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Undiagnosed circle of hell.

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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,759 ✭✭✭✭dlofnep


    cheeky2105 wrote: »
    Thanks 4 reply I have been drinking large amts of highly contaminated water over 13 yrs the doc in hse told me to get tested due go my Med history I have blood clotting disorder 6 miscarriages crohns disease not to Mention my spine fused !!! So fun & games anyhow my bloods were sent to uk 6 weeks ago by toxicologist in one if the main dub hospitals they were just goin to do normal blood profile 1st n compare to last set of bloods but the they requested my full history n rang my dr back n said they wud do the blood lead test straight away then my mind is racing very concerned I suffer the brain fog all the time too n spells if delirium then feeling v low do b all over the place it's madness sometimes only this lead thing has come to lite it may just all b starting to make sense now why ?:(

    My thoughts are with you - Brain fog is the worst!!! I really miss my clarity of mind, but the adrenal cortex has really helped me. DMSA is a great chelator for lead, but see how the toxicology stuff goes first. Chelation was my last resort, as nobody else was able to assist me.


  • Registered Users Posts: 11 cheeky2105


    Ah my fear is I'm going to b told my lead levels r under a level of concern now as the exposure was minimal over past yr mainly due to fact that I had detected that water was unfit for consumption without going into too much detail this is workplace situation where someone was aware water was unfit 4 drinking n interfered with bottled water that was bought in so despite thinking we were drinking safe water we still weren't beyond belief say no more anyhow I think it is going to b very hard to get a definate Answer that the drinking of the lead for 13 yrs caused some of my issues but it I'd well known any amt of toxic metals is very dangerous only big article in the paper few weeks ago with head dr of hse saying no Amt of lead is safe but I'm thinking I may approach him soon to try n get more answers it is wot seems to me to b very grey area but I know something is telling me the lead did cause some of these issues n I will do Erin brokovich on this I need be I'll travel to USA if I have to I'm that determined Im prob racing ahead at mo but we will c wot toxicologist says when the bloods come in :( thanks again for replies guys :) I'll let u know any info on my progress :)


  • Registered Users Posts: 11 cheeky2105


    Sorry meant to say blood lead levels decrease after 6 mths this is when it goes into ur other organs so level in blood is nor good indicator of total body burden after yr so this is part of my concern I might never know! Anyhow thanks again :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,759 ✭✭✭✭dlofnep


    cheeky2105 wrote: »
    Sorry meant to say blood lead levels decrease after 6 mths this is when it goes into ur other organs so level in blood is nor good indicator of total body burden after yr so this is part of my concern I might never know! Anyhow thanks again :)

    Yes, blood levels are not a good indicator for heavy metals. You need a challenge test, to mobilize the heavy metals. But it can lead to redistribution, and is advised against by some. I would favour hair mineral analysis test.

    PS: Opinion guy, your inbox is full so I cannot reply.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,759 ✭✭✭✭dlofnep


    So a quick update.

    Some positive news for once. I recently in the past few weeks added adrenal support and a digestive aid (Betaine HCI). I've also been targetting my stomach with manuka honey to tackle what might be a return of H.Pylori. Also using apple cider vineger.

    Really focusing on improve my gut, and support my adrenals.

    I want to say that I am still ill - but my mind is now clear. I haven't had brain-fog for weeks. My brain feels like it's now operating in HD, while before it felt like an old VHS tape!!

    I have still some way to go, but having my mind working 100% is really helpful and a welcome relief.

    I'm on a wee break from chelation, but I'll resume in the next 2 weeks. I hope to have the next 12 rounds done by the summer. I hope by then to have more improvements!


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,759 ✭✭✭✭dlofnep


    Now that my brain is working, I'm able to think more clearly. Still waiting on an appointment from the Endo. I know my thyroid is probably shot to pieces - as I'm consistently freezing + tired. Secretary is not there til Wednesday - God knows when I'll get an apppointment, and even at that - it's luck of the draw whether they are actually bothered to invest the proper time into testing me correctly. (Anyone who knows a good Endocrinologist that is willing to test Free T3 + T4, amongst the usual antibodies - Shoot me up with a PM :) )

    Fingers crossed - I'll solved this puzzle bit by bit.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,580 ✭✭✭Splendour


    Hey dlofnep, isn't it a fantastic feeling to have brain fog cleared up?! Since I began Q10 mine has all but gone and it's exactly how you describe it-going from VHS to HD! Now if I could only get my energy levels back I'd be on the pigs back.

    Endo's here aren't great at diagnosing thyroid/adrenal problems; I've been to 3 who were useless and according to them I'm fine-on paper that is-my body says otherwise. I don't think any of them test T3-I got mine tested in the UK.

    I did attend an Endo privately who was half decent but I couldn't afford to go back to him. (I'll pm you his details). A friend of mine attended an Endo in St. Vincents and he has her on Armour thyroid which is unknown to most Endos and GP's and he is also giving her vitamin E shots. She was unwell for years and is now almost back to normal. I asked my GP to refer me to this Doc but she refused as says it's waste of time. I'm tring to find an Endo who recognises adrenal fatigue and not just addisons and am hoping he may be the one...

    Am curious as to what adrenal support you're on? I tried some adrenal grandulars a couple of years ago without much success.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,759 ✭✭✭✭dlofnep


    I'm using adrenal cortex by Thorne. They are 50mg per capsule. I take 2 at 8am, one at 12 noon and one at 4pm. Seems to do the trick. I also have 250mg capsules, but I don't need them just yet. Moving up very slowly in doses.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,759 ✭✭✭✭dlofnep


    I might add - recommendations for public endos are preferable :) I'm as broke as an egg!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,759 ✭✭✭✭dlofnep


    8-9 months to be seen locally here in Waterford. Ugh.... :(


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,190 ✭✭✭Squeaky the Squirrel


    dlofnep wrote: »
    8-9 months to be seen locally here in Waterford. Ugh.... :(
    I'd be amazed if it was that quick. Seriously.

    Who told you that?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,759 ✭✭✭✭dlofnep


    I'd be amazed if it was that quick. Seriously.

    Who told you that?

    Endo's secretary.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,759 ✭✭✭✭dlofnep


    Got an appointment in 3 weeks privately with Dr. Griffin in Clane. Can't put a price on health. No way was I waiting another 9 months.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,580 ✭✭✭Splendour


    Haven't had any personal experience of Dr. Griffin but heard she's good.Keep us posted...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,759 ✭✭✭✭dlofnep


    Will do :) Here's hoping for some relief.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 304 ✭✭smares


    I was just reading this thread and really hope you get sorted. Just to let you know I have been attending Dr.Griffin for years she's amazing and a friend of mine went to her and she changed her life.So best of luck!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 46 peann


    I closed my other account - So I'll keep this thread updated from this one. I don't want to take part in the rest of boards.ie anymore. Going through heavy depression at the moment, from my health and heartbreak. I'm trying to work my way through it. I have great support from my parents and friends. Been pretty much in a ball of tears for a week.

    I'm going to Kildare today to see an endocrinologist.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 46 peann


    Waiting on blood test results for endocrine system + hormones. Also booking an appointment to seek counselling. Have had probably the roughest two weeks of my life - Have never felt so low. Tried stupid things, and I want to be happy again. I will never be happy until I regain my health. I'm giving it until the end of the year and if I don't seen an improvement by then, I'm throwing in the towel. Tired, beat up, depressed, heart-broken, ill, ill, ill.... Rock bottom would be an improvement to where I am right now.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 451 ✭✭bhamsteve


    I've been reading this thread and admire your hard work and determination in regaining you health. Sorry to hear you've been so low recently, I hope the counseling helps. Don't be afraid to ask those around you for help when things get too much for you.
    All the best,
    Steve


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 46 peann


    I've had great people around me. I couldn't ask for anything more - But I'm sinking further and further into depression every day. When I'm not thinking about my ex, I'm thinking about my health... and when I'm not thinking about that, I'm thinking about ways to put myself out of my misery.

    Everything has caught up on me. I feel like I'll never return to living a normal life and have lost any hope I've ever had. The only consolation is that I'm going away to Lanzarote for my first holiday in years in June with my family. But it's nowhere near enough to inspire hope and happiness from me.

    If it wasn't for the pain it would cause my family, I wouldn't be here at all typing this. I have to be strong for them.

    I would take any physical pain over the pain of heart-break any day of the week.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 451 ✭✭bhamsteve


    You've certainly got a lot of troubles to deal with. Are you doing anything for the depression? Aware can offer advice and put you in touch with local support groups, if you think it would help talking to people who have gone through similar. You could also talk to your GP about it, if you haven't already.
    Lanzarote is a nice spot, I was there a couple of years ago. Hopefully all the beautiful scantily clad people on the beech will lift you spirits for a week or two :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 46 peann


    I contacted a local place for counselling, waiting for them to call me back. I'm home alone and in a ball of tears at the moment. Can't shake this funk.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 651 ✭✭✭kangaroo


    peann wrote: »
    I will never be happy until I regain my health.
    Sorry to hear of your difficulties.

    However, just thought I'd point out that having ill health doesn't have to be incompatible with happiness. This is called the long-term illness forum; lots of people do have to deal with long term health problems that they would prefer not to - you're not alone in that.

    I have read some stuff that people can go through stages dealing with health problems, much like one can do dealing with a bereavement: in a sense, one can be grieving for one's old, healthy self. So the first way of dealing with it is to fight it. But many people find they can't defeat the illness so then adaptation can be necessary. Adaptation doesn't necessarily meaning stopping all therapies.

    Best of luck.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 46 peann


    kangaroo wrote: »
    Sorry to hear of your difficulties.

    However, just thought I'd point out that having ill health doesn't have to be incompatible with happiness.

    It does for me. I have already made the decision to give this until the end of the year. After that, I'm done. I can't fight anymore. I refuse to shed anymore tears. I'm angry, angry at how my life has turned out. Angry that despite everything I do, I can't change it.

    I'll be lucky if I make it through this week. I'm not even saying this for sympathy. I'm saying it to vent. I'm in a dark place, and can't escape it.

    I have a counselling session tomorrow morning, but I'm doubtful it will help me.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 655 ✭✭✭hyperborean


    Some fight you've been in dude but heartbreak is a bitch, worse than almost any other ill.... you dont need medication for that one, just time, give yourself time to sort it.

    The rest you seem to be dealing with,

    Just sayin is all


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 46 peann


    I'm fighting... As hard as I can, believe me. I'm doing everything to conquer this.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,653 ✭✭✭✭amdublin


    peann wrote: »
    I'm doing everything to conquer this.

    I'd well believe it. We've seen that throughout this thread.

    Just a suggestion maybe tomorrow morning when you're with the counsellor, stop trying to conquer it for that one hour, and for that one hour just go with the flow of the counsellor.

    What I'm trying to say is you really sound like you're helping yourself but sometimes it is good to just "surrender" or let someone else help you or do the fight for you.

    Oh god does that make sense at all???

    Best of luck tomorrow dude.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 46 peann


    Thanks - I really appreciate the support.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 46 peann


    I went for a pre-counselling session. Said it could be up to 3 months before I see a personal counselor, but that they would send me to see a relationship counselor within 2 weeks because the heart-break seems to be the biggest thing affecting me right now. I still have my health issues to deal with however. Everything is on top of me. I think I have a virus now on top of everything. I wish I had the strength to end all this, but I don't. I just need to keep pushing with this miserable existence.

    Sorry I'm sounding so whiny right now, but I've never felt so lonely, upset, depressed, and unhappy in my life.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 451 ✭✭bhamsteve


    That's good about the relationship counseling at least. I think three months is a pretty normal waiting time for counseling, my girlfriend had to wait about that long recently. You'd be surprised how quick it comes round though, and most people find it helps a lot.

    There's a few links here, if you are not in the right frame of mind at the moment to look through them maybe you could bookmark them for the next time your mood lifts.

    If you feel that you need to, or would like to speak to someone at any time about your troubles there's a good Facebook page I follow here- Ó Lá Go Lá. It's an online community offering peer to peer support, I'd recommend it highly.

    Get self-help has an online CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) exercises that you can work through. It does require you to embrace it and invest quite a lot of time and mental energy but works for a lot of people.

    They also have advice and exercises for those suffering Chronic Fatigue & Chronic Pain which might be useful to you.

    Hope your feeling better soon, you're welcome to PM me at any point if you need to vent.


  • Site Banned Posts: 256 ✭✭Dr Silly Bollox MD


    Did you ever go in to an A+E and have a chat with Docs there?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 46 peann


    About what? In general? I've been out there about 20+ times in the past few years.

    Have come down with a cold on top of everything else. I'm really just despondent at this stage. I can't believe how low I am. I've never seen depression like this in 30 years on this planet. I really just want to throw it all in, except I know the pain it would cause my family. I'm stuck - I'm forced to live a life I don't want to live anymore.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 11,001 ✭✭✭✭opinion guy


    Hang in there peann. I know things suck right now but it is temporary. Your cold will go and heartache will fade. As to the other stuff it's hard to say where it will go but you have to keep fighting!
    Also check out this thread if you havne't seen it - alot of support for people going through depression:
    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056481009&page=212
    - folks there might know how to get help quicker.

    I also think - given how you are feeling at the moment - Dr Silly Bollox MD might have a point about the A&E. You can go in there and tell them about your current depression and ask to speak to a psychiatrist. Certainly when you are talking about throwing it all in - it might be alot better to talk to them


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 46 peann


    The heartache is only getting worse. I'm so lonely. I could manage the heartache, or being ill. I can't manage both together - it's too much for me. I've nothing to look forward to in life. If my health was with me, I'd just piss off on a holiday and find a holiday romance or something to pick me up. But I'm so focused on getting better right now - it pains me to see any progress.

    She was literally the only thing that made me smile in the last 7 years - which is why it's so difficult to get over her company. The thought that I wasn't good enough for her, and another guy is has left me feeling really rejected, and has broken my already lacking confidence.

    All I have done is cry for 2 weeks. It's been 2 weeks since I was last with her and hugged her. Now all I have is my own thoughts, home alone... cold, tired, lonely and despondent. I want to make it clear - I'm not looking for sympathy on here. I'm just venting. I don't want to cry anymore. I'm a grown man and it's not normal to cry this much or feel this pathetic. I walk across roads without looking out for traffic, and that's so selfish of me. This is where I am right now. This is the culmination of 7 years of utter misery.

    I'm at rock bottom. I don't want to feel like this anymore.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,653 ✭✭✭✭amdublin


    There's nothing wrong with crying. And sometimes it's needed as part of the process that you have to go through.

    I feel for you so much about the pain you are going through. The pain of heartache is incredibly painful.

    Do you mind me asking are you on any depression tablets?? Would it be worth discussing with you GP if a low dose would help you. It doesn't happen overnight, but after about three weeks the bad days seen less and the good days are more.

    But back to how you are feeling at the moment, is there anyone /a good friend you can talk with?

    Please plese stick with it. This too will pass.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 46 peann


    I've been chatting to my cousin over video-chat, and I have my friend... But she's flued up at the moment. I don't want depression tablets. It's a personal decision for me. I know it may sound stubborn, but I've seen the damage they have done to my friends who are now dependent on them. I need to beat this myself, and have some support around me.

    I played guitar and sang a few songs for my cousin on webcam to keep my mind occupied. I'm doing little things like that. When my mind is occupied I'm fine. But the moment I start thinking about my ex, it just goes downhill. I usually get most depressed when I wake up, and when I'm trying to go asleep. As soon as the day progresses and I find little things to occupy my mind, I'm not so bad.

    For someone who claimed to love me - she was quick to break contact with me. Love is a b*tch. Reminds me of a quote from Armageddon - Watched it today, gave me a chuckle.
    Karl: Sir, I'm retired navy, I know all about classified. But one more thing. The person who finds her gets to name her right?
    Dan: Yes, yes that's right, that's right.
    Karl: I wanna name her Dottie after my wife. She's a vicious life-sucking b*tch from which there is no escape.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,484 ✭✭✭username123


    I long ago came across this thread and read it right through and have come back and checked it since and recommended to someone else with an undiagnosed circle of hell. I just wanted you to know that you are actually helping lots of people with this thread. Ive lurked but never posted until now, there are probably loads like me.

    Onto current issues. Breaking up is hard to do but you already have the answer. Stay busy. It just so happens Shawshank Redemption is on tv right now and there is a useful quote for you "Get busy living or get busy dying". You have a wonderful tenacity for living, as is evidenced by this entire thread!! You are having a tough emotional time right now, but its temporary, keep telling yourself that, this too shall pass.

    You have also correctly identified that emotional pain is so much worse than any physical pain, its so true, a positive mindset will get you through anything.

    I try to think about hard times like this, if there wasnt hard times, Id never fully appreciate the good times.

    Busy busy busy, do some physical exercise, get your body tired, read, listen to music, watch films etc to get your brain tired. Its all you can do while you wait for time to heal the broken heart. And pamper yourself, do things for yourself that you like doing.

    Mind yourself OP, I wish you all the best and will continue to follow this thread until the inevitable day comes when you say "thats it, Im healthy". Because that day will come for you.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 46 peann


    I really appreciate all the support. I've had a number of acts of kindness in private message over the months. I won't mention any names, everybody knows who they are. People have even offered to assist me financially... An American friend of mine randomly ordered supplements worth $60 for me without saying anything to me.

    I have the greatest friends (and anonymous friends) a guy could ask for. All I need is a break. That's all. A turn of good luck to get me back on the road towards my health. Like I said - I can manage heartbreak or poor health. I can't manage both. I spend most of my day daydreaming about what it would be like to have a happy life with health and my ex. I know it's unhealthy. It's a little comforting, until I snap out of it.

    This is all a work in progress. I don't feel too bad right now, but rest assured - when my mind is free of thought, the dark thoughts will creep in and the tears will follow.

    I'm going to push on with these 11 rounds of chelation to bring me to 50 rounds of ALA. I'm also going to add more supplements and a better diet to try and improve my immune system.

    End of June comes, and hopefully I'm in somewhat of a position to go to Lanzarote with my family. I need sunshine. I'm so pale, it's horrid looking. I look physically sick in the face.


  • Registered Users Posts: 128 ✭✭MolBee


    Hi peann - I've not explored this part of boards but I just had a read through some of this thread and had to comment after seeing how low you've been feeling.

    On the health side of things I think anyone with a chronic illness can empathise with the feeling that you can't carry on. Not because you don't desperately want to, but that you just can't hack it anymore. I know it. I'm 23 and I have been ill for a little over 5 years now.

    The past couple of months though things have been looking up and physically, I've been reminded what it's like not to have symtpoms 24/7 for the first time in years. Life can change so quickly, and with it your whole perspective on your life. The human body is a remarkable thing, and your health will be recovered. Your pro-activeness is great and very inspiring... it will pay dividends.

    With regards to your heartbreak... all I can say is 'this too shall pass'. I haven't dealt with things particularly well myself and have chosen not to let some people in for the fear of them hurting me and then not being able to deal with that emotionally on top of everything else, but that isn't at all ideal. You miss out on so much in life if you don't take the risk of loving. She has hurt you, but you will have other relationships that will be fulfilling and rewarding and beautiful.

    The hardest thing is giving practical advice for coping right now. Like you I opted not to take anti-depressants. I saw a number of councellors, who varied wildly in helpfulness. There are plenty of good ones out there so if you don't gain anything intitally, ask to see another.

    My brother helped me a lot at my very lowest ebb, not even by giving me advice or talking about my problems, but by being motivated, happy, funny, insightful, sitting down and watching movies with me, playing music together, talking about the world, just taking me out of my own head, allowing me to be my true self, even for only part of the day.

    I have found it important not to allow your own thoughts to madden you, and that involves not letting yourself become isolated.

    You sound like you have lots of people that you can sound off too, keep sounding off to them if that's what you have to do, even if you feel there's no point to it ultimately. And cry, dude, cry. The oldest therapy known to man and womankind.

    I'm so sorry if none of this has helped but seeing another in distress, what can you do but reach out...

    Your pain isn't forever. I know rationally you probably know that but just take each day at a time, it will ease.

    The sun will do the world of good too, nice dose of vitamin D, good food and new surroundings. I think it will lift your head immeasurably.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 451 ✭✭bhamsteve


    peann wrote: »
    I don't want depression tablets. It's a personal decision for me. I know it may sound stubborn, but I've seen the damage they have done to my friends who are now dependent on them. I need to beat this myself, and have some support around me.

    Glad to see there is a more positive vibe from your posts tonight, the more active you can be the better you will feel.

    You are right that anti-depressants can have side effects for some people, but they can also be very effective for depression, especially in the short term to get people back on their feet. It's a personal choice what you think will work best for you, but if you are ever thinking of giving up on life they would be worth a try, even with the side effects they are preferable to a lifetime of misery or suicide.

    <snip>


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 46 peann


    I drank lots of liqorice tea today. From what I understand, it raises cortisol levels - which is good for managing stress. I feel a bit more relaxed after speaking to my friend tonight. She said the most wonderfully simple thing to me - "You can do better." I've been beating myself up thinking I'd never replace my girlfriend, not giving myself enough credit. I was good enough to get her in the first place - so I must have been doing something right.

    I'll have my bad moments and my good moments. I just need to try stay positive. I'll give an update tomorrow with how I'm feeling. I'm conscious that I'm still very vulnerable, and there are lots of triggers still there that can remind me of her and bring me down.

    PS: I would be happy to try them. :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 451 ✭✭bhamsteve


    I tried liquorice before but I have high blood pressure already and it put it up too high :mad:
    You seem to be surrounding yourself with positive people which can only be a good thing.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 46 peann


    Thanks!

    Awake since 7am. Dreaming about her again. There's no escape... :(


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 451 ✭✭bhamsteve


    ain't nothing like a broken heart :(



  • Closed Accounts Posts: 46 peann


    Way too depressing for this hour of the morning :(


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 451 ✭✭bhamsteve


    peann wrote: »
    Way too depressing for this hour of the morning :(

    Sorry, I'll keep my moody music to myself :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 46 peann


    It's ok :) Sorry, bit down at the moment.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 15,914 ✭✭✭✭tbh


    bhamsteve wrote: »
    Glad to see there is a more positive vibe from your posts tonight, the more active you can be the better you will feel.

    You are right that anti-depressants can have side effects for some people, but they can also be very effective for depression, especially in the short term to get people back on their feet. It's a personal choice what you think will work best for you, but if you are ever thinking of giving up on life they would be worth a try, even with the side effects they are preferable to a lifetime of misery or suicide.

    <snip>

    Hey Steve,

    I understand your intentions are good, but please understand that we can't allow medical advice on the board - this includes suggestions for supplements and offers to post. Thanks for your understanding.

    Peann - I'm following the thread dude. I wish I had some constructive advice. All i can say at the moment is the trite cliche - it does get better. It takes time tho. Keep fighting buddy, you've come too far to give up now.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 46 peann


    Thanks. Getting quite down now at the moment. Miss her. And while I know her cutting contact with me, and me with her is the best for me in the long run.. I feel thoroughly rejected that she hasn't bothered to drop me a line all week to even say hello. Not that it will ultimately help.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,484 ✭✭✭username123


    peann wrote: »
    Thanks. Getting quite down now at the moment. Miss her. And while I know her cutting contact with me, and me with her is the best for me in the long run.. I feel thoroughly rejected that she hasn't bothered to drop me a line all week to even say hello. Not that it will ultimately help.

    It only prolongs the agony and wrecks the head. The least dysfunctional way to break up is a clean break. Its too painful to pick over the pieces and not helpful to either person.

    Its not about you (from her perspective), its about doing the best thing for herself.

    Get busy, keep the mind entertained.


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