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Would you judge a person by their past??

  • 08-08-2013 01:13PM
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    Closed Accounts Posts: 192 ✭✭


    Say you met someone new, whether they could be a new friend or a new partner, he/she is a good person, they seem happy and know what they want, you get on well, you like them and they like you.

    But say then you found out some stuff about their past when they were younger that would have shocked you. Maybe it could be that they were into drugs and crime so they could relapse and go back to those ways again, or that, if you wanted to date them, they used to be promiscious so you don't know if you could trust them to stay faithful, or maybe they were one of those people who were not popular at school because they would have been considered weird or creepy for whatever reason, it could be that they had some issues or really personal issues like mental illness, and so they would have not much friends.

    But would you judge that person on their past even if it was clear that they are so much different now? That they have cleaned up their act and working hard to make themselves a better person. I mean do you really think it is fair to not associate yourself with someone just because of whatever happened in the past? I have known so many people who are so different from when they were their early teens, they have grown up and are working hard to make a good life for themselves than before, when they would have had a lot of issues, more than the typical teenager would have.

    Also when I am talking about someones past, I am talking about during their teenage years, since because of puberty, I think it's fair to say everyone has made mistakes at a time where they thought it was completely ok.
    I should know, been there, done that. :( But I would like to think I am different now, only problem is that I am 20 and only left school a year, so any mistakes I made are probably still fresh in people's minds.

    So what do you think?


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Comments

  • Closed Accounts Posts: 13,925 ✭✭✭✭anncoates


    Dump him.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,787 ✭✭✭✭ScumLord


    I judge people on the imaginary future I make up for them while they think I'm listening to what they're saying.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,574 ✭✭✭whirlpool


    My head hurts.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 280 ✭✭Johnny Drama_11


    Yes.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,055 ✭✭✭Red Nissan


    If it's the woman thinking their man would change, he won't.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,829 ✭✭✭Nemeses


    I can change, I can change!!!!






    Reality answer: Satin fell for this. The answer is no, Saddam Hussein cannot change.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 18,299 ✭✭✭✭The Backwards Man


    Everyone judges people, anyone who says they don't is a liar. It's how you use that judgement that counts, not the judgement itself.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 81,060 ✭✭✭✭biko


    So you're 20 now and worried about what happened during your teens?
    That's still only 1 year ago..

    Don't worry, by the time you're 50 it will have blown over.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43,038 ✭✭✭✭SEPT 23 1989


    Pope John Paul II once said

    in this great future we can't forget our past,So dry your tears, I say

    he was right


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 192 ✭✭happyviolet


    whirlpool wrote: »
    My head hurts.

    Your head hurts from reading that??? That's tiny compared to some essays I have seen on here!


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 15,676 ✭✭✭✭herisson


    I wouldn't say I'd judge someone based on their past but I would bear it in mind. After all its possible the past can come back to bite you in the ass in some form but at the end of the day if I like someone, I like them for who they are now, not what they did in the past.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,717 ✭✭✭Raging_Ninja


    The only way to judge people is by their actions.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,678 ✭✭✭I Heart Internet


    Time is a great healer. Don't get too hung up on what people (or you) did in the past. You can't change it.

    Be good to people in the hear and now and you'll be grand.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 192 ✭✭happyviolet


    The only way to judge people is by their actions.

    Obviously, but again would than be past actions or present-day actions?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,456 ✭✭✭astonaidan


    Why would you judge someone on what they did as a child.
    Like I judge people but on what theyve done to me


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,787 ✭✭✭✭ScumLord


    The only way to judge people is by their actions.
    Isn't that basically judging them on their past?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,272 ✭✭✭Henlars67


    Everyone has a past, provided they weren't a rapist or paedophile I don't see why it would be an issue.

    So what if someone took drugs when they were younger or even did a few burglaries.

    I know loads of people who were nutters 10 or 15 years ago and they're settled now with good jobs and raising families.

    Your past shouldn't count against you unless you're a sick fu*k like I mentioned in the first line.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,296 ✭✭✭Frank Black


    People should be judged on their opinions and personality, both of which have been formed over time - that is to say by their past. People's actions are also goverened by the type of person they are.
    Everyone is a product of their past therefore it's impossible not to judge someone on it.

    Personally I hate people who judge people on their appearance whether it be their race or simply their clothes.
    I hate people who judge others on their accents and by what school they attended or by their families - people have little choice over such matters.

    Judging people by the friends they keep is reasonable.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,147 ✭✭✭PizzamanIRL


    Get rid of him before he cheats on you again. That Emily girl sounds like a tramp.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,678 ✭✭✭I Heart Internet


    Rev. Lovejoy: Now, for our offertory reading, Lisa Simpson, who we'll all be keeping an eye on.
    Lisa: I know most of you have already judged my brother guilty without any proof, but doesn't the Bible teach us "Judge not lest ye be judged," Reverend?
    Rev. Lovejoy: I think it may be somewhere towards the back.
    Lisa: There is someone among us with a guilty conscience. After much soul searching I decided it would be wrong of me to name names, but I urge that guilty person here, under the eyes of God, to come forward to confess and save yourself from the torment of your own personal hell.
    Principal Skinner: I smelled some marijuana smoke in Vietnam!
    Grampa: I was the one who cancelled "Star Trek."
    Dr. Hibbert: I left my Porsche keys inside Mrs. Glick!
    Lisa: I'm talking about the collection money thief: only you can come forward and end this injustice! (pauses to wait for Jessica to confess) Oh, what the heck, it was Jessica Lovejoy.

    You're welcome


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  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,387 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    No, only how they learned from it. If they don't learn from the past then I'd tend to avoid TBH.

    Many worry about Artificial Intelligence. I worry far more about Organic Idiocy.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,533 ✭✭✭Jester252


    Best way to predict the future is to look in the past. Have they learned anything from their past? If not they are likely to repeat their old actions


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 3,888 ✭✭✭dmc17


    whirlpool wrote: »
    My head hurts.

    Basically, what I think they're saying is that they were going through one of their friends post and found some interesting material.
    Do you go through other people's post and if so, would you judge a person by their post? (PS. I didn't read it either)


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 61 ✭✭Earthwalker


    astonaidan wrote: »
    Why would you judge someone on what they did as a child.

    Start a thread on the killing of James Bulger and you might get a few reasons.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,829 ✭✭✭Nemeses


    Start a thread on the killing of James Bulger and you might get a few reasons.

    I read that just now.

    That is absolutely F Shocking. I cannot find enough words in the english language to describe how I feel about that.

    With that on their past. I'd never trust them at all. No second chances in this case.

    Because they are now older as well, I'm sure I'd nearly kill them myself.

    That is one shocking, unbelievable disgusting act.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,735 ✭✭✭dar100


    Only God can judge... With my good self been God, I judge unmercifully.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,574 ✭✭✭whirlpool


    Your head hurts from reading that??? That's tiny compared to some essays I have seen on here!

    It's the content, not the length.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,574 ✭✭✭whirlpool


    Henlars67 wrote: »
    Everyone has a past, provided they weren't a rapist or paedophile I don't see why it would be an issue.

    So what if someone took drugs when they were younger or even did a few burglaries.

    I know loads of people who were nutters 10 or 15 years ago and they're settled now with good jobs and raising families.

    Your past shouldn't count against you unless you're a sick fu*k like I mentioned in the first line.

    So you do judge someone by their past, basically; you just do so on a sliding scale.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,035 ✭✭✭uch


    Right after Not reading the last couple of pages of mumbo jumbo, I've had a fairly checkered past, I've been arrested for theft, and arrested for breaking and entering, Was Homeless and lived in a Bus station in the Netherlands for a time, been takin' away for possession, and locked up for being Drunk and Disorderly, and have 2 convictions for fraud, and if you met me you might think I'm a dodgy charater, but I now work for Revenue and do your taxes

    22/25



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,124 ✭✭✭joe swanson


    Leopards...... Spots..............etc


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