Ho much to give for a wedding.

Midnight Sundance · 29-07-2013 11:02PM

If a couple usually give 150, why should a single have to give 100? Should 75/80 no be a single( half of 150)

kennryyr · 29-07-2013 11:09PM

Midnight Sundance wrote: »

If a couple usually give 150, why should a single have to give 100? Should 75/80 no be a single( half of 150)

Hush, peasant.

shruikan2553 · 29-07-2013 11:11PM

Midnight Sundance wrote: »

If a couple usually give 150, why should a single have to give 100? Should 75/80 no be a single( half of 150)

One of the perks of being a couple is to save money on gifts so the coulpe are just getting a discount

MadsL · 29-07-2013 11:12PM

purplepanda wrote: »

If the bars free I might consider a donation

Yeah, someone has to clean that up you know. Jaysus.

Dali Farmer · 29-07-2013 11:15PM

jester77 wrote: »

Bloody hell, Irish weddings are so predictable and boring. Cash in a card is about as thoughtless as it can get. Why not get them something with a bit of meaning instead OP.

Your present "with a bit of meaning" Jester, may be seen as distasteful, or simply not match the taste's of the couple getting married. For example most couples in their sixties/seventies wouldn't have the same interior design ideas as a couple in their twenties getting married. So what may seem like a good idea to you (no matter how well thought out) may be skip fodder to the newly couple. Cash is king

Pretty Polly · 29-07-2013 11:22PM

Does anybody give non-cash gifts going to weddings nowadays?

Capt'n Midnight · 29-07-2013 11:32PM

Here ya go

http://tescovaluecards.com/

JustAThought · 29-07-2013 11:36PM

For a not particularly close relation : from a single person e70 is good. E120 from a couple is good.
If you really like them & are close e100 from a single person e150 or so from a couple is good. Single people get shafted as usual for higher costs

delw · 29-07-2013 11:47PM

Depends if it's the full wedding or not.
€100 for full wedding,**** all if only invited to afters & be grateful i turned up to make up the numbers

awec · 29-07-2013 11:49PM

Two Tone from Limehouse wrote: »

Tight arse

Nothing tight about it. 100 euro per person to go to a wedding is outrageous, people are mugs to be paying that to anyone who isn't very close friends or family.

So long as you have covered the cost of a meal then anything extra is a bonus.

Ideally, couples would have a wedding list with gifts at all prices on it, so people can buy what they want and the couple get what they want. People see wedding lists as pretentious but in reality couples expect to get cash anyway so they may as well just be honest about it up front.

Sh1tbag OToole · 29-07-2013 11:54PM

Pretty Polly wrote: »

Does anybody give non-cash gifts going to weddings nowadays?

I wonder. I wouldnt feel right about showing up knowing there was an 'entry fee' of an unspecified amount.

weddings are far too much of a money racket, surely things werent this bad before the celtic tiger

mattjack · 29-07-2013 11:59PM

Give a kitten , everyone loves kittens.

Supraman · 30-07-2013 12:04AM

We had a few single people at our wedding only a few weeks ago . Not one of them have less than 100 euro . That said some couples have 100 . The going rate seems to be 200 in a card for a couple based on my own wedding . We did get a good few with 400-500 though too .

Amazed by the generosity of some people to be honest .

Sh1tbag OToole · 30-07-2013 12:08AM

Supraman wrote: »

We had a few single people at our wedding only a few weeks ago . Not one of them have less than 100 euro . That said some couples have 100 . The going rate seems to be 200 in a card for a couple based on my own wedding . We did get a good few with 400-500 though too .

Amazed by the generosity of some people to be honest .

Its because its the done thing and nobody wants to look like a cheapskate. I never really thought of this because im too young really to be invited to weddings but if the invites start arriving they'll be used as fire lighters.

Let someone else pay for their silver cutlery and waterford crystal..

Clever Username · 30-07-2013 12:08AM

I f*cking hate this conversation, I have heard it so many times and it drives me mental. I for one am totally against giving cash, I am fed up of people trying to make a profit on their "big day"......f off. I take immense pleasure in giving a lovely vase.

Ruudi_Mentari · 30-07-2013 12:10AM

What's all this about money, are people just flaunting it or what how about a token; a gesture. A wedding couple is not a charity case?

awec · 30-07-2013 12:14AM

Supraman wrote: »

We had a few single people at our wedding only a few weeks ago . Not one of them have less than 100 euro . That said some couples have 100 . The going rate seems to be 200 in a card for a couple based on my own wedding . We did get a good few with 400-500 though too .

Amazed by the generosity of some people to be honest .

I don't think it's generosity.

It's people paying up because that's what they believe is expected.

hotmail.com · 30-07-2013 12:14AM

€100 per person, but try to get second hand cutlery. You might be lucky and get a good bargain that could save you €30-50 and they won't know the difference.

awec · 30-07-2013 12:18AM

Clever Username wrote: »

I f*cking hate this conversation, I have heard it so many times and it drives me mental. I for one am totally against giving cash, I am fed up of people trying to make a profit on their "big day"......f off. I take immense pleasure in giving a lovely vase.

In general, a cash gift should cover the cost of your meal at the evening reception.

When the expectation goes well above this it gets ridiculous. Guests are not there to pay for your lovely decorations in the church given that they couldn't give a f**k if you have those decorations or not.

I doubt anyone makes a profit on a wedding these days given that the cost of one appears to have reached insane levels, but I imagine quite a few couples see guests as a way to recuperate as much money as possible.

Wouldn't be surprised if there are couples that actually work out the optimum number of guests to get the best balance of cost and potential income.

rainbowdrop · 30-07-2013 12:21AM

I gave €150 at the wedding of my close friend a few months ago (single). I'd be better friends with the groom rather than the bride

One thing I did not like at all, was that a few weeks after the wedding, the bride was giving out about one couple who 'only' gave €50, that if they were going to be so tight they should'nt have gone to the wedding.

I'm also friends with this couple, and I know that they absolutely skinted themselves to be at that wedding, as they have small children and he recently lost his job. That was more than likely all they could afford

I just thought it a bit mean of the bride to say this, as she's also well aware of the couple's financial situation, but did'nt care.

It also made me wonder if she bitchedto the guests that gave more than I did (€200-€300) that I 'only' gave €150.....

Sh1tbag OToole · 30-07-2013 12:29AM

awec wrote: »

In general, a cash gift should cover the cost of your meal at the evening reception.

When the expectation goes well above this it gets ridiculous. Guests are not there to pay for your lovely decorations in the church given that they couldn't give a f**k if you have those decorations or not.

I doubt anyone makes a profit on a wedding these days given that the cost of one appears to have reached insane levels, but I imagine quite a few couples see guests as a way to recuperate as much money as possible.

Wouldn't be surprised if there are couples that actually work out the optimum number of guests to get the best balance of cost and potential income.

The hotels do well out of them I'd say. The cat lick church does as well, even the ould registry office dont do too bad out of it. Everyone trying to outdo each other, kind of like with houses a few years ago

Barr · 30-07-2013 12:31AM

The going rate at the moment is €150 couple and €50-€70 single for the full day.

solas111 · 30-07-2013 12:49AM

I was at one recently and was told by those in the know that €150 is the going rate for a couple. Don't tell my wife but I gave €200.

Pang · 30-07-2013 12:54AM

150 euro appears to be very popular as the amount for a couple to give. That's what I would always give.

I don't get how brides and grooms can complain about only getting 50euro or a present. It's expensive going to a wedding especially if it requires an over night stay and/or childminder and also money for alcohol. Additionally, there are so many people struggling to pay bills and provide basic essentials for their family.

buyer95 · 30-07-2013 01:04AM

Sh1tbag OToole wrote: »

Its because its the done thing and nobody wants to look like a cheapskate. I never really thought of this because im too young really to be invited to weddings but if the invites start arriving they'll be used as fire lighters.

Let someone else pay for their silver cutlery and waterford crystal..

Tight arse.

April O Neill · 30-07-2013 04:02AM

kollegeknight wrote: »

Single. 100€ is enough.

Less TBH, if you're broke.

I attended a friend's wedding just after graduating. I was skint and gave 75 euro. Had transport costs and accommodation to pay for too. As someone said, if a person is unhappy with this amount, they're massively greedy.

Funnyonion79 · 30-07-2013 07:30AM

As someone who got married in the boom, most of our cash gifts were €150 per couple or €50/€75 for a single person. However I didn't care what I got - it wasn't the value of the gift or the amount of cash that mattered to me- it was the fact that an effort was made to give something. Even a €10 picture frame was greatly appreciated.

I just don't understand people that give out about how they only got €100 from someone! Get over yourself!! Weddings cost a lot of money to go to even before having to fork out for a gift/cash donation.

I would never give any more than €150 per couple for a good friend that's getting married or €100 per couple for a work colleague or a relation. There was discussions recently about giving €200 per couple for a good friends's wedding and I flatly refused! If it was less in the boomtime, why would we be giving more in a recession??? Makes no sense. Plus €150 per couple is plenty to be getting! If you got €75 from each guest you'd be doing well.

It's people that turn up for a wedding empty-handed that I can't understand - think it's so rude! Like I said - even a small inexpensive picture frame is appreciated - you don't have to spend a lot of money if you can't afford it and any couple that measure your friendship by the cost of your gift have their priorities all wrong IMO.

dj jarvis · 30-07-2013 07:51AM

if i ever heard of a bride/groom giving out about the amount the received as a GIFT from a guest i would cut them a new arsehole,

Sure , weddings cost money , but its not your friends and family's place to finance your day, anything you get is a bonus and thats all

if you are hoping the cash gifts are going to cover your wedding ,then you are an idiot - plan a smaller , cheaper wedding
all this "limit" on what people should give is odious :mad:

i am getting married in 2 months - reg office on the friday with very close family,
on the sat i have a restaurant booked for 35 people - then a hotel function room with dj and bar later on in the evening for all guests - simple and wont break the bank - becasue i just cant afford it

the type of people who slate a low income family becasue they could not meet their expectations when giving a cash gift are the type i hate

seriously - if i had heard that i would have cut the silly cow in half

get some new friends people !!

Gael23 · 30-07-2013 08:01AM

It depends on your relationship to the couple really. In general it's €150 per couple or maybe €70 for a single person.
Obviously if the person getting married was a family member or you were bridesmaid/best man it would be a bit more.
Having said that you should always give what you can afford. If you don't have that much and the person is a close enough friend, they will understand that

Matt_Trakker · 30-07-2013 08:11AM

200, that's 100 for bride and 100 for groom, anything less is a bit of an insult imo.

Ho much to give for a wedding.

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