Ho much to give for a wedding.

pragmatic1

Heading to a wedding alone next weekend. Whats acceptable in cash to give as a gift?

The Backwards Man

I always give €200 with a note saying I want first pick of the bridesmaids.

FreshKnickers

Your presence is all that's required.

The Backwards Man

FreshKnickers wrote: »

Your presence is all that's required.

You spelt present wrong.:p

gowley

was at one on fri. 150 is the going rate for a couple it seems

dr strangelove

Definitely wouldn't give them a Ho.
You know, unless they specifically asked for one.

AlmightyCushion

gowley wrote: »

was at one on fri. 150 is the going rate for a couple it seems

Give €151 to make everyone else look cheap.

Artful_Badger

€100 is enough, anyone who wouldnt be happy with a gift of €100 is a greedy cúnt.

pragmatic1

AlmightyCushion wrote: »

Give €151 to make everyone else look cheap.

Better be a nice fcuking dinner then.

Banjo String

Was actually at one on Saturday. I gave £200 tbh.

Then again it was my little brother and I was best man.

I think if you cover the cost of your dinner you'll be fine.

Pretty Polly

The last wedding I was at I gave €100 which is a lot of money really. I think for a couple its €150-€200. It depends how well you know the person, if they are family/relations/work colleagues etc.

Menas

It all depends IMO. A close friend or family member would get more from me than a work colleague for eg.

awec

100 quid?! Fcuk that.

50 quid is more than enough unless it's very close family.

freshpopcorn

It depends on how close they are to you OP. Close friends/family should get more than the lady at work who polishes the chandeliers!

Talib Fiasco

I'd give them €100 but put it all in €5 notes and then staple each €5 note to the card you'll give them which you made on Microsoft Publisher...

PizzamanIRL

I hope I'm never invited to a wedding.

Gannicus

From my experience the norm seems to be the cost of the dinner plus €50 so a couple is "expected" in a lot of cases to pay €100 plus the cost of both their dinners. Which means it averages out about €100-€120 for one person and €200 - €240 for a couple.

Personally I think its mad money. It already costs a lot to attend a wedding between getting there hotels and the ridiculous prices some places charge for a drink because they know they have a captive market.

I was at a wedding last year and they said as a present everyone put what they can in a card and don't sign the card. The idea was that people that couldn't afford to give a lot weren't pressured into giving large sums of money. I was actually quite impressed by this and tried to give as much as I could (within reason)

Sulla Felix

One days wage. I don't know why people fixate on a given value. One hundred to Bob is a lot because he's on minimum wage, it's fsck all for Sue because she's on 200k a year.

Claregirl

Big Steve wrote: »

I was at a wedding last year and they said as a present everyone put what they can in a card and don't sign the card. The idea was that people that couldn't afford to give a lot weren't pressured into giving large sums of money. I was actually quite impressed by this and tried to give as much as I could (within reason)

That's a brilliant idea...having said that I bet there was more than on cheap cnut that gave nothing on the basis that they wouldn't be identified:(

PinkLemonade

Big Steve wrote: »

From my experience the nwhatorm seems to be the cost of the dinner plus €50 so a couple is "expected" in a lot of cases to pay €100 plus the cost of both their dinners. Which means it averages out about €100-€120 for one person and €200 - €240 for a couple.

Personally I think its mad money. It already costs a lot to attend a wedding between getting there hotels and the ridiculous prices some places charge for a drink because they know they have a captive market.

I was at a wedding last year and they said as a present everyone put what they can in a card and don't sign the card. The idea was that people that couldn't afford to give a lot weren't pressured into giving large sums of money. I was actually quite impressed by this and tried to give as much as I could (within reason)

I've never heard of this, how are you meant to know what the dinner cost?

Sam Kade

The Backwards Man wrote: »

I always give €200 with a note saying I want first pick of the mothers.

:eek:

freshpopcorn

PinkLemonade wrote: »

I've never heard of this, how are you meant to know what the dinner cost?

Look at the hotels website they generally have the wedding menus there and if your also any bit of a foodie you'll have a fair good idea based on the establishment its being held in!

Gannicus

Claregirl wrote: »

That's a brilliant idea...having said that I bet there was more than on cheap cnut that gave nothing on the basis that they wouldn't be identified:(

I dunno. I wouldn't dare ask. I know in my group of friends that would certainly be the case which really is a shame for me to have to say,

PinkLemonade wrote: »

I've never heard of this, how are you meant to know what the dinner cost?

I am just going on what I've been exposed to and the different weddings I've attended over the last 2 or 3 years

Bozo Skeleton

Ho much to give to a wedding?

Supplying prostitutes for a wedding would be a blunder in etiquette, in my opinion.

MadsL

According to Hollywood it is a minimum of $1,000,000 to f*ck the bride.




...that might just be Demi Moore though. Put in a lowball offer if she's a bit rough.

purplepanda

Is it a Greek wedding? Why do you suddenly have to give the couple cash? :pac:

If the bars free I might consider a donation

kollegeknight

Just got married.

Couple either 200€ or no less than €150 was the go. Cost of dinner plus gift.

Single. 100€ is enough.

jester77

Bloody hell, Irish weddings are so predictable and boring. Cash in a card is about as thoughtless as it can get. Why not get them something with a bit of meaning instead OP.

kennryyr

kollegeknight wrote: »

Just got married.

Couple either 200€ or no less than €150 was the go. Cost of dinner plus gift.

Single. 100€ is enough.

How sweet.

kollegeknight

kollegeknight wrote: »

Just got married.

Couple either 200€ or no less than €150 was the go. Cost of dinner plus gift.

Single. 100€ is enough.

Didn't last long

Two Tone from Limehouse

awec wrote: »

100 quid?! Fcuk that.

50 quid is more than enough unless it's very close family.

Tight arse

Midnight Sundance

If a couple usually give 150, why should a single have to give 100? Should 75/80 no be a single( half of 150)

kennryyr

Midnight Sundance wrote: »

If a couple usually give 150, why should a single have to give 100? Should 75/80 no be a single( half of 150)

Hush, peasant.

shruikan2553

Midnight Sundance wrote: »

If a couple usually give 150, why should a single have to give 100? Should 75/80 no be a single( half of 150)

One of the perks of being a couple is to save money on gifts so the coulpe are just getting a discount

MadsL

purplepanda wrote: »

If the bars free I might consider a donation

Yeah, someone has to clean that up you know. Jaysus.

Dali Farmer

jester77 wrote: »

Bloody hell, Irish weddings are so predictable and boring. Cash in a card is about as thoughtless as it can get. Why not get them something with a bit of meaning instead OP.

Your present "with a bit of meaning" Jester, may be seen as distasteful, or simply not match the taste's of the couple getting married. For example most couples in their sixties/seventies wouldn't have the same interior design ideas as a couple in their twenties getting married. So what may seem like a good idea to you (no matter how well thought out) may be skip fodder to the newly couple. Cash is king

Pretty Polly

Does anybody give non-cash gifts going to weddings nowadays?

Capt'n Midnight

Here ya go

http://tescovaluecards.com/

JustAThought

For a not particularly close relation : from a single person e70 is good. E120 from a couple is good.
If you really like them & are close e100 from a single person e150 or so from a couple is good. Single people get shafted as usual for higher costs

delw

Depends if it's the full wedding or not.
€100 for full wedding,**** all if only invited to afters & be grateful i turned up to make up the numbers

awec

Two Tone from Limehouse wrote: »

Tight arse

Nothing tight about it. 100 euro per person to go to a wedding is outrageous, people are mugs to be paying that to anyone who isn't very close friends or family.

So long as you have covered the cost of a meal then anything extra is a bonus.

Ideally, couples would have a wedding list with gifts at all prices on it, so people can buy what they want and the couple get what they want. People see wedding lists as pretentious but in reality couples expect to get cash anyway so they may as well just be honest about it up front.

Sh1tbag OToole

Pretty Polly wrote: »

Does anybody give non-cash gifts going to weddings nowadays?

I wonder. I wouldnt feel right about showing up knowing there was an 'entry fee' of an unspecified amount.

weddings are far too much of a money racket, surely things werent this bad before the celtic tiger

mattjack

Give a kitten , everyone loves kittens.

Supraman

We had a few single people at our wedding only a few weeks ago . Not one of them have less than 100 euro . That said some couples have 100 . The going rate seems to be 200 in a card for a couple based on my own wedding . We did get a good few with 400-500 though too .

Amazed by the generosity of some people to be honest .

Sh1tbag OToole

Supraman wrote: »

We had a few single people at our wedding only a few weeks ago . Not one of them have less than 100 euro . That said some couples have 100 . The going rate seems to be 200 in a card for a couple based on my own wedding . We did get a good few with 400-500 though too .

Amazed by the generosity of some people to be honest .

Its because its the done thing and nobody wants to look like a cheapskate. I never really thought of this because im too young really to be invited to weddings but if the invites start arriving they'll be used as fire lighters.

Let someone else pay for their silver cutlery and waterford crystal..

Clever Username

I f*cking hate this conversation, I have heard it so many times and it drives me mental. I for one am totally against giving cash, I am fed up of people trying to make a profit on their "big day"......f off. I take immense pleasure in giving a lovely vase.

Ruudi_Mentari

What's all this about money, are people just flaunting it or what how about a token; a gesture. A wedding couple is not a charity case?

awec

Supraman wrote: »

We had a few single people at our wedding only a few weeks ago . Not one of them have less than 100 euro . That said some couples have 100 . The going rate seems to be 200 in a card for a couple based on my own wedding . We did get a good few with 400-500 though too .

Amazed by the generosity of some people to be honest .

I don't think it's generosity.

It's people paying up because that's what they believe is expected.

hotmail.com

€100 per person, but try to get second hand cutlery. You might be lucky and get a good bargain that could save you €30-50 and they won't know the difference.

awec

Clever Username wrote: »

I f*cking hate this conversation, I have heard it so many times and it drives me mental. I for one am totally against giving cash, I am fed up of people trying to make a profit on their "big day"......f off. I take immense pleasure in giving a lovely vase.

In general, a cash gift should cover the cost of your meal at the evening reception.

When the expectation goes well above this it gets ridiculous. Guests are not there to pay for your lovely decorations in the church given that they couldn't give a f**k if you have those decorations or not.

I doubt anyone makes a profit on a wedding these days given that the cost of one appears to have reached insane levels, but I imagine quite a few couples see guests as a way to recuperate as much money as possible.

Wouldn't be surprised if there are couples that actually work out the optimum number of guests to get the best balance of cost and potential income.

rainbowdrop

I gave €150 at the wedding of my close friend a few months ago (single). I'd be better friends with the groom rather than the bride

One thing I did not like at all, was that a few weeks after the wedding, the bride was giving out about one couple who 'only' gave €50, that if they were going to be so tight they should'nt have gone to the wedding.

I'm also friends with this couple, and I know that they absolutely skinted themselves to be at that wedding, as they have small children and he recently lost his job. That was more than likely all they could afford

I just thought it a bit mean of the bride to say this, as she's also well aware of the couple's financial situation, but did'nt care.

It also made me wonder if she bitchedto the guests that gave more than I did (€200-€300) that I 'only' gave €150.....