DILEMMA: gay in the changing room

cheesefiend · 11-04-2013 09:17PM

It really depends on the person. For example I'm in the changing room nekkid and a girl is full on leering at me then yes, I'm going to be creeped out and that doesn't mean I need an attitude adjustment. If I'm in the changing room with a lesbian and they are having a goo around like any other person then no I couldn't care less. If you're just minding your own business OP no rational person is going to give a fiddlers.

Nodin · 11-04-2013 09:17PM

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

I'd be thrilled. It's unlikely to happen though, realistically. And not just because of my gym's no gay people policy.

The invention of the Gay detector really has been a boon to the comfortable changing room experience.

Nodin · 11-04-2013 09:18PM

HondaSami wrote: »

Must be gay night in AH's.

Haven't you heard? They're on the loose.

Prodigious · 11-04-2013 09:18PM

Problem is, if you put all the gay lads in their own changing room, they'd still be checking each other out?
Solution is to put gay lads in the girls changing rooms, and vice versa.

Cody Pomeray · 11-04-2013 09:19PM

Links234 wrote: »

That's the silliest thing I've read on after hours in a while... so what if they might feel uncomfortable?

Wow, chill out.

I just said that if someone's uncomfortable, that naturally makes the person causing the discomfort uncomfortable too.

Do you think it's silly if a woman would feel uncomfortable getting changed in a men's room?

can you actually demonstrate that gay people in gyms/swimming pools causes a significant problem?

I'm not claiming this is a significant problem, I have no idea if other people think about this. That's why I started the thread. And I did put in a first world problem disclaimer.

Stark · 11-04-2013 09:19PM

Cody Pomeray wrote: »

Male and female changing rooms exist so that nobody feels they are being seen naked in a sexual way by strangers.

Society rules on who can be seen naked by whom are pretty much arbitrary tbh.

Uriel. · 11-04-2013 09:19PM

Cody Pomeray wrote: »

First world problem alert.

Male and female changing rooms exist so that nobody feels they are being seen naked in a sexual way by strangers.

Personally it doesn't bother me very much.

But I reckon a lot of guys would feel uncomfortable getting naked around guys who they think might be checking them out (body, physique, manhood). Ditto with lesbians.

As a gay myself, it makes me a little paranoid. I know a lot of people in my gym and I've never hidden the fact I'm gay. We probably 'notice' other guys bodies in a way a straight guy might not, but i don't want anyone to think I'm checking them out and even though I feel silly about overthinking it, I avoid going back to change with guys I am friends with

What do other AHers think? With openly gay people on the loose in a gym or swimming pool near you, do changing rooms need a re-think?

Taking a the entire post but leaving out the four words in bold would have changed this thread and its responses in a very wild way

Teyla Emmagan · 11-04-2013 09:20PM

Nodin wrote: »

The invention of the Gay detector really has been a boon to the comfortable changing room experience.

Not in my case, anyone perving at me would be good.

Seachmall · 11-04-2013 09:23PM

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

Not in my case, anyone perving at me would be good.

If you're looking for someone to perv on you I'm free Sundays.

Turtyturd · 11-04-2013 09:23PM

Nodin wrote: »

Haven't you heard? They're on the loose.

Keep calm...you can spot them by the way they drop phrases like 'First World Problems' into conversations.

Links234 · 11-04-2013 09:25PM

locohobo wrote: »

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
What he said!!!!!:cool:

I'd correct you and say it's "what she said" but I don't wanna get into a whole he said/she said thing

Teyla Emmagan · 11-04-2013 09:25PM

Seachmall wrote: »

If you're looking for someone to perv on you I'm free Sundays.

That's so kind!!

MadsL · 11-04-2013 09:26PM

The UK and Ireland cannot deal with the idea of being naked in mixed or single sex saunas yet, never mind single sex changing rooms. Heads would melt.

GRMA · 11-04-2013 09:29PM

People should be stopped from getting changed at all, do it at home.

Swim in your work clothes

pragmatic1 · 11-04-2013 09:29PM

WayneMolloy wrote: »

Cue everyone chiming in that they wouldnt have a problem with it, people need to grow up etc.

When in reality a majority of people would be freaked the f*ck out by it.

Why? Unless you're exceptionally sexy, I don't think they're going to be staring at your bits. Are you attracted to every single woman you lay eyes on?

MadsL · 11-04-2013 09:30PM

The OP has posted a minor issue. Quick - question everything about them, suggest they must be obsessive, have no sex life, remind them of the third world and personally insult them. Three of you start bickering on the definition of a changing room. One other person make a knob joke.

Done all that? Grand, job done AH.

/thread

locohobo · 11-04-2013 09:31PM

Links234 wrote: »

I'd correct you and say it's "what she said" but I don't wanna get into a whole he said/she said thing

.....Yea! Sorry hon ...Just saw that now...;)

oldyouth · 11-04-2013 09:32PM

I think every user of a changing room is well aware that there will often be gay people present. I mean, the odds are that it will happen. I think if everyone exercises a reasonable degree of modesty in the changing room, then there is not a problem for either party

In my experience, it is often the (seemingly) heterosexual who flashes his bollicks in your face while trying to engage you in conversation about 'de match'

HondaSami · 11-04-2013 09:33PM

Jarrod wrote: »

I think it should just be one changing room for everyone. There's no reason to separate genders in changing rooms.

I can think of several reasons.

scwazrh · 11-04-2013 09:34PM

If a gay man sees me naked in the changing room he'll soon go straight. Problem solved

mikom · 11-04-2013 09:35PM

Nothing gets me harder than damp veruca floors.

Lingua Franca · 11-04-2013 09:35PM

Jarrod wrote: »

I think it should just be one changing room for everyone. There's no reason to separate genders in changing rooms.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/northern_ireland/7906407.stm

Dude was a solicitor, his defences included "It was in a public place" and "She was wearing a bikini".

El Inho · 11-04-2013 09:37PM

One of those things that as a straight guy in no way bothers me. I hate homophobia, but this is actually something that occured to me one day and I would be sympathetic towards the straight person who feels uncomfortable...strange one this.

Cool_CM · 11-04-2013 09:37PM

Jarrod wrote: »

I think it should just be one changing room for everyone. There's no reason to separate genders in changing rooms.

Ah yes, but you are forgetting that apparently everybody in the modern age is a sex fiend/paedophile...

Ranicand · 11-04-2013 09:44PM

The thing about gays however is they have the same equipment as all other men so everybody in the changing room is the same in that regard.

Men and women should never share a changing room.

Most will not admit it there is no such thing as gay or straight the lines are blur.

A man who calls himself gay may like men 99% of the time but a woman with a soapy sponge in the shower will turn many a gay head.

Same goes for straight men like Al Murray said never confused.:D

darced · 11-04-2013 09:44PM

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WayneMolloy · 11-04-2013 09:49PM

HondaSami wrote: »

I can think of several reasons.

One large open plan changing room with dozens of small changing cubicles works best imho. Everyone has their own personal private space, it caters to a parent with young daughters/sons and nobody is left feeling awkward.

11-04-2013 09:49PM

I am usually too busy showering, or drying, or dressing, to actually notice if anyone is actually checking me out. If they do, <shrugs>.

Though there is only one way to know if someone is gay -

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6CR5x3BAelk

newport2 · 11-04-2013 10:03PM

Cody Pomeray wrote: »

As a gay myself, it makes me a little paranoid. I know a lot of people in my gym and I've never hidden the fact I'm gay. We probably 'notice' other guys bodies in a way a straight guy might not, but i don't want anyone to think I'm checking them out and even though I feel silly about overthinking it, I avoid going back to change with guys I am friends with

I'm sure your friends don't think you're checking them out. Sure if you were, it would stick out a mile....

laoch na mona · 11-04-2013 10:08PM

i wouldn't mind the few times gays hit on me i was flattered

also straight lads will look at others lads just for an ould comparison

DILEMMA: gay in the changing room

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