How young is too young?

Gordy6040 · 27-09-2013 04:29PM

Look OP.
Sound to me like deep down inside you know this is not right. If you felt being with her was right you'd have no problem meeting the parents.

Common sense should have stopped you going anywhere near her in the first place but you're clearly selfish enough to put your own need for sex about any impact this could be having on the girl.
End the "relationship", doesnt sound like she actually means anything to you as a person anyway. The only way you can salvage any dignity from this is to do the right thing and walk away. Be nice when you're doing it though, its the least you can do.

Cody Pomeray · 27-09-2013 04:30PM

I dated a 26/ 27 year old when I was 18. Was never an issue, I was mature and even if I wasn't, it's not that big an age difference.

Her parents might be bothered by the fact that's she's still under 18, not that this has anything to do with sex.

telekon · 27-09-2013 04:35PM

TheKingslayer wrote: »

I went through college with her brother. He threw a brick through the front window last week while we were going at it, he is not impressed to put it mildly and has been making a lot of threats, hopefully empty ones but you wouldn't know what would happen if he gets enough drink on board.

I'd be confident of taking the old fella if it comes to blows.

Yeah, sure he did... :rolleyes:

Why are some people still humouring this piss poor WUM?

Gordy6040 · 27-09-2013 04:35PM

DamagedTrax wrote: »

what in gods name are you on about? im not the OP and my GF is 24.. long past the age of consent.

Sorry ! I read your post wrong.
I read it as, you want a young one like the OP. Picked you up wrong.
Apologies

bodice ripper · 27-09-2013 04:39PM

if I were her ma, I would be having a few harsh words with you before you were told to never darken the door again. then daughter would be grounded.

lahalane · 27-09-2013 04:40PM

Prodding? Maybe shes too mature for you...

harry Bailey esq · 27-09-2013 04:58PM

TheKingslayer wrote: »

Yeah she just started fifth year, did her inter cert last year but didn't bother with transition year.

She's thinking of dropping out to do hairdressing anyway.

Yeah the father isn't too happy she says that's why she wants to arrange the meet and greet. I have my own place so I won't have to deal with him unless he comes door knocking.

you mentioned 'inter cert' in your post,that sums it all up really.im 6years older than you,and i done my junior cert,not my inter cert.are you sure your only 26???

wes · 27-09-2013 05:01PM

harry Bailey esq wrote: »

you mentioned 'inter cert' in your post,that sums it all up really.im 6years older than you,and i done my junior cert,not my inter cert.are you sure your only 26???

I am older than the OP as well, and it was Junior cert for me. My Mum who is in her early 50s did the inter cert. So either OP, is far older, or this whole thing is a wind up.

pundy · 27-09-2013 05:02PM

she's a child. presumably she's still in school for christ sake!?
it's wrong on many levels, the op knows that too.

it's a different story if she was in her 20's and you in your 30s, but if one half of the relationship is still putting on a school uniform in the mornings then it's pretty wrong dont you think?

Dan Chipowski · 27-09-2013 05:06PM

There isn't a 26 year old alive who'd refer to it as the Inter Cert.

I'm calling the person who called shenanigans on this bang on the money.

You sad sad man, OP.

Vohnsom Hofmee · 27-09-2013 05:10PM

As long as she's happy and it's consensual, I wouldn't care if my 17 year old daughter (or son) wanted to have sex with a 50 year old. If she's "in love", and attracted to older men generally, what I am going to do? Force her to be attracted to 17 year old boys when she has no interest in them? Madness.

17 is the legal age. Beat up a guy not even 10 years older than her, and doing consensual things? Great job showing your daughter needless violence is one of your parenting skills. Neanderthals.

harry Bailey esq · 27-09-2013 05:11PM

wes wrote: »

I am older than the OP as well, and it was Junior cert for me. My Mum who is in her early 50s did the inter cert. So either OP, is far older, or this whole thing is a wind up.

hopefully a wind up,otherwise it becomes a lot more sinister

Cody Pomeray · 27-09-2013 05:12PM

You would be at least 36 if you sat the "Inter cert"

Red Nissan · 27-09-2013 05:17PM

deleted. Waste of time IMO.

Oscars Well. · 27-09-2013 05:19PM

Vohnsom Hofmee wrote: »

As long as she's happy and it's consensual, I wouldn't care if my 17 year old daughter (or son) wanted to have sex with a 50 year old. If she's "in love", and attracted to older men generally, what I am going to do? Force her to be attracted to 17 year old boys when she has no interest in them? Madness.

17 is the legal age. Beat up a guy not even 10 years older than her, and doing consensual things? Great job showing your daughter needless violence is one of your parenting skills. Neanderthals.

What the fuuuck

Gosub · 27-09-2013 05:22PM

Are you her teacher OP?:)

wes · 27-09-2013 05:23PM

Red Nissan wrote: »

I'd take a chance, being aware that she may suddenly lose interest, her crush could grow to love and ye're sole-mates for life.

OP is not looking for love:

TheKingslayer wrote: »

Not that it makes much difference but I'm 26. I'm not exactly with her for love either pal, it's the cut between her legs that I want.

Pretty appalling attitude, and if this isn't a wind up (would be very surprised if it wasn't a wind up tbh), I can fully understand why the parents and her brother (his old friend no less) would be rather pissed at the guy.

Hell, my sister is in her 20s and if a mate of mine, went out with her and had that attitude, I would be seriously pissed off with him.

meemeemee · 27-09-2013 05:23PM

Question for the OP.

If you are for real, which I highly doubt, are you a TV presenter of Saturday Night Light Entertainment shows ?

Legs.Eleven · 27-09-2013 05:33PM

Shenanigans!

Honey-ec wrote: »

What the fug? Did she stay back a couple of times or something? I didn't do transition year either, but when I was 17 I was in first year in college

I was 17 going into 5th year and didn't stay back at all but did transition year. Started school when I was 5 years 4 months. I'd just turned 19 doing my Leaving, so it is possible.

The OP is a wind up though.

27-09-2013 05:35PM

I think the OP is a bit of a fantasist who thought he'd be greeted as a hero for 'prodding' a teenager. I don't for one moment believe he's for real.

If he was, he'd be nothing more than a predator, a slimy opportunist taking advantage of a schoolgirl who isn't mature enough to know that she's being used by a loser who can't convince anyone older with a bit of cop to give him a go. Someone who thinks of her in terms of a bit of slit and boasts he could take on her dad. Congrats OP, you've painted a picture of a creepy waster, well on his way to being a dirty old man leering at kids in school uniforms. I'm sure you're the envy of all your friends, but you probably don't have any.

MetalDog · 27-09-2013 05:37PM

Maybe the OP, his girlfriend and her parents can do the right thing in this situation, and sort it out on Jeremy Kyle.

Daveysil15 · 27-09-2013 05:39PM

TheKingslayer wrote: »

I'm 26, recently started prodding a girl who turned 17 last month.

All my pals are calling me a creeping Tom, pervert, Gary Glitter, deviant, degenerate, bottom feeder etc.

Thinking of calling a halt to it tbh, the abuse is getting too much to take.
Or am I thinking about it too much?

Edit: I should mention as well that she is fairly eager for me to meet the parents. I could imagine nothing more awkward tbh.

Judging by your lovely use of words, you're probably on the same level of maturity, so I wouldn't worry about it.

princess-lala · 27-09-2013 05:48PM

Prodding!! Pffft, what 26 year old says prodding!!

GalwayGuy2 · 27-09-2013 05:49PM

She's too young.

sadie06 · 27-09-2013 05:58PM

Prodding? Cut? She may not be too young to have sex, but she is definitely too young to realise what a sleaze bag you are!

flyton5 · 27-09-2013 06:01PM

I don't think it's fair to judge OP. My dad was married to another woman when he got my mum pregnant and there was a fairly large gap in age between them. For whatever reason his wife was ok with it and he kept us close by and we lived as a family and it seemed normal to us. So dont we so quick to pass comment.

T. Fritzl

Vincent Vega · 27-09-2013 06:07PM

I've known women in their late 20s with the emotional maturity of a teenager, and girls of 17/18 that came across far more mature than their age would have suggested on paper.

So long as it's legal and consensual I think it ought to be down to whether the older person is exploiting the immaturity of the younger.
I think it's the exploitation of those who are inexperienced and not as mentally developed that makes something like this wrong.

There should be as much if not more shame in sleeping with a 20 yr old with the mentality of a child, than there is in sleeping with a mentally/emotionally mature 17 yr old.

It is the taking advantage that makes it bad.

BNMC · 27-09-2013 06:09PM

OP is a troll.

/thread

Gambas108 · 27-09-2013 06:10PM

Paddy Cow wrote: »

It wouldn't be fair to judge the op if someone who knew him in real life posted his story. He chose to share all the details on a discussion board so it's fair game to judge him.

:rolleyes:

flyton5 · 27-09-2013 06:11PM

Gambas108 wrote: »

:rolleyes:

I think the penny dropped. The post appears to be gone.

How young is too young?

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