Would you date/marry a transgender person?

DColeman · 23-08-2013 01:04PM #1

Following the story of Bradley Manning now changing her name to Chelsea manning and formally changing her sex. I'm just wondering whether people would consider dating/marrying a transgender person at all?

Some would say that they couldn't get around the fact that the person used to be the same sex as them and find it offputing. Others would say that would be quite bigoted to refuse to date someone just because they were a transgender.

How would you see it? Would you be comfortable entering a relationship and ultimately marrying a transgender person?

Celly Smunt · 23-08-2013 01:07PM

Refusing to date a transgender person isn't bigoted.Saying it is almost implies you must accept a date off a transgender person because they're a minority.

SweepTheLeg · 23-08-2013 01:08PM

I am a straight male so no, I wouldn't date another guy. No matter how much you dress it up.

Stainless_Steel · 23-08-2013 01:09PM

Who would want to date a chick with a dick?

Muise... · 23-08-2013 01:10PM

only if I fancied them. Otherwise what's the point?

NegativeCreep · 23-08-2013 01:11PM

Nope.

Pensivepuca · 23-08-2013 01:12PM

I went out with a girl before she got the terestorone tablets to start the whole change. Things never worked out between us for different reasons, but I did not really mind her changing gender, she was the same human.

ballsymchugh · 23-08-2013 01:13PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g2KsZHRrFpU

darced · 23-08-2013 01:15PM

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Stainless_Steel · 23-08-2013 01:16PM

Pensivepuca wrote: »

I went out with a girl before she got the terestorone tablets to start the whole change. Things never worked out between us for different reasons, but I did not really mind her changing gender, she was the same human.

So you would be bisexual then?

Wibbs · 23-08-2013 01:17PM

While I'd have great sympathy for a person trapped in the wrong body for them(I can't even begin to imagine that), I have to be honest and say no I wouldn't.

anncoates · 23-08-2013 01:19PM

Don't think I could, no.

Wibbs · 23-08-2013 01:19PM

Though I do love what Lemmy from Motorhead once said after he slept with a transgender woman "if she's go the balls to cut hers off, I got the balls to sleep with her".

If Lemmy's "gay" I'm an albino marmoset called Tony.

zl1whqvjs75cdy · 23-08-2013 01:20PM

I don't really understand the transgender thought process I have to admit. I can see how somebody would be gay or bisexual, that makes some sense, but how do you know that you were born the "wrong" gender? I mean if you are born male, you obviously have no idea what its like to be female so how do you know that is correct for you? Please forgive my ignorance on the topic but I do genuinely want to understand it.

Celly Smunt · 23-08-2013 01:21PM

Mallory Nutty Brass wrote: »

I don't really understand the transgender thought process I have to admit. I can see how somebody would be gay or bisexual, that makes some sense, but how do you know that you were born the "wrong" gender? I mean if you are born male, you obviously have no idea what its like to be female so how do you know that is correct for you? Please forgive my ignorance on the topic but I do genuinely want to understand it.

Some boys like Action Men,other boys like Barbies.Laymans terms.

limitedIQ · 23-08-2013 01:21PM

What about if you met an absolute stunner with a great personality, started going out, everything is going great, amazing sex life and then a year later they told you they used be be a man.

Would you end it immediately ?

Nodster · 23-08-2013 01:22PM

I would in me ballhawks

Celly Smunt · 23-08-2013 01:23PM

limitedIQ wrote: »

What about if you met an absolute stunner with a great personality, started going out, everything is going great, amazing sex life and then a year later they told you they used be be a man.

Would you end it immediately ?

The big hands and feet would be a bit off putting for me from the start.

Pensivepuca · 23-08-2013 01:24PM

Stainless_Steel wrote: »

So you would be bisexual then?

I don't think so/know? I am female, and am attracted to females, but to tomboyish females, so a transgender from female to male is still on the cards to me. Not sure if that is exactly bi?

Galaxie · 23-08-2013 01:25PM

I wouldn't, no.

anncoates · 23-08-2013 01:26PM

I would consult the definitive manual for these situations:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0OP5EnaaYjQ

Terry1985 · 23-08-2013 01:27PM

No, for a start where is the foetus going to gestate? in a shoebox?

wil · 23-08-2013 01:30PM

OP, you seem to have discriminated against transgender persons by not including them in your poll. Thin edge?

Clandestine · 23-08-2013 01:35PM

Maybe. I guess how well they pass would be a factor, and how far along into the process they were.

Celly Smunt · 23-08-2013 01:35PM

wil wrote: »

OP, you seem to have discriminated against transgender persons by not including them in your poll. Thin edge?

A transgender person is either male or female.

ericl · 23-08-2013 01:36PM

A bride on her wedding night says to her husband, "I must confess, darling, I used to be a hooker."

He says, "That's alright, dear. Your past is your past but, I must admit, I find it quite erotic. Tell me about it."

She replies, "Well, my name was Nigel and I played for Wigan."

stoneill · 23-08-2013 01:39PM

Roy Cropper had no probs marrying Haley from Coronation Street

awec · 23-08-2013 01:41PM

No, I wouldn't. And that is not remotely bigoted.

If it emerged years later that a partner was transgender then yes, I would end it.

shopaholic01 · 23-08-2013 01:41PM

stoneill wrote: »

Roy Cropper had no probs marrying Haley from Coronation Street

It would have been fantastic if they had actually cast a transgender in the role, she's a very popular character.

Esoteric_ · 23-08-2013 01:42PM

Some of the transphobic comments here are horrible.

As to the original question - I really don't know. I've never been faced with that situation. I'd like to imagine that it wouldn't stop me from liking a person in a romantic way, but at the same time, transitioning from male to female, or vice versa, is bound to have a huge impact on the person's life. I would be worried that there could be underlying mental health issues, NOT (I'd like to stress) from the transition itself, but perhaps from the mental torture of spending X amount of their life in the wrong body.

In an ideal world, I'd say yes. But I don't know how I'd react if faced with the situation. I don't think that the person's previous biological gender would affect me as such, moreso any mental or emotional implications that come with that.

Edit to add - I don't think it's bigoted at all. We all have personal preferences.

Tiddlypeeps · 23-08-2013 01:42PM

I don't think I would knowingly get into a relationship with someone I knew up front couldn't have kids. I don't want kids right now, but I also don't want that avenue closed off to me completely so I wouldn't take the chance. Nothing to do with the transgender bit.

If I knew for sure I didn't want kids and never would, and the person was totally convincingly male, and obviously assuming I was attracted to them then I would have no problem with it. No idea why the idea seems to creep people out if you really can't tell from looking at the person.

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