All the lonely people

Hownowcow · 13-06-2013 05:31PM

Upstream wrote: »

I've got pants, but I'm not a panther

I've no pants. Will you be my friend?

--Kaiser-- · 13-06-2013 06:23PM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Having friends is vastly overrated.

It isn't really. You just need better friends

Agricola · 13-06-2013 07:00PM

Seems to be a natural progression the more fast paced, urbanised, and work centric a society becomes. Read somewhere lately about the difficulty a girl had finding a partner is London. If you're not into the pub/club scene and not inclined to go online for it, its difficult to just strike up conversations in everyday situations because most people would be uncomfortable if a stranger just started chatting to them. We're on the same road here now.

Also people are more possessive of their time, like to do their own thing when they get a chance, maybe arent as conducive to people landing on their doorsteps out of the blue as they once were. All leads to lonely people.

cantdecide · 13-06-2013 07:25PM

Facebook and other social media have a lot to answer for. When you're on the less outgoing end of the scale you are bombarded with so many peoples' seemingly perfect and full lives. Of course this is no reflection on reality. Most people have long periods of time thinking Morrissey should write a song about their life!

Even look at Boards. More boasting than you can shake a stick at and all in the name of staving off the boredom on the long winters nights!

hollster2 · 13-06-2013 07:31PM

Frank Black wrote: »

I've got ham, but I'm not a hamster.

"I ham real ham"

Carnegie · 13-06-2013 07:41PM

I used to think I wasn't enough for anybody. I thought if I said yes to things, and got involved with people, then sooner or later they'd find out I'm not enough. I didn't think I had anything to share. But now I know that what I have to share is pretty huge, and I want to share it with you.

beks101 · 13-06-2013 07:48PM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Having friends is vastly overrated.

I don't think I've ever disagreed with a statement so much in my life.
You must have had pretty sh1tty friendships to believe this.
I'd be fcuked without my friends.

rolliepoley · 13-06-2013 07:51PM

All the lonely people
Where do they all come from?
All the lonely people
Where do they all belong?

The Backwards Man · 13-06-2013 07:54PM

beks101 wrote: »

I don't think I've ever disagreed with a statement so much in my life.
You must have had pretty sh1tty friendships to believe this.
I'd be fcuked without my friends.

Na, never had them, don't need them, don't want them.:)
There's not one single thing a friend does that can just as easily (or even easier) be done by yourself, or a stranger.

--Kaiser-- · 13-06-2013 08:00PM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Na, never had them, don't need them, don't want them.:)
There's not one single thing a friend does that can just as easily (or even easier) be done by yourself, or a stranger.

Pffff, my friends don't anything for me, but who else is going to appreciate my towering intellect, razor wit often jaw-dropping bursts of erudition?

my my my · 13-06-2013 08:03PM

Je déteste les gens

The Backwards Man · 13-06-2013 08:03PM

--Kaiser-- wrote: »

Pffff, my friends don't anything for me, but who else is going to appreciate my towering intellect, razor wit often jaw-dropping bursts of erudition?

Let me know when you have one, I'll appreciate it.:p

--Kaiser-- · 13-06-2013 08:13PM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Let me know when you have one, I'll appreciate it.:p

I'm due one any day now

Pug160 · 13-06-2013 08:19PM

Although there are people who like being alone quite a lot, it's quite rare to find someone who doesn't like some company from time to time. That's why even loners go mad when they're locked up 23 hours a day in prison.

Fizzlesque · 13-06-2013 08:22PM

I love this video of this song. Good to have an excuse to post it.

Fizman · 13-06-2013 08:24PM

Anyone else read the thread title only to find themselves humming it to the tune of 'All the single ladies'?

beks101 · 13-06-2013 08:35PM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Na, never had them, don't need them, don't want them.:)
There's not one single thing a friend does that can just as easily (or even easier) be done by yourself, or a stranger.

But you're missing the point entirely.

You don't befriend someone for the practicality of what they can do for you (well - those friends aren't worth having.)

You befriend someone because of shared interests, morals, senses of humour, lifestyle, outlooks on life, similar or opposite personalities etc etc that provides for a lot more craic, encouragement, emotional support and love than a single human being can afford him/herself.

I love my own company and revel in spending days on end in it if I so choose, but my happiness and quality of life would be substantially lower if I didn't have any friends to turn to or shoot the sh1t with.

Hownowcow · 13-06-2013 08:42PM

Fizman wrote: »

Anyone else read the thread title only to find themselves humming it to the tune of 'All the single ladies'?

No.

0ph0rce0 · 13-06-2013 08:43PM

I'd never be in the house or alone when i was young, had a ton of friends.

Then came the stage where everyone got the wimmins and got married, no one seen no one.

For myself i met a girl and met all my mates through her because all my old mates had moved away or had no time for anyone.

Then we broke up, And of course because i met all them through her, I went from having a ton of friends to ZERO, Kills all your confidence and ****s with your head. Gets harder and harder to meet new people as you get older.

Now its just me and the sock.

Its shít being lonely

FanadMan · 13-06-2013 08:47PM

biko wrote: »

http://themetapicture.com/guide-to-understanding-the-introverted/

That is brilliant - should be posted in all schools

Fox_In_Socks · 13-06-2013 08:58PM

beks101 wrote: »

But you're missing the point entirely.

You don't befriend someone for the practicality of what they can do for you (well - those friends aren't worth having.)

You befriend someone because of shared interests, morals, senses of humour, lifestyle, outlooks on life, similar or opposite personalities etc etc that provides for a lot more craic, encouragement, emotional support and love than a single human being can afford him/herself.

I love my own company and revel in spending days on end in it if I so choose, but my happiness and quality of life would be substantially lower if I didn't have any friends to turn to or shoot the sh1t with.

Hmm...not sure if Backwards Man was serious or not, but I'd partially agree with him. It depends on your personality. Personally, I'm seriously happy enough with going to work and there is enough interaction there for me to keep me satisfied on a day to day basis as regards interaction.

"You befriend someone because of shared interests, morals, senses of humour, lifestyle, outlooks on life, similar or opposite personalities etc etc that provides for a lot more craic, encouragement, emotional support and love than a single human being can afford him/herself."

For me, a lot of that can be scratched. Which is possibly why I am content enough without close friends.:D

sock puppet · 13-06-2013 09:03PM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Na, never had them, don't need them, don't want them.:)
There's not one single thing a friend does that can just as easily (or even easier) be done by yourself, or a stranger.

What about a tandem bicycle?

The Backwards Man · 13-06-2013 09:04PM

beks101 wrote: »

But you're missing the point entirely.

You don't befriend someone for the practicality of what they can do for you (well - those friends aren't worth having.)

You befriend someone because of shared interests, morals, senses of humour, lifestyle, outlooks on life, similar or opposite personalities etc etc that provides for a lot more craic, encouragement, emotional support and love than a single human being can afford him/herself.

I love my own company and revel in spending days on end in it if I so choose, but my happiness and quality of life would be substantially lower if I didn't have any friends to turn to or shoot the sh1t with.

Na, not for me.:)I can do all those things with a stranger if I so desired, without the hindrance of emotional attachment.

I know I sound like a cold-blooded sociopath here, but friends just aren't for me, and that's the way I like it.:)

--Kaiser-- · 13-06-2013 09:06PM

Fox_In_Socks wrote: »

Hmm...not sure if Backwards Man was serious or not, but I'd partially agree with him. It depends on your personality. Personally, I'm seriously happy enough with going to work and there is enough interaction there for me to keep me satisfied on a day to day basis as regards interaction.

"You befriend someone because of shared interests, morals, senses of humour, lifestyle, outlooks on life, similar or opposite personalities etc etc that provides for a lot more craic, encouragement, emotional support and love than a single human being can afford him/herself."

For me, a lot of that can be scratched. Which is possibly why I am content enough without close friends.:D

Some people need friends more than others I suppose. Some people I know (though I don't know them too well) can't seem to spend a minute alone, which is as strange to me as not wanting any human contact

gurramok · 13-06-2013 09:08PM

beks101 wrote: »

I love my own company and revel in spending days on end in it if I so choose, but my happiness and quality of life would be substantially lower if I didn't have any friends to turn to or shoot the sh1t with.

You'd crack up if you were lonely 24\7 lets say after work when you get home.
No matter what people say, you do need people to talk to now and then. Talking to the cat does not count!

Its harder as you get older to make steady friends and keep them. They say you lose a friend very 7 years or so, dunno how true that is.

Czarcasm · 13-06-2013 09:13PM

beks101 wrote: »

But you're missing the point entirely.

You don't befriend someone for the practicality of what they can do for you (well - those friends aren't worth having.)

You befriend someone because of shared interests, morals, senses of humour, lifestyle, outlooks on life, similar or opposite personalities etc etc that provides for a lot more craic, encouragement, emotional support and love than a single human being can afford him/herself.

I love my own company and revel in spending days on end in it if I so choose, but my happiness and quality of life would be substantially lower if I didn't have any friends to turn to or shoot the sh1t with.

The above says it better than I ever could. My mother used say when I was a child that "your only friends are in your schoolbag, they'll stand by you in life and always be there for you when you need them".

Now she's all on her lonesome a bitter and twisted old woman, angry at the world that went on around her while she lived in her own little bubble that eventually became her own prison that nobody wanted to visit.

I keep a very small circle of trusted friends, and a wider circle of acquaintances. I find the closer I am to my friends, the easier they get on my tits, because I care about them. Some of my closest friends I haven't talked to them in maybe two or three years, we might not talk in months, but I know, as do they, that either of us can pick up the phone when we need to talk to someone and we'll always be there for each other and we'll talk the very same as if we only just parted company five minutes ago.

I've always been a lone stone, preferring my own company most of the time, preferring to work in the background and stay out of the limelight, but knowing my friends are there when I need them and knowing I can call on them when I need their support or I need their expertise to help me achieve my goals or the goals of people who I care about, that always means so much more to me than the "u ok hun?" crowd that give me a pain in my face!

The Backwards Man · 13-06-2013 09:25PM

sock puppet wrote: »

What about a tandem bicycle?

I'm like Rooster Cogburn. I ride hard, and I ride alone.

Hownowcow · 13-06-2013 09:34PM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

I'm like Rooster Cogburn. I ride hard, and I ride alone.

I call that bold talk for a one eyed fat man.

beks101 · 13-06-2013 09:35PM

I don't think it boils down to personality either. It's not a matter of "some people need constant company" versus "some people are fine on their own".

I'm fine either way. I can go days, weeks either way. But without one, the other will suffer. If I'm constantly surrounded by friends and acquaintances with little room for personal space, my instinct will be to pull back and retreat for a few days. On the flip side, leave me to my own devices in an empty apartment for a few weeks and it doesn't matter how productive or engaged I am, I'll need someone to talk to, laugh with, vent with, whatever.

We're human beings, we're social animals.

I honestly think if you can make such a statement as "friends are overrated" - you've never experienced true friendship in the first place.

The Backwards Man · 13-06-2013 09:40PM

Hownowcow wrote: »

I call that bold talk for a one eyed fat man.

Fill your hand, you SOB!!

All the lonely people

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