Never been in love?

Singularity 1 · 20-06-2013 08:45PM #1

Is this the case with you? I have been in a few relationships but nothing that I would consider love. They were still some great times though. Some people say they thought they were in love until they met someone else. A lot of people settle for someone too which obviously isn't love. Is it really needed to be happy?

cherryghost · 20-06-2013 08:46PM

Singularity 1 wrote: »

Is this the case with you? I have been in a few relationships but nothing that I would consider love. They were still some great times though. Some people say they thought they were in love until they met someone else. A lot of people settle for someone too which obviously isn't love. Is it really needed to be happy?

Never settle for second best.

Son Of A Vidic · 20-06-2013 08:48PM

I don't think there is any universal formula for individual happiness. Some need the lover of others and some don't. But finding the personal ingredient that works for you, well that's the hard part.

The Backwards Man · 20-06-2013 08:50PM

In two hundred thousand years time some probe from a far away planet will be trawling these threads and think all we ever talked about was love, the dole, travellers, and jam.:(

keith16 · 20-06-2013 08:50PM

I love floor.

Captain Chaos · 20-06-2013 08:51PM

I love my BRICK.

Wibbs · 20-06-2013 08:51PM

Well I'm positively ancient compared to some of ye and I've only been in love twice with a 15 odd year gap between them. I've found people can vary quite a bit in the ability to fall in love. Some are slow bastids like myself, some fall in love many times in their lives. Oh and I'm not suggesting those people are only infatuated, I've known people who genuinely fall in love quite easily. Takes all kinds. That said I can only think of one person who never has(in their mid forties now), but that could change. I know another who was as the OP described and fell head over heels, the full moon in June, prancing like an idiot through meadows sniffing roses at 40, so you never know.

MomijiHime · 20-06-2013 08:53PM

I'm in love with Ciel Phantomhive and Mariya Shidou

Sadly, they're both fictional :'(

Skid X · 20-06-2013 08:53PM

What is lo-o-o-o-o-ove anyway?
Does anybody love anybody anyway?

cosbloodymick · 20-06-2013 08:55PM

Wibbs wrote: »

I've only been in love twice with a 15 odd year

Oooops:)

MadsL · 20-06-2013 09:16PM

keith16 wrote: »

I love floor.

Lamp misses you.

Sky King · 20-06-2013 09:17PM

cherryghost wrote: »

Never settle for second best.

Ah come on, ugly people have to do that all the time.

Singularity 1 · 20-06-2013 09:17PM

I'm in my early 30's now and have never been in love. Although as the old song goes "what is love? Baby don't hurt me " and all that malarky. Love can fade with some people and they can end up in unhappy relationships. And its certainly not discussed as much as sex. I wonder is it really sex that makes the world go round?

The Backwards Man · 20-06-2013 09:23PM

Singularity 1 wrote: »

I'm in my early 30's now and have never been in love. Although as the old song goes "what is love? Baby don't hurt me " and all that malarky. Love can fade with some people and they can end up in unhappy relationships. And its certainly not discussed as much as sex. I wonder is it really sex that makes the world go round?

Gravity, I think.

rolliepoley · 20-06-2013 09:38PM

Ya fall in love and then you wake up.

Smiles35 · 20-06-2013 10:05PM

Once, a very strong dose of it too. Happend by accident with someone I was working and socialising with a lot. We were acting like such dopes in complete dreamland.

hairyprincess · 20-06-2013 10:07PM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

In two hundred thousand years time some probe from a far away planet will be trawling these threads and think all we ever talked about was love, the dole, travellers, and jam.:(

And Joe, don't forget Joe.

Foxhound38 · 20-06-2013 10:13PM

Don't think so - have had a few relationships, have many people I care deeply about (including some of those who were in those relationships) but I don't think I've ever experienced "romantic" love - I'm getting more and more skeptical such a thing really exists, as opposed to platonic love and/or what people convince themselves they are feeling towards one another

Tesco Frog Muffin · 20-06-2013 10:13PM

I was in love with a girl once, it was wonderful. The fact that she ate ass helped the situation a hell of a great deal too

The Backwards Man · 20-06-2013 10:13PM

Tesco Frog Muffin wrote: »

I was in love with a girl once, it was wonderful. The fact that she ate ass helped the situation a hell of a great deal too

Poor donkey.:(

Tesco Frog Muffin · 20-06-2013 10:19PM

cherryghost wrote: »

Never settle for second best.

If Irish women had a mantra..

Sauve · 20-06-2013 10:26PM

Tesco Frog Muffin wrote: »

If Irish women had a mantra..

But shouldn't everyone, man or woman strive to do the best that we can and end up with the most suitable partner?
You wouldn't buy a car that wasn't up to scratch, would you?

suicide_circus · 20-06-2013 10:34PM

Ye cant beat a bit of unrequited teenage love....
Wallowing in your own self pity and longing. Obsessing to ridiculous levels. Brooding and smoldering darkly in corner hoping that he or she will notice you. Listening to angsty music that speaks directly to you, probably written with you in mind. Sobbing yourself to sleep.

Sure adult love and relationship are great but its nigh on impossible to recapture the bittersweet intensity of the emotions created by the raging hormones and naiveté of youth.

The Backwards Man · 20-06-2013 10:36PM

suicide_circus wrote: »

Ye cant beat a bit of unrequited teenage love....
Wallowing in your own self pity and longing. Obsessing to ridiculous levels. Brooding and smoldering darkly in corner hoping that he or she will notice you. Listening to angsty music that speaks directly to you, probably written with you in mind. Sobbing yourself to sleep.

Sure adult love and relationship are great but its nigh on impossible to recapture the bittersweet intensity of the emotions created by the raging hormones and naiveté of youth.

The first girl I thought I was in unrequited love with, my big romantic gesture was sticking a pound coin in her pencil case when she wasn't looking.:o

suicide_circus · 20-06-2013 10:39PM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

The first girl I thought I was in unrequited love with, my big romantic gesture was sticking a pound coin in her pencil case when she wasn't looking.:o

Shakespeare eat your heart out

Giving her cash to win her love could be taken the wrong way...

Username99 · 20-06-2013 10:39PM

suicide_circus wrote: »

Ye cant beat a bit of unrequited teenage love....
Wallowing in your own self pity and longing. Obsessing to ridiculous levels. Brooding and smoldering darkly in corner hoping that he or she will notice you. Listening to angsty music that speaks directly to you, probably written with you in mind. Sobbing yourself to sleep.

Sure adult love and relationship are great but its nigh on impossible to recapture the bittersweet intensity of the emotions created by the raging hormones and naiveté of youth.

You forgot to mention furiously **** constantly, constantly, constantly. Not much has changed really, now that I think about it...

The Backwards Man · 20-06-2013 10:42PM

suicide_circus wrote: »

Shakespeare eat your heart out
Giving her cash to win her love could be taken the wrong way...

She didn't even know who gave it to her, it was a pretty disastrous attempt at seduction alright. :pac:

Singularity 1 · 20-06-2013 10:46PM

Sky King wrote: »

Ah come on, ugly people have to do that all the time.

Or even settle for third best, or Pam.

professore · 20-06-2013 10:52PM

Skid X wrote: »

What is lo-o-o-o-o-ove anyway?
Does anybody love anybody anyway?

Just spent the last 15 minutes tracking down that song ... Long forgotten 80s classic

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 20-06-2013 10:54PM

Singularity 1 wrote: »

Is this the case with you? I have been in a few relationships but nothing that I would consider love. They were still some great times though. Some people say they thought they were in love until they met someone else. A lot of people settle for someone too which obviously isn't love. Is it really needed to be happy?

I think I have been, my ex who I'd happily murder most days and who fills me with an uncontrollable rage when I think about the dispicable things he's done and said to me over the years, but although I wish death on him anytime we end up talking, I don't think ill ever actually be able to hate him.

iwantmydinner · 20-06-2013 10:55PM

I thought I was in love twice.

I'm not so sure now, in hindsight. I'm beginning to think romantic love is all just hormones. It's sure sold a lot of songs and movies though!

Never been in love?

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