Do you secretly wish your parents were dead?

No. When it comes to money vs family, money is worth nothing to me. I'll cry like a baby when they're gone.

Needs poll.....

No, I adore my parents. I can't imagine life without them, they have given me the best of everything and I owe them so much. I wish they could be around forever, but I know they won't be, so I try to appreciate them while they're still here.

The only person I've ever heard say they wish one of their parents was dead IRL, was one of my friends. Her mother had developed pancreatic and bone cancer and alzeimhers in the space of 12 months. The cancer was terminal. She was suffering so much, so confused, in so much pain, it was heartbreaking for the family. I recall my friend saying more than once that she wished her mother would pass on sooner rather than later because she found watching her suffering with the diseases to be soul destroying, when there was nothing she could do to help.

The only way I'd ever wish one of my parents dead would be if I were in the same situation as my friend. I can't imagine watching them wasting away in huge amounts of pain.

Whoever was having that conversation you heard has never been through the loss of a parent, because if they had they'd realise that no amount of moneys going to make the pain go away.

I lost my father in the past year. In the end, he was so sick, ready and wanting to die that my hope each time I left the hospice was just that he would get his release.

However, it's not the same as "wishing him dead" in the OPs sense.

I can understand wishing an abusive or negligent person dead, I guess I'm one of the lucky ones who got great folks.

I don't know and I'm going off topic, however, I am wondering about those who have lost a parent and where adults when it happened.

In my case my dad died 6 years ago he died in the fanily home and for four months before that my 3 sibs and myslef provided 24/7 care for him. It was hard graff and tbh I'm not sure how much longer we could have keep it going, but the thing I'm trying to highlight is something about being involved in his care, for example he needed daily injections which I gave as the rest of my family where afarid to do. Even when he actually died I had a hold of his wrist and was feeling his pluse as his heart pumped for the last time.

Now it was a difficult time, but I am really glad I had the opportunity to experience it and to be involved in his care to that extent. Now to be far I do have some skills due to my work that allowed to do things that a lot of people could not. However, the point I am trying to make is something about some type of personal growth I got out of the experience.

I'm not sure if that makes sense, but did anyone else experience anything similar?

Candie wrote: »

I'm assuming your line of work is related to the forum you mod - psychology.

My logic would be that people seeking or needing help in that arena (or area if you prefer), would be somewhat more likely to have troubled upbringings, and following that logic would be more likely to vocalise a sentiment similar to that in the OP.

Cheers, I do a lot of work for the addiction services and I wasn't sure if that was what you where referring to, as I also do a lot of private work various patients.

Odysseus wrote: »

I don't know and I'm going off topic, however, I am wondering about those who have lost a parent and where adults when it happened.

In my case my dad died 6 years ago he died in the fanily home and for four months before that my 3 sibs and myslef provided 24/7 care for him. It was hard graff and tbh I'm not sure how much longer we could have keep it going, but the thing I'm trying to highlight is something about being involved in his care, for example he needed daily injections which I gave as the rest of my family where afarid to do. Even when he actually died I had a hold of his wrist and was feeling his pluse as his heart pumped for the last time.

Now it was a difficult time, but I am really glad I had the opportunity to experience it and to be involved in his care to that extent. Now to be far I do have some skills due to my work that allowed to do things that a lot of people could not. However, the point I am trying to make is something about some type of personal growth I got out of the experience.

I'm not sure if that makes sense, but did anyone else experience anything similar?

What I did see was the love my family has, the goodness of people and the strength of my mother.

No, it's a horrible thing to think! My mum has had conversations with me about coffins and headstones she wants when her time comes, I wish she would just write it down and put it away for me to find when I do have to think about it. My dad discusses the more metaphysical aspects like the afterlife, he tends to be nihilistic about it so this is depressing too! I am visiting them at the moment and while they are driving me crazy about the two stone I need to lose and my expenditure on beer, I still would not wish them any harm. In fact I keep encouraging them to spend my inheritance on enjoying themselves while they can!

I can understand a cold attitude where the offspring suffered abuse etc so that they never really had a relationship with their parents growing up.

In a normal regular parent/child relationship where the parents have done their best to raise their children - No. wtf is wrong with those people.

Years after he died, I still miss my Dad like crazy, and would give up all my worldly goods to bring him back.