Do you secretly wish your parents were dead?

02-06-2013 09:43AM

Im appalled that anyone would wish anyone dead for money, let alone a parent. FFS.

I lost my Mother very suddenly almost three years ago, OP and I am still suffering from the loss. Three years of therapy, Im only now starting to get back to myself again. I was a basket case.

I lost the priviledge of looking after my Mam in her final years.

People who wish their parents dead are in for the shock of their lives.

Cant get my head around it.

Digs · 02-06-2013 10:07AM

Wtf? The thought of anything happening to my parents seriously upsets me (although its inevitable). I talk to my mum literally everyday and rely on them alot for advice and just generally really enjoy spending time with them.

My husband sadly lost both his parents suddenly in his twenties. He misses them an awful lot but especially at times like when we got married and had our daughter. He would give his last pennies to have them here for just a day to meet her guaranteed.

.jacksparrow. · 02-06-2013 10:08AM

Ah here.....

billyhead · 02-06-2013 10:17AM

No. Of course not. And anyone who says otherwise is an evil sefish ****. I will miss my parents so much when they eventually pass away.

marshbaboon · 02-06-2013 10:25AM

My parents secretly wish I was dead.

So do I.

I wish I was bread.

Esoteric_ · 02-06-2013 10:25AM

I'd rather die myself than have my folks die. I don't understand wanting your parents to die so you'll inherit. It's disgusting.

My grandmother is wealthy, and when she dies, my folks will inherit enough money to clear their mortgage and set them up for their retirement (we know what's in her will, all her 6 kids get equal shares). My dad would still much, MUCH prefer to be penniless and on the streets than have his mum die.

bnt · 02-06-2013 10:32AM

What a weird question. My parents are both dead - mother over 30 years ago, incompetent father over 5 years go - any neither left me anything. I've effectively had no parents since I was 13, so if you have parents who are neither (a) dead (mother) nor (b) useless (father), appreciate them while you have them.

Mr. CooL ICE · 02-06-2013 10:37AM

I feel sorry for anyone like the OP describes. If that is what they wish for a quick money fix, they really aren't capable of amounting to anything.

The thought of my parents dying scares the sh1t out of me. I've been pretty lucky as far as loved ones go, i.e. aside from my grandparents and one schoolfriend, all my friends and relatives are alive and well. 'The inevitable' is something I can't really comprehend.

matTNT · 02-06-2013 10:42AM

bacon n eggs wrote: »

imagine having a parent abuse you mentally physically and emotionally from an age you can remember till the age of 16 when you get away... yeah love em to bits, upstanding members of the community

Really? Read the OP the child wanted the parent dead to get money, not because of some fantastical abuse.

Rasheed · 02-06-2013 10:54AM

Our family got hit with two massive blows a couple of years ago, literally two life or death situations within a few months of each other. I had one and my dad had the other, not connected.

My mam kept the whole show on the road and continues to do so. The fear that griped me when there was a 50/50 chance my dad wouldn't make it, even though I was in hospital in a bad way myself was the worse feeling I've ever suffered. I'm in my mid twenties now, was completely independent of my parents but now rely on them of sort again. They are the strongest people I've ever met and still continue to live life and enjoy it, even though they were dealt a ****ty hand in the last while.

I can honestly say a piece of me died the day I was told daddys prognosis, even though he didn't die, if that makes sense. The realisation that hits is terrible, all the things you wanted to say, and the plans you had made together. I got a second chance to say these things and do these things which I'll be forever grateful for.

I dread the day when the inevitable happens (if I actually outlive them!), but do feel lucky to have had them. Any person that wishes their patents dead for mistreating them, perfectly understandable.

Any person that wishes them dead just for money, on the other hand, is a sad shell of a proper human being and I feel sorry for them.

Vicar in a tutu · 02-06-2013 04:36PM

No I dread the day they die, as they've brought me up. clothed and fed me, stuck with me through thick and thin, gave me the siblings I adore, and are generally the best parents I could ever of wished for. and they still wash my clothes:pac: ,

john_cappa · 02-06-2013 04:41PM

Wish they both alive more like.

kraggy · 02-06-2013 04:49PM

It's all relative really.

I mean, Joseph Fritzels daughters would have wanted him dead just so they could get out of the house never mind go travelling.

Ruu · 02-06-2013 04:54PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-gW513E8_6I

'Someday mother will die and I'll get the money'.

Seriously though, terrified of the thought of them not being around. I talk to them everyday. I have friends who stay at home mostly to look after their elderly parents and don't get away too much but surely is not much to ask, after all they brought you into the world to be a decent human being.

Ham Wallet · 02-06-2013 05:13PM

No I do not secretly wish my parents were death, however I do secretly wish Brendan O Connor was dead.

Wilberto · 02-06-2013 06:37PM

Ham Wallet wrote: »

No I do not secretly wish my parents were death, however I do secretly wish Brendan O Connor was dead.

There's no need to "secretly" wish that. There are many alike who share a similar dream.

:P:P:P

hawkeyethenoo · 02-06-2013 06:53PM

my birth parents - wouldn't bother me if they were dead. maybe they are!

my adoptive parents - never! id rather die before them.

Legs.Eleven · 02-06-2013 07:07PM

My mam died when I was 10 but I think I'd actually have one of my legs amputated off to have my dad round for another 20 years. He's a legend. Jesus the thread doesn't help a hangover. What a downer, man.

Galwayguy35 · 02-06-2013 07:09PM

If someone had abusive parents I could understand them feeling this way but for someone who had good parents it is indeed a strange thing to wish they were dead in order to get money etc from the will.

My own folks are dead for years and I still think about them everyday, it's a life changer when you lose them IMO.

ezekel · 02-06-2013 09:48PM

A friend of mine lost both his parents and inherited a considerable some of cash which he would give away in a flash to have them back,
rightly so

woodoo · 02-06-2013 10:11PM

No way, i'd happily sign away my right to any inheritance if i could guarantee they'd be around for another few decades.

steddyeddy · 02-06-2013 10:28PM

Op I would never wish death on the person who carried me for nine months. You would have to be sick to do so.

Richard Hillman · 02-06-2013 10:49PM

I am not close at all to mine and I think they did a **** job in raising me but it would probably be a bit mean to wish death upon them. I do not expect them to leave me the house or any worldly possessions anyway. Leave them be, I say

Dave147 · 02-06-2013 11:18PM

I would stand to inherit 1/4 of our house and belongings which would be substantial enough despite a bit of a mortgage left, and inherit the family pub, obviously not booming these days but we're doing ok.

I can wait another 40 years easily, absolutely love both my parents to bits and often have nightmares about losing them as my mother isn't in the best health atm. Hope both my parents live into their 80's at the very least, along with the rest of my family.

Stained Class · 03-06-2013 01:17AM

Candie wrote: »

I'm very sorry for your loss.

Hope you're doing ok.:)

Thanks for that. I'm getting on with things.

My relationship with my mother wasn't always perfect.

On topic though, yeah, I sometimes wished her dead when she was in her final illness.

This is the thing that's unsaid by many families in the same boat, I find.

She had nothing to look forward to really & her death was to a large degree a happy release.

December2012 · 03-06-2013 03:36AM

Stained Class wrote: »

Thanks for that. I'm getting on with things.

My relationship with my mother wasn't always perfect.

On topic though, yeah, I sometimes wished her dead when she was in her final illness.

This is the thing that's unsaid by many families in the same boat, I find.

She had nothing to look forward to really & her death was to a large degree a happy release.

I was in a similar boat re the release. It gives me peace and I hope in time you get yours too.

nocoverart · 03-06-2013 03:37AM

I don't care what "conversations" you heard OP! even making a thread like this is wrong. Any sane thinking person knows how important Parents are. I do admit though when I was back home for a bit, I couldn't bloody wait for them to go bed so I could crank up the Playstation.

Kidchameleon · 03-06-2013 10:22AM

nocoverart wrote: »

I don't care what "conversations" you heard OP! even making a thread like this is wrong. Any sane thinking person knows how important Parents are. I do admit though when I was back home for a bit, I couldn't bloody wait for them to go bed so I could crank up the Playstation.

I made the thread because it does happen weather you like to admit it or not, there are people out there with this attitude and boards is a place for discussing things, however disturbing they may be.

FTA69 · 03-06-2013 10:57AM

I once read an article about a reasonably elderly couple with a few adult children who were tearing into each other over who'd get "the house" and who'd get "the money" etc. Basically, even though the old pair were perfectly healthy and only in their mid-70s all the children were trying to divide the spoils before they were even dead. Apparently they sold the house, went on a luxury round the world trip before coming home and buying an RV and touring America. I think they gave the rest away then to some sort of animal charity leaving nothing behind.

Too f*cking right.

bacon n eggs · 03-06-2013 11:05AM

not because of some fantastical abuse.

Fantastical, really???? I didn't see you standing there sir.

Do you secretly wish your parents were dead?

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