Never been in love?

Singularity 1

Is this the case with you? I have been in a few relationships but nothing that I would consider love. They were still some great times though. Some people say they thought they were in love until they met someone else. A lot of people settle for someone too which obviously isn't love. Is it really needed to be happy?

cherryghost

Singularity 1 wrote: »

Is this the case with you? I have been in a few relationships but nothing that I would consider love. They were still some great times though. Some people say they thought they were in love until they met someone else. A lot of people settle for someone too which obviously isn't love. Is it really needed to be happy?

Never settle for second best.

Son Of A Vidic

I don't think there is any universal formula for individual happiness. Some need the lover of others and some don't. But finding the personal ingredient that works for you, well that's the hard part.

The Backwards Man

In two hundred thousand years time some probe from a far away planet will be trawling these threads and think all we ever talked about was love, the dole, travellers, and jam.:(

keith16

I love floor.

Captain Chaos

I love my BRICK.

Wibbs

Well I'm positively ancient compared to some of ye and I've only been in love twice with a 15 odd year gap between them. I've found people can vary quite a bit in the ability to fall in love. Some are slow bastids like myself, some fall in love many times in their lives. Oh and I'm not suggesting those people are only infatuated, I've known people who genuinely fall in love quite easily. Takes all kinds. That said I can only think of one person who never has(in their mid forties now), but that could change. I know another who was as the OP described and fell head over heels, the full moon in June, prancing like an idiot through meadows sniffing roses at 40, so you never know.

MomijiHime

I'm in love with Ciel Phantomhive and Mariya Shidou Sadly, they're both fictional

Skid X

What is lo-o-o-o-o-ove anyway?
Does anybody love anybody anyway?

cosbloodymick

Wibbs wrote: »

I've only been in love twice with a 15 odd year


Oooops:)

MadsL

keith16 wrote: »

I love floor.

Lamp misses you.

Sky King

cherryghost wrote: »

Never settle for second best.

Ah come on, ugly people have to do that all the time.

Singularity 1

I'm in my early 30's now and have never been in love. Although as the old song goes "what is love? Baby don't hurt me " and all that malarky. Love can fade with some people and they can end up in unhappy relationships. And its certainly not discussed as much as sex. I wonder is it really sex that makes the world go round?

The Backwards Man

Singularity 1 wrote: »

I'm in my early 30's now and have never been in love. Although as the old song goes "what is love? Baby don't hurt me " and all that malarky. Love can fade with some people and they can end up in unhappy relationships. And its certainly not discussed as much as sex. I wonder is it really sex that makes the world go round?

Gravity, I think.

rolliepoley

Ya fall in love and then you wake up.

Smiles35

Once, a very strong dose of it too. Happend by accident with someone I was working and socialising with a lot. We were acting like such dopes in complete dreamland.

hairyprincess

The Backwards Man wrote: »

In two hundred thousand years time some probe from a far away planet will be trawling these threads and think all we ever talked about was love, the dole, travellers, and jam.:(

And Joe, don't forget Joe.

Foxhound38

Don't think so - have had a few relationships, have many people I care deeply about (including some of those who were in those relationships) but I don't think I've ever experienced "romantic" love - I'm getting more and more skeptical such a thing really exists, as opposed to platonic love and/or what people convince themselves they are feeling towards one another

Tesco Frog Muffin

I was in love with a girl once, it was wonderful. The fact that she ate ass helped the situation a hell of a great deal too

The Backwards Man

Tesco Frog Muffin wrote: »

I was in love with a girl once, it was wonderful. The fact that she ate ass helped the situation a hell of a great deal too

Poor donkey.:(

Tesco Frog Muffin

cherryghost wrote: »

Never settle for second best.

If Irish women had a mantra..

Sauve

Tesco Frog Muffin wrote: »

If Irish women had a mantra..

But shouldn't everyone, man or woman strive to do the best that we can and end up with the most suitable partner?
You wouldn't buy a car that wasn't up to scratch, would you?

suicide_circus

Ye cant beat a bit of unrequited teenage love....
Wallowing in your own self pity and longing. Obsessing to ridiculous levels. Brooding and smoldering darkly in corner hoping that he or she will notice you. Listening to angsty music that speaks directly to you, probably written with you in mind. Sobbing yourself to sleep.

Sure adult love and relationship are great but its nigh on impossible to recapture the bittersweet intensity of the emotions created by the raging hormones and naiveté of youth.

The Backwards Man

suicide_circus wrote: »

Ye cant beat a bit of unrequited teenage love....
Wallowing in your own self pity and longing. Obsessing to ridiculous levels. Brooding and smoldering darkly in corner hoping that he or she will notice you. Listening to angsty music that speaks directly to you, probably written with you in mind. Sobbing yourself to sleep.

Sure adult love and relationship are great but its nigh on impossible to recapture the bittersweet intensity of the emotions created by the raging hormones and naiveté of youth.

The first girl I thought I was in unrequited love with, my big romantic gesture was sticking a pound coin in her pencil case when she wasn't looking.:o

suicide_circus

The Backwards Man wrote: »

The first girl I thought I was in unrequited love with, my big romantic gesture was sticking a pound coin in her pencil case when she wasn't looking.:o

Shakespeare eat your heart out
Giving her cash to win her love could be taken the wrong way...

Username99

suicide_circus wrote: »

Ye cant beat a bit of unrequited teenage love....
Wallowing in your own self pity and longing. Obsessing to ridiculous levels. Brooding and smoldering darkly in corner hoping that he or she will notice you. Listening to angsty music that speaks directly to you, probably written with you in mind. Sobbing yourself to sleep.

Sure adult love and relationship are great but its nigh on impossible to recapture the bittersweet intensity of the emotions created by the raging hormones and naiveté of youth.

You forgot to mention furiously **** constantly, constantly, constantly. Not much has changed really, now that I think about it...

The Backwards Man

suicide_circus wrote: »

Shakespeare eat your heart out
Giving her cash to win her love could be taken the wrong way...

She didn't even know who gave it to her, it was a pretty disastrous attempt at seduction alright. :pac:

Singularity 1

Sky King wrote: »

Ah come on, ugly people have to do that all the time.

Or even settle for third best, or Pam.

professore

Skid X wrote: »

What is lo-o-o-o-o-ove anyway?
Does anybody love anybody anyway?

Just spent the last 15 minutes tracking down that song ... Long forgotten 80s classic

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Singularity 1 wrote: »

Is this the case with you? I have been in a few relationships but nothing that I would consider love. They were still some great times though. Some people say they thought they were in love until they met someone else. A lot of people settle for someone too which obviously isn't love. Is it really needed to be happy?

I think I have been, my ex who I'd happily murder most days and who fills me with an uncontrollable rage when I think about the dispicable things he's done and said to me over the years, but although I wish death on him anytime we end up talking, I don't think ill ever actually be able to hate him.

iwantmydinner

I thought I was in love twice.

I'm not so sure now, in hindsight. I'm beginning to think romantic love is all just hormones. It's sure sold a lot of songs and movies though!

JamJamJamJam

The Backwards Man wrote: »

In two hundred thousand years time some probe from a far away planet will be trawling these threads and think all we ever talked about was love, the dole, travellers, and jam.:(

Where would they get that idea?

ToddyDoody

Singularity 1 wrote: »

Is this the case with you? I have been in a few relationships but nothing that I would consider love. They were still some great times though. Some people say they thought they were in love until they met someone else. A lot of people settle for someone too which obviously isn't love. Is it really needed to be happy?

I'm 27 and have never been in a formal relationship. Generally, I've been 'in love' with people who don't love me. People who claim to love me have been friends but nothing further. I wouldn't be the most conducive to the whole 'love' package, making the whole thing grind along fairly slowly and painfully. If I do remain alone, it would be a shame but id be the first to acknowledge how difficult I am on these things.

IM0

The Backwards Man wrote: »

The first girl I thought I was in unrequited love with, my big romantic gesture was sticking a pound coin in her pencil case when she wasn't looking.:o

is that a euphamism.....

The Backwards Man wrote: »

She didn't even know who gave it to her, it was a pretty disastrous attempt at seduction alright. :pac:

.....and if so, there is a name for that you know, you sicken me :mad:

The Backwards Man

IM0 wrote: »

is that a euphamism.....



.....and if so, there is a name for that you know, you sicken me :mad:

Na. straight up, that's what I did, I remember like it was yesterday, I always got a pound coin going to school for two sausage rolls and a wee carton of Kulana orange juice, and this one day I stuck it this girl's pencil case that I had a crush on, for some bizarre reason

Even remember the pencil case, it was one of those kinda hairy fluffy pink ones.

IM0

the thing is, which came first, songs/movies about love, or love itself

its like one of those manufactured words, like valentines day really

like has been said before, its more a teenage thing, when you hit a certain level of maturity chances are you just play the 'love of film' to convince yourself its the same feelings, but its not, cause you are not full of the crazy hormones of the teenage years.

maybe there is only unrequited love, but not love itself! the definition being its the not being able to have the person you want so badly, but if you do finally get your hands on that person after a while the love goes cause they arent going anywhere usually cause you WERE both in love with each other at the beginning [unrequited love] in the first place! but now that things become steady and safe the love fades, so you cant be in 'love' in a stable relationship! *rubs chin*

or to put it another way, unrequited love is much much stronger feelings than that of love itself

Tigger

professore wrote: »

Just spent the last 15 minutes tracking down that song ... Long forgotten 80s classic

you suck at googling

strandsman

A man walks up to a girl at a the till in a shop. He puts his groceries on the belt and while she scans them through she keeps looking at him. He had one of everything, 1 pint of milk, 1tin of beans, 1apple, 1banana etc . He notices her looking at him and thinks "I'm in here" so he says to her I bet your wondering if I am single aren't you..... she replies nope I'm just thinking that your a very ugly bo@#$ cks:-):-):-):-)

dd972

The Backwards Man wrote: »

In two hundred thousand years time some probe from a far away planet will be trawling these threads and think all we ever talked about was love, the dole, travellers, and jam.:(

Don't forget Gays and Travellers.


Oversight, you did mention the T word.

StickyIcky

Sauve wrote: »

But shouldn't everyone, man or woman strive to do the best that we can and end up with the most suitable partner?
You wouldn't buy a car that wasn't up to scratch, would you?

If it was cheap and a good ride I would!

shrewd

L.O.V.E

S28382

I like my girlfriend more than i love her...liking your partner is more important than loving them.

Tigger

S28382 wrote: »

I like my girlfriend more than i love her...liking your partner is more important than loving them.

er: no

ToddyDoody

Everyone's been in love, actually. YOUR MOTHER. YOUR FATHER. The template for your (and my) future loves comes from your relationship with your parent of the opposite sex, or same sex if you're... Quirky.

S28382

Tigger wrote: »

er: no

I do love her but i like her more........sometimes.

af_thefragile

Not sure about the first time but pretty sure about the second time...

morewrong

because?

DoozerT6

I've never been in love, and likewise nobody has ever been in love with me.

What's it like?

Singularity 1

I think some people say they're in love until they meet someone better and then say, "no wait... now im in love."

The Backwards Man

DoozerT6 wrote: »

I've never been in love, and likewise nobody has ever been in love with me.

What's it like?

It's like stepping on the Moon for the first time.

iwantmydinner

Singularity 1 wrote: »

I think some people say they're in love until they meet someone better and then say, "no wait... now im in love."

True dat. Think it happens an awful lot of people actually!