How many people here were bullied at school?

freshpopcorn · 01-08-2013 01:38PM #1

I was a little at the beginning of primary school and a bit more in secondary school and how I ended it was my standing up to these people and fighting them back and I actually ending up being really good friends with them because I stood up for myself.
A lot of other people got bullied too some quite badly than others. If I am being honest the guys who went of crying to the teachers got it worse than the guys who stood up for themselves. It was there word against the bullies and they had no proof so it was hard for the teachers to do anything about it.
So what were you experiences of bulling in school?

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Dravokivich · 01-08-2013 01:40PM

freshpopcorn wrote: »

So what were you experiences of bulling in school?

I was at a Catholic all boys school, so that kind of thing was frowned upon.

tin79 · 01-08-2013 01:42PM

Only cows in my school, no bulls.

NegativeCreep · 01-08-2013 01:43PM

Wasn't bullied and not very many people were in my schools, which I'd weird as they'd be considered very rough schools! One guy was bullied in primary school because he thought he could talk to birds but that was it.

Peregrine · 01-08-2013 01:44PM

Seen it happen to people way too many times but surprisingly it never happened to me.

I mean I'm not saying I've never come across the odd arrogant prick who shouts abuse me every time they see me but that's not bullying and I couldn't give a shit about them.

BeerWolf · 01-08-2013 01:44PM

Nope, never been.

OldNotWIse · 01-08-2013 01:44PM

A little at primary school. Our first school disco, I was 11. My Dad brought me shopping for a dress. He was proud as punch. The girls told me they'd all be wearing dresses. Got there...all wearing Levi's (this was 95 or thereabouts) and I was the laughing stock. Had my first panic attack that night. Same girls carved my name into a desk to get me into trouble, but spelled my name wrong

In secondary, I largely escaped except for one or two jealous cúnts within the group who couldn't hack that I was prettier and smarter than them. One of them actually outed me to the entire class. Devastating. Anyway, a quick search on LinkedIn shows that they have largely become class A nothings. Sweet xx

My poor brother was actually bullied by a teacher. We moved to snobsville when we were kids. I was lucky in that I was 5 so I started at the same point as my classmates. My brother was older, had a rough accent and joined halfway through primary so he was a target. At one point the teacher in question declared to the whole class that he was "from dirty Tallaght". When I think about it now, him a 9 year old being bullied by a grown woman, it makes my fuucking blood boil.

Ihatecuddles-old · 01-08-2013 01:45PM

Few physical fights. Girls trying to intimidate me. Was pathetic really, never let it bother me so I'll say no!

MonstaMash · 01-08-2013 01:46PM

I was bullied relentlessly as I moved home to Ireland with a decidedly cockney accent straight into Dublin's inner city schools...

My parents sent me to Judo & boxing when I was 7-8 years old...I became proficient in both quickly

Revenge is a dish best served cold :eek:

Shenshen · 01-08-2013 01:48PM

I was, all through school.

I was a very shy child, almost painfully so. I was nerdy in a way, always carried at least one book around, but was utter rubbish at most school subjects.
When I hit puberty, the way my father would treat me became increasingly unbearable to me, so I ended up depressed and overeating.

Looking back, I must have been a bully's wet dream, really.

Aglomerado · 01-08-2013 01:49PM

OldNotWIse wrote: »

My poor brother was actually bullied by a teacher. We moved to snobsville when we were kids. I was lucky in that I was 5 so I started at the same point as my classmates. My brother was older, had a rough accent and joined halfway through primary so he was a target. At one point the teacher in question declared to the whole class that he was "from dirty Tallght". When I think about it now, him a 9 year old being bullied by agrown woman, it makes my fuucking blood boil.

That says more about the teacher than about the child. Pathetic b'itch. I suffered similar myself at the hands of a primary school principal. It really is laughable how a grown adult will bully a child yet cower and cringe when confronted by the parent(s).

Talib Fiasco · 01-08-2013 01:50PM

I think everyone has received some degree of bullying in school. I like you recieved it in both primary and secondary school. Even now in college I come across people who just generally don't like you and would rather see you fail and make your life a pain.

The way I see is if nobody hates you then nobody loves you. I prefer that happy medium where you have people who'd do anything for you and will stand by you no matter what while having a minority of people who wish misery on you compared to having no real friends and no real enemies. You basically don't know anyone in that situation.

As regards to putting a stop to it, it faded out when I was younger because the people who did it were idiotic people who had the combined amount of brain cells equivalent to a toaster. But if it ever or will get serious I've had or will have no problem dealing some physical retaliation to them. Some people need to learn the hard way.

Demonique · 01-08-2013 01:50PM

I was bullied in school because I was different (turned out I had autism but wasn't diagnosed until I was 25)

My mother was no help, I came home one day and mentioned girls bullying me, she started to say that obnoxious 'sticks and stones' poem, she only got the 'sticks and stones' part out because I let a roar at her, the stupid cow

There was also a horrible teacher, <snip> ugly cow.

NothingMan · 01-08-2013 01:51PM

Primary school not at all but never clicked with my primary school friends when I went to secondary. Personalities came through and we had nothing in common. One little prick used to give me a hard time when in a group. Use to avoid walking home certain ways because I was afraid. He usually ran at me with a brick or stick with his mates (my old primary mates

) egging him on. Nothing ever happened thankfully but I hate that prick.

One guy use to spit at me, not on me, until I got him on his own and lost my cool. Apparently him and his mates came looking for me in work but I was finished and then nothing ever happened except that guy never did anything again and even avoided me.

newballsplease · 01-08-2013 01:52PM

tin79 wrote: »

Only cows in my school, no bulls.

Thats neither dry nor funny.. Its nothing.

Seriously.... Get out you boring ##******

OldNotWIse · 01-08-2013 01:52PM

MonstaMash wrote: »

I was bullied relentlessly as I moved home to Ireland with a decidedly cockney accent straight into Dublin's inner city schools...

My parents sent me to Judo & boxing when I was 7-8 years old...I became proficient in both quickly

Revenge is a dish best served cold :eek:

My brother was bullied relentlessly in a CB school. He's quiet but has a fierce temper when he's pushed. Eventually he lost it with the bully when he was cornered in the bathroom, and broke his nose. Parents called up to the school etc...headmaster shook my Dad's hand and said staff had been dying to do that for a long time!

OldNotWIse · 01-08-2013 01:55PM

Aglomerado wrote: »

That says more about the teacher than about the child. Pathetic b'itch. I suffered similar myself at the hands of a primary school principal. It really is laughable how a grown adult will bully a child yet cower and cringe when confronted by the parent(s).

She was a b1tch alright. Everything that happened in the classroom was blamed on him. Even when someone vandalised the toilet at the back of the classroom...while he was sitting at his desk. If I got my hands on her now I'd kill her. And my mother wonders why he has low self-esteem.... Did your self esteem take a knock? It's so horrendous to do that to a child when they are still vulnerable and forming their views about the world!

Aglomerado · 01-08-2013 01:58PM

OldNotWIse wrote: »

She was a b1tch alright. Everything that happened in the classroom was blamed on him. Even when someone vandalised the toilet at the back of the classroom...while he was sitting at his desk. If I got my hands on her now I'd kill her. And my mother wonders why he has low self-esteem....Did your self esteem take a knock? It's so horrendous to do that to a child when they are still vulnerable and forming their views about the world!

It sure did fcek up my self esteem, and marked me out as a victim for skobe kids in secondary school. The fact that I'm a depressive has a lot to do with those years. As I've gotten older, I've become less tolerant and now don't take any kind of sh!t from anybody.

meoklmrk91 · 01-08-2013 01:59PM

Relentlessly all through primary school by one girl, if I ever got my chance now I take a running jump at her, I don't care what anyone says about her being a child, she systematically made my life hell for years.

vitani · 01-08-2013 02:04PM

In primary school, it was more like regular slagging than bullying. I wasn't consistently targeted by any one person but as I was the smartest kid in the class and smug about it, as well as being a bit of a suck up, the rest of the class took pleasure in bringing me back down to earth.

In secondary school, I was picked on my one girl for a few months. It was never anything massive, just regular put downs and on one occasion, her telling me I couldn't sit and have lunch at her table. She used to take turns in picking on different people and moved on to someone else after a while, but it was hard to take while it was happening.

WumBuster · 01-08-2013 02:08PM

I got bullied a bit and also bullied others myself. A rite little **** i was.

Larbre34 · 01-08-2013 02:08PM

Have spoken to friends about this down the years. I went to all-boys schools all the way up and to be fair didnt see a whole lot of bullying in them, it certainly never affected me, but I was tall and handy with a hurl (on the pitch) so just never arose.

I have however come to the conclusion from the evidence of female friends of different sizes and shapes and backgrounds, that girls between the ages of about 5 and 21 are utter and complete C U Next Tuesdays and capable of the most vicious, spiteful, pernicious and sustained mental and physical abuse of their peers. At least in a lads school you might get a bit of a hiding and move on, the stuff Ive heard about girls, even in the days ages before social media bullying would make your hair curl. Pure sociopaths.

JonSnuuu · 01-08-2013 02:08PM

I was bullied pretty badly in Primary School in Dublin for being quite the nerd/teachers pet.

I just really enjoyed school, nothing wrong with learning :P, parents and teachers got involved but it continued to happen. Most parents refused to believe their "precious darlings" would ever do such a thing and they branded me as being "too sensitive". Enough was enough and my parents decided to finally move down the country like they had being planning on doing for a while.

Moved from a very large school (around 700 people) with uniforms and everything to a small country school of about 75 where you could wear your own clothes and had to wear slippers inside so you didn't drag the mud from the fields in with you. I loved it and the children there were so nice, still best friends with lots of them.

Finishing up in college now and there's still no better feeling than creeping on my old bullies on Facebook and seeing

"Employment: da dole lol

Education: da skul of life"

Who's the loser now? :cool::cool:

shruikan2553 · 01-08-2013 02:23PM

I was now and again, was never anything too serious that I couldn't deal with myself or just ignored. On the plus side those that were involved are either dead or on social welfare never having a job and probably never will.

PhlegmyMoses · 01-08-2013 02:24PM

I was a bit of a bully as a kid. Not many people that know me now would believe it but it is what it is. It's weird, because I ****ing despised when other people did it to people and would stand up for them.

Rasheed · 01-08-2013 02:36PM

No thank God. Went to a small rural primary school and got on well with most there.

Went to the convent in town for secondary. Yeah there were a few wagons that you get in every walk of life but can't say I was ever bullied.

EazyD · 01-08-2013 02:58PM

Normal enough kid in a private catholic all boys secondary school, so it was inevitable to some degree. Some were worse than others, but I never really bothered with it or got heated up......until one day in art class. My mother was severely ill with cancer at the time, and being the last in my family to find out, I was a boiling pot of emotions. One of the class jokers made his quick "your ma" comment, no sooner did the funny man get 2lbs of fresh clay to the face and a jab to his nasties. In hindsight it was an overreaction, but I can't say I completely regretted it!

OldNotWIse · 01-08-2013 03:03PM

JonSnuuu wrote: »

I was bullied pretty badly in Primary School in Dublin for being quite the nerd/teachers pet.

I just really enjoyed school, nothing wrong with learning :P, parents and teachers got involved but it continued to happen. Most parents refused to believe their "precious darlings" would ever do such a thing and they branded me as being "too sensitive". Enough was enough and my parents decided to finally move down the country like they had being planning on doing for a while.

Moved from a very large school (around 700 people) with uniforms and everything to a small country school of about 75 where you could wear your own clothes and had to wear slippers inside so you didn't drag the mud from the fields in with you. I loved it and the children there were so nice, still best friends with lots of them.

Finishing up in college now and there's still no better feeling than creeping on my old bullies on Facebook and seeing

"Employment: da dole lol

Education: da skul of life"

Who's the loser now :cool::cool:

hahaha love it. One stuck up cow from my old school was whipped out at fourth year to go to the Institute (ours was fee paying but not quite enough for her snobby parents) - she was "destined" for medicine and The Institute gave her the "best opportunities"...looked her up there yday - she didnt do medicine, but does Essence makeup market research bullsh1t made up job title count?:D

markomuscle · 01-08-2013 03:07PM

at high school, i would have quite happily shot them given half the chance

tinyk68 · 01-08-2013 03:10PM

Was bullied in second and third year. I was shy, skinny, frizzy haired, wore glasses and liked learning. I was every bully's idea of a nerd and they homed in on me straight away. It was the most miserable two years of my life. I went to school in a constant state of fear. After third year three of the ringleaders didn't come back because they were pregnant! I made new friends and gradually grew into myself. Skinny became slim. I tamed the frizz into curls, got contact lenses and learned how to be happier in my own skin. I'm now 44 and sometimes see some of the bullies around town. They are all haggard and older looking than their years from smoking and hard living. I now look better than them and have a very happy life. What goes around comes around.

checkyabadself · 01-08-2013 03:10PM

I was bullied as i was a small wirey kid. It was terrible, I got my ass kicked more times than I can remember. Girls are worse than fellas though. When they see that you haven`t any popular males to defend their taunting, they lay it on in spades as it wont affect their popularity with any prospective future boyfriends.

Funnily enough, I grew up to be a big bloke (6`3", 17 stone) as I joined a basketball team with a gym and kept the habit to this day. As a result I'm now always looking out for the small guy. I cannot stand idly by and watch someone being terrorized or humiliated especially when that person isn`t physically able to defend themselves.

I've intervened a few times where I've seen someone being pushed around. It broke my heart one day to see a bunch of fellas around 16 picking on one of their "friends" who was pretending to not be bothered by being pushed around but was only trying to fit in.
I asked the "leader" if he wanted to impress the girls that were watching him and if he thought he was tough, that he could pick on me. I called him a pussy and a coward. He turned and walked away.

I met a few lads that used to pick on me, they were my friends, in the last few years who didn't recognise me as I ended up twice the size of most of them. I say friends as when chatting one to one with most of them they were civil and decent, but together I was the target of horrible humiliation and endless put downs.

Bullying, especially among adults is the lowest of the low in my book, to get ahead by crushing vulnerable people is disgusting.

How many people here were bullied at school?

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