tweezermans tweezers, and he went into boots looking for a man tweezers :D


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  • #42
    Smidge
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,541 ✭✭✭Smidge


    Aww Jesus, not another Friday night misery thread in the vein of......

    Women are beatches, moneygrabbers, gold diggers, frigid, teases, stuck up yada yada.

    Rule of thumb
    If you are the "askee" you pay for the date otherwise it's not a date!!!
    It's just two people agreeing to eat at the same place at the same time :rolleyes:
    And where the feckin hell is the romance in that?

    God, have people gotten that cheap that they want to ask someone out but when the do they moan about it???

    Put in some effort ffs.
    You have the whole rest of your lives to split everything down the middle and believe me there is no damn romance in that.


  • #43
    srm23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,298 ✭✭✭srm23


    OP the idea is that you pay for the dinner, drinks etc and then they "owe" you something at the end of night ;)


  • #44
    Amprodude
    Site Banned Posts: 4,034 ✭✭✭Amprodude


    Usually she pays me back with good service. :)


  • #45
    dark crystal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,962 ✭✭✭✭dark crystal


    markomuscle wrote: »
    because women are as tight as a bodybuilders t-shirt, especially irish women

    Do people really believe this sexist crap? Jeez.


  • #46
    Amprodude
    Site Banned Posts: 4,034 ✭✭✭Amprodude


    markomuscle wrote: »
    because women are as tight as a bodybuilders t-shirt, especially irish women

    And some women are tight but right in other departments. ;)


  • #47
    markomuscle
    Closed Accounts Posts: 560 ✭✭✭markomuscle


    dark crystal wrote: »
    Do people really believe this sexist crap? Jeez.

    well most women i know are, if it's any consolation i'm stingy as well


  • #48
    Smidge
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,541 ✭✭✭Smidge


    dark crystal wrote: »
    Do people really believe this sexist crap? Jeez.

    I like to believe he meant the "good" kind of tight :D;)


  • #49
    Scortho
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,871 ✭✭✭Scortho


    Stheno wrote: »
    A gift of my choosing :p

    I'm evil to buy for so I either send him a list that he picks from or pointedly say I'd like something but am too scabby to pay for it :D

    It works, apart from the time I wanted a tweezermans tweezers, and he went into boots looking for a man tweezers :D

    Tweezers???
    He should have bought you a teng socket set!:P

    I know the feeling. Every year I walk around town thinking what do I buy her! :mad:
    Apparently she's the same so it's all fine


    Op split the bill 50:50. And don't be expecting anything after either.
    If that's the case feck the dinner and go to coppers instead.


  • #50
    markomuscle
    Closed Accounts Posts: 560 ✭✭✭markomuscle


    Smidge wrote: »
    I like to believe he meant the "good" kind of tight :D;)

    where i live the other meaning for 'tight' is 'tough' like a 'tough guy' so a 'tough girl'?


  • #51
    Smidge
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,541 ✭✭✭Smidge


    markomuscle wrote: »
    where i live the other meaning for 'tight' is 'tough' like a 'tough guy' so a 'tough girl'?

    Eh, no..
    You've missed my insinuation there.

    If I cant elude to a man what a good kind of tight in a woman is well..


    feck:(


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  • #52
    markomuscle
    Closed Accounts Posts: 560 ✭✭✭markomuscle


    Smidge wrote: »
    Eh, no..
    You've missed my insinuation there.

    If I cant elude to a man what a good kind of tight in a woman is well..


    feck:(

    yes i think i get you, a tight anal passage for anal intercourse


  • #53
    StrugglingSoul
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 207 ✭✭StrugglingSoul


    Scortho wrote: »
    If the woman offers to pay on the first date, you know she's a keeper!

    Wouldn't be a sign she's assuming she's not going to lay you


  • #54
    StrugglingSoul
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 207 ✭✭StrugglingSoul


    markomuscle wrote: »
    yes i think i get you, a tight anal passage for anal intercourse

    I'd imagine you wouldn't get that on a first date. It would be very awkward and unromantic having to ask her to clean out her anal passage before the act!!!


  • #55
    Specialun
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,068 ✭✭✭Specialun


    Did ya get a sniff of it yet???


  • #56
    StrugglingSoul
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 207 ✭✭StrugglingSoul


    Specialun wrote: »
    Did ya get a sniff of it yet???

    No. I'd imagine you wouldn't smell anything during the act if she was properly cleaned out!


  • #57
    StrugglingSoul
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 207 ✭✭StrugglingSoul


    Amprodude wrote: »
    And some women are tight but right in other departments. ;)
    As long as she's tight in both ways


  • #58
    Legs.Eleven
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,987 ✭✭✭Legs.Eleven


    markomuscle wrote: »
    because women are as tight as a bodybuilders t-shirt, especially irish women


    I'd say Irish women are less traditional about this than most nationalities around the world in my experience.



    I've dated a few Spanish guys before meeting the one I'm with and they've insisted on paying for dinner...until I insisted even more that I wanted to go halves. I've always gone halves (or a "I get this one, you get the next one" setup) and I think it's only fair. Perhaps it was reasonable when men were the bread winners but now there's no excuse when both genders are working.


  • #59
    Czarcasm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,076 ✭✭✭✭Czarcasm


    StrugglingSoul wrote: »
    Can someone tell me why that on a date, a man is the one who's expected to pay, drive, etc?? I'm not saying we all don't already know. But I would just like it be bluntly put out in the open for what it is for once. It would be interesting to see if people have the same.. or different reasons for it.


    OP you're never going to meet a girl if you're so hung up on silly things like who drives, who pays, etc. It's the good company that's important, not who pays for it or where you go or who drives. Genuine people don't have time for that sort of beancounter attitude.

    For example, I went on a dinner date with a mate the other night, she picked me up at my place and drove us to a nice restaurant for dinner, she paid for the dinner. Then we drove back into town and she parked her car at my place, we went to the club, I paid the admission for both of us and we went rounds on the drinks. After the club we went back to my place, had coffee and a chat and crashed out in the bed. She had work in the morning so she stayed over and then went from my place to work and collected her car that evening.

    When my wife and I go out on a dinner date then, either of us pays because we have a joint account.


  • #60
    StrugglingSoul
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 207 ✭✭StrugglingSoul


    Czarcasm wrote: »
    OP you're never going to meet a girl if you're so hung up on silly things like who drives, who pays, etc. It's the good company that's important, not who pays for it or where you go or who drives. Genuine people don't have time for that sort of beancounter attitude.

    For example, I went on a dinner date with a mate the other night, she picked me up at my place and drove us to a nice restaurant for dinner, she paid for the dinner. Then we drove back into town and she parked her car at my place, we went to the club, I paid the admission for both of us and we went rounds on the drinks. After the club we went back to my place, had coffee and a chat and crashed out in the bed. She had work in the morning so she stayed over and then went from my place to work and collected her car that evening.

    When my wife and I go out on a dinner date then, either of us pays because we have a joint account.

    So you're having an affair?????????????????:confused:


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  • #61
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    I get annoyed if the guy tries to pay for everything. I have a job, I like paying my way.


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