Women being influenced by their friends

Table Top Joe · 23-06-2013 09:06AM

Festy wrote: »

Was out the last night talking away to who I thought was a nice enough girl,was getting on very well with her,but then when of her friends came up and dragged her away Classic cockblock situation ,so around a half hour later bumped into her again and she said I'm not interested Oh.......oh I see

btw I'm not saying this about all women ofc,but has anyone else encountered anything similar like this ?

Seemed like yer garen variety cockblock but if she says shes not interested then.....shes probably not interested(and yes im aware of the "help me!" thing,i get the call from female friends sometimes)

Aced_Up · 23-06-2013 09:14AM

The other woman is known as a 'cock blocker', you need a wingman!!!

Singularity 1 · 23-06-2013 10:52AM

Boofle wrote: »

No it's far more likely that the girl just wasn't interested and her friend was just helping her out.. If she was into you she wouldn't let her friend drag her away from you. We do have our own minds you know!

Relax! I said its possible - I didn't say it was a fact.

starlit · 23-06-2013 10:55AM

Festy wrote: »

Was out the last night talking away to who I thought was a nice enough girl,was getting on very well with her,but then when of her friends came up and dragged her away,so around a half hour later bumped into her again and she said I'm not interested

btw I'm not saying this about all women ofc,but has anyone else encountered anything similar like this ?

Its true it does happen!

December2012 · 23-06-2013 11:15AM

Women make up their own minds. We don't stop talking to somebody we want to because our friends tell us not to.

the fact you even think this indicates your sexist and derogatory thoughts about women.

Easier to blame the women than to admit to yourself that she just wasn't interested!

No wonder she didn't come back to you.

Boombastic · 23-06-2013 12:21PM

Did she say anything vaguely like ' it might be nice to meet up sometime', or words to that effect? If so you could try and sue her for breaching a verbal contract....next time get it in writing.

They're are many people out there who can't do anything without checking with their posse. I don't know how many times I've been dragged to accompany people to the toilet or shopping to provide validation.

ceegee · 23-06-2013 12:30PM

December2012 wrote: »

Women make up their own minds. We don't stop talking to somebody we want to because our friends tell us not to.

the fact you even think this indicates your sexist and derogatory thoughts about women.

Easier to blame the women than to admit to yourself that she just wasn't interested!

No wonder she didn't come back to you.

Its sexist and derogatory to suggest some women cockblock their friends? I find it more derogatory that you feel you can declare what all women do and don't do.

Many groups of friends have one member who gets stroppy and demanding when drinking. It definitely happens that another friend is chatting to a guy, stroppy girl gets jealous and starts complaining and rather than have an argument friend A just placates her.

Ive seen that dynamic in several groups of female friends so it definitely does happen. To declare that all women never do something is just as thick as the guys who claims all women are teases.

starlit · 23-06-2013 01:14PM

Believe me it happens been on both sides so to speak so does happen unfortunately for good reason sometimes.

Might happen sometimes but not all the time but does occur often in all the pubs and clubs.

Lams · 23-06-2013 01:16PM

December2012 wrote: »

Women make up their own minds. We don't stop talking to somebody we want to because our friends tell us not to.

the fact you even think this indicates your sexist and derogatory thoughts about women.

Easier to blame the women than to admit to yourself that she just wasn't interested!

No wonder she didn't come back to you.

While there are posts on this forum which deserve such vitriol I don't think the OP deserves such disdain, he seems like he was simply mistaken.

Legs.Eleven · 23-06-2013 01:27PM

Festy wrote: »

No,we were getting on well tbh,it was definitely one of her friends who put her off me,was probably because I don't drive a Ferrari :rolleyes:

Drive a Ferrari? Who drives a feckin' Ferrari in Ireland?

She wasn't interested, OP.

starlit · 23-06-2013 01:36PM

Thats riddiculous a ferrarrai! If you can drive and or have a car does it matter but boy racer no no for me though. I hate the noise of the modified cars even though i tend to rev my car a bit.

23-06-2013 02:17PM

Have I ever heard of a woman being influenced by their friends? Sure, any person can be influenced by any other person given the right circumstances. If I'm out shopping with a friend I'll often ask their opinion on things I'm interested in. Politicians often make choices which are influenced by their voter demographic. Boards is full of threads where someone looks for other people's opinions to help influence them.

But as for your situation, I think there might have been a vague clue in between the lines, which I'll tease out for you:

Festy wrote: »

she said I'm not interested

I wonder what it could mean??? :eek:

23-06-2013 02:22PM

Festy wrote: »

Was out the last night talking away to who I thought was a nice enough girl,was getting on very well with her,but then when of her friends came up and dragged her away,so around a half hour later bumped into her again and she said I'm not interested

btw I'm not saying this about all women ofc,but has anyone else encountered anything similar like this ?

You should have gave her a rendition of the 'Galtee mountain boy'. That would have sealed the deal.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5xg_PGDbpI4

Oh wait......Different Festy

goz83 · 23-06-2013 02:33PM

December2012 wrote: »

Women make up their own minds. We don't stop talking to somebody we want to because our friends tell us not to.

the fact you even think this indicates your sexist and derogatory thoughts about women.

Easier to blame the women than to admit to yourself that she just wasn't interested!

No wonder she didn't come back to you.

Some women do have a mind of their own, some follow the current, same as men. The fact that some women can't just get themselves out of a situation the OP described shows us why it's MEN HAVE BALLS.

And with December2012 as your tag???? :rolleyes:

Femme_Fatale · 23-06-2013 02:38PM

Nah, to be fair to the OP, silly Ferrari comment aside: the girl may have been interested in him and it could have been a case of the friend just not wanting her buddy to go off with someone for the night and leave the friend on her own. That does happen. I remember it being done to me by former friends - granted, when I was only about 18, but I wouldn't be surprised if some folks carried that on into their 20s.

Bit unfair to be adamant the friend wasn't in the wrong - and only helps perpetuate the "them and us" stuff between the genders here!

Too Tough To Die · 23-06-2013 02:41PM

Classic case of jealousy/insecurity on her friends behalf. Probably sensed the obvious chemistry between the two of you and had a dishonest word in her ear, sullying your good name, putting her off you.

Keep your head up.

Table Top Joe · 23-06-2013 02:46PM

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

the girl may have been interested in him and it could have been a case of the friend just not wanting her buddy to go off with someone for the night and leave the friend on her own. That does happen. I remember it being done to me by former friends - granted, when I was only about 18, but I wouldn't be surprised if some folks carried that on until their 20s.

My friend was seeing a girl last year,she was about 25,26 she admitted doing it and didn't see the problem,she said it was so she wouldn't be bored on her own and wouldn't have to go home alone too.....I know another girl who does it too,only she did it to a girl who doesn't get male attention very often and was happy chatting away but this one didn't like being left out in the cold and so made a nuisance of herself and literally pushed her away from him and moved on

On the other side I was out with 2 girls and a guy one night,mini work thing,the girls got talking to some guys so I said to my mate well let them have their space,i texted them after awhile to say we were in the bar next door just so theyd know.....they turned up 30 mins later bit the head off me for "leaving us stuck with those clowns!":o

Cant win....but theres something very mean spirited about cockblocking

23-06-2013 02:58PM

Too Tough To Die wrote: »

Classic case of jealousy/insecurity on her friends behalf. Probably sensed the obvious chemistry between the two of you and had a dishonest word in her ear, sullying your good name, putting her off you.

Keep your head up.

I wish I was psychic too.

PinkLemonade · 23-06-2013 03:06PM

goz83 wrote: »

Some women do have a mind of their own, some follow the current, same as men. The fact that some women can't just get themselves out of a situation the OP described shows us why it's MEN HAVE BALLS.

And with December2012 as your tag???? :rolleyes:

I've gotten very aggressive reactions before when trying to get rid of a guy chatting me up, it's not about being cowardly, it's about avoiding confrontation. to be fair most of the time nobody wants to embarrass the other person, just don't want to stay in the conversation.

23-06-2013 03:10PM

The whole cockblocking thing used to be frustrating enough and appeared to be very childish and petty but as time has gone on and ive frequented clubs in a sober state more frequently i can understand now how women have reason to be defensive with the drunken morons of fellas that do go out so i can see both sides of the argument.

To be honest the whole club thing is a bit too instantaneous, unrewarding and over reliant on Dutch courage regardless of how good looking the girl is. I think we've become overly obsessed with sex and superficial attraction towards people but that's only my view. I admire pretty women myself but if they acted like a total bitch it would be an instant turn off.

Id prefer to meet someone i like through a different social medium like a club/society as that way you can build a more meaningful relationship with that person over time and get to know the human being as opposed to just the facade they present.

A few months back i asked a girl out, who i had become friends over the college year. She politely declined because she was seeing someone at the time but i found that experience far more rewarding personally then any night i got 'lucky' in a club with some randomer

Sam Kade · 23-06-2013 03:19PM

COYVB wrote: »

She probably texted her mate on the sly with a quick "get over here and get me away from yer man" so she wouldn't hurt your feelings

Unlucky

What happened to I must go, goodbye? It wasn't like he was trying to kidnap her.

downonthefarm · 23-06-2013 03:26PM

seen that girl Alison canavan in Lillie's one night. all the lads were buying her drinks ect till her Ginger wingman stepped in and dragged her off to toilet

WarButton · 23-06-2013 03:33PM

Festy wrote: »

No,we were getting on well tbh,it was definitely one of her friends who put her off me,was probably because I don't drive a Ferrari :rolleyes:

Funny that, I don't drive a Ferrari and I've never had the friends of woman I'm chatting to drag her away. It is far more likely that she wasn't interested, was stuck being polite to you and gave her friends the 'get me out of here' look.

Women have a mind of their own, I've had women tell me at the bar later that their friends don't like me and yet she'll still go home with me. Do you honestly think that if she was in anyway interested that she would have bluntly blurted out "not interested" when you approached her again at the bar?

Come on OP, bit of perspective here. The only way you'll improve is by being honest. Improve your conversational skills and your general attitude towards women.

Boofle · 23-06-2013 04:38PM

Sam Kade wrote: »

What happened to I must go, goodbye? It wasn't like he was trying to kidnap her.

Sam it's not that simple most of the time!! When you try to politely get away from someone you aren't interested in they can get very aggressive.

One night I was out this guy blocked me into a seat in a booth. I literally couldn't get out; it was awful. Luckily my friend came back from the bar and she was able to help me get away from him

There are some real clowns out there!

I don't think a lot of men understand that we are not being rude if we say we're not interested - What do they want us to do? - sit there and chat even if we don't want to? It has happened too many times to me.

WumBuster · 23-06-2013 04:41PM

It happens all the time. I would just jump in and introduce myself to the friends as they are trying haul her away to buy some time, or at least try to get her number before she goes off. Later on in the night she's probably forgotten about the great conversation you had earlier.

rox5 · 23-06-2013 04:51PM

Not all the time, but sometimes. I was influenced a lot by a so-called friend into doing stupid stuff and it kinda ruined my rep a bit so I cut her out of my life.

Singularity 1 · 23-06-2013 04:57PM

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

Drive a Ferrari? Who drives a feckin' Ferrari in Ireland?

I used to but it was a pain in the arse going over the speed ramps.

AgileMyth · 23-06-2013 05:08PM

She must have at least had some regard for you if she waited for her friend to 'rescue' her.

Though she may have just felt sorry for you because you are so pathetic. I don't know, I wasn't there.

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