Would you date/marry a transgender person?

Lyaiera · 23-08-2013 01:44PM

Muise... wrote: »

only if I fancied them. Otherwise what's the point?

This sums it up for me, and is the only post I can see sense in. No-ones forcing anyone to go out with anyone. If you do fancy someone, find them interesting, get along with them and begin to love them why wouldn't you go out with them?

MadsL · 23-08-2013 01:45PM

Mallory Nutty Brass wrote: »

I don't really understand the transgender thought process I have to admit. I can see how somebody would be gay or bisexual, that makes some sense, but how do you know that you were born the "wrong" gender? I mean if you are born male, you obviously have no idea what its like to be female so how do you know that is correct for you? Please forgive my ignorance on the topic but I do genuinely want to understand it.

Wait until you meet a hermaphrodite, that'll fry your head. I have a friend who had 'his' female genitals removed as a child but can still achieve female orgasms. He uses a stainless steel rod down his penis to reach a spot that is the nerve endings from where his clitoris used to be.

Dravokivich · 23-08-2013 01:47PM

Stainless_Steel wrote: »

Who would want to date a chick with a dick?

There's big business for that kind of thing in Thailand.

Brian2208 · 23-08-2013 01:48PM

MadsL wrote: »

Wait until you meet a hermaphrodite, that'll fry your head. I have a friend who had 'his' female genitals removed as a child but can still achieve female orgasms. He uses a stainless steel rod down his penis to reach a spot that is the nerve endings from where his clitoris used to be.

Aaaaand that's enough after hours for me today...

stoneill · 23-08-2013 01:49PM

MadsL wrote: »

Wait until you meet a hermaphrodite, that'll fry your head. I have a friend who had 'his' female genitals removed as a child but can still achieve female orgasms. He uses a stainless steel rod down his penis to reach a spot that is the nerve endings from where his clitoris used to be.

Jasus....

awec · 23-08-2013 01:49PM

Lyaiera wrote: »

This sums it up for me, and is the only post I can see sense in. No-ones forcing anyone to go out with anyone. If you do fancy someone, find them interesting, get along with them and begin to love them why wouldn't you go out with them?

Because they used to be the opposite sex and that's something you are never, ever going to get out of your head. It would trump them being interesting, and the getting along with them unfortunately.

I have absolutely no attraction to men personally. The idea of being with someone who used to be a man is in no way appealing to me - in fact it's the total opposite. If I said otherwise I would be lying.

awec · 23-08-2013 01:50PM

MadsL wrote: »

Wait until you meet a hermaphrodite, that'll fry your head. I have a friend who had 'his' female genitals removed as a child but can still achieve female orgasms. He uses a stainless steel rod down his penis to reach a spot that is the nerve endings from where his clitoris used to be.

What the fcuk? :eek:

Terry1985 · 23-08-2013 01:50PM

MadsL wrote: »

Wait until you meet a hermaphrodite, that'll fry your head. I have a friend who had 'his' female genitals removed as a child but can still achieve female orgasms. He uses a stainless steel rod down his penis to reach a spot that is the nerve endings from where his clitoris used to be.

that explains the recent 'fork down their penis' x-ray that was in the media last week.

krudler · 23-08-2013 01:50PM

shopaholic01 wrote: »

It would have been fantastic if they had had actually cast a transgender in the role, she's a very popular character.

Orange Is The New Black has a transgender playing one, her twin brother plays the same character in the pre-trans flashbacks.

pablomakaveli · 23-08-2013 01:51PM

I wouldn't and i don't think someone should be criticized for not wanting to either.

Not wanting to date a transgendered person doesn't make you a bigot.

MadsL · 23-08-2013 01:53PM

stoneill wrote: »

Jasus....

awec wrote: »

What the fcuk? :eek:

Terry1985 wrote: »

that explains the recent 'fork down their penis' x-ray that was in the media last week.

I know, lucky bastard gets two orgasms. Jealous.

1ZRed · 23-08-2013 01:53PM

darced wrote: »

I'm not gay so no.

Doesn't make you gay. If you were attracted to them you were because they looked like women. Gay men would not be attracted to them because of this, so no, being gay has nothing to do with this really.

Pensivepuca · 23-08-2013 01:55PM

pablomakaveli wrote: »

I wouldn't and i don't think someone should be criticized for not wanting to either.

Not wanting to date a transgendered person doesn't make you a bigot.

Exactly.
I don't see why people saying 'No I would not date/marry a transgender' is being in anyway a bigot. I would date a female to male transgender but not a male to female, does not mean I don't think a person should not have a relationship, they just would not find it with me in particular.

Sunglasses Ron · 23-08-2013 01:56PM

1ZRed wrote: »

Doesn't make you gay. If you were attracted to them you were because they looked like women. Gay men would not be attracted to them because of this, so no, being gay has nothing to do with this really.

But a great deal of lesbians are attracted to women that at first glance and even further inspection could pass for being a man, so how does that work?

BillyMitchel · 23-08-2013 02:02PM

limitedIQ wrote: »

What about if you met an absolute stunner with a great personality, started going out, everything is going great, amazing sex life and then a year later they told you they used be be a man.

Would you end it immediately ?

Yes, because its not something they should of hidden for a year.

Lyaiera · 23-08-2013 02:10PM

awec wrote: »

Because they used to be the opposite sex and that's something you are never, ever going to get out of your head. It would trump them being interesting, and the getting along with them unfortunately.

I have absolutely no attraction to men personally. The idea of being with someone who used to be a man is in no way appealing to me - in fact it's the total opposite. If I said otherwise I would be lying.

I totally get that and I have no problem with someone not wanting to date a transgender person. I do have a problem with people who have a genuine attraction to a person but hold back because of the way society acts towards transgender people.

You can see it in this thread. "Chick with a dick" "I'm not gay" etc. Those are all bigoted stereotypes of what someone who is transgender is and what a relationship with them means. If there was less of this attitude I'd imagine there would be far more people willing to go out with transgender people. Especially as I know plenty of transgender people who are in quite happy relationships with a partner. (Same sex and opposite sex relationships.)

Annasopra · 23-08-2013 02:15PM

Celly Smunt wrote: »

A transgender person is either male or female.

No

A trans person can also identify as non binary gender

Annasopra · 23-08-2013 02:16PM

Tiddlypeeps wrote: »

I don't think I would knowingly get into a relationship with someone I knew up front couldn't have kids. I don't want kids right now, but I also don't want that avenue closed off to me completely so I wouldn't take the chance. Nothing to do with the transgender bit.

If I knew for sure I didn't want kids and never would, and the person was totally convincingly male, and obviously assuming I was attracted to them then I would have no problem with it. No idea why the idea seems to creep people out if you really can't tell from looking at the person.

Em - there are already trans people parenting in Ireland http://www.lgbtdiversity.com/attachments/bde7cf07-2007-4c4b-8dd3-5ec777b0b4b2.PDF

topcatcbr · 23-08-2013 02:17PM

I think I might as long as they're hot.

I don't consider myself gay as I'm not at all attracted to guys but if I saw a "girl" I was attracted to I don't think the fact I found out they were once a guy would change that.

Galaxie · 23-08-2013 02:22PM

mango salsa wrote: »

Em - there are already trans people parenting in Ireland http://www.lgbtdiversity.com/attachments/bde7cf07-2007-4c4b-8dd3-5ec777b0b4b2.PDF

I think the poster was referring to having their own biological children with a partner though.

jimgoose · 23-08-2013 02:25PM

Not until some Budget makes it compulsory, no. Chicks-with-dicks are not my thing.

Muise... · 23-08-2013 02:26PM

mango salsa wrote: »

No

A trans person can also identify as non binary gender

Seagoon:
Try and get that on a long player! All right, so much for melody. And now, segregate the sinful sexes-

Sellers:
Wait! How many sexes are there?

Seagoon:
Two.

Sellers:
It's not enough I say, go out and order some more.

(The Goon Show, Tales of Old Dartmoor)

Esoteric_ · 23-08-2013 02:27PM

jimgoose wrote: »

Not until some Budget makes it compulsory, no. Chicks-with-dicks are not my thing.

They're not 'chicks with dicks.' They're people who were biologically male, having their bodies changed to match their gender identity, ie, no penis. :rolleyes:

jimgoose · 23-08-2013 02:27PM

mango salsa wrote: »

No

A trans person can also identify as non binary gender

Cool - a Heisenbird. :cool:

jimgoose · 23-08-2013 02:28PM

Esoteric_ wrote: »

They're not 'chicks with dicks.' They're people who were biologically male, having their bodies changed to match their gender identity, ie, no penis. :rolleyes:

They can have their bodies changed to match the coffee-percolator for all I care, I'm not dating them!

Would you date/marry a transgender person?

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