Kids screaming in supermarkets - is it reaching breaking point?

paddydriver wrote: »

Ah kids of today.. never happened 30 years ago... My feckin arse it didn't!

They didn't have these big supermarkets 30 years ago that's why. These places must be a nightmare for kids (and parents) these days. Remember the local shopkeepers would interact with the kids, say hello etc. I remember my local postmistress showing me my £5 that I had in my savings book one day - magical stuff.

mockingjay wrote: »

They didn't have these big supermarkets 30 years ago that's why. These places must be a nightmare for kids (and parents) these days. Remember the local shopkeepers would interact with the kids, say hello etc. I remember my local postmistress showing me my £5 that I had in my savings book one day - magical stuff.

The supermarkets have product placement and "pester power" down to a science now.

Do people think that parents enjoy the tantrums, the glares, the looks, the comments? We hate it, we want nothing more than to not to have to deal with it. But to raise people and not spoiled brats we have to "ignore" the tantrums. No one is more annoyed by them that us. You see them for 20 min in Aldi, we go through weeks/months of them so to train our kids out of them, interfering and judgemental people making comments, grandparents giving in to every whim, we are the ones fit to give up and become recluses, but you can't. You have to show them how society works and that there is a way to act in public and to ensure they grow up to be an asset to society.

Every last person on boards had times in their lives that they were little shíts whose parents wanted nothing more than to kick the arse off of for wanting their own way all the time, the only thing is, some grew out of that mindset, others clearly didn't .

ShaShaBear wrote: »

Everyone has to get their bloody groceries like! I'm sure mothers arent on here making threads that some weird 30 year old bloke is wandering around Aldi staring at their kids :rolleyes:

I absolutely despise that attitude you have in the highlighted text and its the number one reason why anytime a male of any age simply looks at a kid hes automatically a paedo. I sense it and Im sure most men do that nowadays that because of all the exposure of sex abusers, kidnaps etc almost all men are tarred with the same brush if they look at a kid for longer than 3 seconds, even if just observing them mid-tantrum, looking at them because they remind them of their nephew, staring into space etc etc, they are automatically a weird and depraved loner.

Women these days know they can play the whole "that guy will probably kill my child" card when it comes to refuting arguments from disapproving men and its bang out of order. Men are entitled to express opinions on the actions of kids and even if you dont agree with them you cant throw the whole "weird 30 yr old staring" card back at them, its weak and proves someone hasnt the spine to face issues about their kids.

I dunno lads, I had the misfortune to hear that PITA Fiona Looney lecturing us all on George Hook as to how it was disgusting to see parents giving out to their kids in shops and she saw it every time she went to the shops, and if you saw a parent slap a child you should intervene to prevent the abuse, then I come here and find the problem is actually that parents ignore their kids' behaviour...

Kids acting out in shops, four options for parents:

1. Ignore them (resulting in kids running wild, or lying on the floor tantruming).
2. Continuous vocal discipline (i.e. giving out and resultant tears and shouting).
3. Slap them (resulting in eternal opprobium and shame, and tears and screaming).
4. Drag them out of the shop (no doubt annoying everyone as they kick and scream), find that fictional babysitter you keep on hold 'for an hour', and come back later, meaning that no homework gets done, food isn't on the table until late, and everyone gives out about kids being tired and distracted in school.

Which one do you fancy?

Kids don't want to be in shops. Parents don't want their kids in shops. It's **** for everyone - that's why Superquinn used to run creches at the door. If parents had a viable option, they wouldn't take them in, so try to show some understanding.

IM0 wrote: »

yeah they wanna get loaded, they wanna have a good time

I think there is two sides to this,

Some parents don't care what there children and generally let them run riot, shout be obnoxious, tear things open and harass other customers. Hence the bad rep :mad::mad:

I would say in general the parents are way more annoyed and stressed and embaressed than you could even imagine, or be yourself. As stated its not easy working coming home doing a shop and knowingly have to do a shop when U know your kids will act up.
No matter what I do my 2 year old wants an apple (whether it be apple onion or potato- all apples to him) even if I bring some. snacks toys it does not matter despite every effort I make. and only solution is to ignore him for 2/3 mins.

If it bothers you that much, either do online shopping, change times or wear ear phones which I often do myself (when alone). Or if seriously still unhappy try complaining to shop manager wonder what they would say

Wanderer2010 wrote: »

I absolutely despise that attitude you have in the highlighted text and its the number one reason why anytime a male of any age simply looks at a kid hes automatically a paedo. I sense it and Im sure most men do that nowadays that because of all the exposure of sex abusers, kidnaps etc almost all men are tarred with the same brush if they look at a kid for longer than 3 seconds, even if just observing them mid-tantrum, looking at them because they remind them of their nephew, staring into space etc etc, they are automatically a weird and depraved loner.

Women these days know they can play the whole "that guy will probably kill my child" card when it comes to refuting arguments from disapproving men and its bang out of order. Men are entitled to express opinions on the actions of kids and even if you dont agree with them you cant throw the whole "weird 30 yr old staring" card back at them, its weak and proves someone hasnt the spine to face issues about their kids.

I think you will find that you have completely mis-read my point.

Which was that it is not appropriate to come on here and whinge about something when you do not have the full story. You don't see the mothers of all of these kids coming on here and tarring him as a paedo because he was staring at their kids. Because likely they know why he would be staring. But you see him come on here and tar all the parents as useless so-and-sos that cant control their children and shouldn't take them out in public, even though he has admitted that he pretty much has no idea what he is talking about.

It's called an unfounded assumption.

Zavier Hot Creator wrote: »

I have a suggestion... someone gives op their tired bored kids for a hour and let's him to his shopping.
op should then give us a full report on how well he managed.

I'd give you mine only he's an angel all the time.

I would offer mine but since I stuck out the humiliating tantrum stage he too is well behaved and somewhat useful in Tesco's!

collegeme wrote: »

OP I wonder was my little darling one of the toddlers in Aldi Clonee

1.5 year olds just wanna do what they wanna do. Most of the time in public they can't be allowed do what they want .ie run out the door of Aldi while you are at the checkout .
I think you will just have to learn to ignore the screams yourself because that's life!
Kids will be kids.

And to the poster who said that her children have never had a tantrum at any age ...well I don't believe that for one minute. Tantrums are one of a toddlers many ways of expressing emotion.

In fact, until they are taught otherwise, it's probably one of the only ways. After all, it's how they alert mammy that they need food!

I once saw a child throw a tantrum in Super Valu here in Monaghan. She saw me come around the corner of the aisle, stopped dead in her tracks and pointed at "the lady with the pink hair". Her mother apologised and shouted at her as she ran up to me and asked how did I get such pretty hair. I told her that if children are very well-behaved for mammy and daddy, they might let them get a pretty hair colour like me when they grow up. She turned and shouted "Sorry mammy I love you!" and was as good as gold for the rest of the trip.

A little patience and understanding goes a long way. And I don't even have kids!

Supermarket should be an enjoyable place to go to.

As Eddie Murphy once put it - "I'm sadistic. I go to the supermarkets to watch mothers lose it and beat the shít out of their kids."