What is the best way to make a friend?

The best way to make friends is to do things with them - think of school, college, work. MeetUp.com has a group for every interest you can think of. Go because of your interest, not to make friends or you'll come across as just needy. You must be interested in something.

You sound like you're very low on the old confidence. Something which I myself struggle with from time to time. So I know where you are coming from.

The best way that I have found to make friends is to do something where everyone is in the same boat, a new course where no one knows each other. Or something in that vein.

I know you say that you are useless at everything, I don't believe that's true for a second but just pick something that you are interested in and then go and do something, photography course, cooking class, writing class, something, even if you think you are useless you will become less useless because you will be learning as you go along.

Finally be yourself, remember that you are decent person, and be your own friend, don't tell yourself that you are useless at everything, you teach people how to treat you, if you treat yourself badly then they will too. You sound like a nice fella to me, I find it's often those who think poorly of themselves are often the gems, the most interesting to have a conversation with, the kindest, and those who think that they are all that are the biggest bores you could ever meet.

Everyone has their strong suits and their not so storing suits, I am badly coordinated and can't dance to save my life, I suck at a lot of girlie things simply because I have zero interest in them, so that gets me down sometimes, but I am good at a lot of stuff, that girls usually aren't so that's one of my strong suits. You should find yours, and despite what you may think, you do have some .

Best of luck with everything and if you feel like you need someone to talk to then go and get a bit of counselling, it can be very helpful in ways you can't possibly imagine.

Tom_Cruise wrote: »

Thanks for replying. I must make an effort i know that. i just have no skills and im pretty much useless at every single thing you could imagine, i sometimes think i have some kind of disorder that prevents me from having any type of coordination to do any kind of sports or physical activities what so ever. But ill have to do something otherwise i don't what im going to do. Thanks again.

Stop telling yourself that you're useless. That won't help.

Also, friends won't come to you out of nowhere. You have to make an effort too. If you want something, go get it.

You should probably stop asking After Hours for advice too, but if you do, answer some of the serious questions asked and you might get some answers yourself.