What do you get your not girlfriend?

I am pie · 19-09-2013 04:27PM

ardinn wrote: »

ok - dinner is out, her girlies doing that - she doesnt drink - She got about 10 box's of chocs allready. I was thinking flowers but what does that say?

I cant really get her nothing because she does like giving gifts and I know if it was my b'day i'd get an awesome gift! I'm so confused!!!!

This whole thing sounds way more hassle than it's worth if buying her a present is this tricky.

Fcking get on with it, throw your lot in with her or get back out on beer patrol.

Maximus Alexander · 19-09-2013 04:28PM

ardinn wrote: »

ok - dinner is out, her girlies doing that - she doesnt drink - She got about 10 box's of chocs allready. I was thinking flowers but what does that say?

I cant really get her nothing because she does like giving gifts and I know if it was my b'day i'd get an awesome gift! I'm so confused!!!!

Sounds like you care more about this than a casual relationship would suggest you should. Are you looking for it to become something more? Because that would affect the gift choice I reckon.

The Backwards Man · 19-09-2013 04:28PM

Buy her a frying pan. If she loves you she'll cook you a steak, if she just wants to be friends she'll wallop you with it.

ardinn · 19-09-2013 04:31PM

Maximus Alexander wrote: »

Sounds like you care more about this than a casual relationship would suggest you should. Are you looking for it to become something more? Because that would affect the gift choice I reckon.

No - I just dont want to look like a stingy Bástard!

cupcake83 · 19-09-2013 04:31PM

Gift card it is! Lol

Santa Cruz · 19-09-2013 04:31PM

Why not get something that she uses regularly. Sanitary towels are always useful.

bumper234 · 19-09-2013 04:33PM

Invite her around for a quickie and then remind her to make sure the door's closed properly when she leaves.

Ihatecuddles-old · 19-09-2013 04:33PM

ardinn wrote: »

We are Sleeping together - not seeing other people - but not going out with one another! A strange one really!

I thought you were my not boyfriend when I read the thread. Im in the same situation, seeing him for 6 months, we're not together.

weird one.

Anyway, it all depends on what kind of not relationship you have. Its my birthday in 2 weeks and my not boyfriend is taking me out! I think I know where, with some of his friends. Saves the having to get me something, think thats perfect. Bring her for a meal, few drinks.

Now, if you're really comfortable together and theres no fear of mixed signals, get her perfume she likes and flowers. Girls love sentiment and I would bawl my eyes out if a man ever bought me flowers. I think its so romantic

Good to know we're not the only non couple couple out there!!

Froggy123 · 19-09-2013 04:33PM

Get her a bottle of perfume and some flowers!!

Presumably you'll be saving money not having to take her for a birthday dinner so just spend the money you would have spent on a small present, tickets to a comedy gig or if something you think she'd be interested in.

Son Of A Vidic · 19-09-2013 04:35PM

ardinn wrote: »

Ive been "seeing" a girl for 7 months

'Seeing' you say?

ardinn wrote: »

Dont have a clue what to get her as we are not in a relationship

Ah yes, as I suspected. Stalker starts a thread in AH looking for gift ideas. Now that's probably a first.

Ihatecuddles-old · 19-09-2013 04:36PM

Froggy123 wrote: »

Get her a bottle of perfume and some flowers!!

Presumably you'll be saving money not having to take her for a birthday dinner so just spend the money you would have spent on a small present, tickets to a comedy gig or if something you think she'd be interested in.

Comedy gig, always a winner! Bring her to the laughter lounge. Bitches love laughing.

The Backwards Man · 19-09-2013 04:37PM

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

I thought you were my not boyfriend when I read the thread. Im in the same situation, seeing him for 6 months, we're not together. weird one.

Anyway, it all depends on what kind of not relationship you have. Its my birthday in 2 weeks and my not boyfriend is taking me out! I think I know where, with some of his friends. Saves the having to get me something, think thats perfect. Bring her for a meal, few drinks.

Now, if you're really comfortable together and theres no fear of mixed signals, get her perfume she likes and flowers. Girls love sentiment and I would bawl my eyes out if a man ever bought me flowers. I think its so romantic

Good to know we're not the only non couple couple out there!!

It's an ill-divided world out there. Some of us can't get a girlfriend for love nor money whilst others hare having their cake, and eating it.

ardinn · 19-09-2013 04:38PM

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

I thought you were my not boyfriend when I read the thread. Im in the same situation, seeing him for 6 months, we're not together. weird one.

Anyway, it all depends on what kind of not relationship you have. Its my birthday in 2 weeks and my not boyfriend is taking me out! I think I know where, with some of his friends. Saves the having to get me something, think thats perfect. Bring her for a meal, few drinks.

Now, if you're really comfortable together and theres no fear of mixed signals, get her perfume she likes and flowers. Girls love sentiment and I would bawl my eyes out if a man ever bought me flowers. I think its so romantic

Good to know we're not the only non couple couple out there!!

Think i'll just do flowers and be done with it! easiest route out of it!

Maximus Alexander · 19-09-2013 04:47PM

This non-relationship thing is really strange to me. I don't get it at all.

I'm not looking down on it or anything, I just don't really get it. Sounds kind of awkward.

sbsquarepants · 19-09-2013 04:48PM

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

I thought you were my not boyfriend when I read the thread. Im in the same situation, seeing him for 6 months, we're not together. weird one.

Anyway, it all depends on what kind of not relationship you have. Its my birthday in 2 weeks and my not boyfriend is taking me out! I think I know where, with some of his friends. Saves the having to get me something, think thats perfect. Bring her for a meal, few drinks.

Now, if you're really comfortable together and theres no fear of mixed signals, get her perfume she likes and flowers. Girls love sentiment and I would bawl my eyes out if a man ever bought me flowers. I think its so romantic

Good to know we're not the only non couple couple out there!!

Maybe I'm just an old fashioned romantic fool, but I would refuse refuse point blank to have a "not girlfriend".
If you're a girlfriend behave like one - take cock, then cook dinner and clean the gaf (no hoovering mind, I don't like being woken up from my post sex nap).
If you're a fúck buddy behave like one also -take cock and piss off (maybe leave some cans in the fridge, but don't bang the door on your way out - nap time, know what I mean)
These blurred lines are no good for me - I blame Pharrell Williams, there was none of this shít till he started mouthing off.

Ihatecuddles-old · 19-09-2013 04:51PM

Maximus Alexander wrote: »

This non-relationship thing is really strange to me. I don't get it at all.

I'm not looking down on it or anything, I just don't really get it. Sounds kind of awkward.

For us its the complete opposite. We tell each other about dates, see other people, but do everything people in a relationship do. So its kind of like an open relationship, but we wont sleep together if either of us meet someone.

Ihatecuddles-old · 19-09-2013 04:53PM

sbsquarepants wrote: »

Maybe I'm just an old fashioned romantic fool, but I would refuse refuse point blank to have a "not girlfriend".
If you're a girlfriend behave like one - take cock, then cook dinner and clean the gaf (no hoovering mind, I don't like being woken up from my post sex nap).
If you're a fúck buddy behave like one also -take cock and piss off (maybe leave some cans in the fridge, but don't bang the door on your way out - nap time, know what I mean)
These blurred lines are no good for me - I blame Pharrell Williams, there was none of this shít till he started mouthing off.

I behave exactly like a girlfriend, go on dates, hold hands, go out with his friends, go out for dinner, the difference is we are still dating other people. His friends all know me as *****'s girlfriend....not some bird he's riding. We know exactly where we stand with each other and are always 100% honest.

Gummy Panda · 19-09-2013 04:53PM

Fanny fragrance

You basically saying she had a smelly fanny

The Backwards Man · 19-09-2013 04:53PM

Maximus Alexander wrote: »

This non-relationship thing is really strange to me. I don't get it at all.

I'm not looking down on it or anything, I just don't really get it. Sounds kind of awkward.

I don't get it either. You're either in a relationship or you're happy, you can't be both.

cupcake83 · 19-09-2013 04:54PM

Maximus Alexander wrote: »

This non-relationship thing is really strange to me. I don't get it at all.

I'm not looking down on it or anything, I just don't really get it. Sounds kind of awkward.

I agree! Actually, it seems to me that most people just have a fear of commitment not all but many. That's fine, it totally is if it's mutual. I would find it very hard not to have deeper feelings for someone though. I'm also kind of the jealous type. Friends with benefits doesn't work for me.

Maguined · 19-09-2013 04:54PM

Giver her the gift that just keeps on giving, a nice dose of chlamydia.

sok2005 · 19-09-2013 04:56PM

I don't get it either. I would be upset that after 7 months the other person hasn't fallen madly in love with me. I've a fierce high opinion of myself though.

sbsquarepants · 19-09-2013 04:57PM

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

I behave exactly like a girlfriend, go on dates, hold hands, go out with his friends, go out for dinner, the difference is we are still dating other people.

Oh, I see.
I may have an opening for you in category 2 so. Do you have any cans with you?:D

Ihatecuddles-old · 19-09-2013 04:58PM

cupcake83 wrote: »

I agree! Actually, it seems to me that most people just have a fear of commitment not all but many. That's fine, it totally is if it's mutual. I would find it very hard not to have deeper feelings for someone though. I'm also kind of the jealous type. Friends with benefits doesn't work for me.

I think it is him having commitment issues, but thats his issue and Im not getting into it with him. We're both happy with the way it is now.

OldNotWIse · 19-09-2013 04:58PM

whats with all the smart age comments? is 30 old?:eek::(

Ihatecuddles-old · 19-09-2013 05:01PM

sok2005 wrote: »

I don't get it either. I would be upset that after 7 months the other person hasn't fallen madly in love with me. I've a fierce high opinion of myself though.

Im not madly in love with him either though, we both know whats involved. Though he did go on a date with one girl, and we were discussing their date over dinner and he said all he was thinking on the date was that Emma's better craic.

So there is an element of, whenever one of us does get into a relationship that means that they were better looking, funnier, better in bed or better than me in some way.

F*ck it its interesting.

cupcake83 · 19-09-2013 05:02PM

OldNotWIse wrote: »

whats with all the smart age comments? is 30 old?:eek::(

I hope not! I am not old and don't look old either! No Botox needed

tosspot15 · 19-09-2013 05:03PM

I dont get the whole "omg still only your girlfriend?!" lines.

Is it called something else after a few months?

Maximus Alexander · 19-09-2013 05:04PM

cupcake83 wrote: »

I agree! Actually, it seems to me that most people just have a fear of commitment not all but many. That's fine, it totally is if it's mutual. I would find it very hard not to have deeper feelings for someone though. I'm also kind of the jealous type. Friends with benefits doesn't work for me.

I briefly had something like this with a friend a few years ago. Only lasted a couple of weeks, then we just went back to being friends. I think we were both trying to suss out whether to risk our friendship on taking it further, and then we kind of decided not to.

It was a fun couple of weeks, but I could already feel myself starting to get attached which contributed to not letting it go on any longer. I guess I'm just not built for the friends with benefits thing, so it seems totally alien to me.

Ihatecuddles-old · 19-09-2013 05:04PM

cupcake83 wrote: »

I hope not! I am not old and don't look old either! No Botox needed

My boyfriend is 31 and I'm 21, he genuinely thinks he looks my age.Its definitely not old though!!

What do you get your not girlfriend?

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