How would you react if your partner told you they were into BDSM?

loubeelou · 13-09-2013 02:31PM

I'd say most people would enjoy some of the milder elements of BDSM. Its just a bit of fun and a bit of Dom/Sub can always add a bit of excitement. But the heavier side of it just seems like a lot of hard work.

heretochat · 13-09-2013 02:41PM

loubeelou wrote: »

I'd say most people would enjoy some of the milder elements of BDSM.

I wouldn't be too sure about this.. It is Ireland after all and aren't we all meant to be repressed when it comes to that type of thing..

Down with that sort of thing... Careful now..

VONSHIRACH · 13-09-2013 02:44PM

I'd spank her, punish her severely.

WinnyThePoo · 13-09-2013 02:45PM

A nice bottle of whiskey before the butt plugs come out to play.

Gummy Panda · 13-09-2013 02:45PM

humanji wrote: »

You do realise that BDSM isn't about being pissed on, right?

Which one is?

*prepares to take notes*

Lighter · 13-09-2013 02:46PM

Like Marcellus wallace

Knasher · 13-09-2013 02:49PM

The girlfriend asked me if I wanted to try BDSM once. Was well up for it, went mad buying all the gear and what not.

Turns out she was talking about a pub in Cork.
http://www.theblackdog.ie/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/BDSM_frontofhouse-300x200.jpg.

Annoying too, because it turns out BDSM gear has a pretty strict returns policy.

:pac::pac::pac:

Stick Monkey · 13-09-2013 02:50PM

GalwayGuy2 wrote: »

I'd like to think I'd be okay with it.

But, I wouldn't be into being peed on :eek:

You need to get a partner first OP. You could squeeze your balls with one hand while you fap with the other though I suppose.....

VONSHIRACH · 13-09-2013 02:55PM

I know a guy who was/is mad into this. I don't know if he continued his indulgences after he got married. When single, he used to visit a DX. He stuck on a bluey one night for us to watch ( ie all 4 of us housemates), we couldn't look at the stuff, a mixture of revulsion and laughter. It doesn't do anything for me, but he just flips. He showed us the whip marks on his back and behind once, they were prominent enough and this was several days after his whippin!

VONSHIRACH · 13-09-2013 02:57PM

Knasher wrote: »

The girlfriend asked me if I wanted to try BDSM once. Was well up for it, went mad buying all the gear and what not.

Turns out she was talking about a pub in Cork.
http://www.theblackdog.ie/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/BDSM_frontofhouse-300x200.jpg.

Annoying too, because it turns out BDSM gear has a pretty strict returns policy.

:pac::pac::pac:

bleaching should be ok

pharmaton · 13-09-2013 02:58PM

whatever about a bit of rough or slap and tickle I'd be a bit concerned (and slightly nervous) about the few who take it a step further or are very aggressive.

April O Neill · 13-09-2013 02:59PM

Frank Black wrote: »

I blame 40 shades of grey.

I don't.

April O Neill · 13-09-2013 03:04PM

Kintarō Hattori wrote: »

It depends on what elements of BDSM would interest her but I'd be intrigued, thrilled and a tad excited.

TMI!

Starscream25 · 13-09-2013 03:05PM

I'd give it a wack.see how I get on&#55357;&#56836;

Pudders · 13-09-2013 03:12PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lOVq81k4Y_U

13-09-2013 03:48PM

GalwayGuy2 wrote: »

Yeah, I know what you mean. I didn't really clarify what I meant when I said BDSM.

A lot of people don't. They just assume they know what it means. I have comical images in my head of people meeting up who all think they are "into BDSM" and upon hearing what the -other- couples are up to all going "Ohmigod you like doing WHAT?!?!?!!?". To use the sport analogy again it would often be like putting up an advert for people "into sport" and getting a room full of people into lawn bowling and no holds barred mixed martial arts all staring at each other thinking "You want me to do WHAT?"

Makes me giggle anyway

GalwayGuy2 wrote: »

Hmmm, what about if it was a fetish, and not just something to spice up the aul sex life?

I think it would entirely depend on what it was. I would consider every request on a case by case basis. There are things I am all for doing and trying. There are things I would not touch with the proverbial barge poll. Let alone with MY little barge poll!

On one of my house parties we did get into a weird game of truth and dare recently enough (few months back) and one of the things asked was everyone had to tell their top two until now unrealised sex fantasy or fetishes.

Some of the answers we got during that party were - - - enlightening to say the least. And some of them were so out of character for the people saying them that had I been given the list of names and the list of answers I would have utterly failed to match them up to the girls and guys who said them.

The on going joke now is that we as a group should work to help each other realise them all. And the scarey thing is I reckon close to half of them are only half joking.

loubeelou · 13-09-2013 03:58PM

Deleted User wrote: »

A lot of people don't. They just assume they know what it means. I have comical images in my head of people meeting up who all think they are "into BDSM" and upon hearing what the -other- couples are up to all going "Ohmigod you like doing WHAT?!?!?!!?". To use the sport analogy again it would often be like putting up an advert for people "into sport" and getting a room full of people into lawn bowling and no holds barred mixed martial arts all staring at each other thinking "You want me to do WHAT?"

It's all very well until someone breaks out the Gimp masks!

zl1whqvjs75cdy · 13-09-2013 04:04PM

VONSHIRACH wrote: »

I know a guy who was/is mad into this. I don't know if he continued his indulgences after he got married. When single, he used to visit a DX. He stuck on a bluey one night for us to watch ( ie all 4 of us housemates), we couldn't look at the stuff, a mixture of revulsion and laughter. It doesn't do anything for me, but he just flips. He showed us the whip marks on his back and behind once, they were prominent enough and this was several days after his whippin!

This man sounds like a maniac. He made 4 (presumably male) housemates sit with him and watch BDSM porn before showing you his arse with whip marks on it?

Yamanoto · 13-09-2013 04:25PM

In the immortal words of Doris Day, whip-crack away.

mikeym · 13-09-2013 04:33PM

Bring out the Gimp

Micky Dolenz · 13-09-2013 04:38PM

I love BDSM, the peeps locked in my basement, not so much.

constance tench · 13-09-2013 04:51PM

mikeym wrote: »

Bring out the Gimp

http://youtu.be/mNN05Ci0EuA

kinkygirl · 13-09-2013 05:03PM

From day one, my partner and I knew that the other loved the lifestyle. That's what a convent education can do to a girl. Thanks, Sr. Assumpta.

WilyCoyote · 13-09-2013 08:46PM

Yamanoto wrote: »

In the immortal words of Doris Day, whip-crack away.

Stand back, will ye!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rqi9Hr-xCI8

MadsL · 13-09-2013 08:49PM

Frank Black wrote: »

I blame 40 shades of grey.

Sorry, I thought we were talking about BDSM, not abusive relationships.

GalwayGuy2 · 13-09-2013 09:08PM

Sorry, I thought we were talking about BDSM, not abusive relationships.

Tbf, there BDSMy Fantasies not the reality of abusive relationships.

Hmm, this has led into another question, but i wonder how would people feel about their partner reading/watching BDSM Erotica?

I'm honestly quite suprised how accepting people are of BDSM.

Just as a disclaimer, my sexuality is vanilla :P

WilyCoyote · 13-09-2013 09:18PM

GalwayGuy2 wrote: »

Tbf, there BDSMy Fantasies not the reality of abusive relationships.

Hmm, this has led into another question, but i wonder how would people feel about their partner reading/watching BDSM Erotica?

I'm honestly quite suprised how accepting people are of BDSM.

Just as a disclaimer, my sexuality is vanilla :P

Mit Strawberry Swirl?

shopaholic01 · 13-09-2013 09:21PM

Deleted User wrote: »

On one of my house parties we did get into a weird game of truth and dare recently enough (few months back) and one of the things asked was everyone had to tell their top two until now unrealised sex fantasy or fetishes.

Some of the answers we got during that party were - - - enlightening to say the least. And some of them were so out of character for the people saying them that had I been given the list of names and the list of answers I would have utterly failed to match them up to the girls and guys who said them.

The on going joke now is that we as a group should work to help each other realise them all. And the scarey thing is I reckon close to half of them are only half joking.

Details?

13-09-2013 09:56PM

shopaholic01 wrote: »

Details?

Too numerous to mention. It was a largish group of male and female mates and some variety of things came out of it.

13-09-2013 10:05PM

How would I react?

Hmm. Probably with a great deal of suspicion, a soupçon of curiosity, a frisson of excitement and a dash of indifference.

Depends on who's doing what. I think I'd be good with a whip*, and I do look fabulous in leather.:)

*actually I'm far too much of a control freak to let anyone tie me up and take me over, and I'd be far too worried I'd hurt someone if they wanted a good slapping or spanking to be comfortable with the idea.

How would you react if your partner told you they were into BDSM?

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