Ho much to give for a wedding.

pragmatic1 · 29-07-2013 07:38PM #1

Heading to a wedding alone next weekend. Whats acceptable in cash to give as a gift?

The Backwards Man · 29-07-2013 07:39PM

I always give €200 with a note saying I want first pick of the bridesmaids.

FreshKnickers · 29-07-2013 07:41PM

Your presence is all that's required.

The Backwards Man · 29-07-2013 07:42PM

FreshKnickers wrote: »

Your presence is all that's required.

You spelt present wrong.:p

gowley · 29-07-2013 07:43PM

was at one on fri. 150 is the going rate for a couple it seems

dr strangelove · 29-07-2013 07:43PM

Definitely wouldn't give them a Ho.
You know, unless they specifically asked for one.

AlmightyCushion · 29-07-2013 07:44PM

gowley wrote: »

was at one on fri. 150 is the going rate for a couple it seems

Give €151 to make everyone else look cheap.

Artful_Badger · 29-07-2013 07:46PM

€100 is enough, anyone who wouldnt be happy with a gift of €100 is a greedy cúnt.

pragmatic1 · 29-07-2013 07:47PM

AlmightyCushion wrote: »

Give €151 to make everyone else look cheap.

Better be a nice fcuking dinner then.

Banjo String · 29-07-2013 07:47PM

Was actually at one on Saturday. I gave £200 tbh.

Then again it was my little brother and I was best man.

I think if you cover the cost of your dinner you'll be fine.

Pretty Polly · 29-07-2013 07:55PM

The last wedding I was at I gave €100 which is a lot of money really. I think for a couple its €150-€200. It depends how well you know the person, if they are family/relations/work colleagues etc.

Menas · 29-07-2013 07:55PM

It all depends IMO. A close friend or family member would get more from me than a work colleague for eg.

awec · 29-07-2013 08:03PM

100 quid?! Fcuk that.

50 quid is more than enough unless it's very close family.

freshpopcorn · 29-07-2013 08:03PM

It depends on how close they are to you OP. Close friends/family should get more than the lady at work who polishes the chandeliers!

Talib Fiasco · 29-07-2013 08:04PM

I'd give them €100 but put it all in €5 notes and then staple each €5 note to the card you'll give them which you made on Microsoft Publisher...

PizzamanIRL · 29-07-2013 08:18PM

I hope I'm never invited to a wedding.

Gannicus · 29-07-2013 09:25PM

From my experience the norm seems to be the cost of the dinner plus €50 so a couple is "expected" in a lot of cases to pay €100 plus the cost of both their dinners. Which means it averages out about €100-€120 for one person and €200 - €240 for a couple.

Personally I think its mad money. It already costs a lot to attend a wedding between getting there hotels and the ridiculous prices some places charge for a drink because they know they have a captive market.

I was at a wedding last year and they said as a present everyone put what they can in a card and don't sign the card. The idea was that people that couldn't afford to give a lot weren't pressured into giving large sums of money. I was actually quite impressed by this and tried to give as much as I could (within reason)

Sulla Felix · 29-07-2013 10:06PM

One days wage. I don't know why people fixate on a given value. One hundred to Bob is a lot because he's on minimum wage, it's fsck all for Sue because she's on 200k a year.

Claregirl · 29-07-2013 10:12PM

Big Steve wrote: »

I was at a wedding last year and they said as a present everyone put what they can in a card and don't sign the card. The idea was that people that couldn't afford to give a lot weren't pressured into giving large sums of money. I was actually quite impressed by this and tried to give as much as I could (within reason)

That's a brilliant idea...having said that I bet there was more than on cheap cnut that gave nothing on the basis that they wouldn't be identified:(

PinkLemonade · 29-07-2013 10:14PM

Big Steve wrote: »

From my experience the nwhatorm seems to be the cost of the dinner plus €50 so a couple is "expected" in a lot of cases to pay €100 plus the cost of both their dinners. Which means it averages out about €100-€120 for one person and €200 - €240 for a couple.

Personally I think its mad money. It already costs a lot to attend a wedding between getting there hotels and the ridiculous prices some places charge for a drink because they know they have a captive market.

I was at a wedding last year and they said as a present everyone put what they can in a card and don't sign the card. The idea was that people that couldn't afford to give a lot weren't pressured into giving large sums of money. I was actually quite impressed by this and tried to give as much as I could (within reason)

I've never heard of this, how are you meant to know what the dinner cost?

Sam Kade · 29-07-2013 10:17PM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

I always give €200 with a note saying I want first pick of the mothers.

:eek:

freshpopcorn · 29-07-2013 10:19PM

PinkLemonade wrote: »

I've never heard of this, how are you meant to know what the dinner cost?

Look at the hotels website they generally have the wedding menus there and if your also any bit of a foodie you'll have a fair good idea based on the establishment its being held in!

Gannicus · 29-07-2013 10:20PM

Claregirl wrote: »

That's a brilliant idea...having said that I bet there was more than on cheap cnut that gave nothing on the basis that they wouldn't be identified:(

I dunno. I wouldn't dare ask. I know in my group of friends that would certainly be the case which really is a shame for me to have to say,

PinkLemonade wrote: »

I've never heard of this, how are you meant to know what the dinner cost?

I am just going on what I've been exposed to and the different weddings I've attended over the last 2 or 3 years

Bozo Skeleton · 29-07-2013 10:28PM

Ho much to give to a wedding?

Supplying prostitutes for a wedding would be a blunder in etiquette, in my opinion.

MadsL · 29-07-2013 10:42PM

According to Hollywood it is a minimum of $1,000,000 to f*ck the bride.

...that might just be Demi Moore though. Put in a lowball offer if she's a bit rough.

purplepanda · 29-07-2013 10:44PM

Is it a Greek wedding? Why do you suddenly have to give the couple cash? :pac:

If the bars free I might consider a donation

kollegeknight · 29-07-2013 10:46PM

Just got married.

Couple either 200€ or no less than €150 was the go. Cost of dinner plus gift.

Single. 100€ is enough.

jester77 · 29-07-2013 10:48PM

Bloody hell, Irish weddings are so predictable and boring. Cash in a card is about as thoughtless as it can get. Why not get them something with a bit of meaning instead OP.

kennryyr · 29-07-2013 10:49PM

kollegeknight wrote: »

Just got married.

Couple either 200€ or no less than €150 was the go. Cost of dinner plus gift.

Single. 100€ is enough.

How sweet.

29-07-2013 10:53PM

kollegeknight wrote: »

Just got married.

Couple either 200€ or no less than €150 was the go. Cost of dinner plus gift.

Single. 100€ is enough.

Didn't last long

Two Tone from Limehouse · 29-07-2013 10:56PM

awec wrote: »

100 quid?! Fcuk that.

50 quid is more than enough unless it's very close family.

Tight arse

Ho much to give for a wedding.

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