Nigella Lawsons husband hands around throat in public

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I read that he never eats her 'fancy' cooking and insists he prefers nursery food. I wonder if that was a tool he used to put her in her place and keep her there by destroying her confidence in her talent at home.

One of those more critical of her cooking is her husband, arts patron Charles Saatchi. He once said: ‘I like toast with Dairylea, followed by Weetabix for supper.’
She added: 'Charles said to me there is nothing you could cook ever that would compare favourably with Weetabix,'
'I suggested he joined me in some prawn dansak I had made recently and said "how was it?". He told me it was the most disgusting thing he'd ever eaten and he was telling me so I never gave it to him again.
'It is an amusing challenge for me to get to grips with his eating habits I can tell you.'
Mr Saatchi admits Miss Lawson’s food is ‘a bit wasted’ on him ‘but the children like it’

--Kaiser-- wrote: »

While I am sure Saatchi has inadequacies, he is a massively rich and successful businessman so I doubt her success bothered him

P. Breathnach wrote: »

There is a useful and important lesson to be learned[*] from this event: victims of family violence, spousal abuse, or domestic assault are disempowered to an astonishing degree. This can happen even with an apparently-strong person like Nigella Lawson who has sufficient resources to be capable of walking away and organising a life for herself without her husband. Anybody who suggests that a victim should walk away from an abusive relationship is right in one sense, but wrong in thinking that it is easy to do it.


[*] When I say that there is a lesson to be learned, I say so with some heaviness of heart. The phenomenon is very well known among people who have worked with victims of abuse. It is very disappointing that so many people have no understanding of the disempowering effect of assault, abuse, or violence.

April O Neill wrote: »

And being bothered by her success could be one of those inadequacies! Not saying this is the case, but people are nuts, he could conceivably be bothered by it, despite his own success.

Catphish wrote: »

Love the "pop psychologists rolling in" type comments. There is enough awareness about this, and people are entitled to their views.


This is the one thing that sprung to my mind, and I'm sure it has to anyone who has been a victim of or has witnessed this kind of controlling behaviour. Playful tiff my hole. He had her by the throat, with her visibly upset. She leaves home on sunday, but no comment so far (that I'm aware of).

All I can say is, I'll be very disappointed if in a few days she tries to claim that it was just taken out of context and they were just playing about. Victims of that kind of abuse don't get away from it easily, and often soften the truth because they're being reeled back in by some empty promise or "I love you" that they've been dished several times over.

Wherever she is staying I hope she has other family and friends in constant contact with her and are supporting her, other wise she will be fed some similar bollox he has been feeding her all along. This is not stage one type abuse, hes doing this with some serious balls on him, completely degrading her in public.

Control, control, control.

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I am well aware of that aspect. I wasn't commenting on Nigella personally but wondering why the women's groups were so vocal when really the situation as it was at the time was detrimental to their aims rather than boosting them. How she runs her life is her own business and I have huge sympathy for her for being married to that pathetic excuse for a human being.

07/07/2013 - 10:27:22
Millionaire art collector Charles Saatchi today said he has made the “heartbreaking” decision to divorce TV chef Nigella Lawson after pictures showed him holding her by the throat as they had an argument on a restaurant terrace.
Saatchi, who accepted a police caution for assault, told the Mail on Sunday he had “clearly been a disappointment” to his wife, adding the couple have “become estranged and drifted apart” over the last year.

“I am sorry to announce that Nigella Lawson and I are getting divorced,” he told the newspaper.

“I feel that I have clearly been a disappointment to Nigella during the last year or so, and I am disappointed that she was advised to make no public comment to explain that I abhor violence of any kind against women, and have never abused her physically in any way.”

He added: “This is heartbreaking for both of us as our love was very deep, but in the last year we have become estranged and drifted apart.”

Photographs of Lawson, 53, and Saatchi, 70, were published last month which showed him holding her by the throat as they had an argument on the terrace of a restaurant.

He dismissed the incident as nothing more than ”a playful tiff” but then accepted a police caution for assault. He said he had done so to stop the incident ”hanging over” them.

Lawson, who has subsequently been pictured without her wedding ring, has described him as ”the exploder” in the past due to his temper.

Lawson's spokesman said: ``There is no comment from Nigella.''

In his statement to the Mail on Sunday, Saatchi insisted his actions were not violent, saying that while he had his hands around Lawson's neck, ``there was no pressure applied to her''.

He said the pictures gave a “wholly different and incorrect implication”.

“I am sorry that we had a row. I am sorry she was upset. I am even more sorry that this is the end of our marriage,” he told the newspaper.
Lawson married Saatchi, who made his name in advertising, in 2003. She has two children, Cosima and Bruno, from her marriage to journalist John Diamond, who died of throat cancer in 2001.

She became a household name in 1998 with her first cookery book, 'How To Eat'.