Ho much to give for a wedding.

anncoates · 30-07-2013 12:46PM

whatlliwear wrote: »

I have asked my friends how much they give & it varies from €50 per person to €200 per person. Agh!

Just give them a actual gift instead of a cash present.

Chocoholic84 · 30-07-2013 02:09PM

stones55 wrote: »

I have my sisters wedding in a few weeks and il be giving €250. It's all I can afford, if I can afford a bit more at the time il give €300. But I'm also going on holidays a few days later so also need money for that.

I asked my sister what she expected from me, she said €550. ðŸ˜³ I could not afford that. She choose to have her reception in an expensive spot where it's €90 a head.

To be honest after hearing that, I'd be buying her a €10 picture frame.

Luap · 30-07-2013 02:11PM

About 3 fiddy.

charlietheminxx · 30-07-2013 02:25PM

I hate this nonsense of having to give cash.

I went to a wedding in spring where I spent a fair amount of money buying a nice gift. I asked the bride where to leave her present to be told they had nowhere to get presents and that most presents were in card format. She said she'd get it off me again but my lovely thoughtful present is still sitting in the house

homemadecider · 30-07-2013 02:26PM

We have a wedding coming up next week, this is roughly how much everything is costing us:

Hen party: €75 for dinner and joint surprise gift plus I think I spent €30 on drinks and €15 on taxi home. Total €120
Stag party: Activity(€50) plus dinner (€30) plus drinks (€30) = €110
Wedding present from both of us: €200
Travel halfway across Ireland and back for the wedding: €30
Overnight stay the night before €100 (not easy to get there on time for the wedding on the day itself)
Dinner and drinks the night before €80
Room in venue on day of wedding €200
Drinks at wedding €60

We're both wearing outfits we already have and I'll do my own hair and makeup. Still costing the guts of €900 for both us of to attend!

hotmail.com · 30-07-2013 02:30PM

homemadecider wrote: »

We have a wedding coming up next week, this is roughly how much everything is costing us:
Hen party: €75 for dinner and joint surprise gift plus I think I spent €30 on drinks and €15 on taxi home. Total €120

Stag party: Activity(€50) plus dinner (€30) plus drinks (€30) = €110

Wedding present from both of us: €200

Travel halfway across Ireland and back for the wedding: €30

Overnight stay the night before €100 (not easy to get there on time for the wedding on the day itself)

Dinner and drinks the night before €80

Room in venue on day of wedding €200

Drinks at wedding €60

We're both wearing outfits we already have and I'll do my own hair and makeup. Still costing the guts of €900 for both us of to attend!

It's really insane.

Joe Exotic · 30-07-2013 02:32PM

Myself and the gf always go with the E150 between us

Both of us have decent jobs and don't struggle to make ends meet but i think thats plenty especially when we would go to multiple weddings a year.

SCOOP 64 · 30-07-2013 02:34PM

yeah, it does have its advantages of not knowing anyone.

m5ex9oqjawdg2i · 30-07-2013 02:42PM

I guess three fiddy is out of the question then?

beakerjoe · 30-07-2013 02:46PM

In this day and age, give what ever you can afford but id usually give 75 bucks

anncoates · 30-07-2013 02:49PM

Astrid Huge Laser wrote: »

I guess three fiddy is out of the question then?

As a suggested gift or a meme that's not so much scraping the barrell as burst through the botton and is headed towards Austrailia?

freshpopcorn · 30-07-2013 02:50PM

homemadecider wrote: »

We have a wedding coming up next week, this is roughly how much everything is costing us:
Hen party: €75 for dinner and joint surprise gift plus I think I spent €30 on drinks and €15 on taxi home. Total €120

Stag party: Activity(€50) plus dinner (€30) plus drinks (€30) = €110

Wedding present from both of us: €200

Travel halfway across Ireland and back for the wedding: €30

Overnight stay the night before €100 (not easy to get there on time for the wedding on the day itself)

Dinner and drinks the night before €80

Room in venue on day of wedding €200

Drinks at wedding €60

We're both wearing outfits we already have and I'll do my own hair and makeup. Still costing the guts of €900 for both us of to attend!

Bring sandwiches o you don't have to have dinner the night before. Cut down on the drink if you want to save money. Drink tap water. Avoid overnight accommodation by leaving a bit earlier and not drinking alcohol! Which will also save ye money!

Pawwed Rig · 30-07-2013 02:54PM

homemadecider wrote: »

We have a wedding coming up next week, this is roughly how much everything is costing us:
Hen party: €75 for dinner and joint surprise gift plus I think I spent €30 on drinks and €15 on taxi home. Total €120

Stag party: Activity(€50) plus dinner (€30) plus drinks (€30) = €110

Wedding present from both of us: €200

Travel halfway across Ireland and back for the wedding: €30

Overnight stay the night before €100 (not easy to get there on time for the wedding on the day itself)

Dinner and drinks the night before €80

Room in venue on day of wedding €200

Drinks at wedding €60

We're both wearing outfits we already have and I'll do my own hair and makeup. Still costing the guts of €900 for both us of to attend!

You can save 180 by traveling the morning of the wedding (not easy does not equal impossible. Get up earlier)
Room €200??? You could save €100 staying in a nearby B&B.
The Hen & Stag probably replaced a night out for that week so that is not necessarily a real expense.

panda100 · 30-07-2013 02:58PM

homemadecider wrote: »

We have a wedding coming up next week, this is roughly how much everything is costing us:

Hen party: €75 for dinner and joint surprise gift plus I think I spent €30 on drinks and €15 on taxi home. Total €120

Stag party: Activity(€50) plus dinner (€30) plus drinks (€30) = €110

Wedding present from both of us: €200

Travel halfway across Ireland and back for the wedding: €30

Overnight stay the night before €100 (not easy to get there on time for the wedding on the day itself)

Dinner and drinks the night before €80

Room in venue on day of wedding €200

Drinks at wedding €60

We're both wearing outfits we already have and I'll do my own hair and makeup. Still costing the guts of €900 for both us of to attend!

And tbh those are quite cheap hen/stag nights. Usually you have to pay for accommodation for that too, and last hen I was at I had to pay €35 towards stupid pole dancing lessons too.

Does anyone actually enjoy Irish weddings? I find them boring and so predictable. The only part I actually like is the speeches because they are at least original and different.

beakerjoe · 30-07-2013 03:00PM

i personally love a good wedding. Stop giving out about the cost.

The stags/Hens are just good nights out. I love a good stags and its great banter.

miss no stars · 30-07-2013 03:01PM

Pawwed Rig wrote: »

You can save 180 by traveling the morning of the wedding (not easy does not equal impossible. Get up earlier)
Room €200??? You could save €100 staying in a nearby B&B.
The Hen & Stag probably replaced a night out for that week so that is not necessarily a real expense.

The parents went to one lately that was a 3 night affair in a particular venue with nothing else nearby... So to be fair to that poster, you don't know the venue and whether accom. elsewhere is possible. As for travel the night before... It's debatable. A couple of hours drive is fine if the reception is near the ceremony and you can check in to your accommodation and freshen up... But if the earliest check-in is mid-afternoon (common) and it's miles from the ceremony (seemingly also quite common) you could end up feeling a bit eugh by the time you even get to the ceremony. Not saying it's not do-able, just that sometimes it's more hassle than it's worth to save a bit of money. Plus if the wedding was in Donegal and the guest lives in Wexford there's not a hope they'd drive up the day of. Tbh if I was having a wedding and a guest was tossing up between giving me 200 quid of a present or making life a bit easier on themselves and staying near to the wedding the night before I'd much rather they stay nearer and enjoy the day and give a token present.

Tiddlypeeps · 30-07-2013 03:18PM

Czarcasm wrote: »

I just give a donation to charity on their behalf, then put the receipt in a card.

I think this is so tacky. If I got married and people gave me nothing I'd have no problem with that, a wedding shouldn't be about the gifts. But if somebody gave me a receipt for a donation to charity I'd be fairly disgusted. I'm fairly strongly against most organised charities tho so I might be just an odd ball.

I think a charity donation for most people is pretty much buying guilt relief, it just makes them feel better about themselves. A gift should be something for the recipient to enjoy, the person who benefits from the charity gift is the person who gave it not the recipient.

I'd compare it to giving a receipt for a burger that somebody got and ate themselves and calling it a gift. Tacky.

suicide_circus · 30-07-2013 03:24PM

can someone explain this please...

why do people say "stags" for stag night rather than just "stag"? why the unnecessary and nonsensical s at the end?

"I'm going on john's stag this weekend"

"I'm going on john's stags this weekend"

homemadecider · 30-07-2013 03:27PM

freshpopcorn wrote: »

Bring sandwiches o you don't have to have dinner the night before. Cut down on the drink if you want to save money. Drink tap water. Avoid overnight accommodation by leaving a bit earlier and not drinking alcohol! Which will also save ye money!

Ah I could do that, of course. However this will be a gathering for all my friends (including those coming from many different countries) so I'd rather not have to get up at 6am on the morning of the wedding to drive for hours and arrive already shattered. I think the money is better spent getting there the day before, enjoying being relaxed and getting into the spirit of things.

But yes - your point definitely stands - you can do weddings more cheaply than I listed.

FTA69 · 30-07-2013 03:40PM

Personally I hate the concept of big organised weddings and myself and the old doll would never have one. First of all we both have massive families and the guest list would have to be huge or else giant family hassle would occur. Second of all, the thought of spending tens of thousands on a glorified p*ss-up just strikes me as ridiculous considering that money could be used for a deposit/round the world trip/car or something that would add to one's life/experiences. Lastly, expecting people who are broke as f*ck to travel to a venue and give us loads of money/cash/cards is outrageous. The whole thing about wedding gifts has turned into a horrible, grasping concept.

Personally you're better off galavanting away to the Caribbean and getting some St Lucian pastor to marry ye on the beach.

--LOS-- · 30-07-2013 03:53PM

yikes I dont want to go to weddings after reading this thread! My Aunt got married and I made her wedding invitations so that was my present to her, two of my cousins will be getting married in the coming year and they'll most likely get a painting as their present, more thoughtful anyways

keithclancy · 30-07-2013 03:58PM

FTA69 wrote: »

Personally I hate the concept of big organised weddings and myself and the old doll would never have one. First of all we both have massive families and the guest list would have to be huge or else giant family hassle would occur. Second of all, the thought of spending tens of thousands on a glorified p*ss-up just strikes me as ridiculous considering that money could be used for a deposit/round the world trip/car or something that would add to one's life/experiences. Lastly, expecting people who are broke as f*ck to travel to a venue and give us loads of money/cash/cards is outrageous. The whole thing about wedding gifts has turned into a horrible, grasping concept.

Personally you're better off galavanting away to the Caribbean and getting some St Lucian pastor to marry ye on the beach.

Fair enough, I live abroad so meeting a lot of the Family in one place is an irregular life experience for me.

Also it's nice for both sides of the Family to get to know each other.

The money part is irrelevant if you've saved up the money and budgeted everything.

Matt_Trakker · 30-07-2013 04:11PM

April O Neill wrote: »

I really hope I don't know you in real life, try not associate with money-grubbers.

Oh no, I was so desperate for you to like me. :rolleyes:

jester77 · 30-07-2013 04:14PM

FTA69 wrote: »

Personally I hate the concept of big organised weddings and myself and the old doll would never have one. First of all we both have massive families and the guest list would have to be huge or else giant family hassle would occur. Second of all, the thought of spending tens of thousands on a glorified p*ss-up just strikes me as ridiculous considering that money could be used for a deposit/round the world trip/car or something that would add to one's life/experiences. Lastly, expecting people who are broke as f*ck to travel to a venue and give us loads of money/cash/cards is outrageous. The whole thing about wedding gifts has turned into a horrible, grasping concept.

Personally you're better off galavanting away to the Caribbean and getting some St Lucian pastor to marry ye on the beach.

Irish weddings are as ridiculous and unimaginative as they get. Any recent Irish wedding I've been to usually involved travelling a long distance from the church to the reception and every single reception was like groundhog day. No personal touch or thought put in to it at all and they all followed the same boring format. People seem to expected to give 200+ cash in a card and there isn't even an open bar, something which I've only experienced in Ireland. The whole day is so contrived.

krudler · 30-07-2013 04:32PM

Last wedding I was at was two friends who were the first in our immediate social circle to get married, they were going to the States for their honeymoon so I stuck 150 US dollars in a card. Between the stag, buying a suit (I needed a new one anyway, so perfect occasion for it, the groom rented his!) and the drinks and stuff it wasnt cheap at all.

starWave · 30-07-2013 04:44PM

Would usually give €100 as single or €200 as couple, enough to cover the meal, and the rest is a gift.

There's another thread about this in the wedding forum, and some of the stories are funny and/or outrageous.

Irish weddings are a right bore. You're usually starving when you sit down for some food. Was at one recently on the continent, and there was a buffet when we arrived at the reception, which was good enough as a meal in itself, but then we had a proper sit down meal after. There was also an open bar, and nobody was too drunk, which there is usually always one at an Irish wedding.

shruikan2553 · 30-07-2013 05:38PM

jester77 wrote: »

Irish weddings are as ridiculous and unimaginative as they get. Any recent Irish wedding I've been to usually involved travelling a long distance from the church to the reception and every single reception was like groundhog day. No personal touch or thought put in to it at all and they all followed the same boring format. People seem to expected to give 200+ cash in a card and there isn't even an open bar, something which I've only experienced in Ireland. The whole day is so contrived.

It's always a 10/11am wedding in a church followed by some hotel where the options are turkey and ham or fish. A band followed by a DJ.

I want to go to one that isnt in a church for a change and then a buffet with some sort of entertainment like a martial arts demonstration where their fists and feet are on fire as the kick the crap out of each doing back flips and ****. Oh and rains of castamere from game of thrones needs to be played.

I'm sure gran would love that!

Dostoevsky · 30-07-2013 06:01PM

gowley wrote: »

was at one on fri. 150 is the going rate for a couple it seems

In Kyaavan, perhaps. €200 usually (€100 per guest) unless they're notoriously tight when a candle in a nice package would be more than generous. I hate mean people.

AlmightyCushion · 30-07-2013 06:02PM

shruikan2553 wrote: »

It's always a 10/11am wedding in a church followed by some hotel where the options are turkey and ham or fish. A band followed by a DJ.

I want to go to one that isnt in a church for a change and then a buffet with some sort of entertainment like a martial arts demonstration where their fists and feet are on fire as the kick the crap out of each doing back flips and ****. Oh and rains of castamere from game of thrones needs to be played.

I'm sure gran would love that!

If I'm at a wedding and the rains of castamere start playing, I'm getting out of that place sharpish.

Galwayguy35 · 30-07-2013 06:06PM

I give €100 as a present, it's all I could afford to give and think it's a reasonable amount.

Ho much to give for a wedding.

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